Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

Thank you for the new thread @Brenna24. How did it go yesterday?

Thanks for the new thread @Brenna24. Hope your scan went well yesterday.

Hope everyone else is ok too 😊

Thanks for the new thread Brenna. Bit of a tough day for me today. Not much movement (though am only 23 weeks so officially nothing to worry about, but I can’t help it) and a scare over bleeding (had actually cut myself shaving).

And can’t stop thinking about Miami.

Thanks Brenna. I did wonder if it was a good idea to start a new thread.

And yes how was your scan?

Peach, perhaps consider a check up tomorrow if things are still quiet?

A bit of nausea crept back today. Breasts still excruciating and no spotting. Feeling more hopeful!

I've thought about Miami all day too. I wish I could send a card or something.

Thanks for the new thread Brenna

I can't stop thinking about Miami too. I hope she has lots of people looking after her

How did your scan go yesterday MsJ?

I'm going to book in for a private scan at 16 weeks I've decided. Cheapest one I can find that has good reviews is £35 for a gender scan so will just go for that I think. Not too bothered about finding out gender so early (a bit concerned about how accurate it would be!) but just want to see baby wriggling around in there. 8 weeks is far too long for me to cope without a scan!

Thanks for the thread @Brenna
Another one who can't stop thinking about Miami. It's really shaken me - it's so so unfair, and I am so so devastated for her, i wish there was something we could do. Hope she has lots of support around her.

Feels weird and almost inappropriate to post good news so I will keep it brief - our harmony test came back all low risk.

Sorry you've had a scare @peachgreen hope you're okay now and if you're still worried go I would go in for a check up too.

@peachgreen I went in at 23 weeks as I hadn't felt movements for over 12 hours. The midwives were lovely about it and said they would rather see us multiple times at the hospital rather than have us worrying at home.

I'm another one who can't stop thinking about Miami, her news shocked me to the core. I hope she has as much support in real life as she does here.

Another who can’t stop thinking about Miami also. I was awake all night after having some major flash backs and remembering the immense hole left in my heart after my twins were born. I really do send my greatest sympathy to Miami and her family.
Life is so cruel!

@peachgreen movement for me was really sporadic until 30 weeks and muted because of my placenta being anterior. My mw told me to go in if there was even the slightest change in movement.
I was considering going in a few days ago as babys movement pattern had changed. She had a couple of sleepy days but has been super active today which I’m pleased about as now I’m having my own horrible thoughts that I’m still not going to get my baby in 2 weeks time.

rum that's great news! And sounds positive anutter.

@whyhastherumgone So glad all came back okay - that’s wonderful news.

Thank you all for the reassurance, you’re all so wonderful. I’m going to have a bath as often that kickstarts her wriggling. Then might call the midwives if still nothing. Argh, it’s horrible.

Thank you, we also found out we are having a boy :) so been quite a week.

Hope the next two weeks are full of baby movement and go smoothly for you @amyb I think it's only natural that such awful, awful news would stop us all in our tracks and, along with our devastation for miami, also give us a bit of a wobble.

Gosh reading that back, I hope it didn't come across as insensitive to miami, not at all what I intended - so hard to articulate these things!

Hi all,

I feel the same way as all of you about Miami. It is so horribly unfair to see one of our group suffer in this way. Rum I know exactly what you meant and it didn't come across as insensitive. This is a safe space for all of us to express our hopes and fears. We have all had losses and we have some understanding of the feelings involved, so to think of that happening at such a late stage is going to reach deep into us. Our shock and upset right now is nothing compared to Miami's of course.

My update: the scan went well. Still a 3 April due date. NT was 2mm which they were happy with. Blood test done; I'll get a call within 5 days if they find a problem.

I hope all is well Peach.

I also hope the last two weeks go smoothly Amy. So close now.

I just saw Miami's most recent post on the old thread. What an extraordinarily generous spirit.

You articulated it better than I could @mrsjuniper

Glad scan and NT was okay :)

Thanks everyone. After a stressed afternoon/evening of eating sugar, drinking cold drinks, lying on my side etc etc I told DH that as a last resort I was going to get into bed and if she didn’t move I’d call the midwife. As soon as I pulled up the covers she started wriggling away. Thank God. Thank you all for your support and reassurance this evening. Silly of me to worry really but as PPs have said, we’ll all be more sensitive right now.

I’m just so heartbroken for Miami. It’s unfair for this to happen to anyone but to happen to someone with a previous loss just seems so cruel. Will be praying her and her family, and for all of you brave ladies tonight (unless prayer isn’t your thing in which case I’ll be sending you warm and positive thoughts).

ah what a relief @peachgreen hope you can get some sleep tonight now :) x

That's a relief peach - but don't ever hesitate to contact your mw if you're worried again. They'd rather see you and all be ok than not and it not be.

Beautifully said Mrs J. And I'm so glad your scan went well.