Staying posifrickentive- Thread 19 for ladies pg after mc

[Brenna24]

Ready. Steady. Go

That is great news Ineed

Afternoon ladies. Just checking in (briefly as I have the mother of all headaches!)

INeed I have had exactly what you described several times from about 9 weeks and last time was a week or so ago. First time it looked like a horrible bloody nose blow (you know the ones when you’ve got a horrible head cold and you blow so hard you burst blood vessels?!). After that it’s been a yellow/green jelly like substance. No rhyme or reason to it’s appearance but I’ve been swabbed and tested several times and they tell me it’s just normal. My midwife nodded knowingly the first time I told her about it so from that I’m guessing it’s not at all uncommon.

Mamma I have the worlds most irritable cervix and occasionally I get the same pinkish discharge. I also get like really stabby cervix cramps after sex which I just put down to my professionally offended cervix! But agree with others that if you’re worried or it doesn’t settle down then definitely ring your midwife.

To those asking about movements I first felt them about 18 weeks ish? I found out I have an anterior placenta at my 20 week scan so I second guessed if I was actually feeling them, but now they are definite thumps from inside. I can’t really feel them if I’m stood up and definitely not if I’m moving, but sat or laid I can feel them very clearly. They feel a lot like wind (only without any actual wind and a lot lower down and further forward than that) and sometimes they feel like a muscle twitching or stretching. I’m sure it will become more obvious what the awkward child is doing at some point, but I’m just enjoying them for now. Baby has just had a real good kick at my bladder as I type this! It’s very surreal...!

I have a question for you guys. Has anyone else struggled with headaches? I’ve had a headache pretty much every single day for the last month. Blood pressure and urine tests are all ok so I don’t think it’s anything sinister pregnancy wise, but they don’t really respond to paracetamol which isn’t ideal. They don’t go when I sleep or seem to correlate to anything I’m eating or drinking so I’m wondering if maybe my eyes have just deteriorated and it’s eye strain? I don’t usually have to wear glasses (except for long periods of reading) but I did have them as a child so perhaps pregnancy has done something weird to my eyes? It’s certainly done something weird to my teeth so not outside the realms of possibility! I’ve booked in for an eye test next week anyway so at least that can be ruled out!!

Sorry that was long. I’ll breathe now!!

Thanks @NoParticularPattern. The doctors today gave me the impression they were doing tests etc to reassure me more than because they actually thought it was anything unusual. Feel a bit bad taking up more NHS time but hoping that because DH is a martyr never goes to the doctors I am just taking up some of his taxes instead...

On the headache front, I haven't had particularly bad/ constant headaches but just this moment came across this thread and thought of you - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3047254-unbearable-headaches - 4head stick worth a try???

@Ineedabiggerboat glad you managed to get seen. They sound really good.

@amyb scary! So glad she made herself known again as soon as you got in, but extra scans can't be a bad thing.

@noparticularpattern since 14 weeks I have been plagued by headaches. I don't know if it's pregnancy hormones or pregnancy anxiety causing it but nothing takes them off for me either. I'm going to speak to my midwife about it next week.

I think I'm going to take a little internet break for a while as I keep feeling incredibly anxious, so I'm going to wish you all well for this week and pop back along in a bit. Hope everyone stays good, and @amyb I hope she stays where she is for a bit longer and your scan is all ok, @Ineed hope your scan is ok too.

@noparticularpattern I'm only 12 weeks but have been struggling with headaches for the last week or so and some eye issues before that. I think it has more to do with my eyes than anything else but it's already causing me problems at work as I'm having trouble with extended computer use...

Thanks INeed! I’ll have a look at suggestions! Glad the docs have done tests- always good to rule out infections even if they do think you’re being over cautious! I’m sure my doctor thinks I’m a raving lunatic after all the wailing phone consults she’s had to do for me! And I’m fairly certain the NHS debt is probably due to me alone- you should see how many pages the midwife had to add when she asked me if I’d ever had a general anaesthetic before

I was just thinking today I have no idea how I would be coping right now if I had to work in an office Lisara. I’d be dying if I had to look at a screen all day! Sometimes having the curtains open is too bright! It’s a nuisance- I don’t usually suffer with them at all so it’s very weird. And I’m getting through packs of paracrtamol like they’re going out of fashion!! Hopefully the eye test I’ve got booked will throw something up and that will relieve it a bit. Maybe!!

Bigger glad they're looking after you and good luck with the scan - fwiw in every pregnancy I've ever had I've been very...damp so I think anything goes regarding pregnancy discharge!

amy glad baba behaved herself in the end, worrying for you though! Fingers crossed the scan shows all perfect and your little girl just wants to keep you on your toes

Brenna that woman sounds absolutely unhinged. I'm raging for you that she's being allowed to push you out of all the things you want to do! Definitely tell some people, get some support around you, if anything she should have to leave the course. Creep.

NoParticularPattern I had vicious headaches when pregnant with my DD. Part of it was giving up caffeine, which gives you horrific headaches anyway, but even once that passed they were awful - the sort where you can't even move your head or it feels like your eyes aren't pounding. As far as I remember they just eased off at some point in the second trimester, but they were awful. Def keep an eye on your blood pressure though, just in case.

Movements - for me they started out feeling like little bubbles/popping, sometimes little tiny pokes. Think I felt them around 17/18w first time round (posterior placenta). Took a few weeks to be definite that that's what they were. Think I was about 21 weeks when I felt them from the outside, but took DH a few weeks longer to feel any - he kept missing them.

I heard the baby's heartbeat on the Doppler today. Looked for ages and had just given up, was just leaning the Doppler on my tummy while I tried not to panic and heard lots of little 'bloop bloop' baby movement noises so searched around a bit and there it was! Feel reassured again, for now. Am 10+5 today and 12w scan is a week on Thursday. Counting down, keeping everything crossed.
Also keep thinking about Miami still and what she's going through. I wish there was something I could do to magically turn the clock back and make things be different for her. I wish no one ever had to lose a baby, at any stage. So much heartbreak, for so many people.

Gah - eyes ARE pounding, obviously, NoParticularPattern. Need to proofread!

particular around 20 weeks I got terrible headaches with my DS, lasted about 3 weeks. Paracetamol did seem to work but I'd have to take it all the time as the headache was just constantly there.
In this pregnancy I had them for about a week at week 17. I feel your pain! I'm hoping they don't return...

Regarding the bleeding after sex, I had a huge bleed (blood all over the sheets) with DS at 34 weeks, rushed to hospital scared shitless due to the amount of blood and the midwives were so relaxed. But checked me over... all fine and they see it all the time after sex, it's just the cervix. I was also told I was fine to carry on having sex 👍

Headaches could be eye related - I know my opticians say eyesight can change. My left contact lens is not right at the mo at all. But I'd definitely mention it to a mw any way.

Thanks ladies. I do keep well hydrated generally as I previously struggled with recurrent UTIs so it’s something that I always make sure I do for that even if no other reason. Midwife checked blood pressure and dipped my urine and said everything was absolutely normal so I’ve no doubt that that’s ok- last saw her last week which was about two weeks after they became almost constant so I’d have expected her to find if my BP or urine test was dodgy by that point. I’m hoping it’s my eyes- at least that might be a quick fix! I do think that’s most likely as often my right eye feels kid of fuzzy if I don’t concentrate. I know my right eye is stronger than my left usually so I’m worndering if they’ve both changed with pregnancy and I’m just noticing that because normally my right eye is so reliable (not that my left is bad or anything, it is just that that’s the slightly weaker one!)

Oh anxiety rearing again. My breasts have been ridiculously sore the last week. Now they're much less so. I'm about 7+ 5 ish or a couple of days less. (I tend to go from ov as cycles usually 25 and I know I ovulated on day 11)

I know it eases off at some point and around now is when hormones start to peak and level off for a while. I can't for the life of me remember when they eased with ds. It's been a constant since bfp.

Hope that's the reason noparticular. Is your bp on the low side even?

Ekphrasis my boobs stopped being sore around week 9 and haven't really changed, and as of week 12, ten days ago, everything was fine so try not to take it as a bad sign! I know that's difficult though as I do keep periodically prodding mine to see if they'll hurt again. It's strange the things we find comfort in!

@NoParticularPattern I had horrendous headaches between 18-21 weeks. The worst I’ve ever had. The only thing that helped was 2 paracetamol taken with a caffeinated drink - that and staying super hydrated. I now get headaches at night if I lie on my back too long!

Hope they go away and you feel better soon. It was pretty much the most miserable part of pregnancy for me so far!

Those headaches sound horrible. I had hormone related headaches in previous pregnancies but seem to have gotten away with it this pregnancy. I second the recommendation for 4Head. Wonderful stuff.

Have a big hug Rum. I hope to see you back soon. I also hope that the break helps.

That is lovely you got to heat the heartbeat ForYou.

Ekphrasis all of my symptoms have come and gone a lot and it has meant nothing this time.

I am thinking of Miami too. I can't get her off my mind.

Thanks ladies. Feel stupid now as they feel sore again. Sorry . And there's nothing I can do anyway so worrying is pointless.

I do keep thinking of miami too. I hope she's ok.

@Ekphrasis my symptoms fluctuate a lot especially the boob soreness. Sometimes I notice it a lot and sometimes (like now) they don't hurt at all (I'm 8+1). It's also nowhere near as bad as with my DD but I think my boobs have done all the changing they need to already so I'm putting it down to that.

Don't apologise for the worry, it's one thing that none of us can control! We all stress about every little thing. Have you had an early scan? My GP was very supportive, I basically went to her and said could she refer me for one after the mmc and she did no problems.

Ekphrasis My breast soreness has fluctuated from about week 8 (I think I posted a very similar post then!) but usually I find they hurt more in the evening when I'm generally more bloated. Taking my bra off is often an aaaaah moment...

Thanks mrs j and double, that is reassuring. It seems it's a popular google post too !

I was thinking of booking one next week at a scan place nearby. I'm not sure I can go to the gp worrying and asking for a scan - I'm actually now no where near as worried as I was at weeks 4-5/6. No one has mentioned a scan either. The second there's bleeding I will though. Although it would be £50, it could be much simpler than travelling to the hospital. And in all honesty I don't think it would reassure me! I find no spotting the most reassuring thing at the moment!

We planted a pumpkin in the summer and we'd given up hope, but found a baby one at the end of August. It's propped up on an upturned pot at the mo, slowly growing. I kind of think of it ripening in tandem with baby - hoping it's a good sign! Ds has serious batman related plans for it...

I must say after 3.5 years of feeding I didn't expect sore boobs but they'd shrivelled to spaniel ears before I was pregnant so seem to be doing some catching up! (Dreading how they'll look in a few years!)

ekphrasis Try not to worry love, symptoms really do come and go. I'm worried af the moment (20 weeks), because I've no symptoms, my bump is tiny and I sometimes don't feel movements that regularly! Whenever I ring the midwife to tell her my worries (not that often ) she's lovely and says she gets a dozen calls a day from women like me and 99% of the time we're fine

@ekphrasis you're doing better than me! There was no way I could wait until 12 weeks. I guess because last time the baby didn't grow beyond 4/5 weeks and I didn't find out until 11 weeks. I felt like so much of that time was wasted.

It's only 2 weeks till my old due date, it feels odd to think that I could have been about to give birth. Instead I'm just at the very early stages of pregnancy and so worried. Today has been the first day all week I've not been utterly shattered by 6pm and of course I'm worrying it's a bad sign. Will it get easier?

Thanks Mogulfield and choc. I don’t doubt the worry will continue! Mog, I had a small bump and a small baby. I’m generally quite small. But my gosh he has caught up! It’s quite amazing to see how he’s the same size now as 9 lbers! Don’t feel bad about mithering the mws. Or asking for a growth scan etc. I will be a bit more towards the end next time if I have the faintest doubt.

I think I may call the scan place today and book in for next Friday/ sat at 8 wks. I also don’t want to get to 12 weeks and “waste” time. If it shows reduced growth I’ll just have to deal with it and wait and see. If it’s a mmc at least I could warn work. And prepare myself. Thanks for listening.