Pregnancy after infertility III

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Spotting, cramping, "is my clearblue digi accurate?",* viability scans, measuring behind, measuring ahead, high hcg, low hcg, morning sickness, lack of morning sickness, anomaly scans....

That's right, folks, it's the place where scanxiety really means something, where the feeling like you're always going to be on the wrong side of statistics nevers go away, and where moments of sheer terror are par for the course ...it's pregnancy after infertility.

Join if you want to hang out with a supportive group of women across all different stages of pregnancy who can't believe they got here and are hoping like hell its all going to be ok.

Previous thread here:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2679146-Pregnancy-after-infertility-II

*hint for newbies: it's not

Just scrolling through barren ghetto threads - I have it in mind that barkingtreefrog was due around now - if anyone's got an update would be lovely to hear.

Grumple - I find it quite easy to tell people about general "treatment", although I don't go into detail. I say stuff like "it's not been easy... taken ages and I have no savings left" but then I like making people feel a bit awkward - and I might be talking to a fellow barren.

Sammy - what a scan photo. Glad the little one is catching up and all looks like it's going well

Still can't get my head around being on a thread that is generally positive, where MC and shitstorms aren't the norm. Feels odd.

Had a nice day of feeling nauseaous yesterday (14+4) - first time since 6wks. Well done ShitBody, glad to see you're still doing your best to be a contrary fucker

Keep forcing myself not to go and get a private scan. If I do the floodgates will open if that makes sense. Right now a private scan is "doable but needs effort of booking and going". If I go once it will become genuinely "a thing to do that was easy let's go again" and I could end up going twice a week. If I indulge the anxiety I'm scared I'll spiral.

Thanks Blondes, MPP, Genghis & Sammy I'm feeling a bit more relaxed now, sickness has been back the last few days. It's also nice to know what I'm feeling is normal!

(Sneaks in)
Hi all... feel a little bit of a fraud being here after being on the infertility boards for some time!

Little background...
26 years old, TTC 3.5 years, been diagnosed with hypo-hypo so had my first fresh cycle of IVF late October.
BFP on 26th November after a lovely break in NYC which sure sped up the 2ww!
I'm now 6+0 with my first scan next Wednesday 14th.

Scanning through the thread and seen a couple of names I recognise - hi blueroses & custard

Feeling ok so far I think, very tired and morning sickness is terrible, lower back ache is crippling by the end of the day and my boobs are that swollen they're like bricks! My OH said people will think I've had a boob job!

Anyway sorry for waffling and I'm not too sure what else I want to say - but I'll be lurking here & following all of your journeys.

Best of luck everyone

Welcome Kez!

Custard I feel the same, sometimes I don't feel any symptoms and I worry too.

Icy Us barrens are in the minority, though sizeable, and although things do go wrong (I'm not the only one here to return after loss) it usually does work! A 'normal' pregnancy only has 12 and 20wk scans so there is no need to go for more if you don't want to.

Chocolate good to hear all looking ok on the scan.

Lovely scan pic Sammy and good to know that they are happy with how things are progressing.

Lucie glad you're doing ok, and it's lovely to take your parents to the scan. I think mine would love it too.

Blue if you're reading this, hope things went / are going well with the induction.

Hi to everyone else

AFM I'm having waves of nausea, and backache, which I didn't get til second trimester last time, so I can't stand for long or walk very far. I'm booked in with my clinic on 14th for a viability scan, and just had a call from my local hospital to book into EPU on 22nd. Interestingly the fax was received today even though it was evidently written last Thursday, as the referral states that I'm 4+3, and I'm 5+2 today. To give some context, my GP and hospital are so close that a snail would actually have delivered it quicker than the time that the fax took. Ho hum, at least I'm now in the NHS system.

Kez welcome

Icy. I find private scans once a month reassure me. Gawd knows how the average preg Person only has 12&20

On phone so can't name Check easily but yes lovely to hear the heart again

And someone saw a mw and heard their baby with Doppler. I would like to think a mw would always offer this. Mine does bless her

Wow, lots going on! Welcome Kez and congrats. A NY break should be issued free with every IVF 2ww.

Custard- I had disappearing symptoms - mine went away the whole time we were in the States in November (so around week8/9) and then again fora few days. Hope that helps.

Icy Congrats on hitting 14 weeks. I thought that ShitBody was some new poster or troll who you were telling off. My faculties are not the sharpest right now. Sorry about the anxiety, it must be tough. Do you have an outlet/counsellor in RL?

blondes a monthly scan sounds sensible if you can afford it and it provides reassurance. Maybe better than doing it ad hoc and panicking occasionally and wanting two scans in a row (which is prob what I will do)

Chocolate great news on the scan, good luck with Harmony! My results came sooner than I expected (and don't freak out like I did if they phone you!.)

Rose Snap on the UTI! I'm not sure my antibiotics have worked so prob have to go to GP. Not long til 12-week scan for you! Is it booked in?

sammy wonderful that you're feeling better and the twins are doing well! That's such a cool pic, looks like they are having a twin conference!

blueroses sorry about the backache and nausea, that sounds awful, and that your local hospital are chaotic ... but as you say at least you're in the system. Hope you can rest and take it easy for a bit. Are you still at work?

MPP belated congrats on your little boy! Lovely news.

lucie how lovely to take your parents to a scan. they'll always remember that.
[waves to everyone else]

We had 12 week scan yesterday. I'm jubilant. All looks good. Feeling so so so lucky. I still feel like a nauseous zombie but doesn't matter.

I was thinking after reading Icy's posts which are brilliant as ever. I think everyone who's been through infertility (and doubly so with pregnancy losses) has got to have a degree of PTSD. Obviously I'm just another Mumsnet amateur psychologist so have no clue ... but it is such a trauma to go through. So all the anxiety that people are feeling is just a normal response to a trauma, I mean if you've been mugged in a dark alley - maybe more than once - how can you not feel scared walking down that alley again? I know how lucky (and atypical) I am to have had no mcs. And even I feel nervous about reaching each new stage. If I'd had losses, especially late term, I'd be a nervous wreck. Anyway this ramble is just to say I think everyone's doing great ... and hope we all get through the tunnel together safely! and to everyone.

Hi.
I will have to take a proper look back at this thread later.

Sammy, How are you doing now? It's been a scary few weeks for you, I hope the next few week manage to be stress free. How far along are you now?

Jen, I'm 17.2 weeks. I thought I hadn't felt anything. However I had my midwife appointment yesterday and she listened to the heartbeat. We could hear thebaby kicking and I did feel it but I thought it was cramp. It didn't feel like the butterfly sensation I was waiting for.

MPP, congratulations on the the baby boy news! Hope you're well.

Custard, I only had half day of morning sickness and that made me panic.

Lucie, Good luck with you scan, it's amazing the difference from 12 week - 16 weeks.

Blueroses,

Thanks Rebeccanoodles.
I agree, a trip NYC should definitely be given to every single person going through the 2ww!
For me though the trip was booked in June 2015 and we found out in August 2016 that we would be starting treatment in October, and I had my embryo transfer 5 days before flying!
Talk about squeezing it all in!!
It definitely helped in taking my mind off everything though (for a little while at least.....)

Hi Ladies,
Can I join you? I've just got my bfp! After so many years of disappointments its hard to believe it! Second cycle with one 5d blast. Also have one frostie. Can't stop looking at the test. It says pregnant wtf!!!!

sara welcome and i was the same and did another test a week later

friends, thats what mine feels sometimes, almost like a throbbing period pain for a brief second

Friends - I'm ok thanks. I'll be 25 weeks tomorrow. Everyone's saying how quickly it's gone, but for me time is standing still! At the moment I'm just willing them to stay inside a bit longer.

Welcome Sara, congratulations! There are some fab ladies here ready to support you through. Xx

Hi Sara. Welcome
I've had a horrible sicky day today. To the point where I was throwing up in bed, in the bath!! Sorry ladies.....
So sick of living off toast and dry crackers.
Any hints or tips as to when it all calms down a tad??
I'm 6+1...

not so little boy Blue born by section yesterday

Will catch up with the rest of thread soon

Congratulations Blue, hope little boy blue is settling in nicely. Sounds like it's been a long birth though?!

Kez I'm told that there are lots of safe meds for sickness, maybe worth a chat to your GP.

Welcome Sara, so happy to see you here.

Sammy I feel like time is passing v slowly too! And I'm only 5+3!

Rebecca great news on the scan! Yes I'm at work but still on reduced hours with lots of working from home. I had a phased return in September and thought I'd be back to full time months ago but just never had the energy for full day + commute, and now I'm pg it's even harder (plus I'm a bit bored with work if I'm honest).

Congrats blue!

Thanks blueroses, sounds awful but I haven't actually met my gp yet! I changed surgeries before starting IVF treatment as I moved to a different area and my old surgery didn't cover my new area! So my gp has had all my correspondence regarding IVF and never met me!!
I understand once I'm signed off from the fertility nurses at the IVF clinic, all my appointments will be gp appointments?

Kez most routine appointments will be with a midwife, but it may be at the GP surgery depending on the set up in your area. Make sure your GP knows you're pg so you're in the system for 'booking in' with the midwife, you don't need to wait til you're discharged from the fertility clinic to get that lined up.

Ok blueroses. Thanks. Nothing has been mentioned at the fertility clinic about getting in touch with my GP so maybe I will phone tomorrow and let them know I'm pregnant.
There's certainly a lot to think about isn't there?!

CONgrats blue 💙👶🏼💙👶🏼💙

Congratulations Blue! I hope all is going well with your new baby.

Welcome Kez and Sara - congratulations to you both on your long-awaited bfps!!

Rebecca, that's great news that your scan went well.

Thanks for the info Sammy - that makes sense.

Congrats blue! Hope you're recovering well & enjoying lots of early snuggles. Let me know how the birth went am currently deciding whether to elect a c section with my own little giant so new data points welcome

to everyone else. happy Friday!

Blue, big congrats on your baby boy!

Friends, thanks I didn't realise there would be a big difference between 12 and 17 weeks. Looking forward to seeing but feeling a littler nervous too. I think I always will before scans.

Hi everyone, tentatively posting....got my BFP after 3 years and 4 IVF transfers (and all the rest...) Am currently 4 weeks 5 days. Was going to wait a bit longer before posting but I just went to the loo and there was a tiny bit of pink spotting which has freaked me out and I need some reassurance.

So lovely to see so many familiar names! Lucie, Sammy and MPP, I missed you guys!! I've been stalking a bit so feel like I know a lot of you. Sammy so pleased all is well with your twins.

Woohoo trixie so good to see you here!! I had pink and brown spotting after I got my bfp maybe around 11dpt and then had another quite heavy bleed around 9 weeks but all was fine. I wouldn't worry too much at this stage it's likely to be implantation. I had betas done and found it reassuring to see the numbers go up as they should.

Thanks Lucie, hopefully all is ok. My clinic don't do betas, thought about going into the City for one but things are a bit hectic at the moment as we have to travel for dfils funeral. Going to do a CB digi tomorrow. So exciting (and scary!) to be here finally
Need to decide what to do about more intralipids too. Dr at the hospital said I don't need any more but Dr. G said to have another after my viability scan (if I get that far) and then retest NK cells....

Hi Trixie!! Welcome!

Not sure if you remember but I had pink spotting and then bright red spotting the day of my bfp and for a few days after. The clinic said it's really common.

I had the betas but found them very stressful so you might be better off without them anyway. Xx