Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Thank you Mike... I've been trying to do the same with mindfulness and also since my MMC have been seeing a positive solution based hypnotherapist - can't recommend it highly enough!

Chelle im so happy for you!!

Ak - really hope all goes ok. It will give a lot of us hope.

I don't know if I can feel positive right now.. Trying not to be ungrateful though. Got preg so that's a big thing in itself. Especially since I have about 8 weeks To go before hitting 12 week mark!!

So ovia and my own calculations from last period put me at 5+4. However I think I ovulate late (was the case last pregnancy) and a clear blue digital confirmed that to me this morning- came up as 2-3. So I would like to test again in the hope to get 3+. Don't want to waste a test either though!!! I'll maybe give it 3 days (half a week?) and see if it moves to 3+.

mike I was really mentally unwell about four years ago. I had to learn mindfulness then. I do slip out of it occasionally but very much try to live in the present. It's a hard habit to get into but has changed my life. It's almost just savouring the moment, being present with what you're doing, etc.

akp I bet the time is dragging like crazy!

cheeky I know what you're saying - it's almost annoying to be so far away from 12 weeks. My scan this morning took 8 days off my pregnancy and it's so frustrating!!

It's just a long time to 12 weeks so trying to keep it out my mind but so hard!!

Hi everyone, I can't believe I'm joining this thread. Did test this evening and still she'll shocked it was positive.

I mc at 11 weeks back in February. Since then been trying to pick ourselves up again. We are in shock as we had decided to wait to ttc as I'm suffering horrendous anxiety at the moment. Also have two holidays booked which I'm a bit anxious about going on. Surprisingly taking the pregnancy news quite calmly but think im still in shock!

I have a doctors appointment booked for next week to talk about my anxiety but guess we will have to talk pregnancy now.

Anyway I'll stop blabbing on I just wanted to join somewhere with like minded ladies.

cheeky so so nice to see you here! (I was paco on the ttc after mc board)

Pleased to see some positive scan news 😊

I've got my 20 week scan on Monday - starting to get nervous now, I hate scans. Still haven't got over the bad news at my scan from my MC (even though I've had loads of positive scans this time!)

Hopefully all is good! Been ridiculously emotional these last few days and I'm definitely getting bigger!

Hi paco!! Congratulations and so happy to see you here too I've been watching the thread for good news. However getting a BFP is one thing and then the ride to a successful baby is another... Brace yourself!

5+5 according to lmp but got 2-3 on clear blue digital yesterday morning so looks like I ovulated late. Trying to go with the earlier date in my head.. Will test again tomorrow or Saturday maybe and hope to see a 3+. Don't want to waste a test so maybe wait till Saturday.

Can I ask what feels like a dumb question?cheeky, aren't you supposed to add weeks to what the cb ones say?

cheeky I'm a week behind you.

I Did another test this morning still positive. I was a cheap skate this time and got Amazon tests, I'm now obsessing over the darkness of lines but there is still two there. Also thinking of buying a digital as it's more clear cut than squinting at lines.

The symptoms are kicking in now (a lot earlier than last time!) so dizzy, feeling sick and the aversion to the fridge and bucket smells have returned.

In my head im telling myself to just to take it one day at a time and not get ahead of myself. Trying to be objective about this which feels strange. Can already feel time stretching in front of me.

Hi chills

That's correct so by lmp I'm 5+5 but clear blue is putting me at 2-3 which is from conception (so that is 4-5 weeks.)

I don't track ovulation but I think I ovulate late generally as the same thing happened last preg. Plus I didn't get a positive on the Amazon cheapies when I was testing when AF was due. Then I did a FRER and got a positive 4 days after AF was due.

Ovulation varies from person to person and if you know when you ovulated that's the most accurate date. Generally docs just go by your lmp as everyone tends to know that and it's a rough guideline.

Paco if you got 2-3 ie 4-5 weeks same as me then we are probably the same. I think I ovulated late but tested early because AF was due.

Who knowS!!!

Ah right, that makes sense. I thought I was being dense I think some people have less hcg but as long as it's rising it's ok?

Maybe. I phoned to make the booking and scan appt. she said they base it on lmp for which case my due date is 13th Jan (makes me about 6 weeks). I'm not convinced though. She said they will adjust at 12 week scan, all being well.

One more sleep until the scan... feeling super anxious today.... Just want it over and done with now. A good friend has her scan at 4.30pm today.

Thinking of you akp. Have you had any scans at all?

Thanks for the encouragement re. mindfulness. I am going to start the daily meditations properly next week once my looming deadline is out the way and hope for positive results. Positive solution based hypnotherapy sounds interesting, although new to me. Must look into that.

Scan now less than one week away. Talked to my partner about this last night, who informs me it has been impossible to rearrange his work schedule to get a day off. To be fair, he does work for a large organisation in which holiday days appear to need scheduling months in advance. He says if I really need him there, he can go sick for the day. Obviously not ideal. Clearly no scope to rearrange scan - I was lucky to get this date, my area appears to be overflowing with pregnant women. I have never had a scan before, for this or previous pregnancies so I don't know what to expect. I think my instinct is that I want him to be there at whatever cost, I selfishly could not care less about the inconvenience to his colleagues / managers / members of general public affected by his absence. Grounds for this being that if there is bad news, I don't want to deal with it alone, in a hospital which I will have had to reach on public transport far from our home. And if it is good news, I think being there to hear what they say and see everything for himself will make everything a bit more real to him and in retrospect, may be an experience he wouldn't want to have missed. I think he has even less idea than me what is actually going to happen on the day and feels that given how unknown this territory is for us both, he had better save up fake sick days for any true emergencies / bigger deal scans further down the line. When we talked about it yesterday, the whole thing just made him feel really guilty. I don't want to guilt trip him into anything though. What to do? .

AKP and Northern both have this ordeal before me - good luck to you both. AKP by this time tomorrow, yours will all be over. And Northern congratulations on getting to 20 weeks, isn't that halfway there at least? Best wishes for you for Monday.

Mike I think your partner definitely needs to be there, he needs to throw a sickie!

Cheeky no this will be our first for this pregnancy. With our pregnancy over Christmas we had a private scan, but found out that the baby hadn't progressed. It was all really badly managed and the whole thing was horrible, we're now really put off by scans.

Hi everyone. I'm very tentatively dipping my toe into the water. I had a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks in January and a chemical in March. I got my bfp today using a clearblue digital. I don't trust dye tests after the chemical. My cycles have varied in length since the mc so no idea if I'm even late yet but I know I ovulated 2 weeks ago today. I'm slightly freaking out because the conception indicator said 2-3 weeks and my lmp was only 3 weeks 5 days ago. In my previous pregnancies, at this point, the cbd tests have always said 1-2. I'm freaking out that my hcg levels are too high. Anyone else experience this? Really glad to have found this thread - thanks cheeky for pointing me in the right direction. I recognise some of the names so congratulations everyone. I posted before under the name Loki.

So pleased to see you here!
(From the artist formerly known as paco)

Day one has been spent obsessively knicker checking every 5 minutes. I can't spend the next few weeks stressing myself like this. Glad I've got doc early next week to try and get a grip of my anxiety issue

Akp will be thinking about you. Wat time is your scan

I have the docs tomorrow Afternoon. I'm not sure what I'm going for really except to explain my anxiety and discuss the date issue , also how to manage uti's during the pregnancy. I was really hoping they would offer an early scan but doubt it.

I made the booking appt today and scan. Felt so worried making it, like I was tempting fate.

I wasn't going to sign up here just yet, but thought sod it, you all seem nice, and I can't face the boundless excitement and enthusiasm of the AN groups!

I recognise some of you waves to Cheeky, Loki and AKP. I was previously posting as spilttheteaagain.

My backstory:
Lost my first DD in Oct 2010, she was stillborn at 20 weeks (induction after no heartbeat found at 20 week scan). Later found to be due to toxoplasmosis infection.

Had DD2 safe and well in 2011, she's nearly 5 now and a joy. Dreadful pregnancy though in terms of my mental health, tremendous anxiety & fear and desperate grief and I believe PTSD which lasted years.

Surprise pregnancy last autumn, conceived on the pill, but at my 12 week scan abnormalities were identified. Consultant diagnosed acrania on Christmas Eve, a lethal neural tube defect. I chose a TFMR and DS was delivered on New Years Eve at about 13-14 weeks (dates were never certain). Pathology showed he also had Trisomy 18 (Edwards syndrome) so there were almost certainly masses of other problems (heart & other organ defects) that couldn't be detected at the point we made our decision.
I had a long drawn out heavy bleeding & clots etc that went on for 6 weeks afterwards and left me pretty washed out.

We didn't know whether we wanted to try again or not to be honest, but had a lets-not-think-about-trying-but-be-a-bit-careless month and, erm, getting light +ve tests now! It's literally only about 12DPO, so not even 4 weeks yet so I am in no way leaping to "baby!" conclusions, but today I am pregnant.

So, hello!

Macauley I have only ever used the amazon cheapies, I think they are brilliant. I too test daily for a bit to watch the stripe darken, it's actually quite beautiful. And affordable at about 2 quid for 15.

Cheeky take your ABs my love. FWIW I think at this stage since there is no placenta, the embryo is not receiving stuff from your blood stream anyway, it's just embedded in there doing it's thing on it's own. I think. Hope the UTI clears up quickly.

Loki I remember your heartbreakingly honest posts in the MC board. I am so thrilled to see you here.

Aagh, sorry about the epic post...

So glad you joined us Abutterflylightsbesideus!

All miscarriages are terrible but for me because I experienced a mmc I feel the body played a cruel trick on me. It's now making me constantly symptom spot. I don't know what to trust. All I know is that getting through this pregnancy is going to take a lot of strength and patience.