Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

[sundayraspberry]

Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

It's so good to have this thread for support.

Akp I remember you , were you on the July thread at one point or maybe just know you from the miscarriage board. Congrats anyway and hope it's sticky bean for you and everyone else !

I'm so early on in the process :(

Just 5+3 according to ovia (and I think I'm probably earlier). So difficult to push out of mind.

Hi Cheeky and thank you. x

The early stage is so hard emotionally, constant knicker checking and the 12 week scan feels like ages away. Just keep busy and try not to stress too much - much easier said than done!!!

Hi AKP

My dating scan (first one) is next Wednesday. I was fortunate (?) in that my miscarriage happened before I ever got to a scan last time. I've got no advice, but I know how the waiting feels. I hope this week passes quickly for you and that everything is well at your scan.

Thank you... same to you too. I have a friend having her 12 week scan the day before me and my SIL had hers last week. Don't know why, but it feels like added pressure...

I can understand that akp... I would feel the same.

I feel like I'm getting thrush, my body is obviously struggling the legs are sore again as well. Just need to rest I think.

Just made DH home made burgers and I felt so sick. Have asked him to get me an ice pole. I don't think I'll manage dinner. If these symptoms mean healthy baby, bring it on!

mike I never actually had much in the way of preg symptoms either time! Mostly just extreme tiredness. With the pregnancy I lost I had sore boobs and heightened sense of smell but with this one I only had tiredness so obviously I worried that this pregnancy wasn't 'strong' enough either. Nearly everyone on this thread has experienced fluctuating symptoms too, seems to be very normal, if that helps at all. Hopefully the dating scan will match up with your estimated dates too.

Hi cheeky good to 'see' you here, tentative congratulations,!

tinkly how you getting on? Glad you've managed to get a scan booked!!

I've had cramping and slight bleeding so rang my midwife unit. They've booked me for a scan tomorrow morning. I know it's going to be bad news, I can feel it. They weren't interested with my first miscarriage (mmc 11.5 weeks) but happy to scan this time at 6 weeks.

akp and mike I hope your scans come round quickly!!

I too would feel stressed out by other people's scans around the same time. I guess because I'd always be linking their pregnancy to mine were anything to go wrong. Fingers crossed for you AKP.

Thanks Raspberry. Rationally, I know symptoms come and go! I've even given people the very same advice! Rationality seems to have gone out the window for me though.

Hope you're feeling ok today Cheeky. How are you today, Tinkly?

Sorry to hear about the cramping / bleeding Chelle. I hope it has at least been reassuring that you're being taken seriously? How did you get on with your scan today? I have my fingers crossed for you.

They've managed to book me a scan for 8.30 tomorrow morning in the next town over. I'm dreading it. I've had awful cramps all day.

I'm self employed so decided to be honest with my clients. Not sure whether that was a good or bad idea. All I know is I probably should have worked today but I've been too fragile.

This is fucking shit.

I know a small amount of blood is normal. I haven't bled massively but the cramps don't feel normal. They feel horrible and it's been nearly all day and yesterday evening too.

Hi guys, mind if I join you?

Feels good to have found somewhere where people are more cautiously happy / in ignoring mode than the main antenatal club page. I'm wavering between ignoring / feeling extremely anxious / making huge plans then feeling guilty. Just one day at a time is really good advice whoever said that.

Cheeky I think I'm probably in a similar situation to you. Had a MMC in January, picked up on 10 week private scan (done for Harmony). Also have a 2.5 yr old daughter.

MMC on a private scan for me was a dreadful experience. For some reason she decided to keep the vagcam inside me when telling us??!?! Had nightmares about that for days.

Not much symptoms here yet, some nausea in evenings and boobs a little sore only. Whenever I do feel a little bit sick I concentrate on it and try and feel sicker as that's supposed to increase the chances of the bean sticking!! Ha!!

5+2 today for me, so blooming long to go.

Good luck everyone especially Chelle Mike and AKP for your scans. Chelle so sorry you've got cramps and bleeding, it's not over til it's over, but whether it's good news or bad, it's just so horrible having to wait to find out. Got everything crossed for you. xxx

Raspberry nice to see you too!

Chelle really hope it's good news for you. It's a horrible time when you don't know :( I always feel that once one knows they can deal with it but the unknown is the worst.

The thrush felt worse today and I was experiencing burning after passing urine, went to see pharmacist and they said they can't sell me anything since I'm preg and to phone docs. So I phoned docs and she said that although I've had multi resistant bugs in the pAst, and unnecessary antibiotics aren't good for me without a spleen she felt that the burning indicated a UTI so she wrote me a prescription for thrush and antibiotics for suspected UTI. She said the general protocol for pregnant women is to treat UTI if suspected. I've dropped a sample off too which will be checked to see the correct antibiotics have been given. I've to start them today though. Not sure how I feel about that as I'm always hesitant to take antibiotics but last pregnancy I avoided them and the uti got worse and I ended up in Hosp with urinary sepsis and miscarriage. The urologist said although it wasn't a cause of the miscarriage it was a contributory factor.

I think I better just shut up and take them! What do you guys think? I have this thing about antibiotics being transferred to the baby and given it a rubbish start before it's even born.

Jellyspoon - welcome. Sorry you went through that. I'm just so torn about whether to have an early private scan but really that doesn't give any guarantees. When I had the mmc at 12 weeks it was horrible because I thought I was coming out of the danger zone. I'd had a scan at 6 weeks after some spotting and it picked up a heartbeat. Then I remind myself I'm only about 5 weeks so ages to even get to 8 weeks for example!

Tinkly poo that is such great news. Really pleased for you.

Chelle - good to hear you've been booked in for a scan relatively quickly although I can imagine how much you're dreading it. At least you'll know. Hoping for good news for you. It is indeed shit, especially being self employed .

Tinkly - that is great news. So nice of the owner to see you so quickly.

I would take the antibiotics Cheeky pending the results from your urine test. If it turns out you're on the wrong ones, I'm sure the doctor will correct that. I imagine they have weighed up the risks to the baby vs the risks of it not being treated and decided that treatment is preferable.

Welcome Jellyspoon. Sorry to hear about your last pregnancy, that sounds tough. How thoughtless of the technician not to have waited a few minutes. Insult to injury! Fingers crossed that everything goes uneventfully for you this time.

Thanks to everyone for good thoughts for my scan. Its still over a week away. Feels like years rather than days.

Thanks Mike you are right.

tinkly I'm so glad your scan went well. What a relief!

Thanks for the support all. I'm so relieved they can see me quickly but I'm not convinced it'll be good news

cheeky the doctor wouldn't have given you antibiotics if it'll do harm. Could you ring the midwife?

Can understand your anxiety. It's never ending isn't it!

I don't have a midwife yet. Will phone and make booking Appts soon..seeing GP on Friday so all being well, will phone on Monday

Rather than thinking I'm pregnant I keep thinking AF is just late and it could arrive anytime.

Yay tinkly that's such good news.
Keeping everything crossed for sticky beans everywhere.

Is anyone else thinking of doing the harmony test / NIPT test privately? Think i want a more definitely answer than the risk scores by NHS.

Cheeky you should definitely take the antibiotics if you've still got symptoms and it's not cleared up with thrush treatment. I went through a similar episode in the past and looked up all the scientific evidence and yes, there are concerns about certain antibiotics in pregnancy, but certain ones are completely safe in pregnancy and have been used for decades without problems. And you're higher risk for another kidney infection if you've had one before, so your bean will be safer if you take them now rather than delay until you're really unwell. get well soon x x

Thanks jelly, just needed some reassurance. I started the antibiotics last night (3 day course) and will use the thrush treatment tonight. Didn't want to use it last night for it to get aggravated again with the antibiotics.

I don't think I clicked but I'm certain it is a UTI now as I have been getting lower back and flank pain. I was putting it down to the pregnancy but it's probably not that.

Hope you're feeling better today Cheeky

and thinking of Chelle this morning, how did you get on?

cheeky I hope the antibiotics have started to kick in!

I had my scan. They found a heartbeat! I'm honestly shocked. I thought it was going to be bad news. Bad news is they have changed my dates from 6+4 to 5+3. They didn't seem overly concerned though

Hi ladies - I'm not very good at these threads, I get confused easily!

Cheeky glad you decided to go with the antibiotics. It was definitely the right decision.

Chelle how did the scan go? Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Sorry to hear about your loss Jelly I understand how you feel. Had a MMC discovered at a 9 week private scan on 23rd Dec. Worst Christmas ever. It really put us off having a private scan this time around - possibly sticking our heads in the sand!

I'm 12 weeks on Friday and have my scan at 9am. Two sleeps to go... I'm absolutely petrified and convinced it's going to be the same scenario as last time.

Wonderful news for you Chelle. Are you feeling better with the cramps etc? I had similar around that time. Midwife said it was more than likely everything just shifting around and starting to expand in there.

Not long now AKP. Everything crossed for you.

I've been trying to get into the habit of 'mindfulness'. Meditation etc doesn't come very naturally to me but I think the premise of it is really valuable. The book I've been reading basically explains (with reference to scientific research) how our brains work and how we can train them to recognise when the pain of a past situation is affecting a present situation and that it is possible to bring your thoughts back to the present. I'm a definite beginner but I have high hopes that it might help me get my anxieties under control. Has anyone tried something similar?