Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

[sundayraspberry]

Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

I've been taking it from roughly when I conceived as I have a good idea of when I ovulated, I just feel like I should take it from then, don't know why. Having said that, I have lost track of things and taking it from the first day of my last period, I am 6 weeks. Although, when the midwife rang to make my booking appointment, she said I'd be 8 weeks for it, that's not until the 8th June.

Yes that's not how you date a pregnancy - you are 6w pregnant if the first day of your last period was 6 weeks ago. It sounds like you'll be around 10w at the time of your booking in - which is the same point I'll be at my booking in next week.

Hows the bleeding now?

Hope you're ok Freya. Did the midwife give you any numbers to call if you were worried about anything? Think Lily is right about the dating.

Was your 9 week scan a private one Lily? I had my booking appointment but there are no scans available for weeks. To many pregnant ladies in my area. Luckily, there was a cancellation and I've got one scheduled for 25th May, so just a few days before you. It will be my first and hopefully won't be too late for the neuchal (sp?) test they do.

Thanks lilydaisyrose, mikesh909.
The bleeding was really dark but now it's a brighter red and there's some small clots and I'm cramping. Think I'm going to lose it. The midwife didn't give me any number to call if I was worried.

So sorry to hear that Freya. Wish there was something better to say. How did you contact the midwife before? I would call whatever number that was again. They might suggest going to your EPU or similar. I hope you've got someone with you?

Hi Freya,

I lost a baby at 6w last November. I did contact EPU but was basically just left to get on with it. There isn't much they can see on a scan at 6w. I took HPTs for a couple of weeks - they didn't go negative until over a fortnight after my miscarriage. It's worth calling your local EPU (I found the number for mine via google) for advice.

Hi Mike - yes my scan was private. I really couldn't afford it but it was well worth the £££ for the reassurance.

To contact the midwife I had to fill in a form at the GP surgery then the midwife rang me. I might find the number for the EPU just so I'm doing something, no idea what to say though.
My husband is at work but he's being v supportive when he's home, asking me how I am and hugging me.
With my last mc I was told to do a test 3 weeks after it happened. I had to go buy one. Soul destroying.

Hope you managed to speak to someone yesterday Freya and that you're ok today.

Hi all, hope it's ok for me to join. I've just had a positive test so early days and just 4 weeks pregnant.
I've got 1 ds but since trying this time have had 2 mmc. The first at 9 weeks which we found out about at the dating scan in July last year and the second at 6 weeks in Feb this year.
Struggling to get hopes up, but trying to stay positive as I don't want to let it get me down.
Finding myself peeing on sticks daily to see if the line is getting darker - makes me feel better for about 30 mins!

Freya - hope your ok x

Thanks mikesh909. I went to Dr's today and have been referred for a scan but I have not heard anything so I don't think I have actually been referred. The cramping is a lot worse now. There's still not much blood but it's bright red with slightly bigger clots. I'm still holding on to the slightest hope that I'm not having a mc and so I'm not taking any painkillers. Pretty sure I am though.

Sorry to hear this is happening Freya. It's a cruel thing. I hope you've got support around you. Any news on when your scan will be?

Hi Molly. Congratulations on your pregnancy! Sorry to hear about your mmcs. Going through that twice must've been so tough. I don't suppose they were able to give you any reasons why that had happened? I hope everything goes well for you in these early weeks.

Thanks Mikesh909. No reasons for miscarriages as yet. Have managed to get referred for tests due to a white mass they saw when scanning during the second mc but only just started down that path. Had some blood tests (before I found out I was pregnant this time) and have a scan on Tuesday which I'll still go to. The next consultant appointment will then be mid July - hopefully I'll be able to cancel that!

I just want to say thank you for your advice and support but I miscarried last night/this morning. The pain isn't too bad nor is the bleeding but still devastated and heart broken like last time.
I wish all of you ladies the best with your pregnancies and hope that your scans go well.
Thanks again x

I'm so sorry to hear that. I imagine everyone on this thread knows that the physical pain and bleeding are not the hardest parts about a miscarriage. I hope you've got the real life support you need to get through this. Thank you for your good wishes. x

And Molly, good luck for Tuesday!

Sorry for setting up the new thread and disappearing!

So sorry about your mc Freya , especially hard given how long you were ttc , took me 10 months to conceive with pcos the time I mc'd and just makes it that bit more upsetting x

And hello to all the newbies too, hope you get somewhere with epau tomorrow tinkly. Good luck for the scan molly, I always get nervous before scans!

Congratulations on the scan lily!

Very good news that you've been discharged from consultant care eastend, and that the growth scan was on target. I'm seeing mw this week and was measuring a bit big last time so am half expecting to get sent for another scan. It's all getting a bit real now isn't it? 31 weeks now for me

chandelier how goes things? x

Tinklypoo you might be better to call the midwives office first, last time I tried to self refer to EPU I got know where but midwife did it for me off the back of a phone call - I wasn't booked in.

Sundayraspberry it's lovely to hear you're 31 weeks - make me feel so hopeful x

Hi can I join please?

Think I'm about 4-5 weeks expecting. Had a missed miscarriage in January discovered at a scan around the 12 week mark. I went into Hosp for urinary sepsis and had to make some decisions regarding antibiotics which could affect the baby's hearing, it was all quite traumatic and then when they did a scan to check the kidneys the baby had stopped growing at around 9 weeks. I was heartbroken. Had medical management which was horrendous, passed out twice with the pain etc. Don't think the body was ready to let go.

Feeling very apprehensive about this pregnancy, trying to take it one day at a time.

So sorry to hear Freya. Wishing the best for you tinkly.

Can I suggest we put how far along we are at the bottom of messages?

5+2 (Ovia calculation but not convinced!)

I thought I ought to check in on this thread. I didn't post much last time so am rather behind with everything. I think I'm largely trying to ignore this pregnancy at the moment so maybe why I wasn't posting much. Currently six weeks so will see how this goes.

Hi everyone,

Welcome tinkly - totally understand where you're coming from on wanting to leave official things as long as possible. Good news that you managed to book a scan. Is that a private one or NHS? I hope this week passes quickly for you.

Welcome also cheeky. Sorry to hear about your past experiences, mmc in particular is so cruel. One day at a time is all you can do I think. I hope everything goes well for you this time.

Chelle, how are you getting on? Have you got any appointments / scans booked in? Ignoring worked well for me up to a certain point. I didn't do a test or tell anyone at all but I felt so rubbish that I knew. Since having my booking in appointment, it has been much harder to push out of my mind. Coincidentally, I've been feeling much better - which just makes me more worried! There really is no relief! My scan is not until next Wednesday.

Sunday, can I ask you (or anyone else who would know) if / when your symptoms started to improve? I think I am around the 12 week mark at the moment (vague I know). Is it normal to just wake up one day suddenly feeling better? I previously had this desperate need to eat about every 2 hours to keep nausea at bay, sore boobs and utter exhaustion. Whilst I'm still more tired than I'd usually be, the other things have improved considerably. I am thinking every bad thought possible...

Have a good week everyone.

Hi ladies - 12 week scan on Friday morning. So so so scared. Had a MMC over Christmas discovered at a private 9 week scan. We are so anxious about scans now that we put our heads in the sand and didn't book a private one this time, so the wait for the 12 week one has been agonising. Since Saturday I have been having some horrible thoughts and dreams seeing a scan with an empty sac and just a big black space. This is going to be the longest week ever...