Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Thank you tinkly. The tiredness is unreal isn't it! I'm off to bed as soon as I've written this.
The taste is driving me mad, it's actually the worst symptom I have right now and today I got a new one....tickly nipples!! They've been mildly sore til now but today it's been an on and off tickling sensation which is sooooo irritating! I have to hold them to stop it lol. The joys of pregnancy huh?
So pleased to say once this baby arrives safely...which it will....I'm sure of it!.... I'm never having anymore!!

Hi ladies.

I need help!! I'm so so constipated!!! It's been three days. Eek. The Cyclogest is probably making it worse but my god I'm so blocked up! Sorry tmi. What can I take that's safe? I'm only 5wk2 days.

Xx

Oh dear Kate, I must admit early pregnancy has the opposite effect on me and I get the runs, but constipation comes later so I do know your pain! I would go and speak to a pharmacist and check what's suitable but I think you should be fine with lactulose.
I've often had success with eating a minimum of 2 kiwis a day too.
Make sure you are drinking plenty and maybe try some prune juice if you can stomach it (iced helps reduce the taste a bit!).
Do some star jumps, go for a walk, have a coffee and hope for the best.
Try raising your feet when you are on the loo, on a stool or box or something, - that really helps me.

Good luck!

I found dried apricots helped Kate and plenty of fluids (the apricots are supposed to be good for iron levels too)

Lynsey I've enjoyed drinking cold water with a chunk of lemon in. You have to leave it to infuse for a bit but the sharpness might counteract your sweet taste.

Hello all, just checking in from the other side. Great to see so much positive news on here! DS is currently cuddled up on DH after a feed, fast asleep yet farting away I still can't believe he is ours and we have him for keeps!

Kate lactulose should be fine but I found prune juice better actually. Post labour constipation was awful and has still not fully settled down, not fun!

Thanks so much everyone. I'll try all your recommendations!!!

east what a gorgeous image!! Hope you are getting some rest. Must be magical xx

Isn't it amazing how a newborn baby can fart like a grown man I was frankly impressed at DD! Lovely to hear how well things are going East, hope the constipation eases soon now. I hope you haven't been blessed with post natal piles....

See this is why I like mumsnet! How else would I have learnt that a very farty newborn is normal Lovely to hear things are going well eastend any words of wisdom from the other side?

So I had a bit of a moment this week. Tuesday night was awful cramps on my right side. Wednesday was spotting. Called EPU and booked a scan for his morning.

Mega relief - everything's fine. Heartbeat, limbs. No obvious heammorage anymore. I even allowed myself to be happy for a while this afternoon.

The whole thing shot my nerves and I was a bit of a crying mess but they were very reassuring that it's best I called (again).

I've got my proper scan in a weeks time. By their dates today I will be 11+4, but they said that's ok for the measurements.

Now to stay calm. (Yeah right).

Aw truly poor you, what a scare. I'm so pleased it's all worked out well in the end though.
Good that it's only a week til next scan too, not long to wait!
Well I'm officially booked in with the midwife now. Felt better about doing it after my great scan yesterday.
Today in myself, I have felt horrid! I'm quite sure it's major tiredness as I'm not sleeping well but I've felt like a bag of crap all day and realllllly struggled. I so wanted to eat my dinner but I couldn't, I wanted to sleep but couldn't. Wanted a nice drink to enjoy and it just tastes funny!! Grrr and the dreaded wind is getting me too.
I think I might just call it a night!

Thank you Lynsey - take care of yourself

Good news Truly but still very frightening. I feel for you Lynsey but it does pass!

Raspberry Erm, take it easy?! Max is such an easy going baby it's hard not to do anything and everything but just take time to cherish every moment and of course sleep! Not long til you are due now right?

How frightening truly but so pleased you are ok. Do you feel calmer now?

I'm only 5w5 days and every day is a rollercoaster. Please stay little one!!

Hope everyone else is ok. Xx

Oh truly what a horrible fright. Glad all looks good though and they could fit you in quickly. Fingers crossed the next scan next week will help you feel more reassured that everything is continuing fine

Oh lynsey, sorry you feel so horrible! It's a very "my body has been taken over by the aliens and I don;t know wtf is happening" disorientating feeling being pregnant isn't it.
DH asks me at nighttime "how are you?" and I say "ok". The other night I said ok, then paused and said "Actually, - I have trapped wind that really hurts, indigestion, a headache and my temperature is all weird and I can't get comfy, and I feel a bit sick, and I need ANOTHER wee but I said ok because on the whole this is pretty good, and I don't feel REALLY sick." He looked a bit scared and edged away. I've been struggling to sleep too. I get hot flushes when I go to bed and it makes me feel pretty grim - a bit feverish, and then the bed annoys me and I end up tossing and turning and hot and bothered and can't get to sleep for ages - if I'm unlucky this can be 3-4 hours. Then fucking stupid vivid dreams, constant weeing and broken sleep. It is a relief when it is morning tbh.

kate hope you've managed a poo!

I'm getting wound up and frightened now as my scan approaches. I was in tears last night, there's this horrible leaden knot of fear and I'm scared of it being ok and I'm scared of it not being ok. I've now had the experience of shit news at 12 week scan and shit news at 20 week scan and it starting to get to me. I'm scared it will be bad news at this scan and I am even more scared that it will be ok now, and bad news later. I'm also bricking it about the possibility of actual birth at term if I get that far. I said to DH last night, well, whatever happens it's a hospital job now - unless of course we actually get completely to the other end and go for a homebirth. But medical management by this point would be in hospital and I can't face the bastards on the gynae ward again.

At my first MW appointment a few weeks ago, my MW had a student with her and the student was running through some of the routine bits with me and asks "if all goes well, where would you like to have this baby?" I looked very blankly at her, a baby as a possibility is not something I can visualise at all yet. I wanted to say, well, not in the maternity bereavement suite and not on the gynae ward, thanks, I've done both of those. Anywhere else would be ok. Bit my tongue though.

Oh butterfly you really are doing it tough right now. It's not at all surprising how you feel given what you've been through previously. Have they offered any kind of extra support through this pregnancy?

I know not all ladies can be offered extra help as one mc can be a fluke, but with yourself, I'd certainly think you were top of the list for extra care.
When I was told my pregnancy is classed as high risk at my booking appt yesterday, I presumed that was because I've had two mc in a row but the midwife said "no it has to be 3". High risk is because of my history with depression. It's very strange how they class things
(Just want to point out I never tried to end it, I never even saw a psychiatrist etc. I was just very low and on tablets. Midwife said she's gonna try get the high risk removed asap).
Anyway, if you need to tell them how you feel, about not going back to the same place (as an example) is there an alternative? Could you go to a different hospital? (I requested that yesterday).
If you need to let all of your emotions out, (i think its better than bottling it up!) have you got someone around you strong enough to support you?
I think I'm rambling a bit but I hope I'm helping even a tiny bit. It's days like this I wish there were mums net coffee morning type things. Face to Face support is always great.

Oh and by the way, you described my bedtimes perfectly too lol. I just don't have indigestion yet.
It will get better for all of us. We all deserve it!!

Hi ladies, still on holiday but just checking in as DH is snoring and I can't sleep. lynsey it really irritates me that with pregnancy healthcare workers seem to communicate with you as a statistic rather than a human, e.g telling you that 2 MCs doesn't hit the statistic threshold but a history of depression does - that's bizarre if you use common sense. But then I noticed my family history of depression and alcoholism on both mine and dh's side led to a little red flag popping up on the midwife's screen and led to a spiel about stress during pregnancy (not actually that relevant since I'm feeling fairly resilient just now considering, and would have seemed to flow better if integrated with general chat about me rather than just because I gave a positive answer to the screening question about mental illness in the family. Good to read other people's good news. Congrats kate it's good to see you here. I'm 10+1 today and starting to believe the 12 week scan happening is a real possibility. And that it's also possible it could bring good news.

Thank you for your lovely message Lynsey, it means a lot

I've got a very supportive midwife who has said from the off that the scheduled appointments are the minimum and the must haves but to prioritise staying sane and to book extra appointments as needed for a heartbeat listen and a chat so I will do that through the 2nd and 3rd tri. I'm consultant led and have 2 consultants on my case now - one ob/gyn who I'll see for the first time on the 19th (my MW chose her for me as apparently she's really nice) and we'll make a plan of care, discuss extra scans then, and then a fetal medicine consultant who looked after me when I was having DD and he is doing my screening scan on the 26th. Lovely man and I'm glad it's him, he was so kind to me before. He did DD's 20 week scan and stuck the monitor on and said instantly "there's the heartbeat", he understood how important that was to reassure me straight off. Then after a bit he said to me "your heartbeat is almost in sync with the baby's, i.e 140bpm, you can't go on like this, when do you want another scan?" And agreed, arranged and did 2 more scans later on. And refused to charge us for pics.

History can look awful written down. Mine in my notes now reads: thyroid disease, respiratory disease (asthma), mental health disorder (anxiety, PTSD), history of late loss and congenital abnormalities, hyperemesis. I think the GP was over egging it slightly with hyperemesis but if it's what he needed to write to prescribe me the meds I don't care!

I guess high risk means all sorts, and what they are presumably flagging you at risk of is AND and PND? I hope the depression is and stays a thing of the past

My maternity exemption card arrived yesterday, I feel a fraud having one! It's changed though - on the letter it now says if your baby is stillborn or you have a miscarriage you remain entitled to use the card. When I lost DD1 that wasn't the case and I had to write to them to say I had had a late loss and post the card back. I was happy not to use it again but at the time I really wanted to keep it in her memory box as "proof", and was so upset at having to return it. That's all come whooshing back

It's going to be a very long few months.

Butterfly, you are an inspiration. You deserve every bit of extra support going, I'm so glad to hear you've got two nice consultants on your team. You are a bigger person than me for keeping your inwards thoughts to yourself for the benefit of the (probably blameless) student midwife. I doubt I would have managed that.

Completely relate to the feeling of ones body being overtaken. I had another night of bad sleep yesterday which does not help. This was contributed to by the fact that every seagull in the area starts up with their racket at dawn, which as you know is currently pre-5am. Our local co-op has also decided to open 24 hours which means delivery crates rattling up and down the ramp at whatever hour they see fit. I keep telling myself I'll be glad of this city centre living when I'm at home with a baby as at least we'll have plenty of places to go, but for now it's a trial. On the plus side, the need to wee constantly finally if temporarily lifted a few weeks ago so for those of you struggling with this around the end of the first trimester, hope may be in sight.

I am having an anxious day today. For some reason, the latest thing I have got in my head is cervical incompetence. I suppose because its one of the things that can go wrong around this stage (19 weeks) with the growing size of the baby. I am very aware of it being there now, if that makes sense, the days of feeling like a pseudo-pregnant fraudster are gone. I know nothing about this condition other than the fact that they don't normally diagnose it until after one second trimester loss . Please someone tell me how irrational I am being.

Nice to hear good news from others. It does help to read this thread and realise that not everything is doom and gloom!

Hugs and to you all today. Think we all just need a half decent night's sleep x

I get major pre scan anxiety butterfly and I've nothing like your excuse for it. Your consultants and midwife sound amazing tho, definitely take her up on the offer of extra mw appointments for peace of mind.

Glad you got seen so quickly and that all was OK truly and not long to wait until your next scan.

38+4 (!) today and feeling a bit off, think I've been overdoing it this week rather than it being the start of anything. Struggling with sleep like the rest of you too x

I have scan anxiety too. My high from Tuesdays scan wore off quite quickly and now I'm googling doppler and considering buying one. Next scan is Wednesday. According to the Tuesday scan I'm 12 weeks today. Nothing can prepare you for the shock of bad news at a scan. So sorry, butterfly. You've done well to get this far without losing the plot. I've been diagnosed with PTSD too and it is tough going.

Hi everyone.

I am still a few weeks away from my first scan (at 7 weeks) but I am already fretting!! I did a Clearblue Digital this morning and it said 2-3 but based on my last HCG, it should surely be saying 3+ by now!! Argh! It has sent me into a panic. Has anyone got any wisdom on these?

After 4 miscarriages I find that anxiety seeps in at any opportunity! Did anyone else use Clearblue Digital as a way to chart HCG? Are they reliable? I am sure they aren't but... ARGH!

xx

Oh and hi Lucky!!! How is your holiday? Where are you? 10 weeks! Wow, it doesn't feel like 2 minutes ago that we were both on the TTC after MC thread. Have you had any scans yet? How are you feeling? Lovely to know it's all going well. xx