Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

I got a CBD 2-3 this morning! I got a 3+ with my MMC so it doesn't strictly mean anything but I am trying to accept that today I am actually pregnant and it's not a CP

kate please please stop with the tests! It does nothing but puts you in a really anxious head space. No good comes of them!

12 weeks today and thought the sickness would magically stop today. Nope!!!

Ok Kate. I did loads of research on CBD tests yesterday, including some peer reviewed papers. Basically are they reliable at telling you how pregnant you are? not really!!!

All there is inside is 2 preg tests. One is sensitive and gives you the preg/not preg result and the the other has a control line and a less sensitive preg test. Basically the test compares the darkness of the preg line to the control line. SO no line on the 2nd test or a faint line, 1-2, darker line, 2-3, as dark as control 3+. I thought it was much more sophisticated. It's just a line darkness detector. In research there was massive differences between women's test results at the same gestation/actual HCG level.

So like all pregnancy tests, they only REALLY tell you if you are preg or not and can't be considered reliable to tell you how pregnant you are. The same as all HPTs

Thanks everyone that's made me feel so much better. I really appreciate that. Xxx

Mac, maybe not today but mine did honestly stop as if by magic overnight. I hope this wonderful day arrives for you soon.

I second what is said above re. CBD tests. Really interesting to hear how they actually work, thanks for sharing your research Happy. How did you access the peer reviewed papers? So much of a better idea than taking the word of whatever google throws up!

Congrats Mac on reaching the 12 week mark! Must be v exciting. Hope the sickness subsides for you soon.

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There was a lot of googling involved . In the FDA study, some got 3+ at 2103 mlU/ml and some didn't get 3+ until 3618 mlU/ml. I just stumbled across stuff whilst researching how they worked.

It has helped me feel better about everything anyway.... For now

Happy you have made my day! I woke up at 6am fretting. That is fascinating research. Thanks v much.

I am going to ask my consultant if I can have some blood tests next week for reassurance... just to check everything is going in the right way.

Another massive dilemma is what to wear at the moment! I am too bloated from all the Cyclogest to fit into my normal clothes! I am going into town now to see if I can get something that works. It's a lovely problem to have though! Long may the bloating and fashion problems continue!

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I'm giving in and buying maternity clothes! My tummy has truly popped. People are noticing. All I can think is 'grow baby grow!' I don't care that my bikini body will be round and bumpy, I just want a healthy baby. I have my NHS scan later this week and even though I saw the little wriggler on Tuesday I'm still so nervous!

Me too tinkly. Had nightmares a couple of days ago about waking up in a pool of my own blood. Nightmares last night about intruders and DD and then about having newborn twins that I left at home to go shopping and then couldn't get back to and somehow accidentally ended up 3 hours away in Devon stranded with no money, the police after me and sobbing to a taxi driver about my baby twins that would be desperate for feeds/sodden/crying etc. Awful.

I dream more and more vividly when I'm pregnant and these are definitely anxiety dreams. I'm wondering about trying a bath before bed and some lavender oil or similar on the pillow and seeing if it helps.

No advice really, but much sympathy!

My nightmares have started too. The reoccurring theme is that my daughter and husband hate me. I'm feeling anxious again. Like this is all too good to be true and I'm going to lose everything again. Hopefully, it's just hormones.

With my pregnancy with DD, I dreamt of being chased by a man with a rotating saw for a hand. So far this pregnancy I have dreamt about getting mastitis (I had it so bad when DD was 9 weeks old I had emergency surgery so it is a worst nightmare) and I dreamt about OH organising for us to visit people when I had other stuff to do.....

I think there has been a shift in what my subconscious thinks is a nightmare! I am dreaming with this pregnancy but not sure if it is more of less than normal. DD still feeds a couple of times in the night so I don't get much REM sleep at the best of times!

Hello all, first time posting on this thread.
I had a MC in April and after one cycle a BFP last week. I am now totally crippled by anxiety. From the dates of my last cycle I think I'm 6+5 but my guess is a week less than that. My symptoms come and go which terrifies me and I've been having awful cramps but no spotting / bleeding. I also had a cold which turned into an cough that means I can't rest half as well as I want to.
I knew it would be hard getting pregnant again but I didn't realise just how scared my fiancé and I would be!

Welcome lottie! I'm so sorry for your loss. How many weeks were you? There is absolutely no reason to suggest it will happen again and symptoms do disappear at times. I feel your pain though. I am scared too. I'm not sure I could mentally or physically do another MC. But I try my best to keep the negative thoughts at bay and the women on here are just amazing.
We will get through it together X xx

I was one day shy of my 8th week so I haven't reached that hurdle yet!
We have a scan on Wednesday at the EPU (all being well up to then!) and I'm hoping and praying for good things.
I feel exactly the same as you Kate, the idea of another MC fills me with total dread. I don't know how I'd cope again.
But yes! Positive thoughts :)

Thank you xx

Honestly it's just taking a day at a time. Don't think to far ahead. Just concentrate on getting through each day. Then appointments and scans come and your focus shifts to reaching them.

Stay off google, don't pee on any more sticks and realise that trapped wind can make you have awful stomach pains which mean nothing except you need a good pump!

I want to like your post Mac, that made me smile

Welcome Lottie and congratulations on your BFP, so sorry it's so fraught with worry after your loss. How are you feeling? We've been a right sicky bunch on here so you're in good company if you feel like crap!

Wise words Macauley I can't promise about POAS though....I'm addicted.

Not sure how I feel at the moment. I can't remember how I felt at this point in my last pregnancy.... But I can remember how I felt in my first MMC pregnancy and I keep comparing but I know it's silly! I had less symptoms with my DD pregnancy than I did with my MMC

I've had less symptoms with both dd and thus baby than I did with my lost baby. With my lost baby I was being sick several times a day. Symptoms mean nothing really.

11 weeks today, just ordered a pair of mat jeans, mainly because they were on offer for £10 and also because I can't really do my trousers up! Not had a scan yet so it's a gamble, but I figured if it all goes wrong a £10 pair of jeans will be the least of my worries.

Constipated now. All I seem to be able to pop out is more piles. Fortunately they don't hurt for now
Will have to try some of my own tips from upthread!

12+2 and I swear I've just felt popping bubble type movements! It's far too early isn't it? Even for a second baby? I felt dd popping at about 16/17 weeks.

Not necessarily. I felt my little boy fluttering in the week leading up to our tmfr. That would have been about 13 weeks. My mum reckons she felt my sister (her 2nd) at 12 weeks. It might be. Time will tell whether they become more definite or whether it is wind! DD I didn't feel until nearly 20 weeks but I had an anterior placenta with her and movement was always muted as a result. How exciting!

*tfmr obv, stupid fingers!v

Hi I'm currently 6 weeks 6 days I've noticed for days when liying down that my pubic bone stuck out seemed high but now tonight feels like it has disappeared I've had a loss at 24weeks a rainbow and mmc's I'm freaking out I got pelvic girdle with my rainbow and have had pains since before I knew I was pregnant this time is it normal or anything I've never had the usual symptoms blocked nose dizziness only food aversion later on but only when I'd eat something bby didn't like