Staying posifrickentive- Thread 9 for ladies pg after mc

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Right that wasn't so hard! Let's hope everyone finds us still

Hi everyone. I had my scan today. Baby measuring ahead again at 11+4. I'm so relieved and happy. DH and I will be telling our dd she is going to be a big sister today. I can't stop crying.

I don't think my bean is sticky I don't know exactly when I ovulated but lines on hpts are still super faint. If I got a bfp on a CBD yesterday 1-2 weeks, surely my hcg should be above 50 and therefore be triggering decent lines on ic's? I'm only getting super faint ones still

My OH is going offshore tomorrow for a week and I have a feeling I will be dealing with this and an 11 month old on my own.

I dunno whether to try and stay positive, maybe I ovulated later than I thought or this one could just be a slow burner, or to try and accept it will end of its own accord soon

Sorry for my downer message after your awesome one whatser. Fantastic news on the scan, the picture is beautiful! X

How many dpo are you, Happy? I didn't get solid lines on Internet cheapie until 6-7 weeks xx

I am impressed by the bargainous scan prices, round here the cheapest is £75 and I have paid £120 in the past. Don't want to do too many at that price!

whatser whooop! Fabulous news. I'm sure your DD will be thrilled, what a lovely moment. She's about 4 isn't she?

tinkly hurray for low risk results, what a relief that must be.

Lynsey I am and at 1hr 9 min birth. DD's is measured in days rather than hours. Even my second stage was twice as long as your entire birth ! Are you considering homebirth this time incase of a v quick labour? Must be a bit of a worry depending on distance to hospital etc.

Welcome back MissClarke! I agree with the others, 8/9 weeks is a good time, much before that and there's not really anything to see. Also, if all looks good at 8 weeks that's when the stats say there is a big reduction in MC risk. However, I'll give my cautionary tale - I decided not to bother this time with an early scan as I had one at 9.5 weeks in my last pregnancy and they said it all looked great (it was a consultant scanning btw so as good as it gets), but then at 12 weeks they found incompatible with life abnormalities, which had been there from about 5/6 weeks but not visible and diagnosable until at least 11 weeks. So for me it was false reassurance in that (admittedly, rare) situation, but I now wouldn't feel very reassured by an early scan as I know that there's a lot they just can't tell at that stage.

Sorry you are in a hard patch Mac, I think we all understand the need to step back sometimes. Take care of yourself. Special extra sympathies for how ill you sound like you are still

Happygojo it's a stressy time isn't, that horrible not knowing out of control feeling. I hope yours hangs in there

Welcome to StarBee, dino and Natsch too and apologies if I have rudely missed anyone, you're all welcome!

sophia how are you doing? You must be almost there now? How's the anxiety?

Feeling utterly wrecked today. DD's teachers are on strike so I've had her to look after all day and I am frankly just not up to it at the moment. I have never been so glad to see DH arrive home and whisk her off to play! Have emailed enquiries to a summer holiday club in the light of today, hoping if she can do a day a week there that it will help me have a breather.

Whatser I'm not sure how many dpo to be honest. I've only had 2 periods since my DD as I BF and there was 29 days between them. Before DD my cycle was between 27-29 days so pretty much standard. I didn't use OPK's as we were at a caravan with the in laws and we weren't 'trying trying' iykwim. That would put my period due today or tomorrow, but with all the BF-ing, who knows if it's all messed up!

It's more that I got a faint positive on Saturday so I would expect tests to be getting darker. I have another CBD but trying to wait until Friday or Saturday as then it should be long enough to get 2-3 weeks if all is well.

I wish I could just POAS and go 'whoop I am pregnant!' I just send myself bat poop crazy instead!

butterfly I asked for a home birth last time at the booking appt but obviously that wasn't going to happen as I mc. I think it's a definite possibility of needing a home birth as I only just made it there for that last one. Was an ambulance job too! Paramedics were like "oh you have ages yet blah blah" and then the midwife told them I'd had baby within minutes of arriving. My previous labours were 8 hrs, then 4, then the 1hr 9 minutes!
I'm kinda waiting to see how the scan goes tomorrow before I put too much thought into it this time.

Congratulations whatser. So glad all is well.

happy I'd really try not to worry at this stage, your so early on that a faint line is still good! Please stay away from the clear blues too, sooooo many stories I've seen where they are terribly unreliable. Stay strong and don't Google either!

Tinkly I found the one thing that kept me from worrying about the birth, was simply not to think about it until it happened. Easier said than done but I knew it had to happen so I thought I'll deal with it when it does! Do not listen to horror stories as I think the majority have one to tell! My middle son was the worst for me, I had a water birth but wasn't as lovely as it's made out to be! He hurt like hell and I swore I'd never go through it again...but I did 10 months later and here I am again...by choice!! Have to add, I didn't have pain relief with the youngest 2 as no time so of course it was going to hurt more!

Thanks everyone. Dd is 5 at the end of the month so I'm hoping she will be thrilled. Happy try not to worry. If i were you I'd use a more expensive test. I've always found that the cheaper the test, the lighter the line in the early days. I used a super drug cheapie and got a fainter lime than the control after I'd got 2-3weeks on a digital!

whatser congratulations

tinkly can you let me know how you get on at the baby scan studio? It's not a million miles away from I am and fancied going there later on but not known anyone that's been!

DD wasn't too sure. She got a bit clingy and upset. I don't think she wants to share!

Awww she'll come round. It's probably still all a bit abstract for her

Hi all, I had my 2nd scan tonight & all looks ok :) it's now 8+3 so has caught up a couple of days since the last scan 2 weeks ago.

Jo I absolutely agonised over Internet cheapie tests, mine were v faint until about 6 weeks. Don't trust them!!

princess and whatser

Thanks for all the tips.
Next week and a half until the scan will be looooonnggg.

Sorry tinkly I was busy being at Lynsey's quick labour, I should have added that despite the whole thing dragging on for a ludicrous amount of time, I also had no stitches and was a technically straightforward birth. Some grazing which stung for about 10 days and then disappeared and a small tear that the MW said would heal fine on it's own - I never noticed it at the time or afterwards and it did indeed fix itself. I did perineal massage for a few weeks before the birth and don't know if that helped ensure the pretty minimal damage, but I'd certainly do it again!
I think part of the reason my labour dragged on so long was I couldn't feel any of the bladder sensations so was totally unable to wee for ages which meant a massive full bladder in my pelvis blocking DD's descent. So top tip - wee hourly and if you can't, get catheterized!

whatser she's almost exactly the same age as mine - mine turns 5 in August. They are funny little things, I am sure she will come round, but it's a bit of a gamechanger for her so I can understand her clingyness.

Happy if you're only due about now I would say faint lines is totally normal. Mine were equal darkness to the control line on cheapies by about 6 weeks, so 2.5 weeks after my first positive. Hope it's all ok.

Congrats princess and whats!!! Must be so thrilling.

I got my HCG results back today. You may remember that last week they were rising slowly & I was worried. Tues = 49 Thurs = 79.... I was scared this would turn out like my last MC did... But today I got my results, five days later and it's 754!!!!!!! They've jumped massively!!!! Today I believe in miracles. Let's hope this continues. So so so happy.

Xxx

Great news, Hopeful!

That's great Kate! So glad they're rising.

Lynsey that was my active labour with DS time after they broke my waters so don't know if next will be quicker.

Don't feel so nauseous or tired today so feel down heartened. Wish I hadn't booked in now even though I know that's nothing to do with it.

Congratulations on scans princess & whats.

Don't know if I want an early scan or not, really hate this. Sorry to just sound flat today.

Hi everyone,

This thread moves so fast these days!

Welcome to all the newcomers. Wonderful news about your rising levels, Hopeful. Try not to worry too much Happy, there are no certainties in those early days (or ever??) and those sticks sometimes give us the false impression that that's what they offer. Glad to see others de-lurking too :)

Whatser, so happy for you, glad it went well today. Great picture too! When's your next scan? I'm sure your DD will come round to the idea of big sisterhood. Did she know about the pregnancy you lost?

Good news too for Tinkly, it's such a relief to get a low risk result. I felt like its one thing at least crossed off a long list...

Butterfly, sorry to hear you've had a tough day. How soon do the school holidays start where you are? I hope you manage to get some childcare help sorted. I have lost track, how many weeks are you at now?

I'm at 18+5 and I can definitely feel a baby moving around in there now. My DP has confirmed it's not my imagination. No private scans here, and at 6 weeks since our last one, and feeling much better on the symptoms front, I was starting to feel like I could have dreamt up the whole thing. Not so much now, with pretty regular kickings going on. I am also suddenly enormous. I ordered a few things from Gap maternity and when I tried them on, I shocked myself at how I've been walking around the college where I teach pretending all is normal and fooling anyone at all. I am an unmistakable pregnant lady, no longer resembling one who has eaten all the pies. I really hope I can keep up this charade until next week. Our 20 wk scan is on Friday 15th...

Great news hopeful and princess!!

I'm off to bed feeling sick again... worst I've felt in days. Think a little bit of anxiety is starting to creep in about the scan tomorrow even though I've been trying not to think about it. Even though I've said from how poorly I am, I feel this one will stick, I think that's just been my way of coping because now I feel I'm more prepared to be told bad news than good. I could really do with sending my brain for a holiday!

tinkly It's understandable your mind is running away with you, just try not to let it swamp you.

Sleep well ladies x

A thought for you dinosaur... your post reminded me of something.

Symptoms are connected to the level of HCG in your blood. This rises for the first 8-11 weeks of pregnancy. At the beginning, you levels double c. every 48-72 hours. As your pregnancy progresses, the time this takes can lengthen to 92 hours. The important thing to know is that the increasing impacts on your symptoms, after each increase your body adapts so it's quite normal to have a day that is less 'bad' than the one before.

Try not to worry. Easier said than done I know

americanpregnancy.org/while-pregnant/hcg-levels/

Next scan is my NHS one next week. I know it was crazy to have a private scan so close to the NHS one but we go on holiday 2 days later and I was worried that I'd have another missed miscarriage and the holiday would be ruined. The holiday was booked to coinside with my due date to give us something to look forward to so didn't want to have to cancel. Dd didn't know about the baby I lost. We'd had the scan on the 23rd of December so that we could tell her. I'm glad we kept it a secret because she just wouldn't have understood. We had a chat last night and she seems to be coming round to the idea. Perhaps it was the promise of McDonald's for tea after her swimming lesson!

Good luck for today Lynsey!!

Thanks for all your kind welcomes.

So much to catch up on this thread!! Hope you are all good this morning.

Xxx