Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Morning Lynsey! Just keep remembering the statistics and breathe as deeply as you can. A meditation app might help like headspace. As I'm sure you know, 6 weeks is still pretty early to be feeling symptoms, but palpitations/ light headedness are common symptoms too. I have suffered right the way through with those (currently 22 weeks). After an EP and an MMC I found it domewhat reassuring that really, there is nothing can personally do to change the outcome of this- try to distract yourself, anxiety really won't help. Maybe talk to your DP about it and make sure he gives you lots of hugs. This too will pass- Wednesday will be here soon enough and I have everything crossed you will get good news.

Welcome Lynsey. I found that the way I've coped so far is to each day as it comes and mentally tick it off as "another day closer". I've had some bleeding this time but nothing major; it's still worrying though, isn't it?! Some great advice from
Eastend above. Re. Symptoms: I've had the most horrendous sickness in this pgcy (on meds)- wasn't like this in my previous pgcies!!! The mw even asked if this pgcy was with a different partner! (It's not...) But then said each pregnancy brings diff hormones so diff reactions by the body. Fascinating really!

Thank you! Wow altho I have 3 healthy kids, I don't remember the palpitations being a symptom before! As it's only been happening a day or so, I'm going to take comfort in the fact it must mean the pregnancy hormones must be increasing!
I agree with you 100% that all pregnancys are different. I just found tho, with each pregnancy I had, the sickness got better. With the BO I was more exhausted than I've ever been in my life. No Wednesday isn't long, just with being an impatient person, and history, it's sending me round the bend!
I know there is literally nothing I can do so instead of driving you all crazy too, I'll just keep everything crossed and wait for my scan :-) xx

Hi all. I seemed to have dropped off this thread a while ago. Wasn't getting any notification of new posts so assumed there were none! On the contrary, its busy so I've not been able to catch up fully.

Welcome new ladies and sorry for those of you having stressful times.

Blissfully uneventful here. Had 20 week scan and I'm having a girl. Delighted, but would have been happy either way. My DD will be very happy for a sister.

I'm giving daily clexane injection still, and aspin (anti phospholidid diagnosed after 4 mc's). Extra scans to check growth, and also because I had emergency section last time.

Speak soon

Hi lynsey I think we've all been there worrying about symptoms coming and going, or no symptoms at all. We'll keep you sane until weds! Congrats on your 4th! (I'm always in awe of people who do this pregnancy thing multiple times )

Aw thank you Sundayraspberry :-) after my first child, I didn't think I'd ever want more as he has behavioural problems and now goes to a special school. It's not I don't love him, just that's he's very hard work! I then went on to have 2 more boys who were only 10 months apart! This current pregnancy is so very much wanted and I think that's why we drive ourselves crazy... is it ok to blame hormones already?! I've decided once we have number 4, I would prefer to be sterilised so as not to go through all the worry again!

Congratulations cottonsock!! That's lovely news xx

Congratulations cottonsock, fab news x

Hi

I have been lurking on this thread for some time but been too scared to post in case things go wrong again.

I've had six losses ranging from 6-13 weeks. I'm very lucky to have 3 beautiful children. I'm pregnant again and am 12 weeks. I had a scan at just over 8 weeks where everything looked okay. It's my dating scan this coming Thursday and I'm feeling quite nervous.

Hi Faries, I'm so sorry for your losses. The wait for the dating scan is awful, and feels like it will never end- it will though! I hope you will have good news Have you had your losses followed up on? Xxx

Hope all goes well Thursday faries :)

Good luck!! Everything is crossed for you. My scan is Wednesday and it can't come soon enough. It really is like waiting for Christmas when your 5 years old! Xxx

Morning Everyone!

mimi I am thinking of you today. Big hugs huni.

Lots of scans this week. Mines also Thursday. Good luck faries I'm looking forward to sharing our scan stories together I am sorry to hear about your losses I understand how nervous you must be feeling. I am sure everything will be just fine. We work ourselves up. Last week I couldn't sleep for days leading up to the scan. This time I'm a little more relaxed even though I'm counting the days down.

lynsey I had such a bad bleed a few weeks ago thought it was game over again but baby was fine. Wednesday will be here before you know it and I am sure everything will be just fine. Keep busy I'm going to throw myself into the housework this week hoping Thursday will come round quickly. It's awful how we wish time away in first trimester of pregnancy. My symptoms didn't really kick in until 8 weeks and omg did I feel awful. Still do now but nowhere near as bad weeks 8 and 9. As the others have said every pregnancy is different with my DD's like chandiler now I was so so sick I couldn't move I threw up every minute of everyday this one have been sick just once I just feel very sick all the time. Other people get no symptoms at all my SIL is 8 weeks pregnant and she has no symtoms with her first I remember her being in hospital with her sickness. It's very easy to stress out in early pregnancy it's horrible. We're all get you through it :). Great advice from eastend I hope your nerves have eased a little.

cotton awwww congratulations! Pink pink pink :). Lovely news.

chandilier yay some of us are nearing the end of the nightmare 1st trimester I can't believe I'm here tbh what a journey. I hope your feeling better. When are we officially out of the first trimester is it 12 weeks or 13 or 14?

Everything ok here did end up back in hospital have an overactive thyroid but at least I know now what was wrong and blood pressure still a little high but normal so thanks so much for the support guys. On a positive note got to see baby again and baby is much bigger than last Monday wriggling away strong heartbeat still. He/she has given mummy such a hard time but so worth it :). Still nervous for Thursday thought don't know why I have no reason to be. However had a Chinese yesterday was craving noddles so badly just hope it don't have an effect on baby.

I hope everyone is well and not to cold. Got heating upto to full and little heaters are on as well. Have no idea what to do with DD's this week was going to take them to the zoo but it's to cold. To my eldest DD's delight I have brought her, her own feather duster :).

Hi Keys,
Thank you for your msg. I'm currently feeling happy in the fact I had no spotting whatsoever yesterday but I can't help feel a sense of dread. Maybe this comes from my previous experience. It's my sons 3rd birthday the day after my scan, I'm worrying if I get bad news I'll spoilt it for him too. Fed up of the circles we drive ourselves in!

To everyone having scans this week, happy thoughts, big hugs, good luck and wishing the best for you all xxx

Welcome to the new members!! Here's hoping for happy healthy pregnancies

Congratulations cotton team pink how lovely!!

keys sorry to hear you were back in hospital but glad you have a cause for the blood pressure and it can now be kept under control! And always lovely to get an extra glimpse of baby!!

TMI alert but I could use a little advice today! We DTD last night for the first time since we found out I was pg (was terrified something would go wrong) have woken up today with a fair amount of light brownish discharge? Has anyone else had this? Did have a quick google which seemed to suggest it might have just been an irritation but I am debating calling someone anyway? I don't have my midwifes number so would have to either call the hospital or the antenatal clinic or shall I just keep an eye on it?

Hi and thank you for the lovely responses. It is a bit of a crazy waiting game. Hard to think of much else (thank goodness for the mumsnet classics threads for a bit of escapism). My first loss was a molor pregnancy but as I've not had three losses in a row know one seems interested, other than the usual post pregnancy molor follow up.

My husband is not sure what's going on because I'm not as sick as I usually am. He's a bit concerned too. I can feel my uterus so I know there's been some growth. I will update after my scan. Good luck and fingers crossed for everyone else on here who is anxiously waiting.

crumbles Hun I've always been told unless it's bright red not to worry. However if it was me I would call for some advice as well it won't hurt if anything will put your mind at rest. I've had bleeding throughout Hun so I can not really help you but I do know it's perfectly safe to DTD whilst pregnant so I am sure everything is fine. Always scary when we see any type of blood during pregnancy but because of your history during this pregnancy I would say it's old blood which were released.

Hope you get some rest assured advice soon Hun xx

crumbles I had similar around 21 weeks, first time we dtd since bfp and the last up until a couple of weeks ago. Brown discharge for a few hours and a couple of bright red streaks. Do call for reassurance, midwifes are usually really kind about this sort of thing. I was feeling loads of movement and had no cramps etc so was told not to worry and midwife added me onto her rounds to check hb that afternoon. Everything was fine but it was scarry and put dh and I off until my hormoans started to go crazzy... They did discover my placenta was border line low lying when I had a second 20 week scan at 23+6 which was probably the cause of bleeding and discharge, which wasn't picked up on any of the 4 previous scans.

fairies and keys good luck

At 37+4 I am huge, truely waddeling and affraid of beaching myself in a rediculous place while alone in the house with dd. Bump's got so much less room now movement started to feel so different a few days ago which had me worried for a bit but getting used to the streeching and rolling feelings rather than constant kick boxing!

Just to update, I had my scan on Friday. I was dated at 6 weeks, 4 days (exactly in line with dates of LMP) and we saw a heartbeat. Cried like a baby!

I work in central London and I've found a practice on Harley St that offers private scans for £100. I'm going to have one at 9 weeks and 11 weeks. I'm away at 12 weeks so think my NHS dating scan will be at 13 weeks.

My EPU won't offer me any more NHS scans. Some might scoff at the expense of private scans but I suspect I'll need them to stay sane!

That's great news Turi congratulations I can completely understand the tears!!

I'm in two minds as to whether to have an early scan - my OH is dead against it, not because of the cost, but because he thinks that it will make me more nervous!
I'm thinking that I'm going to try to hold out for 12 weeks but then if there is something wrong then, then I feel like I've invested more time and emotion. Oooh its so hard - what do you all think? Those that have had early scans, were you relieved or did you find it just made you want to have more and more weekly scans like Turi says.
I'm 6 weeks on Thursday by my dates, so it will be at least another 6 weeks to wait. Or do I book one for 8 weeks which is supposedly when my MMC happened last time (though i discovered it after a little bleeding at 11.5weeks)

Mimi Hope you are recovering well after yesterday.

Turi We are doing the exact same thing - private scan on Friday and then wait for 12 weeks.

Seems silly to those who haven't experienced mc before but the peace of mind and reassurance it will be a welcome expense!

I think an earlier scan can help ease your worries, when you see the heartbeat, it's a huge relief. I've booked mine for tomorrow when I will be 7 wks. I had a BO last year and didn't find out til 11 wks, I knew I would never last that long this time and want to put my mind to rest one way or another. It's only costing me £60 so it's not too bad at all xx

obsessedlex thank you! I wouldn't say, however, that the scan last week has made me more anxious/has led me to want more scans. I knew in my mind that I'd have regular scans before the scan last week.

I had a terrible year last year (tore my ACL & had v painful surgery, missed miscarriage and subsequent ERPC, suspected 2nd miscarriage, then surgery for a fibroid in December which revealed severe endometriosis) so feel more 'in control' with the knowledge that everything is going to plan.

Personally, and this is only my view, the idea of getting to 12/13 weeks thinking everything is fine and then potentially finding out that things haven't worked out makes my blood run cold. But I'm the first to admit that I'm quite highly-strung/generally presume the worst!

Hello everyone - I have been hovering on this thread for a few days but, like fairies I have been scared to post in case of tempting fate and things going wrong again. But I'm driving myself crazy with worry and I think I need somewhere understanding to vent!

We have been TTC #2 for a year, I have had two mc's (11.5 weeks July 15 & 4.5 weeks Nov 15). Currently 5 weeks pregnant and desperately hoping this will be 3rd time lucky.

Initially over the moon but as the days going by I am struggling to control the anxiety. Mainly because I am experiencing far less symptoms than previously. With all pregnancies I experienced strong cramping, Huge appetite and tiredness by this point. At the moment, I have only had a few very strong and painful twinges (very disconcerting!) slightly sensitive nipples and perhaps a couple of waves of nausea but so mild I was unsure of I imagined it.

I am really trying to keep calm - telling myself every pregnancy different and I miscarried even with strong symptoms so not to base strength of a pregnancy on that. But it's so hard.

Every time I get excited I hear a voice telling me not to get my hopes up. It's such a roller coaster.

I have an early reassurance scan booked for 8 weeks pregnant. Only 3 weeks away but they are stretching out ahead of me! Like turi I am considering paying for a 10 week private scan - the mc I had at 11.5 weeks was so awful (passing out and emergency erpc due to heavy blood loss) I know it's going to be a difficult milestone to reach and I don't think I can wait the 4 weeks between the 8-12 ones. I know it won't stop a miscarriage but if it will help me worrying it will totally be worth it.

Good luck to everyone having scans soon! And congrats to those with good news and nearing due dates

Lucinda, I've felt the exact same way since finding out too. My cm scan is tomorrow thankfully but made myself wait til 7 weeks so there is no doubt if baby is there or not.
Coming on these posts has helped me vent to people who truly understand how we're feeling as they have/are going through very similar situations. I hope everything goes to plan this time for you, try to ignore that little voice, it's a very annoying one!!
Symptom wise, all my 3 before, I had the typical nausea, sickness etc. When I miscarried, it was different in I wasn't sick but extremely exhausted. Like I couldn't bare to move it was so bad, this time, apart from a few days of sore boobs, I have zero symptoms. Which obviously makes me panic too! But it shows how different each one can be. Stay strong xx

Do we have a new thread yet? I'm not sure where to find it xx