Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

Oops not sure why there is a random 'so' in the middle!

Oh Bowser absolutely everything crossed it works out for you. Any more scans in the interim? Xx

bowser best of luck to you hun, what a rollercoaster for you x

Great news about hb sunday x

chandelier wow, I'm speechless! What an amazing anatomy x

keys don't worry I'm taking mivicol every other day to prevent being bunged up
Spd is symphisis pubis dysfunction or pelvic girdle pain pgp, basically the hormone your body produces during pregnancy to loosen ligaments to make birth easier, work a little too well causing severe inflammation and pain, and an unstable pelvis...

For those who asked how I'm doing, spd wise...better since taking meds every 4 hours and using my crutches to take the weight off...

However a lovely new symptom has reared its ugly head....RIB PAIN!!! OUCHY
can't lay on front from obvious reasons, can't lie on back as baby crushes main vein and strangles me, and now I can't lie on my sides as my ribs are on fire!

Counting down the weeks now! please be 10 and not 13-15 (which would make me 37 weeks at delivery) please please please

keys your scan day will be here in no time hun x

bowser sorry x post. What a roller coaster. I hope everything works out ok. Will they give you another scan sooner?

Glad your meds etc are helping allmy but ouch with the ribs!

Still trying to process this morning. Obviously we're sad that we lost one but tentatively (oh so tentatively) are happy about this teeny thing.
No other scans apart from normal 12 week one - they are fairly confident everything will heal and it is not near enough to current sac to be a huge issue and require bed rest but it does mean an increased mc risk which there isn't much I can do to prevent. Doctor was also cautious about too many scans/examinations in case it could irritate my cervix and cause things to start up again so it's basically a wait and see scenario - if red bleeding starts again then i'll need another check up but they said if it continues just brown discharge, even with clots then that's normal.
Thankfully i'm a tough old nut and pain threshold is fairly high so i'm hoping the fact I only took 2 doses of ibuprofen won't have had any negative effects. And need to dig out the folic acid again!
Work have been brilliant and i'm able to adjust things to allow no lifting or long stretches of being on my feet which is a reassurance.
Just finding there is a little bit of resistance to bonding with baby - does that make sense? I'm so scared of it not working out I think i'm trying to prevent additional pain, particularly as it's been such a ride so far.
Lilliana I understand what you mean about not counting babies until they are here!

Oh Bowser, as others have said, what a roller coaster! Try and take it easy, lots of hugs to you.

We adopted very much a wait and see approach, not letting ourselves get to excited until we got our all clear at the anomaly scan this week. I finally feel like I can lighten up and get the constant knocker checking under control. I do find my emotions are a bit different to most others on my antenatal thread and many others who I have spoken to though- esp. about whether it is a boy or girl. I don't care at all what sex the baby is, or even some "physical" abnormalities that may upset others. I want this little one so much, especially now I can feel her/ him wriggling around!

Ah, I'm so behind with this thread, so much has been happening. I promise to catch up/post properly later.

Any tips for how to stay sane in between the scans? I'm feeling pretty disconnected from this pg now, I think most my symptoms have gone too, well apart from my bulging uterus. I'm only 10 wks but am showing quite badly in some work clothes, whilst also having to dress for possible MC. I'm finding it difficult to imagine that a LO could still be growing in there and am a bit sick of looking so pg if this one isn't going to have a happy ending. Sorry for being such a misery guts but I'm a bit fed of being pg right now.

Hi all - I haven't posted in a while so just popped in to see how everyone's doing.

Sorry for those going through difficult times and lovely to hear of the good news

paws sorry things are a bit tough but so glad baby is doing well

I'm 25 weeks now and DP tells me I've got to start believing we're having a baby! After the previous mc and rocky road with this little one it's still hard not to say if instead of when but I'm getting there. Lots of wiggles these days which helps.

Hope everyone stays good xxx

browser yes Hun I've had it and I'm ok touch wood they said It has all cleared up but won't know for sure until Monday. The first scan at 6 weeks didn't show a thing then 7 weeks scan showed blood clot in womb. Then at 9 weeks had such a heavy bleed was kept in hospital my blood clot come away I was that heavy I was sure the baby had come out with it. Went for a scan the next day after a horrific night and there was baby absolutly fine. It's really common in early pregnancy I've been told it 20-25% of pregnancies. If you didn't have a bleed or an early scan you would never of known it was there. I am sorry about the upsetting news about having a second baby Hun that's hard enough to get your head round. Try not to worry about the clot I had a very large one half was dissolved (even thought you would never believe it after the bleed I had and half came away. Are they giving you a 10 day window before they re scan you? Try to relax I know it's hard I remember posting on here besides myself with worry also. No heavy lifting at all and try to rest as much as possible.

I would kinda find it insentistive as well showing the disappointment of the sex of a baby in my eyes also every baby is precious obviously I would love a boy this time round as I have two DD's however like you sunday it really wouldn't bother me if it is a girl as long as it's healthy either way I am just over the moon I will hopefully be a mummy again soon.

millie lovely to hear from you. So glad things are going well. I know what you mean about finding it hard to believe when your getting further into pregnancy after losses.

mimi I don't know how you can stay so sane or strong being in limbo the way you are. It's never happened to me before so it's so hard for me to advise you but I'm praying for you. Always keep in mind you've got a tilted uterus and baby is so small still. You've come so far already a week will go really quickly for you now and we're all here hand holding with you. What time is your scan next Friday?

paws wow that sounds so painful I'm so grateful I have never experienced that. And now the ribs as well LO is not making this an easy ride for you is hope you start feeling better soon huni and your trying to rest as much as you can.

chandelier wow what an interesting read I have also never heard of a baby being behind the bowel before. Make sure they look after you properly and I hope you get to see LO again very soon.

liliana I tend not to go on other threads as I would be to judgemental I think so I'm much better in my safety zone on here. I agree as long as LO is in my arms healthy and well that's all we can possibly wish for.

Been in hospital again :( blacked out twice today poor mum caught me twice and she's so tiny. Baby's zapping all my sugar leaving me with nothing so the excuses for haribo and chocolate is very welcoming. Found out my brother and SIL are expecting at the weekend she's 4 weeks behind me I'm really pleased for them but is it wrong of me to also feel slightly bitter. I wanted all the attention haha. On a more stronger note I'm so scared on Monday baby is no longer developing how would I cope watching them have there baby. So many mixed emotions.

Sorry for the essay so much to catch up on today.

Big hugs to all that need it right now xxx

Thank you for lovely thoughts from everyone, keys it is very reassuring to hear a similar tale where it's all gone well.
Pretty much resting non - stop when not working, and at work they are being brilliant so that is helping.
Hopefully all blood has cleared now so please everyone cross your fingers this is the last problem.

I am keeping my fingers crossed for you bun I am sure your be fine x

*hun

Does anyone know if we have to start a new thread soon? I wouldn't have a clue how to do it lol and don't wanna mess it all up? I thought it was 900 max or is it more?

40 pages/1000 posts so we're ok for a bit.

How is everyone today?

might need some help from my mum soon, dh says I'm lazy, I do nothing, and I take the piss...he says he's not doing anything for me anymore. My pain is so bad I have to walk with crutches every day or I end up on the floor. I'm in bed trying to rest my pelvis, he wont even press
'ok' on the tv remote when the tv asks you to, which means I have to get out of bed and go to the living room to do it, he's cooked his own dinner and listen's to me dragging the heavy basket off the top of the freezer trying to get a micro meal out. Crouching down is so painful, I've had to pull his laundry out of the tumble dryer so I can put wet towels in to dry, his laundry still sitting in a pile in kitchen...he just sits on his computer. How am I going to manage housework, antenatal appointments and everything else? All this stemmed from me waking up in a bad mood from pain and lack of sleep...this is how he reacts!? Seriously questioning if he gives even the slightest if shits

Sorry for rant, just feeling low atm....hope you're feeling better keys, good you've got rl support x

*slightest of shits

Ahhh I see thanks lilliana Hun I was not sure I didn't want to lose you all thought it was posts not pages. I'm much better today. How are you?

Awwww paws so sorry to hear this some men don't understand. That's why me and my DH are not together anymore because he said I'm always ill went and got drunk and started. I couldn't take it anymore. With this what I've got now he said Im always ill and can I see his point. Ermmm NO. We don't want to feel like this we don't want to be bed ridden and in pain. Go get some help and rest from your mum I did best thing I ever did. Sitting here by their fire take a way treat from my dad and lots of chocolate. I've never felt so rested and relaxed.
It's so hard when you PG and your DH is not normally like this and all you need is support. You don't know what to do for the best. I did read up on it after you Posted you had it and it sounds so painful I really feel for you.
If you sit down and speak to him will he listen? Sometimes if show them what your suffering from etc let him have a little read he may then realise how unwell you are and that you need to rest for yours and your baby's health.

I really hope things get better soon I'm sure they will Hun.
I'm much better today still having a few blackouts but can't complain shows hopefully my pregnancy is still going strong.

Sorry to hear about your dh hun, thing is I can't go to my mums as I have 3 cats to look after and dh will threaten to not feed and water them if I go...there is no talking to him, he will just say there's always something wrong with me and that I don't do anything. He is such a complete child, he even has to phone his mum every day to update her about his every move, eastenders, bowel movement, the slightest cough, the fact he had hardly any sleep....yet during my 8 trips to the toilet during the night he's sparko! Him watching me struggle seems so cruel. I really don't like him much at all atm. He drives I don't, as I said I can't go to mums to be looked after as he won't feed the cats. Quite frankly he's been a wanker towards his heavily pregnant disabled wife! I really don't think he cares at all

Lovely to hear you're being looked after huny x

Hi - can I join you?
I had a MMC at 12 weeks - baby measuring 8/9 - on 1st Dec. Yesterday 2 days before I expected AF I got the faintest of faint positive test!! I did another one this eve and it was a little darker but i am absolute terrified - any words of wisdom? My oh is refusing to believe it which has upset me but I know it's just his self preservation. Xx

paws sounds like your really going through it Hun. As for ringing his mum everyday to update her on every fact are you sure your not secretly married to my brother? ;).
Do you have a close relationship with his mum? If he confides her can you not give her a call when he is at work? I am sure she will understand as she knows what it's like to be pregnant? I am ever so sorry hun some DH's need a kick up the bum because all of a sudden they don't have our full attention. My friends DH on the other hand is the complete oppersite side of the spectrum he treats her like his queen I try so hard not to show my green face when I am around them his a gem.
I just think some men like to be mothered by us does sound like it if he calls his mum everyday he properly can't get his head round why you not looking after him. I really hope things start getting better soon.

obsesss them tests are not accurate when you get past 6 weeks. I'm not sure why but I am sure there it's lots of advice and reassurance coming your way from the others as I know they've done the same thing and everything has been just fine. I don't test once I found out I wasn pg I didn't pee on the stick again as I knew I would worry if the line was fainter so I kept away from them even though I have been very tempted.
Congratulations on your pregnancy I really hope in the nicest way possible you have a boring 9 months and all goes very smooth for you. I think we can all relate on here after experiencing a miscarriage you can never relax there's always worry in the back of your mind.

2 days till scan day. Even though I've been very unwell with my fainting I am still so worried baby has stopped developing I just can not get excited. Has anyone woke up and just not felt pregnant anymore? I feel so differently today woke up not feeling sick no headache haven't been peeing in the night. I've got a long journey to my hospital as I'm under a specialist fetal medicine unit. The thought of something wrong and I need drive home. I keep thinking once I've had my scan I will be a lot more relaxed however I've heard you don't relax until you start feeling baby move.

Hope everyone else is ok and have a lovely weekend.

Sorry DH is being a dick paws, the sympathy after your appointment didn't last long then. Sounds really unfair that he makes himself a meal and not you, was he like this before? Do you think things might improve once baby comes? I'd love to tell you to leave him but its never that simple! Have you any friends or family nearby that can help or stay for a bit, or that can take the cats while you stay at your mum's? Like keys says, you need a bit of TLC atm.

Welcome lex I think you've graduated from the TTC after mc thread if that's right? My OH was a little cautious when I got bfp this time but I tested again after 3 days and he was more believing. I didn't poas again after that tho as I think it can increase anxiety and I'm not sure there's any correlation between lines getting darker and preg progression. Congratulations and I'm sure the others will make room for you on the first tri fretting bench!

Keep it together keys, not long to wait now! On/off symptoms is normal remember, I think Sophia asked the same q a few weeks ago. And keep those blood sugars up!

I've turned into some sort of irrational crying monster this week! I'm annoyed with work, with our house, my OH, the weather. I know its just hormones but I feel so fed up, but I think I've found a cure

Keeping things firmly crossed for you bowser, how long have you got until 12 wk scan?

Hi - room for another? I had a mc in August and got my bfp on Monday.

Symptoms getting stronger now and I've got my midwife booking in appointment in 2 weeks and she'll sort my referral back to EPAU for early assessment.

Trying to be positive and keep it all together!

Hi can I join?

I've just come off the February bus and have been floating around the threads unsure where to go. I fell pg last Ocober but had a few bleeds through November and had my mc confirmed on Dec1st I was around 5 weeks but not really sure. Anyway I got my BFP last Sunday and am now 4+6, I am finding the constant worry quite draining as it is so early and I am still trying to come to terms with the mc. My DH didn't want anyone to know about the pg as it was accidental so have only told a few friends since but I get so upset talking about it. No-one outside MN knows about this pg yet.
My DH is in Copenhagen at the mo so will tell him when he gets back. Think he would rather find out as late as possible tho. Can't face the ante-natal thread as I was just about to join the July one last time when the bleeding started. Any tips on coping?
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Welcome northern havetobe lex plenty of support here...you're in the right place, may your pregnancies be long and boring! X

Re, turning to his mum for support, you're joking! I'm the devil in carnet to her, god forbid I should have upset her little boy! Nope, nothing I can do, the bin is overflowing which I can't lift to do, his laundry is still in a pile in the kitchen which he is pretending is not there, the floors need hovering and mopping which I can't do, and he's sat on his arse playing the computer game that he's glued to 24 hours a day. Well two can play that game,
.... I'll let all the housework pile up, until he realises that I'm on bed rest for a reason! After making his own dinner last night, he washed up his own plate and left everything else. Sometimes I really do hate him, they say love and hate are very close!?