Staying posifrickentive - Thread 7 for ladies pregnant after mc

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New thread for all the lovely ladies facing the trials and tribulations of pregnancy after mc!

That is great keys congratulations! I know it's a pain going back but at least you get another scan and will see baby again x

Great news keys

That's such great news keys you must be so relieved. I long for that day!

So I've done a few pregnancy tests over the last few days and now I think I need to step away from them. They are all getting darker so I need to believe it now and realise that there is nothing I can do but wait. It's just so nerve wracking.
For those of you that booked early scans, when is the best time to do it? Xx

Yay Keys!

lex I was advised to have mine between 7-9 weeks.

lex I had one at just under 7 weeks but wished I could have waited a bit longer as it was too early to see much and had to go back 10 days later

Thanks lola and chandelier- I'll try and long it out!! Just wish there was a fast forward button, these early days are so horrendous!!

Definitely agree on the fast forward button - I'm wishing February away! Need to get into March and make it further than last time.

Got my booking in appointment next week so that's the next milestone I'm going for as last time I had my 3rd and final scan at the EPAU on the morning of my booking in appointment (they are seeing me early this time)

Feeling positive though so far - well, trying to! Only had 1 day of grumpiness and crying which is when i had a bit of a sort out of the baby stuff is been given last time

paws I hope you are doing ok and your dh has sorted himself out.

keys it must be such a relief to see your lo, I'm so pleased for you.

Having a bit of an issue with booking appointment as previous pregnancy had some confidentiality with midwife at my surgery so need to see where they can fit me in elsewhere but going to the hospital for initial appointment (and to beg them for another scan).
Just have no faith this little thing will stick with me this time

Hi everyone- I've not posted for a few weeks so just catching up on everyone's news. Hope all ok - great news keys that has really cheered me up.

Lilliana my situation pretty identical to yours I think. 2 mc's week before and week after previous booking appointments. Went yesterday for booking and they've just confirmed scan appointment at 12 plus 1 on 26th Feb. Fingers crossed you get reasonable appointment date too xx

Great news about your scan keys! I'd forgotten it was Monday. Are you feeling a little more relaxed now?

Thanks for lovely messages guys. Don't worry everyone coming upto 12 weeks it does come around pretty quickly just try to keep as busy as possible I know it's easier said than done.

sunday yes Hun I do feel a lot more relaxed. However even though baby had a really strong heartbeat and everything as measuring 6 days behind I'm kinda gutted I have to go back next Thursday and worries baby is small but she told me there was nothing to worry about just was out by a few days. Baby should be a lot bigger next week so hopefully see a lot more.
Do you ever get over the feeling worried stage? Even after the scan? Unjust don't feel like I'm carrying a baby can not wait until I start getting a bump.

crumbles did you have your scan today Hun?

paws hope your ok lovely not heard from you since weekend.

mimi how are you Hun Friday is nearly here. I am keeping everything crossed for you.

Hope everyone is well and not fretting to much and step away from the pg tests. Hand holding with everyone going through a worrying time right now xxx

Congratulations obsessed!!
I would say the best time for the scan would be after the 8 week mark if you can hold on that long! Before then might be more worrying for you if they don't see much or can't find the heartbeat which is so normal very early on but so distressing to hear anyway. Plus they look more like an 'actual baby' by that point

Hope everyone is doing okay and keeping positive, every day we are a little further on!

You have a good memory keys! My scans tommorow morning, feel sick with nerves already so doubt I will be getting much sleep! DP doesn't seem to get it, he genuinely thought we would take DS with us, and when I said of course not what if something is wrong? He said well everything looked to be okay with the baby at the scan before. why do men just not understand?!

I wouldnt worry too much about the dates, it could well be late ovulation or you are both out by a couple of days as there must be loads of room for error in their measurements! Was baby measuring smaller at the early scan? I thought I would feel less worried once I was past the point of the mc last time but I feel no different, was hoping a positive scan tommorow would boost my hopes!!

Hope all goes well tomorrow crumbles My memory is rubbish! How old is your DS?

I'm feeling fairly chilled out atm keys especially after hearing the heartbeat with the midwife, still anxious in case the next scan shows any major issues. I have a feeling time will start moving fast after the halfway point! It's soooo long between 12 and 20 wk scans when you're not feeling movement yet and have the smallest of bumps growing.

paws how goes it with dh?

And hope everyone on the first tri fretting bench is ok?

Hope your scan goes well today crumbles

Hope scan goes well crumbles!

I got quite upset last night - I've tried to be positive and this next big is going to sound ridiculous but I'd had headaches / pelvis aches for the last few days and they stopped yesterday. Even though I've still got other symptoms I was panicking because those 2 have gone.

Nearly 6 weeks now - it's a long way to 12!

Good luck today Crumbles

Am 10+6 today and still don't have my 12 wk scan date... I've text the midwife today (more progressive than calling obvs ) so hopefully she'll chase it up and I'll find out soon. My pelvis has started already Seems to get earlier with each pgcy. 18 weeks with DC1; 12 weeks with DC2... and now at not quite 11 weeks. And the sickness hasn't even stopped yet!!!

How's everyone else doing?

Thanks for your advice re early scan crumbles and sending you lots of luck for yours!
northern I've been doing the same, it's so stressful!! I think I'm a week behind you xx

Hi

May I please join your thread?

I am 32 and started TTC Feb last year. Fell in Mar, tore my ACL & had reconstructive surgery in Apr.

Started trying again in May & fell pregnant 1st time – ‘lucky us’ we thought. I started spotting mid-July at 8 weeks. Turns out embryos (yes, twins) stopped growing at 5-6 weeks. Had an ERPC at Chelsea & Westminster. Horrendous treatment – will never go back.

Had horrible aches and pains for months. Had a suspected early miscarriage in October. Eventually referred to a gynaecologist & to cut a long story short I had a hysteroscopy (surgery via the cervix) to remove a fibroid and a laparoscopy (investigation via the bellybutton) in December. Turned out I had severe endometriosis. Surgeon removed 60% of the tissue and ‘unstuck’ my left fallopian tube which was twisted & stuck to my colon. We were told to start the process for IVF – horrible shock.

So, three times under general in 2015 – we decided to put the year in a black box and not look back.

To our amazement, I got a positive pregnancy test mid Jan, our 1st month of trying after my surgery. I had pains in my right ovary that turned out to be a cyst but I had to have two scans and three sets of bloods taken 48 hours apart to rule out an ectopic pregnancy. I had some spotting on and off last week as I also have a subchorionic haematoma (a clot in my uterus). The constant testing has been so stressful.

I am having a reassurance scan tomorrow at 6 weeks 4 days and I am terrified. I am convinced that I am going to miscarry again – it’s all I think about. I am even waking up with nightmares.

Hi everyone, sorry to say I'll be leaving the thread today. Miscarriage #3 was confirmed at scan this morning, my sac has given up growing and is starting to breakdown. I've had cramping with brown discharge and a bit of bright red blood so wasn't a surprise but it's heart breaking all the same. I'm waiting for a call for a call from the consultant to discuss surgical management as I'm keen to get the tissue tested and after all the uncertainty I'm more than a bit fed of being pregnant.

Good luck to everyone on the first trimester fretting bench, hope you all graduate to the second trimester fretting bench ! Wishing everyone else good luck and boring pregnancies. Thanks for all the support you lovely ladies have given me, and I plan to be back here soon.

Oh Mimi I'm so sorry. Take care

Oh mimi I am so sorry xxx

Welcome Turi you've had quite a year then you poor love.
Good luck with your scan and sending you "boring pregnancy vibes" xx

Mimi, I am so sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself

Oh Mimi so sorry to hear your news. Sending you lots of hugs