no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

Does your work have a maternity policy? Could start mat leave or use leave if it accrues whilst your on mat leave?/I'm sure you could arrange something. I thought the sick leave being treated as mat leave kicked in much earlier where I used to work

Carrie, I'm 5 weeks today so not far behind you :)

Mrs... Don't some friends say the oddest of things!

Oh congratulations CottonSock, exciting times for us both! I took a CB pregnancy test that tells you how many weeks pg you are on Saturday...was hoping for 2-3wks, but it actually showed as 3+ so I'm taking that as a good sign! Only another 2wks and then we're having an early scan

Rebecca I am a senior HR manager and can tell you that if you were to go off sick now, it would absolutely trigger the start of your maternity leave. I'd say your best option is to either take any holiday you may have left (and as cotton rightly says, legally it continues to acrue while you are on maternity leave) or speak to your line manager, tell them how you're feeling and come to an agreement. Perhaps you could float the idea of working from home a day or two a week, or working shorter hours? Your manager would have to agree to this but it would lighten the load for you and avoid your mat leave kicking in early. Hope it improves for you soon.
I can't stop thinking about food today. I'm only 10 weeks pg and have definitely already put on weight. I'll be huge if I make it to term!

Hi Carrie... Congrats, that's a nice positive sign. I am saving a clear blue digi to do the same. I had to hide it from myself! Maybe this weekend.... Did a cheap stick this morning and very dark line yeah. I have a scan on 5th.

I just can't stop eating! All I think about is food, I've put on a whole stone already in the first trimester! I really don't feel comfortable being this overweight, been pg 3 times this year, so have gained every time and never lost it, I'm only 5ft 3 and am 11st 9 already!

Re working as a carer, been there done that, I'm afraid they really don't care how much stress you are under, how over worked you are, how many mixed night and day shifts at 12.5 hours long you've done (sometimes 6 in a row) how under paid, how ill you are, or how under paid you are! I ended up doing the nurses jobs for a carers wage in my old placement....was doing care plans, medication, the lot!!! They just push and push and push you.....
I left in the end, which is sad as I loved that job, even loved the extra work and responsibility, just didn't like the piss being taken out of me
I would definitely use any remaining holiday if I were you, you're entitled to after all, and if you don't use it, you'll only lose it!

Thank you for the replies, I've managed it so that I am working less hours and doing office duties most of the week rather than working on the floor. And you are quite right allmy such a shame isn't it! I'm just going to suck it up with what I've got for the next two weeks and then breath a huge sigh of relief when I'm done !

To my hungry ladies, I wouldn't worry about weight too much, I put on a lot in the first trimester and weight gain was a lot more steady after that! Plus were growing humans, it's bloody hungry work !

I've put on a stone and a half at 19 weeks, so you're not too bad compared to that paws! I had to eat every hour until about 16 weeks or I was sick, so there was no avoiding it, and the steroids didn't help. I'm trying to be pretty chilled about it (although mostly failing). I put on 4st with dd (a lot was water retention), so not expecting to be any smaller this time. The difference is that my starting weight was more this time due to comfort eating my way through 5 mcs, so a bit further to go! I'd lost all of it before the end of mat leave last time without really trying, so I hope I can do that again.

Glad you got your work situation sorted Rebecca, that sounds more manageable.

Good news on the 3+ carrie

I had the exact same thing from a friend of mine the other day diddly. She texted and said she'd been scared to get in touch in case I had bad news again. I think people find it hard to know how to respond to us, so they just avoid it altogether. Hopefully once your little one is here they will start to treat you normally again xx

I'm 5+1 and sooo bloated I look 4 months. Been hitting the treats a bit hard too. Not sure if progesterone is making it worse. If it doesn't go down I think I'll have to tell my boss sooner.

I did my clear blue and got a 3+. So blooming happy. :)

Great news cotton (about the 3+, not the bloat!!)

Hi all,

Have been avoiding this thread for a few days after a bit of a rollercoaster of a week. Need to get my head straight before I started to think or talk about it.

Woke up in the small hours of Wednesday morning, went to the toilet and found what I throught was two spots of red blood when I wiped. Really worked myself up into a state and convinced myself I was about to MC. Ignored all of dh's sensable surgestions to call the hospital, but eventually called my midwife when she came on duty the next morning. Didn't paticually want to leave the house so refused her offer of a check up, was instructed to call hospital if any more bleeding, any pain or if bump stopped moving. Couldn't face the idea of bad news and basically decided I wanted to be left alone.

Anyway Thursday night, notice another couple of spots of blood on tissue BEFORE I wiped. Then noticed a scratch on my tigh I must keep knocking that I'd wiped over. Dd must have scratched me before I evidted her from our bed on wednesday morning. Very releaved to have worked out an explination but has really put me back into a negative tail spin. Feel like I'm back to knicker checking as well as constant movement monitoring, which is exhausting. 2 weeks tomorrow until I reach 24 weeks and now feel like I'm crawling there!

Have a rescan for 20 week scan a week today, which I'm hoping I will find reasuring. Dh has also become suprisingly good at rastionaling things despite my raging hormoans and most of the time is pretty reasuring.

My poor Nan is currently very ill. Went up to visit her in hospital this weekend, despite really just wanting to stay home. But atleast I've seen her now and she's seen dd. It's also given me something a bit more real to worry about rather than just the potential threat of mc!

march and paws, I've alomst put on a stone from pre mc weight, 5 weeks before this one took. Put on loads with dd, 3 1/2 stone I think, but another was 1 1/2 lighter than orignial pre pregnancy weight before we started to try for #2.

cotton congratulations on +3, celebrate the little milestones that make you feel good.

dobby I'm sorry you're having a tough time of it at the moment. Finding the blood must have been so scary and brought all sorts of memories back. I hope that your nan is ok.

dobby I'm pleased you found the source of the blood. And am glad it wasn't anything more sinister. Are you feeling much movement yet? I found my anxiety stepped down a notch once I could feel bump moving on a daily basis. Sadly there will probably be something to worry about until the end of your pregnancy but you are doing so well. 22 weeks is brilliant! Hope the week before your scan goes quickly. And I'm sorry your nan is unwell. xx

nouser and mrs thank you both for your kind words.

mrs I've been feeling lots of movement since well before 16 weeks. Up until thinking I was spotting it had kept the anxiety at a relitivly low level. I think it's reducing again as each day goes by, but you're right I think I'm always going to find something to worry about. It's so much worse if I don't keep myself busy so going to have to make the effot to keep my hands and brain occupied.

Well done on your 3+ cotton such a great feeling isn't it?!

Sorry you're having a tough time Dobby, hopefully you'll feel better with each passing day

Had growth scan today (28 weeks) - head measurement at top of chart and breech. Weirdly it was this that finally actually got me thinking about birth... If he turns around I'm going to be torn to shreds!!

rebeccaelizabeth 2 days down already, you can do these 2 weeks!!

Hi all,

I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks the middle of August. To cheer me up DH booked a holiday to New York with our two year old. (His brother lives there and he'd planned to go on his own but when everything happened he said we'd all go).

We left on Thursday. On Tuesday I did a pregnancy test. I was late but that wasn't unusual for me and I wanted to know if I was safe to drink. I was really surprised to get a 2-3 weeks positive.

I'm slightly on edge which I guess is normal. I have no real pregnancy symptoms but I didn't for my first pregnancy either so that doesn't worry me too much.

We get home on Fridag so going to book a GP appointment for next week. (Most pregnancy care is through the GP in Ireland). Kinda scared to get too excited.

www.scarymommy.com/guilt-and-fear-of-pregnancy-after-a-miscarriage/

This article just nails it for me. It's like someone has got into my head and written everything down.

Welcome helga and congratulations! NY must be fab at this time of year all dressed up for Halloween. I completely understand your feelings, wishing you a very boring and uneventful pregnancy.

Just noticed we need a new thread too!

Can someone start a new thread? I can't do it on here... I'll add the stats to the new thread later on.

Hi Helga pregnancy after mc is an anxious time, especially in the first trimester. Congratulations on your bfp. Enjoy the last few days in NY! Very jealous

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2497159-Staying-posifrickentive-Thread-7-for-ladies-pregnant-after-mc?

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