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no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

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northdownmummy · 30/07/2015 09:03

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

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Nousername2015 · 09/10/2015 13:47

Congrats on 20 weeks bumble and best of luck for your scan. Are you finding out the sex?

I'm 25+2 today. From my (excessive) googling if it had been my whole mucus plug it would have been a lot bigger, in one piece and have blood streaks in it. Mw said even if it was just a little bit of the mucus plug it was likely to have had some blood in it. I've got no reason not to trust her and there hasn't been any since but there is always a niggle at the back of my mind.

cloudjumper · 09/10/2015 14:24

nouser I have had masses of discharge in this pregnancy, all shades/consistencies from clear, jelly, white, watery, crumbly - and I have been horrified how strong it smells! Not bad, I hasten to add, it smells the same as before, just really pungent and strong - bleurgh. And it seems to be geting worse the further along I get. I think hope I'm the only one who smells it, but I find it so overwhelming that I have started wearing panty liners to keep it in check. Deeeelighful...

bumble Good luck for your scan - another big milestone! Let us know how it goes, will you find out the sex? We're still team yellow, and I'm quite happy with that Smile
Although I starting to think we need to ramp up the names discussion again.

Yes, I felt so old/wise/jaded at the yoga class, all of the others happily chatting away how exciting everything is... I think I need to be careful what I say - there is usually about 10min at the start, where you can share how you feel/what has happened (if you want), and I really don't want to be the 'doom & gloom lady' Confused May they never experience what we have been through! But then again - who is to say they haven't...

Nousername2015 · 09/10/2015 15:24

That's the thing cloud, I've got 3 close friends all at varying stages of pregnancy and although I know none of them have had previous mcs I don't know if they have struggled to conceive. So here's me all wrapped up in myself and jealous of them for (seemingly) breezing through and enjoying their pregnancies with minimal obstacles whereas I have a lot to be immensely grateful for. Sorry for the 'me, me, me' ness today, I can feel the anxiety starting to simmer down now and promise to be more positive.

cloud Have you got any fave names that you'd like to share? I promise we won't rip them apart like they do on the baby name boards!

Also realised today that the handdryer at work makes the baby kick. I knew there was a tenuous link to shining a torch on the bump but had no idea that blasts of warm air could do it too. Has anyone else noticed this?

mrsdiddlydoo · 09/10/2015 18:59

Happy 3rd trimester cloud!

I really struggled to speak to anyone at my new yoga class this week but when I finally mustered courage to speak to the equally quiet lady next to me she quite openly admitted the 6 year gap between her DD and bump was from fertility issues and this is an ivf baby. I find it difficult opening up about anything to friends never mind strangers. Totally respected her.

Not noticed any hand dryers affecting bumps movements nouser but I will pay more attention next time. Had all sorts of discharge in this pregnancy. As long as there's no blood I don't worry about it too much.

Dh actually asked if we could start using one of our shortlisted names today which I shot him down for. Totally threw me. I think it will be the name but just can't deal with it quite yet. We've had so many favourite names over the last 2 years and don't spend a lot of time talking about them. But have both agreed it feels weird to use most of them because they were names we liked when we were in a different place. Never named a bump like so e people do but we just associate the names with different pregnancies. It's strange. We're different people now I guess.

bumble how did it go? Did you find out the flavour?

Saw mw this morning. Have seen different ones each appt but it was my actual one today who did my booking in appt and she was really nice. Old school but so gentle and kind. She said she had thought about me since then and had hoped everything was OK. She also opened up briefly about her DD having problems and MCs and she remembered I had been somewhere (Coventry to see prof b) and wanted to get more info for her DD.

Can't quite believe I've made it to Friday this week. Week off work now. Few days away next week and dh to help with DS for a whole 9 days! Omg!!

Happy weekend ladies Grin

BumbleBee0 · 09/10/2015 19:27

Just a quick update to say the scan went well and everything looked fine, or 'beautiful' as the sonographer kept saying! And we're having a.....girl!! Wow can't beleive I'm actually typing this!! Grin xxx

Nousername2015 · 09/10/2015 20:23

Ah thats lovely bumble, congratulations! How do you feel?

northdownmummy · 09/10/2015 21:29

Yeeeeh bumble

That's me on maternity leave now, can barely believe I've made it this far. Especially in the first few weeks it seemed such a distant dream.

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Metalhead · 09/10/2015 22:00

Great news bumble, I hope you can start to relax a bit more now.

And hurrah for maternity leave north! Three more weeks to go for me...

ljjeffro · 09/10/2015 22:00

Hi. Can I join you? I'm 7wks today and I had a mmc back in Feb which I found out about at my 12wk scan. Last week id pretty much convinced myself that I'm going to have another mmc but this week I've been feeling a bit better about it until tonight. I have a private scan tomorrow and I've been an emotional wreck all evening. This was round about the time it all happened last time and I'm just praying there's a hb this time around.

Marchgirl · 10/10/2015 08:07

Welcome lj and congratulations. Hope you have an uneventful pg. Good luck for your scan today. Really hope it puts your mind at rest x

Yay to mat leave north! Enjoy it

Yay on being team pink bumble. Lovely news.

Your mw sounds lovely diddly. It would be nice to be able to help someone else struggling through mc by introducing them to Coventry.

Congrats on being in the third trimester cloud. So happy to see you there.

nouser, when i was pg with dd i snapped a big piece of polystyrene packaging (which made a really loud snap noise), and felt her jump out of her skin. It was probably the moment that turned her into a 'real person' for me. It was so cute. She was really jumpy of loud noises after birth, so definitely her personality coming through.

BabySocks · 11/10/2015 20:06

Please may I join you too? I have joined my due date thread but don't want to splurge my worries all over newbies :( had a miscarriage, then my son, then another miscarriage and developed ashermans after a d&c and took a year to diagnose. Finally had treatment but wasn't thought to be successful so waiting for another op (for another 8 months) and have found myself pregnant. So now the waiting game begins :(

Have a scan booked a week on Tuesday when I will be 6+3 and another appointment with the consultant the following week. But I need some positive vibes and non jinx ing to get there x

MyNameIsSuz · 11/10/2015 21:03

Welcome socks, and congratulations! Sounds like you've had a really rough time, hopefully this time will be smooth sailing for you and next Tuesday will put your mind at rest a bit.

BabySocks · 11/10/2015 21:41

Thank you suz , it is surprising how much it helps just telling people :)

cloudjumper · 12/10/2015 13:03

Yay bumble Great news xx

Welcome newbies, wishing you boring and uneventful pregnancies! Hang in there, the first few months are really tough, but it does get easier.

Ooh north Hope you enjoy mat leave! I'm counting down the weeks... Although DH seemed very surprised when I said that I'm starting at the beginning of December (even though I had told him that before) - he seemed to expect that I work up right to my ELCS date Hmm. Yeah, right.

We all have the lurgy. DS off school with temp, cough and cold, DH is snivelling, and I'm feeling quite ropey, although I don't know if that's down to having the flu jab on Saturday, not sleeping well and feeling exhausted from making the GBBO millefeuilles yesterday! Or possibly all of those.
Had my glucose challenge this morning, really hoping that it'll come back fine!

BumbleBee0 · 12/10/2015 18:53

Welcome newbies, fingers crossed you will have boring uneventful pregnancies.

Yey for starting mat leave north Grin

Not long for you too cloud Smile

Feeling really good at the moment nouser. Part of me felt like I couldn't have a girl as I was adamant mc1 was a girl (didn't know it for sure but was a gut feeling) so therefore after it was taken away it felt like it couldn't happen, whereas I have DS so knew a boy was possible. (Hope that makes sense and not just random babbling! Hmm) So feels a bit like a dream at the moment - I cried when the sonographer said. Of course, either would have been perfect btw. Smile I'm sure there'll be moments of fear and panic to come but enjoying the good bits whilst they last. Also bought baby's first outfit on sat too. Smile

BabySocks · 12/10/2015 19:54

Ooo I would love to buy baby girl outfits :?

northdownmummy · 13/10/2015 07:34

Welcome to all the new ladies joining our wee group.

I'm grumpy, sore and exhausted, ready for this little one to come out but at 38 weeks today probably still some waiting to do.

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wonkylegs · 13/10/2015 08:12

Couldn't sleep last night for worrying, so I'm even more exhausted than usual. DH was fab though and has insisted I take a break from working today (I'm self employed) and rest /watch shite tv and pamper myself. I'm usually bad at listening to this kind of advice but I think for once I'm going to do it.

Nousername2015 · 13/10/2015 08:43

Welcome to the new ladies joining us, crossing fingers that everything is textbook for you this time. Congratulations on your pregnancies!

38 weeks north, wow!! Sorry, that is probably massively unhelpful with the discomfort.

wonky Flowers I hope that a day of resting helps you, I can empathise with the worry.

dobbythedoggy · 13/10/2015 19:45

Checking back in again. Wishing any new ladies calm and uneventful pregnancies and the strength needed to get through the difficult early days.

Had a lovely but rather inconculsive scan last wednesday (20 week, at 19). Baby was rather stubbon and wouldn't shift for the sonographers no matter what they got me to do. All they could really tell for sure that baby is a boy, but could only get the head measurement they needed and nothing else. One of the songraphas was a tranniee, both were really lovely, hearing all the positives they were pointing out was really reassuring. So when I find a random moment to worry about the lack of results I can remind myself that it was more a case of them not being able to get the images they needed rather than not being able to see a potential issue at all, the vital bits looked 'beautiful'.

After a few days of actually having energy and not falling asleep as soon as dd was is in bed, I seem to have reversed. Instead of being exhausted and strugling to stay awake, I'm exhausted by not being able to sleep! Think it's messing with my head, as I have no apparent reason to worry about the baby as everyone has been fantastic at reassuring me and his a proper little kick boxer in there. I seem to be worrying stupidly about dd, not helped by having horriable dreams when I do sleep about something happening to her. Which really doesn't help with the whole sleeping things as when I wake up I really don't want to go back to sleep after that. Feeling very brave as I've just tucked her up in bed after dreaming about monsters in her bedroom last night.

Also worry about random things like if the doors are locked, the oven off, frezzer shut, which is really unlike me. Think it's just a case of feeling like I should be worrying about something to do with pregnancy as it all seems to be going so smoothly with lots of support on tap, so I'm shifting it to other things. Hoping it will get better as I get more into a routine with sleeping/waking in the night. I'm awful when I'm over tired unless I manage it properly and plan in resting. Suprisingly not so bad if I expect not to sleep well, learnt that when sleeping poorly when pregnant with dd, as long as I know I'll get a little sleep and roughly when. Actually got the most sleep I'd had in months when she was a newborn feeding every 2 hours, feel it may well go that way again!

bumble I'm suprised at how much it's helping me to maintain a positive attitude have a few things that are the baby's now. Since finding out I've brought one little outfit for next summer, made a blanket over the course of the weekend, and dd has chosen a little soft toy rattle to look after for him until his born. It's nice to have things about that are his, feels so much more concreate somehow. Had worried I wouldn't want to buy anything until the last moment incase anything went wrong. Fells like they'd be memoires rather than reminders of something horriable. Acknowledging him as a person has made me feel a bond that wasn't there before.

BabySocks · 13/10/2015 19:49

dobby I think that is very brave to write all of that, I hope it helped toy a little putting it into words. You are right, everything about the scan was positive , focus on that. Awkward babies are pretty normal :)

And I love your idea of having things for this little boy, what a perfect way to bond x

Allmychildrenhavepaws · 13/10/2015 22:00

Hi everyone! I haven't buggered off, I've been on holiday and got back a few days ago....horrid holiday tbh, moved hotels within 5 hours of arriving due to it being dirty and not as described, they stung us for 4 nights to move, when we were barely there 4 hours! When we got to our next hotel the rest of the holiday whent as follows: It rained and thundered 10 days out of 14, the pool was so cold I couldn't even get in it, the spa was not a spa at all, someone's half assed attempt at building a spa, the food was mostly fish this and fish that! Obviously I couldn't drink to ease the disappointment.... Only English channel was bbc news on loop so stuck in a room for the majority was not fun....

I cried so much and wanted to come home within a week! Soooo happy to be home, can't wait to see bubba on my 12'week scan that's on my birthday!

Hope everyone's doing ok? I must admit that being away from mn has done me some good, has stopped me over obsessing about baby....so I will pop in once a week from now on I think, so forgive me if I miss the odd post etc....xxx

Allmychildrenhavepaws · 13/10/2015 23:00

dobby I'm sure its nothing and hopefully a phase, but the worrying about freezer, cooker etc.....please make sure you don't start checkin, re-checking, staring, opening, closing etc.....i suffer from ocd and that's how mine started, I'm in cbt therapy for it now, had it for nearly ten years and its horrid! As I said, yours is probably a phase due to feeling like 'something' must be wrong due to pg going so well, just keep an eye on it hun is all x

dobbythedoggy · 13/10/2015 23:36

Thanks paws dh has ocd like tendancies, mainly due to socail phobia when he was younger. He does enough checking of things for the both of us.

Hopefully just sleep related, I do mad things when I'm not getting enough sleep. When I was pregnant with dd I kept leaving keys in strange places when I was adjusting to the new sleep patten. If the worry doesn't pass once I get into a sleep routine I'll be the first one to the dr or midwife. Our area is currently really on top of mental well being in prengnacy and the hospital are running research around it at the moment.

Nousername2015 · 14/10/2015 05:20

dobby Sounds like you've been having a tough time of it but great news on the scan! If there was anything they weren't sure about they would have booked you in for another so that's really positive that they haven't.
I've been having a similar experience to you on the other front for weeks now, not sleep related though but I found I've become obsessive about making lists and generally being organised? Food shopping is now done on my part with military precision. I've started seeing a counsellor now who reckons I'm trying to control as much of my life that I can control as pg is something that you just have no control over. That theory makes sense to me. Hope you've managed to sleep a bit better last night.

Sorry to hear about your holiday paws but as you say, if it killed a couple of weeks on the scan run up then that's great! When is your scan again?

How's maternity leave treating you north and cloud?