no jinxing for us - #6 posifrickintive thread for those pregnant after miscarriage

[northdownmummy]

Continuing the thread for ladies who are pregnant after MC

I survived my trip to the theatre, a truly magical date night. Back home now and shattered, may well stay in bed till midday but so worth it.

Glad you went north, and glad you enjoyed it. Have to make the most of these times while you can! Take it easy today

Hope you managed to stay in bed north pleased you went and enjoyed it.

I still have issues admitting i'm pregnant to people even at 31 weeks. Bumped into one of ds's favourite friends from nursery at the park today. Not sure I looked pregnant with my warm coat on but when asked by their mum a general how are things type question, I couldn't bring myself to saying we're expecting. I have a trillion thoughts whizz through my mind at moments like that... Generally weighing things up and then worry about being an irritating pregnant person potentially rubbing it in someone's face who might be ttc. What am I like? anyway after a tough day yesterday, today's been much better. Just cooking a roast for tea and been watching classic cartoons all afternoon with DS.

Glad you enjoyed your night out north
winter having a 3+ after 18 weeks and a period, I would say congratulations! The only other reason why hcg hormones would stick around for that long, is if you had retained products of conception....its most likely a new pregnancy, but perhaps speak to your gp regarding your concerns and they can refer you to epu for a scan to confirm what's going on.

I'm not feeling great, spasm like pain (like my last spontaneous mc at 4&3) the pain is in my womb, no bleeding yet....but tomorrow is the point at which I mc'd the 1st pg at 10&5, so now I'm fearing the worst....

I have had severe trapped wind yesterday, but after taking some pg safe laxatives I went to the toilet and all the gas came out so I don't think it's that causing the pain anymore? This is a familiar spasm like pain in the most concerning area! 14 days till scan, terrified I may be given bad news at the scan, or perhaps not even make it to the scan and mc before then...couldn't handle mc no.3 I don't have any children yet, so am terrified that history is just going to forever repeat itself?

Welcome winter, infinity, Carrie and baby socks

Congratulations and wishing you all healthy pregnancies

paws sorry the pain is causing you worry. Are you 100% it can't be more wind? I've had it too and it can be so painful. Or could you have pulled a muscle? I would call your mw or Epu and explain its like the pain you had for mc1 and that it's making you anxious and worried.

diddly sorry you're still struggling with 'being pg'. For some reason I haven't been able to say the p or b word this time to people. But I've said we're expecting or due an arrival etc instead. Hoping as the time gets closer you get more comfortable and relaxed (mentally but maybe not physically ) x

Glad you enjoyed your night out north!

Hi, could I tentatively join? I've had 3 vv faint BFPs, though still not really believing it, and very early days at 4+3.

I'm not sure if I qualify for this thread, my MC were a long time ago, and not with my DH, but I've never had a successful pg. I first got pregnant 8 years ago, constant cramping so got a few early scans, saw sac at 5 weeks, yolk sac at 6 weeks and a really clear heartbeat at 8 weeks. 4 days later I mc at work, no explanation found. 2nd time around, my HCG levels were going up, but they couldn't find the baby, ended up an ectopic but caught early enough to be treated with drugs and saved my tubes.

I'm terrified of any of this happening again, I've already got a midwife's appointment for Wednesday, worried they will think I'm wasting their time this early, but I got told last time that I'd need a scan no later than 6 weeks to check placement.

Thanks bumble it may well have been wind in an awkward place, but today I'm wondering if it was my bladder? Got my results of a urine culture test back and they were borderline...this morning I went to go to the loo, and as much as I needed to go, I just couldn't wee! Kept trickling out then stopping, then I had to sit there and try really hard to get it going again! Had some kidney spasm the other day too, and I have had bladder and kidney infections in the past for which I ended up hospitalized. Waiting to hear what doc wants to do, probably another test I would imagine?

lily welcome, of course you qualify for being on this thread! There's no expiration date for the emotional pain that previous mc's have caused! Stick with the scan this week to check placement of pg, I'm sure all will be fine, most people have a healthy pg after one or even two mc's, only 1% of women have 3 consecutive mc's......
The odds are in your favour, but we all completely understand your concerns....
I've had two mc's this year, and so far this pregnancy has been fine

lily sorry, just realised it's a midwife ap you have this week, she will most likely refer you for an early scan....make sure you push for one given your previous ectopic x

Warm welcome infinity, carrie, winter and lily and congratulations! I wish you all long and uneventful pregnancies.

winter I'd say you need blood tests and a scan to date you, as mrsd says you may be a bit further along (but I'm no doctor).

I can't remember who is having some cramping but I'll stick my hand up to having had it for most of the 1st tri.

After having a couple of good weeks anxiety is back with a vengeance here in the form of montoring movement. Had a couple of quiet periods this week where I've needed to wake him up and I can't go to sleep or get out of bed without having had some firm prods. Not sleeping at all at the moment because of it, need to find a way to knock this daily stress on the head! Also, if anyone else asks me if I'm enjoying being pregnant they run the risk of getting a very honest answer. It's a bizarre question anyway, how could you really not say yes to give an answer that's socially acceptable?

So glad you had a great night north! Which show did you go and see?

nouser Im exactly the same when it comes to movement monitoring, Ive got a really active LO in there who has taken to kicking me in the ribs over the past few days. Ive complained to OH about how painful it is then within an hour she goes quiet and I've been in tears thinking something is wrong... I dont think I will truly relax until she is here, and even then there's a million new things to worry about! Have you got long left? x

I'm 27 weeks on Wed pizza, you've not got long to go now I see! I agree, there will always be something to worry about. I actually went in to be monitored today as had some very weird spasm type movements over the past few days, it's too fast to be hiccups but the midwives have no idea what it is. All was well on the monitor but it took a while to get him moving. He is head down which surprised me as most of my activity is very low so it seems I get punched a lot than kicked. So now I'm worrying that his legs aren't working properly! The worry genuinely never stops...

Well a few nights of good sleep, I'm feeling a lot less worried! Bil was staying with us while he waited for his new flat to be finished and most of the early morning waking and not being able to get back to sleep has stopped. His a baker so leaves for work in the small hours so think hearing him go must have disturbed me. His a lovely bloke, really kind, but not house trained; has a habbit of leaving doors open, appliances on, so that expalins that lot of random worries.

Just random worries over movement, but luckily bump is a propper wriggle bum most of the time. But when his not sugary stuff seems to wake him up. Past the half way point now, looking forward to reaching 24 weeks.

Awwww, I know it brings a whole new bunch of worries....but I'm counting down the days till I can feel movement!!! I wonder how much longer it will be? A few weeks I guess

Hi all, I'm coming up to 10 weeks pregnant following a MMC in May. I'm due to have an early scan on Friday and am absolutely terrified. Like a lot of you on this thread, I've felt totally disconnected from this pg and haven't told anyone bar my DH that I am expecting. The only way I have found to cope with the anxiety is to totally deny to myself that I am pg - so much so that I have even felt envious of friends sharing their good news, despite being pg myself! I have a healthy 2 year old DD but my pg this time is very different to how I was with her - no sickness, only nausea - and of course this has sent me in to a blind panic.
I saw the MW yesterday for my booking appointment and broke down in tears. I really don't want to go to the scan on Friday - the last time I was there I was told my baby had died and I can't face hearing that news again.
What should I do? How have you ladies coped? Any advice much appreciated x

Welcome to all the newbies, wishing you all uneventful, healthy pregnancies! The first trimester is pure torture when you've experience a previous mc, but it does get (a little bit) easier after that.

mother I can understand your panic about the scan, we've all been there, but for me personally I wanted to know if baby was ok, rather than being stuck in limbo and fearing the worst. Also, if you have a successful scan at 10 weeks I believe your risk of mc drops to 1%, the same as after 12 weeks.

How far along are you now allmy? with DD1 I felt movement around 14/15 weeks, though with this one it wasn't until about 18 weeks due to anterior placenta. (She's making up for it now mind... feels like she's practising kickboxing in there every time I try to go to sleep!)

I'm 33 weeks now and have my leaving lunch at work tomorrow, then just 3 more days next week. Also got another growth scan on the 28th and hopefully we'll get the date for my ELCS then too. It's all becoming a bit more real now!

Hi mother welcome and hoping you have a very uneventful pregnancy.

Like most of the other ladies on here my way of coping has been to just take one day at a time and not look too far ahead. Also make lots of use of this group to share all the worries, pretty much guarantee that we've felt or thought the same at some point.

I've made it to 39 weeks and the worry never really goes. Had to call the hospital recently with worries about reduced movement. Of course as soon as I'd spoken to them junior started jumping around. Think they're just starting early on lazy Sunday mornings.

39 weeks north!!

Woops hit post too soon! That's amazeballs!

mother just try and take one day at a time and if that's too much... An hour at a time. Hope your scan on Friday goes well. It's a new pregnancy so you have great chances of everything being OK. The first trimester is particularly hard after mc.xx

Wow 39wks north!

I felt movements with DS at around 18wks paws but from about 13wks this time round. Have you still got pains? Sounds like it could be a water infection...?

Welcome lily and mother
Mother I too can relate to the dread of the early scan. I had a few with this pg after 2mcs. The first two were horrid and I felt sick jus thinking about them, but it did help me afterwards knowing that everything was ok so far. Everyone I know with more than 1 Dc seems to have varying symptoms/sickness which each pg, so completely normal. It could be a boy as people I know don't seem to have been as bad with them compared to girls (including me!).

metal yey to nearly starting mat leave!

mother I feel the same. I think my first scan will be next week, but seeing the midwife today so should know more later, I'm terrified though.

Well, after my last post, I've just been to the toilet as felt a bit damp, and have heavy clot filled bleeding, bright red. I know this feeling, I guess I'm happy it happened so early this time.

I'm just off to cancel my appointment, no point now

Oh lilly so sorry to read that. Big hugs to you.

lilly hope you are ok. Take care of yourself. Xx

lily I'm so sorry Are you going to go and see your gp? They may refer you for further testing given your previous experiences. Look after yourself.

mother I can totally relate. I was in tears before my early scan, didn't help that it was in the same room as the scan where I found out I'd miscarried. My early scan was at about the same gestation you're at and the sonographer told us that the miscarriage risk was pretty much as low as it would be at 12 weeks. I don't take much comfort from statistics but that's just me. As for the burying your head in the sand approach... Can't help there as I'm still doing it!

Yay for almost mat leave metal!! How exciting! What have you got planned for your time off (birth aside of course!)

paws I second the water infection suspicion. I started getting movments from 19 weeks, my placenta is at the back.

39 weeks north!!

Hi all, I haven't been on this thread for a long time...mainly because I've been battling hyperemesis and didn't want to bore you all with how unwell I am. Anyway I have my 12 week scan tomorrow and am terrified. It's silly as I had a scan at 8 and 10 weeks and all was ok...but I'm still panicked. Will update tomorrow once it's over. Hope everyone is getting on ok.