The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

[squizita]

Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

Can I have a bit of reassurance/hand-holding?

Got my blood test results and I'm super low risk for DS which is great. However my hcg and papp-a are very low. Papp-a is .41 which I believe is around the cut off for placental problems etc so now I'm having a mini panic. It hasn't been flagged up so I guess no one will say anything but I'll make sure they check the placenta when I get to the 20 week scan. Google is full of horrible things about low papp-a.

The only thing stopping me from going full on crazy is that my results are very similar to what I had with my son -this time .56 and .41, last time .55 and .47.

However when I had my c-section last time I'm sure I recall one of the surgeons saying the placenta looked funny. I've tried mentioning this to midwives since but have not been taken seriously. So worried about getting further along in the pregnancy and it still going wrong :-/

Sorry I feel like a selfish twat after reading the thread and realising a lot of people are going through worse.

Jbrd how long until you get your second lot of harmony results back?

Thank you girls xxx we will defo pop back!! It's a difficult but amazing journey girls!!! I've cried 3 times so far with joy, keep at it ladies... Look forward to seeing you all at the finish line xxxx

hopeful one thing I've learned whilst pregnant / being a mum - no matter what your going through, someone else will be going through something that you perceive as "worse" than you are too. It's not worth being concerned about. You and your concerns are important too and you have to vocalise these concerns or you will go crackers :-)

To those having wobbles - I'm so sorry. Lots of hand holding and hugs, being pregnant after a loss / several losses is no easy and even though it should be fun, it's not :-(

To all with good news - yay :-)

And to those that replied to my post - thank you. I just needed a mini rant as DH (as good as he is usually) is sick of me complaining. He just tells me I should be great ful to be pregnant again after our loss last year and that's the end of the conversation!! Anyone else's DH less than supportive? xx

Hopeful, I love the quote 'saying some one can't be sad because someone else might have it worse, is just like saying some one can't be happy because someone else might have it better'. You are alowed to be worried :)
I have no advice re pappa-a but I do know google is a dangerous advice. If your midwife isn't worried, I would suggest you have no reason to be worried either. Talk to the sonographer at 20 weeks, but try not to stress xx

MrsG dh was less than supportive, don't know why you are worried, complaining about etc just enjoy it. So I wrote down all the pregnancy side effects I was suffering plus all the crazy that was going on in my head and showed it to him.
That was in dd1's pregnancy, I don't think he got it, and I don't think he ever will but when I cry, rant, rave, or become completely paranoid he sort of gets where I'm coming from!

hopeful You are not selfish. And you are also not alone. My Papp-A is also abysmal (0.14), being the main factor (apart from my age) that has made my risk for Down's so high. And yes, I also worry about what this might mean for later in the pregnancy (if it's confirmed that baby doesn't have Down's).

Papp-A levels can be influenced by a lot of things - bleeding, weight, diabetes, smoking etc. And I'm sure that there is more! Protein regulation is a very complex process, and lots of factors can determine if levels are high or low.

They will monitor you very closely, try not to worry. Nothing much can be done anyway before the 20 week scan; I've been told that this would be the earliest next check (depending on how my Harmony results are and what I do with them). Then they will see how things are, and if anything doesn't look as it should, you will be getting regular scans etc. afterwards. It's always a waiting game, unfortunately!

For what it's worth, I have read lots of stories where women had the same, and everything was perfectly fine in their pregnancies and with their babies. All hope is NOT lost! If everything else is looking good, all the chances are that you will be fine. Try not to worry (easier said than done, I know!).

Sorry to hear you're worrying hopeful but please do not torture yourself with google! I can see why you'd be concerned but from what you said about your pregnancy with your son it sounds like maybe these things are just normal for you? Remember they have to get the 'averages' somehow so plenty of people must be lower and higher. I can't pretend to know anything sepcific about Papp-A so can't offer any other advice but holding your hand.

MrsG I've got one of those now and again! His favourite thing to say, which he thinks is hilarious is "you wanted this!" Grrrrr.

Hopeful don't google! Dr Googlestein is evil I tell you, evil!!

Think I am coming down with a cold ... as a red nose and hot ears are my signals, I think it will be an almighty snotfest. Paracetamol cannot dry up snot, sadly... grrrrrrrr.

Congrats on the milestone, kitkat - today, you are very much pregnant! x

Thank you for the encouraging words. If I could stay off Google I think my general life anxiety levels would be reduced by about 90%.

JBrd I really need to get better at waiting :)

MrsGiraffe I just don't think our partners can understand the process as we can from the inside, so to speak. It can be hugely frustrating - I sense my husband is vaguely irritated that I find a way to come up with new ways to worry every day. But- this is a bit different to your scenario - he doesn't feel, in the same way I do, that we've had babies, fertility, what have you, taken off us so often, that it's what I'm used to - I'm used to the negatives! In your case, he can't feel what you're going through, but it doesn't stop it being any less annoying when he doesn't understand. You just want a bit of empathy! (or sympathy, I forget which!)

Thanks everyone!! I was even brave enough to book my mw appt and early scan. Got them both in 2 weeks time so fingers crossed!!

Thanks everyone!! I was even brave enough to book my mw appt and early scan. Got them both in 2 weeks time so fingers crossed!!

Congratulations fod and welcome to the world little Alexis! Sounds like she was definitely worth waiting for

Sorry for the selfish question but has anyone got my advice on how to deal with swollen ankles? Currently trying to enjoy babymoon but all the shoes and socks I brought with me are starting to get uncomfy. As if I didn't feel like an elephant already, now I have tree trunk legs

kitkat well done on ur milestone, hoping the next 2 weeks fly by for you, try and keep busy and distracted as best u can!

hopeful u are deffiently not selfish, were all here for each other on this thread so post away! I havnt had these tests so I can't offer any advice only as everyone else says, try and avoid google, it's evil!

mrsg and london I think those comments from DP wud drive me insane! They think there funny and witty sometimes but I think it wud give me a major sense of humor failure (not that I have pregnancy rage issues or anythin )

Penguinita If you can, try to get some reflexology - this really helped me when I was pg last time. However, in the long run I'm afraid that you are looking at having to wear flight compression socks... Scholl does some good ones (look on Amazon), they are more like normal knee high socks, not the usual heavy fabric. Not very glamorous, but they do help!

Well done kitkat that's really good to hear!

Penguin, flight socks. Ah Jbrd beat me to it! Hope you're near a shop, they do them in some boots stores I'm pretty sure.

Sorry about your cold Squiz I hope it doesn't manage to take hold.

Lol Alb I am developing an excellent stern 'we are not amused' face

Congrats kitkat how exciting good luck for those apts :)

Aw hopeful don't feel bad we've all got worries but scene else's doesn't make your own less important xx

Speaking kid whic had to go to a&e this morning, had some bleeding. No bad pain just a stitch like pan on the left. Rang MW and she said to go to a&e. there wasn't loads of blood only when I went to loo... Anyway I'm in wit the EPAU this afternoon for a scan. Got everything crossed :(

Xx

('Speaking of which', not 'speaking kid whic' :S )

Fingers crossed for you Mammy will be thinking of you. Glad to hear they're taking care of you.

Feeling anxious today because of how normal I feel. I know, I know, all I have wanted for weeks is to feel less exhuasted and for the 2nd trimester energy to kick in! But of course now I feel concerned. When it's perfectly normal! Last 24 hours I have felt like my old self, other than a headache yesterday evening. Hoping writing this down will let out the silly worry.

On a more positive note I am now quite looking forward to going to see dp's parents tomorrow. Wish I could drop work and start packing! They are going to be so pleased, which is exciting. Tho I hope they don't pee on my parade going on too much about us not getting married.

Thanks londonjen :)
Bless hope writing it down will let you relax a bit, you're into the lovely time, try t enjoy it, you'll find yourself in that cumbersome 'cant move, size of a house' third tri before you know it! :)

mammy fingers crossed for you this afternoon, must be a stressful time, but atleast there able to see you so quickly.

london atleast ur feeling better for visiting the family tomorrow, hope you have a lovely time

Both very good points, thanks ladies! I got my letter confirming low risk from combined test so that's another milestone. Will now try very hard to relax and enjoy.

Hello. New to this thread but was lurk

ing over in the Harmony thread for a while ... JBrd kindly pointed me in this direction. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow, first pregnancy last July resulted in a blighted ovum. I
am nervous daily.... Today new symptoms include lots of pulling and stretching on both sides of abdomen, sometimes sharp, sometimes dull. They come and go. No bleeding but a little nausea has returned (it took a hike at about 10 weeks for me)

If anyone here has been pregnant before (I know you lovely ladies have lots of experience) is this normal?

Had a panic yesterday and decided on impulse to buy a fetal heart Doppler - not sure if this was a good idea but I feel anxious daily and today - hourly.

Just wish I could relax.... I have my NHS scan on Tuesday - it can't come quick enough but then I worry that there won't be another until 20 weeks...

Oh Lordy, wish I could just relax.