The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

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Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

Welcome to the world Fodlet

congratulations fod well done! Wonderful news xxx

Congratulations Fod! well done! I bet she made your eyes water at that size!

Any name ideas yet?

Congratulations fod and well done!

Good luck for tomorrow thepig

Quick query... At 17 weeks, if you get a sensation like someone tickling you in the bump with a feather from the inside... Could that be bean moving? Had it 2 or 3 times since Thurs.

You're feeling the first flutterings of your baby Squiz!! :D

Congratulations Fod!!!! Enjoy lots of newborn cuddles!

Corpore - I feel exactly the same at the moment. TBH I think its mostly just through fear of starting another mc, even though rationally I know its unlikely. I figure he can wait til after the scan.

JBrd - sounds like you have some tough decisions to make. I too understand how you feel. We were discussing this very thing tonight & agreed we would have the tests so we know what we're up against. Perhaps as said upthread, DH could speak to midwife for extra reassurance. Thinking of you.

GWLondon & kitkat321 I also have the same EDD!

Have either of you got your booking appointments arranged yet? I called midwife this morning & the soonest they can see me is 10+5. They usually book scan at this apt & can be several weeks wait for an appt, so I'm now worrying I won't get my first scan til something like 14 weeks . Just all feels like such a long time away to know that things are ok.

For those of you who've had early scans - did you go private or through NHS?

Hooray fod!!

I'm still lurking. Midwife appointment tomorrow and I've been promised that they will listen with the doppler - I hope to feel more confident about diving in here after!

Congratulations fod that's wonderful news.

Squiz from my lurking I think we are very close in due dates (17/9 for me). What you describe sounds like movement to me because I've googled it loads. I haven't felt anything yet, I thought I did once or twice but farted soon after lol! I have read that slimmer people may feel movement earlier which is probably why I haven't.

Congratulations to the new ladies with BFP too!

omana hi! Congrats on bfp!

I had two early scans on NHS at 6 and 8 weeks, then private at 9 weeks. But it was at hospital and cost £60. Totally worth it for my sanity.

I reckon if they normally do scan bookings at the booking in apt you will be fine for an appointment at normal 12 to 13 weeks ish. But if you are going to worry if it is a little bit later then I would get a private one.

Polka I really hope it does. Let us know. I had to lol at your fart!

Sounds like a real milestone Squiz whoop whoop!

I didn't have an early scan Omama, sorry can't help.

Can I have a whinge please? So we didn't get a 'high risk' phone call today re combined test so that was the 3rd working day, which should mean we're all clear. Letter wil confirm in a few weeks. DP wanted to wait for these 3 days to pass before telling his parents. I couldn't. We agreed we'd do it different days. I told my mum after the scan last Weds. I told my dad and brother over the weekend. This eve I waited for dp to make a move and at 9 I said are you not going to call your parents tonight then? And he says on no I think we should just go up this weekend and give them the picture. I know I have mentioned before dp is a very logical person and not big on feelings, and I shouldn't expect him to have a personality transplant but it is SO hard to feel he doesn't care because he doesn't want to share this news for another 5 days. I am quite teary. He has come over for a kiss and showing me the scan pic trying to be nice, but I wish he just wanted to share the news. I was really fed up by this afternoon that he hadn't told and was looking forward to it.

Congratulations fod, great news.
Thanks all for the reassurance that not feeling much like swinging from the chandeliers is a normal state of mind in post-mc pregnancy. I was utterly bemused by the (student) midwife saying it was a good idea , but nonetheless the grinding tiredness of the 1st trimester, combined with the admittedly groundless fear that sex will cause another loss does little for the libido. Bring on the 2nd trimester .
Have been so sad tonight about the news of Peaches Geldof, those poor babies, desperately sad for the family.

SquizTricky one, but it could well be movements... I think it feels different for everyone! When I was pg with DS, it felt like having a nervous tick (like you sometimes get in your eye), but on the inside - I first thought I might have pulled a muscle!

omama I had my booking appointment at 8 weeks, and the first the the MW did even before that was to arrange a reassurance scan. It might be worth speaking with your GP if he can refer you for an early scan - if you have had a mc, they are often happy to do this. Or speak to your EPU, if they will take you without a referral.

Thanks all for your thoughts on the testing and DH being reluctant. If I need a CVS or amnio, I would go to Prof Nicolaides at the FMC, he is one of the best in the field. I agree that I need to get DH to understand that the 1% risk of mc is the overall average and that each consultant has his/her own 'personal' stats, most of which are much better than that.

Pregnancy is nothing but glamorous isn't it LondonJen! I was gettibg upset at DH earlier on because I thought he wasn't excited but he said he was too scared to get his hopes us, perhaps your DH is the same?

Huge congrats fod.

Omama - waiting to the end of this week to book mw. Because I've had 2 mc's I also get an early scan at the epu so hopefully get something booked in the next couple of weeks - last time they gave me an appointment within 24 hours which was good. Hope you manage to get an earlier appt or a private scan.

Thank you girls! I'm in love - she's beautiful and we have decided to call her Alexis Susan

Just a quickie to say congrats Fod!

Squiz, I am rubbish with movements - I don't think I noticed them in my last (successful) pregnancy until I was getting proper kicks, but I've heard other people say they get the fluttery tickly thing.

Congratulations fod enjoy every minute :)

squiz it sounds like movement :) I felt it 16 1/2 17 weeks only very sporadically though and it almost felt really deep in my tummy not on the surface, it's a lovely feeling when you realise for definate that's what it is!

Def sounds like movement squiz - that's exactly how mine started!! :)

Aww fod what a gorgeous name!! Congrats again - bet you are over the moon!

Good luck for today thepig! Can't wait to hear about your new arrival!!

tea hope you are ok? Hoping you've gone quiet because you're having the next thread baby!

I'm awake with dreadful contraction-like pains again got the third night in a row, which are blatantly lasting far too long to be real ones and are going to disappear within the next hour leaving me feeling grumpy at the prospect of another possible 2-4 weeks of this. Must stop moaning and look at the positives - bestie coming around for coffee in 8 hours and I've made a HUGE choc cake. I'm sure no one will judge me if I misery-eat the whole thing

I thought I'd posted congratulations to fod already but can't seem to see it so... CONGRATULATIONS FOD! How lovely to finally be with your little girl, Alexis. Enjoy these magical early days - what a lovely big baby! My first was a ten-pounder too.

lovely news!

LondonJen I just think men are very different creatures and look at these things in a totally different way to us. Maybe he feels that doing it face to face will be more meaningful? But it's so hard when you feel like your DP/DH isn't feeling things in the same way you are. Also being pregnant, and generally feeling everything more (in a way that he isn't, partly coz of hormones, partly because you're carrying the baby!) means that these disappointments in our DPs are just part of package of pregnancy I guess. I'm sure he's as excited as you. Just shows it differently.

Hi everyone else. Sorry to be so behind.

Can I ask from all those further along, and because I can't remember from my previous successful pregnancies... Is it normal for symptoms to subside from around 9 weeks? I'm now 9+4 and not feeling nauseous or super tired any more. Breast still tender but there's not much else making me feel pregnant. I'm a previous MMCer too so am v paranoid about the symptoms thing. I seem to remember in my first pregnancy feeling nauseous right up until 11/12 weeks. What have all your experiences been? I know every pregnancy is different etc.... but just curious. Guess I could do with some reassurance. 12 week scan not for another two weeks... feels so far away!

Congratulations fod! What lovely news!

Thanks kjh and squiz - just waiting to call hospital to find out if there's room at the inn today!

congratulations fod and Alexis is a beautiful name. enjoy the cuddles.

Thanks Polka and Mabel. So true. I know we communicate differently but now it bothers me! Typical pregnant lady I guess! He was very lovely before bed even offering to email everyone to tell them. It's just that for me, telling people is part of what makes it real, esp after the never ending wait for the scan. Whereas for him it has no bearing on things whatsoever.

Mabel that is exactly when mine started to go esp the nausea. And my mmc had been at 10 weeks so it was very hard. The nausea would come back odd days, even did a week ago. My boobs were still big but less tender and I still had the bloated tum. My new pregnancy book arrived that week and for week 10 had a page about the placenta taking over and symptoms fading which I read and reread for days to help reasssure me!

Kjh you are so not judged. Sounds like an awesome morning!

Bestie has come and gone (with a lovely bunch of flowers for me!) and managed to eat half a piece of choc cake before feeling like I was going to be violently ill. Keep swinging between periods of getting hectic pains every 4-10min and feeling very nauseous before they tail off and I think it is all over. Anyone have any tips for how to turn this into proper active labour? I'm getting a bit fed up and tearful at the thought of this going on for another week!

I wonder how thepig is getting on? Hope she has managed to get into hospital and we get to hear about our next thread baby soon!

London I was just remembering I felt similar to you when we were telling our families about the pregnancy this time around. My family knew from fairly early on but DH didn't want to tell his until after the 12 wk scan - which is fair enough. Except after we had the scan, he didn't seem too keen calling them to tell them the good news which upset me a bit. I couldn't figure out why he wanted to wait. It felt like even although we had seen everything was fine he had no faith that the bubba was going to make it or in me and so didn't want to tell anyone - but I figured that it was his family so I couldn't really jump in there and do it for him. We ended up waiting another two weeks until we saw them and he gave his mum a copy of the scan DVD to watch. We didn't tell her what it was (she thought she was looking at some video footage of our wedding) and I have to say the reaction of his parents made it well worth the wait!

Mabel I was unfortunate enough to have MS right up until 17 weeks, I remember feeling particularly miffed about it because when I saw the midwife at 10 weeks she assured me that it would start tailing off then and there as the placenta takes over - its totally normal for symptoms to fade in the run up to 12 weeks and nothing to worry about xx