The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

[squizita]

Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

[Pixielady83]

So thrilled for saggy and little Lucy! we need a stats update next time someone is on a computer! can't remember seeing the list recently though, might need to dig around on the last thread. Welcome stars and anyone else I've missed today by the way.

mrsg I felt DD at 14 wks in my first pregnancy. They reckon you feel earlier if you're very slender. You should tell your MIL that and see how it goes down

[Alb1]

What's the news on saggy? I don't no what or were chat is :-/ an I'm on my phone. It's been very hard keeping up with this thread this last 2 days but iv been workin loads so havnt had time to post but have been eagerly watching for news of saggy!

Great news on the good scans, always lovely to head

MrsG good news on feeling movement, although I'm slightly jealous as I have felt nothing yet, only 15 weeks tomoro tho and it's my first so I'm guessin it cud be a few more weeks yet

[Alb1]

Nethermind I investigated and found the chat, lovely news

[ruth1104]

Thanks for the new thread squiz haven't really caught up with it all yet but I gather you had a positive scan?
We had a private scan today, everything looks good!! Saw the heartbeat and have a edd of 15th October. Best £35 I've ever spent in my life!! I feel just a bit more like myself and less of a nutjob... Who knows, maybe I could start to enjoy being pregnant!
Hope all is good saggy

[MabelMay]

Thanks for the welcome, everyone and congrats to all new babies.

Okay - I really need a bit of reassurance or if anyone has had same? I know I'm only 5 weeks (so ultra paranoid) and just an hour ago I went to the loo and had pinkish discharge with a kind of flesh coloured small amount of almost tissue-like discharge - it was in the toilet bowl and when I wiped the tissue was very light pink (sorry if TMI).

I haven't had this in previous PGs as far as I can remember (the ones that held and the MCs) - I feel stupid as I played tennis today (didn't run) but hit the ball quite hard and now of course I"m totally para that I've done something or somehow jolted it out of place (i hate feeling this psycho!)

I don't think I'll do any more exercise during this pregnancy. Other than a fast walk. It's just not worth exacerbating my paranoia. Thanks for any responses/experiences/thoughts. Feeling my first wave of 'oh shit'.

[MabelMay]

Glad all good in your scan ruth - can't wait 'til I get to that point.

[Lilimum2be]

Hey guys I'm 19wks today and still scared sh*tless! I had a mc July last yr and it tore me apart! I keep having nightmares about waking up in pools of blood etc etc I have also heard from my best friend that she is going through a mmc, which has actually terrified me even more! I'm kacking myself for my 20wk scan on the 27th convinced something is gunna be wrong!!! Am I mental?? Does it get any better?? XxxxX

[MabelMay]

Hi lili - oh dear wish I could tell you it gets better but I'm only at 5 weeks after two MCs last year (the last one, a MMC in July also devastated me) - I actually wish I were at 19 weeks like you! Good luck with your scan - I'm sure it'll all be fine!

[Penguinita]

Gaaaa, where is chat? I'm technologically inept and can't find it! I NEED to know the news!

Congrats on the scan ruth. Can't believe you got a scan for £35, what a bargain! I got one for £55 and thought I was doing well.

Welcome lilimum, you have come to the right place to stress out. I think everyone on here has a big wobble before a scan. Getting to 19 weeks is brilliant so I'm sure it will all be fine.

Sorry to hear about your previous MMC experience stars, it sounds totally horrific. Good on you for knowing what you want and sticking to your guns.

[ruth1104]

Mabel I havent had the pinkish discharge but from what I hear lots of people have and it's very likely to be an implantation thing. But if it doesn't stop can you give your epu a call? I've come to the conclusion that if I were to have another miscarriage there would always be something I would blame for it, or wonder if I shouldn't have done. Last time I wondered if it was having an orgasm, cleaning the bathroom, letting myself get too tired, or some pushing I did at work. All seem pretty unlikely but that's the way your head gets. So try to give yourself a break!! As long as you're following the same advice as every other pregnant woman you're not going to 'make' yourself have a miscarriage.

[fedupofrainydays]

saggy posted her news on our old thread. Understandably she hadn't realised we had gone all new thread! I'm sure she will find us soon... But it's all good news and lucy arrived yesterday pm!

For those worrying, I don't think it ever goes away or the worrying about what you do and can it cause mc. Someone once said to me... If it's the right one it will stick, no matter what you do. The ones we lose are 99% or something like that - chromosomal issues with the baby. Does not stop me wondering though if it was flying that cause both my mc. As for both I had flights around the time. But there is no link between flying and early miscarriage so I need to stop thinking about that!

£35 for a scan?! Round here they are more like £100!!! Bargain! But glad all was ok ruth

mabel I've not had pinky discharge either but I know others who have and it was part of implantation process. But if continues I would go to EPU to get it checked out. If you are 5 weeks they would be able to see something on the scan.

[allisgood1]

Marking my place!

[LondonJen]

Thanks Stars!

Saw Saggy posted on the old thread. Congratulations Saggy! Lucy is a lovely name. Tho I rather liked Ryvita!

[NerdyBird]

mabel I've had various amounts of funny coloured discharge and spotting in this pregnancy. Everything is ok so far and I'm 21+1. It's really worrying, but do call your EPU, MW or GP if you want to get checked out.

lili I was worried too in the run up to my 20 week scan. I think we all get a bit of scan doom as most of us have had an upsetting scan in the past. My scan was fine, they said right away they could see the heartbeat so I knew at least one thing was alright!

I'm now trying to be mindful of when baby moves. I know there won't be a pattern to it yet but I want to get in the habit of noticing. My next goal to get to is 24 weeks. Three to go!

[Lottystar]

Hi ladies, just wanted to post a congrats to Saggy, Lucy is my middle name so I'm a little biased but it's lovely!

Mabel, don't blame yourself, I had a little bleed after dtd a week ago and was ultra frightened but had two scans since and all seem fine. Get yourself checked out if you're really worried or if there is any more bleeding.

I posted before my 12 week scan went well yesterday but what I didn't say was the sonographer was ultra rough and pushed really hard on my abdomen to get the nuchal measurement. Has anyone else had that? My scan was at Bristol, Southmead and they do seem to rush you through, the waiting room was packed! I'm feeling tender and bruised today and a tad worried about it effecting the pregnancy

[Pentagon]

Grrrrr, I've just lost what I'd been writing....Anyway, here we go again:

thanks for letting us know london, I was wondering why we hadn't heard from her, it all makes sense now

great scan news lotty and ruth

Welcome lili (and anyone else I may have missed) - everyone on this thread has been super-stressed during the first trimester (and not only!), it's normal and totally understandable. I've had 2 MMCs and during my 2 pregnancies that went well (I have 2 girls now, 3 yrs and 4 months old) I couldn't relax until after my 20 week scan and could feel the baby move. Breathe deeply, take one day at a time and try to distract yourself as much as possible

pixie good luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking of you! I hope you're not feeling too anxious about the induction, it may be better than you expected. I look forward to your good news!

fod how are you, my dear?

hi to everyone else! xx

[LondonJen]

Awesome scan news Ruth yes, relax, feel the posifrickentivity, enjoy feeling good!

Mabel I haven't had that myself but sure someone on here did (maybe Squiz? -be a bit weird if I know that!?) Sure someone will be along soon to tell you it was fine. I certainly don't think it's anything to beat yourself up about, try not to blame yourself. Grab a cuppa and be kind to yourself.

Welcome Lili So sorry to hear you're having nightmares. You are not mental, or no more than the rest of us crazy mares! Are you talking to anyone (professional or otherwise) to help get your anxiety out? Might help. Talk to us about it! This is the place to leave your batshit crazy thoughts and share all your concerns. Everyone knows what you're going through which I find really helps as I feel less alone. I had mmc at 10 weeks and am now 9weeks pg, personally as I am coming up to the old milestone the last few days I have found myself finding it easier. And I have had more positive moments than I ever thought I would when I got my bfp. Though I am not sure the worry ever entirely leaves you.

[fod27]

pentagon hi! Let's see I've driven over speed bumps and potholes, done some (DIY) and done the bumps down the stairs ... Still nothing... I get the feeling we will be celebrating her first birthday whilst she's still snuggled up in my uterus. hope your doing well xxx

pixie thinking of you - you lucky lucky girl!

[LittleMissPear]

Hi ladies, can I join you? I'm 12+5, had a lovely scan last week and all was well. Had an mc last September and although the scan reassured me somewhat the next midwife appointment and scan seems such along way away! I can tell that my anxiety I had before the 12 week scan will build up again over the next few weeks.
I need to stay positive and not dwell on the sad stories that I hear, there is no reason for it to go wrong

[Lilimum2be]

Wow you guys are amazing! I already feel so much better, knowing I'm not alone really helps and il do my best to keep you all posted in what happens at the scan :) I bought myself one of those hb Doppler thingys which is quite good and worth the 20quid on ebay!!! Helps calm my insanity slightly!
I had a pinkish dischargy thing on wiping when I was about 6wks and went straight to the epu, they were gunna see me if I stayed there all night! Luckily it turned out to be nothing but if I were you if take yourself there or call them, let them know about your past and they should see you! The only thing that will make u feel more relaxed is seeing your little baby chilling with no panic!
Can't believe I didn't see this thread before, happy it's restarted massive congratulations to all ladies expecting and already blessed with DCs......hope you all have a great day xxxxx

[squizita]

London & Mabel yeah it was me... twice! But scans after both showed all well. FX same for you Mabel. Apparently twists and strains in my case constipation not sport can cause inflammation on the cervix/upper vagina because like your gums the skin gets thin - nothing to do with the uterus and harmless.

Just seen Saggy's news and am so thrilled!

Righto, today in "operation I'm not that mad" I am going to celebrate reaching the 2nd trimester for the first time ever by:
-purchasing some 'bad 3 chemical free' nail polish for my looong pregnancy nails;
-Buying a squishy comfy bra
-Looking at (as we have some spring weddings/parties ahead) the maternity range in the big Topshop and River Island at Westfield while chanting to myself "there's no such thing as jinxing, there's no such thing as jinxing....

[JBrd]

Congratulations, saggy and well done! Guess you will be leaving us now to join the graduates... Come back sometimes to let us know how you're getting on, will ya?

Mabel Please try not to panic - have you had any bleeding since? Keep an eye on it for a bit to see how it goes. Unfortunately, at this point, there isn't anything that a mw or doctor can do for you. But bleeds in early pregnancy are very common!
I had one at about 7 weeks, proper red blood on the tissue, and my heart just stopped. I thought, that's it, I'm having another mc. But it was just once, has never happened again, and all my 8-week scan showed a little healthy bean (as well as a haematoma, which is probably the cause of the bleed). Hang in there, I know it's hard, but hopefully, it was just a one off.

I'm feeling really sick today, bleurgh. Might go for a little lie down in a minute...
And I've put on 2kg this week ! This does not bode well...

[Pixielady83]

Welcome all newbies fingers crossed for lovely smooth pregnancies for you.

Thanks pentagon and fod I'm trying to be brave! after yesterday's sweep though I have lost a lot of faith in my pain threshold though however contractions are a whole other ball game and there is pain relief available. I'm such a mess, sent DD to my mum's yesterday so we could have a quiet day today and then sobbed all evening because I missed her

In other news I'm feeling massive rage that my MIL and aunt in law have both joined Facebook and sent me friend requests, hard to refuse but really is no where safe!! childishly considering starting a new account just for friends but I like being friends with my nieces on there and guess the oldies would soon hunt me down that way (incidentally wonder how teens feel about grandparents befriending them on Facebook!)

41 weeks pregnant has clearly taken me to a whole new plain of massive irrationality

[StarsInTheNightSky]

ruth fantastic news about your scan! Scans round here are 100+ too, so I'm very envious!

mabel I had the same thing at what would have been about 5 weeks, we were on an extended scuba diving holiday at the time in South/Central America, and I remember thinking it was a weird period (tmi but I also had some weird thin string blood for about a day) and was pretty cross that my body still wasn't back to normal after our mmc. I promptly poured myself a large glass of wine and grumbled some more . I didn't actually realise I was pregant until about 7-8 weeks as I'd had a false negative test, in that time I went on sunbeds a few times, drank a lot of alcohol and coffee, scuba dived to 40 metres below sea level, often two times a day, climbed up and down ladders to dive boats wearing full dive gear (and steel tanks so bloody heavy!) hauled the tanks about on dry land, went jet-skiing very fast over bumpy big waves, ate just about every cheese I shouldn't, drank unpasteurised milk, got sunstroke a few times, went hiking in the blistering heat, sat in hot tubs every night, etc etc. I think I did just about everything you shouldn't except taking drugs and smoking . I was terrified when we got back to the uk and I found out I was pregnant, but touch wood everything was absolutely fine. The consultant told me that in a healthy pregnancy they are tough little critters really, and they can stand up to a lot. It is so worrying when you've had losses before though, as itmakes you feel like they're more fragile I think. In the pregnancies I lost I'd put my feet up and done naff all I was so paranoid, but it didn't make a difference in the end. Hang in there and see if you can speak to you EPU x.

lili if it makes you feel any better I'm 27+6 and last night I had nightmares about waking up in pools of blood. I also sobbed through our 20 week scan as I was so terrified that something would be wrong (it wasn't).
I'm not sure whether it gets any easier, but when I woke up to our little man booting the beejesus out of me it was very reassuring. In that way, as soon as they start having regular movement patterns (and you work out what wakes them up ) it makes it easier to stay calm most of the time. Also, the further along you get you have the reassurance of knowing that there's more that they can do medically if something goes awry, at least that's what I keep telling myself anyway. That being said we've had quite a few episodes of reduced movement already (he was just being lazy and they send me into a blind panic. Try to remember that things are much, much more likely to be fine than not, I'm sure all will be good at your scan x

lotty the sonographer at our 12 week scan was so rough you could actually see bruises on my tummy, it hurt like hell but everything was absolutely fine. I did start bleeding the next day, but that was completely unrelated and didn't come from uterus. Still, made me want to murder her though .

littlemisspear welcome and what great news about your scan!

squiz I was just the same, had to buy some maternity jeans at 14 weeks and I was terrified, in the end DH dragged me (in the nicest possible way) to JoJo Maman Bebe and said we weren't leaving until I bought myself some things. It actually really helped, and after that I felt a bit more confident buying little bits and bobs. I am still putting off ordering the pram though, although it has a 4 week order time so I ought to get around to it soon! Hope you have a great time shopping

pixie that made me laugh! I don't have facebook but I think the new account sounds like an excellent plan . Hope you're ok and that things start moving soon.

Hi to anyone else I've missed, I'm feeling very dopey today!

[squizita]

Lotty my sonographer kept whacking and wiggling the scanner onto my belly hard - she said to get bean to wriggle around so she could see all the bits of him/her and measure the placenta etc'. It's so much nicer when they explain why Why don't they all?