The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

[squizita]

Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

[MammySam]

Thanks everyone :) x

[JBrd]

New thread here

[bakingtins]

mammysam I am so sorry to read your news

[JBrd]

So so sorry, MammySam It's so unfair that this is happening again to you, my heart goes out to you. Be kind to yourself.

Pig - congratulations and well done! I'm very jealous, I've always had a secret longing for twins... But the idea of having to carry over 12lbs around, blimey! Hope you are all recovering well.

Ladies, we need a new thread! I'm on my phone, will someone do the honours?

[KeepingTheFaith9]

Thanks Baking Tins, Squizita and Penguinita - I really appreciate your advice and reassurance.

The Doppler was delivered today to my inlaws (who are totally in the dark about the pregnancy) hopefully they won't have opened it up and got the news early!

I just wanted to hear the heartbeat and reassure myself before we tell both families this weekend. I know it's normal to be constantly worried after such an ordeal - and I appreciate I'm not alone.

My DH is pretty hopeless - I think he thinks I put half of my symptoms on !!!!

Mammy Sam, I am really very sorry to hear about your loss. Blessings for the next time.

[HopefulHamster]

I am so sorry MammySam, that's so hard and so unfair. Thinking of you x

Squiz - they just sound like one of those annoying people who cleverly manage to sprinkle downers among their friends in a way that makes you think 'did she mean that?'. I think how you get on with having children is so individual. I'm always a mess but I don't mind it :D. I'm not a mess on the inside (er, apart from constant pregnancy paranoia...)

Congrats pig! Lovely names :)

Faith I've had a lot of pulling stretching pains recently (am 14 weeks) and I've been reassured that it's very common at this stage. Our bodies are rearranging themselves internally at this point, as well as growing - there's a lot going on!

LondonJen totally get what you mean about feeling normal, I have felt fine this week and have basically no bump so I've been worrying like crazy. But I think we just have to grin and bear it at this stage!

Hope everyone else is well x

[Penguinita]

Congratulations pig and big respect to you for a natural twin birth with no epidural! If you can do that then surely you can cope with anything those boys throw at you!

Hi keepingthefaith, I got a Doppler when I was 14 weeks and found it very reassuring. Be warned that it can take ten mins to find the heartbeat though and once I couldn't find it at all. If that happens, don't panic, go away and get busy doing something for a couple of hours and try again. And baby is probably further down than you think, around your knicker line at that age.

Thanks ladies for the tips about flight socks for my tree trunk ankles. I'll be off to the chemist tomorrow. I think flight socks with ballet pumps will be my glamorous pregnancy fashion statement for the next seven weeks until Pingu arrives

[MabelMay]

oh gosh mammysam I'm so so sorry to hear your news. I remember 'chatting' to you about the loss of symptoms and reassuring each other... Be kind to yourself and hope you have some RL support around? It's a horrible thing - I had two MCs last year, one of them an MMC - and it takes time to recover emotionally.
Hope you'll be back soon with a keeper.
Take care

[Penguinita]

mammysam I'm so sorry, that is just crappy. Life is just not fair. I hope you and DP and dd are able to take some time out to come to terms with things and support each other as a family

[kitkat321]

I'm so very sorry to hear your news sam - take good care of yourself xx

[fedupofrainydays]

squiz I think she's just talking about her life tbh. In a mum, and yes I get ready quicker than I used to but i still make an effort when going out, wear make up (most days!) and presentable clothes. We have date nights but have to plan them, as spontaneity just can't exist with kids and no nanny / babysitter on tap. I work in a stressful job that involves travel so probably look a bit more haggard than I should!! But it's that job not my mummy job that does that to me!! My mummy job keeps me young :) minus the sleep deprivation

[fedupofrainydays]

Oooh pig congrats!!! Lovely little boys and a natural birth with twins - awesome!! Xx

[fedupofrainydays]

sam I'm so sorry to hear that. How heartbreaking - particularly after seeing everything was ok at 7 weeks. :(
All the best for the future and hope we see you here again soon. I can imagine how hard it is explaining this to your dd, must make it that much harder and a bigger blow. :(

[MammySam]

Hi everyone
Just to let you know the scan today confirmed my worst fears since my symptoms disappeared a bit before 9wks, and despite a superb scan at 7 wks today the scan showed baby stopped growing at about 7.5 wks, (should be 10+2) and now there's no heartbeat so this bleeding is defnately the start of MC.
Still not got a lot of bleeding only light all day but the cramps have been coming much stronger as the day has gone on so everything is moving on.
Very, very sad. Hardest thing was ex,aiming it all to 4 yo DD this afternoon, she's so upset and confused.
Time for me t bow out now and wish the Best of luck to everyone and wishing you very uneventful pregnancies x

[kjh5]

Yay pig!! Amazing news :) so happy your gorgeous boys arrived safely xx

[bakingtins]

Congratulations pig lovely names for lovely boys! Enjoy!

[squizita]

Baking she has 2 kids, quite isolated (so no easy babysitters) and a massive house. She's a SAHM and tbh think she genuinely isn't familiar with the "back to work after a year, never a quiet moment" grind that I have been warned about by London mums! Shed be disgusted at childcare pre-4 etc. Different worlds..?

Pigg Ooooh congrats! Sounds like they were impatient to meet their mummy bless em!

[squizita]

Oh god its made me cry... :( stupid hormones.

[thepiggotupandslowlywalkedaway]

Hello, although I've not exactly been active here a lot lately, I just thought I'd pop back and say that our two lovely boys Benjamin and William arrived safely on Wednesday morning, both a shade under 6lb. The induction was fine, but at the end ramped up rather too quickly to get the epidural I'd promised myself all through this one (4cm to giving birth in about an hour and a half...)

Just watching them sleeping at the moment!

[bakingtins]

I wondered why we were whispering!

Does she have children? Is she jealous of your pregnancy? Or is she just one of those people that have to rain on your parade at any opportunity?

Ignore, anyway, obviously a bitter wizened old trout! You are going to be an extremely yummy mummy and there is still life post children.

[squizita]

Shallow AIBU rant!

Have a friend who is very middle-class-rural. She CONSTANTLY makes comments like "you'll never wear make up again when you have a baby", " you'll never have a date night", "you'll never get your figure anywhere decent". Now, I know its gonna be really tough... But being 30 something most of my mates have kids age 0-4. And they DO look lovely when out (of course they wear old leggings at home/tesco) and their DHs do treat them maybe once a month.

Does she just mean me? She has the "silly innocent no kids yet" trump card but it just makes me feel like everyone assumes I won't cope and will be a grey old milk machine because she says so.

[squizita]

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[squizita]

faith yes I had those. Very scary if you've had a loss but normal.

baking it's all snot, think it may be hayfever. Good I suppose but grim!

I've heard that UK "small" is so cautious it isn't considered small elsewhere, as you say 6 lb is seen as small but is normal for some ethnicities. Another blessing to count, they keep an eye on us for sure.

[bakingtins]

Squiz you have my sympathies. I've been full of snot for weeks and am fed up with DH mainlining Lemsips and telling me how terrible he feels

mammy hope your scans reassuring this afternoon.

faith welcome, and what you describe is completely normal, just 'growing pains'and round ligaments stretching. I'm not sure using the Doppler so early is a good idea, it might help if you can find a HB but the MW won't even attempt it until 16 weeks and then with lots of caveats about not finding it doesn't mean there's a problem, so don't worry if you can't. Try to keep busy until Tuesday, and hope it's a very positive experience for you.

I saw MW again today, seeing me fortnightly as bump measuring small. Baby has moved into a stupid position again, head down but legs "frogged" to either side, so kicks in funny places (and hands jabbing my cervix -ouch) I'm sure this must affect bump measurements, but I already have a growth scan in 3 weeks so hopefully that will clarify. DS2 was only 6lb6oz, as long as she can manage 6lb I 'm not worried. What can I do about it anyway? It's certainly not for lack of calories!

[KeepingTheFaith9]

ing over in the Harmony thread for a while ... JBrd kindly pointed me in this direction. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow, first pregnancy last July resulted in a blighted ovum. I
am nervous daily.... Today new symptoms include lots of pulling and stretching on both sides of abdomen, sometimes sharp, sometimes dull. They come and go. No bleeding but a little nausea has returned (it took a hike at about 10 weeks for me)

If anyone here has been pregnant before (I know you lovely ladies have lots of experience) is this normal?

Had a panic yesterday and decided on impulse to buy a fetal heart Doppler - not sure if this was a good idea but I feel anxious daily and today - hourly.

Just wish I could relax.... I have my NHS scan on Tuesday - it can't come quick enough but then I worry that there won't be another until 20 weeks...

Oh Lordy, wish I could just relax.