The even newer posifrickentivity thread for ladies pregnant after miscarriage! Spring 2, welcome!

[squizita]

Hi Ladies, continuing our posifrickentivity journey.

Wishing all healthy pgs and lots of thread babies!

Squiz yes similar thing here! Its is SO annoying the 6am wee! I'll usually have been at 1am then somewhere around 3-4, that's annoying but fine, part and parcel. But the 6am urge to go is just as intense and there's hardly anything left to wee by then!! Tho I don't have quite the extremes of having less urge = more wee. What I really don't enjoy, frankly, is the lack of pressure in every wee. So it always takes ages and feels like a trickle as there's no longer any power behind my wees!!

Go boba! Very nice to hear!

I know the wanting to sleep feeling kitkat! The next few days will be hard but it really sounds like you have good approach to things and I'm so glad you're managing to stay positive. Having plans to look fwd to if things don't work out sounds really healthy. Fx for you next week.

Glad you can get gp reassurance alb if need be. Oo and possible baby movement is very exciting! Keep us posted.

Enjoy your trip penguin sounds just lovely. That's really helpful to know about the nct class. I don't think we're going to do them as we have some free nhs classes. I am hopeful to cover the newborn phase too. dp was asking questions last night and I didn't know the answers so we def quite clueless too!

Fedup we were told a high risk result phonecall would come 'in a few days' and if not a letter saying actual low risk number would arrive in 2-3 weeks. In a leaflet we were given it said the phonecall would be within '3 working days' so that was Thursday, Friday and Mon for us. I admit I've been carrying my phone everywhere round the house so I don't miss any calls. Nothing so far. DP decided he did not want to tell anyone until those 3 days have passed. So my family know and his don't! Try not to worry hon, even if you did get a high risk result it doesn't necessarily mean anything. I know how you feel tho, just want the piece of paper with the actual number on!

This could be it... Famous last words! Was up the MAU last night due to reduced movements, was sent bk home with the A OK. Had contractions all night and still having them now along with another show so cross your fingers guys xxx

Go fod !

Very sorry for the loss Ark; thinking of you and your partner xx

Wigwam - we didn't test for DS or DD, and were keen to not test for no 3, but the midwife was rude and pushy, and told us that they'd tell us anyway if there was a problem at the scan, so we may as well get the bloods to get an accurate picture. I was extremely cross, because, for us, it (bloods) made no difference at all if the baby had various disorders that would have been picked up by scan alone. We'd want to know abnormalities at scan, as they might show disorders that would involve very short life expectancy, or operations that needed to be done pre birth (not Downs), but the blood wouldn't add to that knowledge. We didn't 'need' the bloods done, as that would have been more exclusively for Down's, which we didn't feel we needed an 'exact' 'risk' for (we didn't see it as a 'risk', but just as number 3 might be a baby who happened to have Downs).

I think health professionals attitude to Down's stinks (basing this on the conversations now had in three pregnancies about why we didn't feel we needed testing for Downs). In the second pregnancy, we moved hospitals after the midwife told us that Down's 'can be mild, but it can be really, really horrible', in this godawful tone of voice when we said it woudn't make any difference to us is terms of terminations etc. I still feel cross. Really hope this doesn't offend anyone, and it was our own feelings for us, not commentary on anyone else's choices. I'm a bit over-pregnant, and having a rant.

Sends dilating vibes to Fod!

Bizarrely Wigwam I have a baby who happens to have Down's and no health professional ever said anything negative!
its mad isn't it that every hospital/medic is different!
I totally see your point though. I refused testing with the first 2 and didn't really want it this time. BUT, they do HAVE to tell you if they spot anything regardless.
IIRC though the risk factor also encompasses Edwards and Pataus as well.

Yes we were told the tests cover all 3. I don't know if that is everywhere though.

Ok ladies, there's quite a bit of blood in my shows now - should I be worried?

I don't think so. IIRC it's to do with dilation and blood vessels. BUT, its always good to ask a professional anyway. I'm really hoping today is your day matey.

Me too saggy it's kind of the last chance DH has to be present too

Oh massive fx for youfod be fantastic if your DH still around

Whoop fod. Sending cervix dilating, waters breaking vibes your way :-)

Hello ladies - I've been away but had to time today to quickly scan - woo hoo fod very exciting!! Sending cervix dilating vibes your way and wishing you a gentle birth!

I'm sure if I thought it about it more I'd work it out but my brain has definitely stopped working .. what is IIRC? And does the combined screening at 12- 14 wks also screen for Edwards?

arkady I'm so sorry - just devastating - I'm thinking of you and hope you're getting lots of support xxxx

How is it going saggy? How is lucy and the sleepless nights? Hope all going well and you're getting lots of help -

I'm so looking forward the arrival of our little one but feel so tired now that I can't imagine doing the night feeds again and just hoping baby isn't too noisy and wakes up DD .. I know it'll all be fine ...eventually ....

I've been very cautious during this pregnancy (like all of us on here after a number of miscarriages) and haven't wanted to buy anything for the baby just in case - however i took the plunge today and won a pram/buggy on ebay!!! (one I used for DD was lent to me from my sister and it broke a long time ago) - feel quite excited ... and I have also filled a basket (online) at mothercare.com with maternity pads etc..... eek! I'm 33 weeks - I think its okay to get stuff now and I'm not being too previous ..

hope you all have a good evening x

Go fod All the best!

Hi ladies, am tentatively stepping over here from the ttc boards - finally got my BFP after 2 yrs ttc & a MMC last June. Am still in shock - haven't been ovulating every cycle, just had first round of tests with GP so this is totally unexpected!

Really want to be excited but feeling pretty scared that things may go wrong again & overanalysing every symptom/niggle. How do you put it to the back of your mind & get on with things?

Not sure how to add my stats to the list:

Omama 1 DS, 1 MMC, EDD 5th December 2014

Welcome 'omama' and huge congratulations! Untill your first scan it is very hard - I was a nervous wreck and still am at 33 weeks - just take each day at a time and use this site to get your thoughts, anxieties out - be kind to yourself and try to organise things to look forward to - big congrats again xx

Thanks for the welcome ladies :) it will be good to have somewhere to chat about things, the people who have mentioned how the worries change are so right it never goes you just worry about different things...mine currently being movement! Felt quite a bit today but the minute anythings different im practically hysterical!

Arkady so sorry :( it's utterly shit, take it easy.

Squiz I permanently need a wee and half the time when I go it's just a trickle even though I feel desperate, been like this for weeks I don't have an infection it's just. the baby sitsitting on my bladder and with it being breech I get lots of kicks to my bladder too I knew it was breech weeks ago. At least im getting some exercise up. and down the stairs :)

5cm!!!

Go Fod!

for fod

Wooohooo! fodbaby on the way !!

Yay fod. Have not caught up properly as had a busy weekend, but hope all are feeling well.
A sillyish question: when I talked to MW at booking appt, she was almost happy that DH and I hadn't DTD since BFP - I had laughed about this with DH as there isn't really a good reason not to. However when DH came over a bit amorous last night I was completely not interested, and almost felt protective... not rational I know, but does anyone else feel this way? I'd just like to get past the scan and then think about that sort of thing, and I feel like another 2 weeks (10 weeks tomorrow!), is no time to wait, but perhaps I'm being silly and mean. Regardless, it wasn't happening last night as I was shattered, but there is a bit of a mental block for me at the moment.

ooh! YAY Fod!!

About time we were due a thread baby

Just catching up on the rest of the thread:

Congratulations omama! And welcome! Today you are pregnant! First trimester is definitely the hardest. Some people find it helpful to book an early scan at 8 weeks to get some reassurance but I found the best thing to do was try and keep busy by organising fun things to do on the weekends and evenings. Try very hard not to worry about every backache, twinge, cramp (these can all be totally normal), pregnancy symptom - or lack thereof (some people have loads, some have none) and most importantly STAY AWAY FROM GOOGLE. I spent hours trying to find out every single thing that could go wrong and turned into an absolute wreck. Also post on here any time you feel anxious, we all know what you are going through and someone is bound to have good advice for you.

Corpore that was a bit irresponsible of your MW, there is no reason you can't DTD if everything is going well. Although I know what you mean about being in the right head space. I couldn't face the thought of it during the first trimester but round about the middle of the 2nd tri was practically LEAPING on DH every chance I got :) Mind you, then SPD kicked in and got all miserable again so he hasn't had a look in since - poor bloke!

Ark I am so dreadfully sorry to read your news. I hope you are getting lots of RL support and love and just looking after yourself at the moment

RANT/FREAK OUT: Exactly a year ago, my car broke down on the way to work to do tutorials with struggling kids. Over the next few days it transpired I was having a miscarriage.
OMG WHAT HAS JUST HAPPENED ON WAY TO SAME JOB, ONE YEAR TO THE DAY... CAR BROKEN DOWN.
Completely irrationally shitting myself!!!

SQUIZ!!!!

Your car breaking down has nothing to do with your MC it was just a shitty coincidence. You had a great last appointment with the MW and everything was going just swimmingly. Your bean is perfectly happy in there and you are doing a fabulous job at cooking your LO good and proper. SO take lots of deep breaths and try calm down. You are fine and your bubba is just fine