April 2009 - Episode 13 - 'I've been looking for the exit for months!'

[Schulte]

Fanjo Warriors, here we are

Boff the drugs stuff really made me likewise I didn;t think anything of saying 'yes we're trying to get preggy' because 1. it was my foot 2. it would be 1.5weeks at least before any positive reading so even if I am if hardly seems like I can assume I am already or I'd have to assume I'm pregnant every month unless I get my period...what a strange way to live...I'd never be able to have wine, soft cheeses, shellfish etc unless I was menstruating. In the words of my younger self 'as if?!' and 'get real!!'
I'm still going to wait until the beginning of next week at least to see if it gets better again over the weekend. If not I'm calling to make an appointment.

Bebe. Official advice: do not have an x-ray if you could be preggers.

Unofficial advice: I spend lots of time in theatre near x-ray and I'm pretty sure BW got zapped a few times when he was a ball of cells. If you really have to have your foot x-rayed then just do it, but if you reckon it can wait until your period starts, then do that. I think it's mostly down to peoples' personalities really - don't do it if you're going to spend the rest of a (hypothetical) pregnancy worrying about it. Would an x-ray actually change the treatment of your foot anyway??

Sidling in briefly, as am exhausted.

Get well soon, BB and everyone else who is under the weather.

CONGRATULATIONS BICNOD!!!!!!!!

And thanks for the offer of a reassuring chat with your DH.
I do really want the knee sorted, I am just havering pathetically. Also p'd off at having to fork out 200 euros for it, as I have just paid lots of expensive bills and am now having to choose between new contact lenses (mine are 3 yrs old ) and a new knee. Can't afford both.

Well I'm not sure how the x-ray would change things...I guess if it's a hairline fracture or something that's one thing, but if it's a ???cyst or nerve damage or something else??? (I really don't know what can go wrong with feet) then something else would be done. The gp did say that it'd be physio if I was pregnant which made me think, 'what can they do in physio if they don't know what's wrong?' and likewise 'why can they not just start the physio right away if they would start it without knowing anyhow??'
But whatever the outcome I shall wait until the weekend has passed. I find myself short tempered and very hormonal I assume (because I'm not usually this angry and grouchy)or maybe it's the nagging pain. I really cannot explain how so little pain is eating away at me. It's not sharp or intrusive really, but it's constantly there digging digging digging...

Ah Bicnod
Sticky sticky sticky wishes. Hope all goes well.

Congratulations Bicnod, wishing you lots of glue!

Bebe they won't be able to start physio until they know what's causing it, or they might make it worse. Having said that, I had an x-ray on my foot when pregnant with Orbit, as they thought I had broken it, and they just gave me a lead apron to put over the bump. Hope you get the treatment you decide on soon.

Auld sorry about your knee ishoos. And forking out 200 Euros too. Am feeling broke right now so feel your pain.

Working from home today as Orbit was spectacularly sick all over the baby room at nursery yesterday, and they have declined to have him back today. Oooooops.

BB hope pneumonia is better soon - sounds like a rubbish time!

Well the gp specifically said that if I am pregnant they'd do physio ?? It's very strange.

So my latest rant: DH's family and bloody Christmas gifts. Every year I get a barrage of questions abt what dh wants for Christmas. Does he want this? that? here? there? how? why? blah blah blah? Well I don't bloody well know. Why don't you ask him? Well I want it to be a surprise... Well how the hell is it going to be a surprise if I have to ask him a million questions to find out your answers anyway? If you'd all just all write down what you bloody well want and email them to each other we'd all know what everyone wants. Is it going to be any less a surprise?
It's not like they're big into Santa and are trying to get that once in a lifetime dreamt of gift that somehow magically appears under the tree. FFS we're all grown ups! just ask and tell what you want and see what happens!! grrr

Am I just being rude (to make a list out of gifts and send it out to my family)? I guess it's the way you've been brought up. They do the same for Birthdays and it still drive me nuts.
I just don't know why you wouldn't ask someone for ideas if you want ideas.

And
(sorry I'm ticked off)
How come you don't know your son/mother/dad/sister well enough that you cannot make an educated guess about what they would like? I mean granted specific, technical, things I can understand perhaps. But surely you can determine for yourself after 30 some years whether or not they'd like one shirt over another?!? Or if they'd be likely to like this piece of jewellery, or this type of book? Are they really so bloody picky that they'd frown up something that wasn't 'exactly' right???

Really makes me second guess my desire to weave scarves for the ladies. THOUGH I do personally think I can choose colors and designs for them after only knowing them 5 years...

Haven't got a hope in hell of catching up, sick babies n all that, just wanted to give a big hooray to Bicnod and lots of sticky vibes. xx

Miss you all.

Oh shit, and hugs to BB, you poor sod.

Bicnod, congratulations, I am so pleased for you! (But do you know what you're letting yourself in for ) Hope all goes well xxxx and I'll be in touch soon with dates - things are manic here at the moment, house being renovated, my parents are here, Hazel has another ear infection, and she will need to have grommets put in very soon

BB - hope you're feeling better, poor you!

Lots of hugs to all and sundry

A weary wave from over the sea.

Hope everyone is surviving. Things hobble along here. A has a cold, is sleeping badly and cutting a tooth to boot, so is Mr Grumpy. We have a friend staying with his anorexic Polish GF, so I have to go and drink vodka, but just wanted to say that I won't be able to make the meet-up. Have bitten the bullet and opted for Christmas in Scotland, so can't justify a trip to London 3 days before we fly. Still plan to come over alone in the Spring, though, and meet you all.

hello from new house

get well soons to all those ill
stickiness to all those who need it
and sympathy to those with arsey husbands
I have one of those who is still in bed but will probably get up later to ask why I havent done loads of things and critisise all the things I have done. Which I admit isnt much to day as I am rebelling

If anyone wants a break away they are welcome to our spare room. I will admit the offer is partly selfish as I need company and I've given up trying to have conversations with the arse I am married to

Testing

Woohoo! Posting from my new blackberry. I have no idea what I'm doing.

Schulte you sound busy. Hope H is ok. Grommets is the quickest and most straightforward procedure ever.

Auld, how's things? Getiing any better between you and DH? Are his hours getting any easier? My toddler has just had a similar grumpy episode- getting up at 5 and screaming all day (except when in the park). Very, very trying. I imagine you won't have much free time at Christmas but if you get a spare half day give me a shout!

Bronze, sorry your DH is being an arse. They do speak without thinking, don't they? Mine is generally grand but I do wish he'd acknowledge how hard I work a bit more. He seems to have a monopoly on tiredness.

I'm very proud of my first blackberry post. Hola to everyone else xx

Zulu I see your blackberry and raise you my iPad! DP came home today with a little present for me... I nearly fell over backwards!

it's very lovely...

There's always one show off! Glad I didn't kill the thread though...

Hi Zulu!

Things are OK, hours not getting any easier, though.
Talk was talked of changing thigs and working from home more to share the burden, but that isn't really v feasible.

Just been away for a weekend in the Alps with a colleague and his wife, DH couldn't come because his bike broke down...I hardly ever see him, which doesn't help.

Will definitely try and see you when we are in Edin if I can escape from the family.

I am pointedly ignoring all references to shiny new toys, as I am .

Does anyone else's April baby tell them when they are about to poo/have just pooed/are in the middle of pooing? I am a bit as I was planning on removing A's nappy in the summer as we did with DS1 at 2.5 yrs, but A seems to be in a hurry.

Hello ladies -

Bronze - how's your arsey DH now? Hope things are better x

WFH/Zulu - wot-eva. I have a nokia crap-phone complete with watermarked display where it went through the washing machine. Beat that.

Auld - yes! O is always telling me when he's about to do a poo/wee. Think I'm going to wait til the summer to even think about potty training though - can't be doing with freezing pee. Not sure how this potty training malarky works - should I get a potty now and let him play around on it/wee on it before bathtime for example? Or best to save it all up and do it in one big go?

Schulte - how are things now? Just read about H's grommets - poor little mite. When is she having them done? And who had croup? You're going through it aren't you? How's job hunting as well? Hope to see you soon x x

BB - are you feeling better?

Bad Thing:

I might not make it to the Christmas meet up.

I know. I know! I've been arranging it/pushing it etc but I have been informed by DH that it is one of his best mate's 30th birthday party that night and I was relying on him to stay in for Oscar (he did agree actually but has since realised that the date clashes) as we don't really have babysitters on tap (or any in fact).

Will see what I can do but you may have to go ahead without me :(

Hey Gang!!

I've been lurking and lurking, but haven't really found the words to post, but have been watching all of you from here and FB.

Me and DP split at the beginning of September so now it is just Me and Iris. It's ok thoug, and things have got better in the household. I was letting her have contact with her Dad, but it all got out of hand and he was still drinking and being a generaly arse. He broke a contact arrangement about a month ago and then turned up drunk at my door at midnight, graffitied (sp?) my front door with fag ash and harrassed me via text and phone. I broke contact with him about 2 weeks ago and have changed both my mobile and land line numbers...hopefully that will stop it for a bit...

I never thought I would be the kind of mother that would not let her children see thier dad, but to be honest, he is going to abandon her soon anyway as he said that he would be going back to his country (Ecuador) and not coming back, his legal status is nil here and the threat of him being deported is too much. He is flakey atr the best of times and I can't honestly say that there is a good reason for him to stay in his life.

I don't know how much any of you knew about our relationship, but i do remember at the beginning of the year complaining about him and whether or not it was going to be a good decision for him to move with us. Well, I guess I've got my answer now haven't I!

He really wasn't a nice man, slapped DD on the legs for touching the t.v. and had told me on more than one occasion that if she did something really bad in the furture that he would "beat her"....hmm...

So, that is my life so far, I'ma single mum living in a council estate in east london, working and spending the rest of my time with DD..It's not as bad or as hard as I thought it was and at least now I know that she is out of some kind of danger for the time being at least...that is if her father doesn't come and snatch her and take her back home with him (like he threatened on many occassion).....

god it's even grimer reading and writing it all down than I thought it would be.

Bloody hell King, sounds like you are well shot. Sorry you have had all of that to deal with.
Given what you have told us I would stop contact in a heartbeat and not think twice about it. Neither of you need that in your lives.

cheers Puzzle. That means alot. thing is that isn't even half of what I had to go through, but it still doesn't stop me from feeling guilty or trying to decide if i'm doing the right thing as not letting her dad see her goes against everything I previously thought, so it's hard but.....onwards and upwards I guess.

God, Kingbeat, you have been through the mill. I agree you are both far better off without him. He doesn't sound like much of a father.
Fingers crossed for you.

Cor, it's funny, although i didn't think i'd be flamed...I didn't expect the agreement that i am doing the right thing. It means alot guys, thanks.

I didn't know how or what to post about how things had gone and what I'd decided to do.

My brothers and sister are from my Mum's first marriage and I have seen first hand how easily it is to damage children emotionally even if you are the most supportive and rational of people so to have someone as flakey as him being there, I didn't think I was doing the wrong thing by stopping all contact, however, it does still play on my mind whether or not I have.