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Sept 08: How do we like our eggs in the morning? Fertilised, or completely and most definitely unfertilised?

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 27/04/2010 12:49

A brand spanking new thread where we can chat about the state of our eggs, SWI, our veg patches and any other topic we fancy

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Debs75 · 07/06/2010 15:31

Robyn has become incredibly clingy. She cries if I'm not sat with her, leaves the room, talks to ds.
Going to bed is just as bad. I still feed to sleep but she either won't settle and i end up laying on the bed with her o she wakes as soon as she hits the cot and I end up laying with her on the bed for an hour whilst she drops off.

digitalgirl · 07/06/2010 17:18

good luck tomorrow fanny! nc Interesting. I shall enquire as to whether Clomid would be any use to me.

Pacita · 07/06/2010 19:15

Good luck, fanny. I hope you'll be keeping notes for those of us following in your footsteps!

FannyPriceless · 07/06/2010 20:20

Thank you so much for all the good wishes. I am quite touched.

Unfortunately not much relaxation today as I had to go to the hospital for pre-op blood tests and getting out of the house is quite an undertaking. Then we had a frantic last minute instruction session with my parents who are looking after DD for the next few days. Now I've just got to double check my bag and do the lady garden prep - I mean, get DH and/or a mirror to help me.

Talk to you all in a few days!

lollyheart · 07/06/2010 21:07

Very excited for you fanny

Hope you have a speedy recovery, cant wait for the baby news

Hopefully · 07/06/2010 21:10

Good luck Fanny! Can't wait to read the announcement of your baby

Urgh, dilemma. I want to take DS out of childcare. Our CM is fabulous, and he loves her, but it really is a huge financial stretch to send him there (he goes 2 days a week, but we are poor, so that's quite a lot of our income).I'm not earning enough to cover his childcare, and that's even working a couple of evenings a week on top of those 2 days, so we'll be better off scrapping the childcare and having me only working a couple of evenings a week, iykwim. But I feel so awful! She's been so lovely, and DS has been going there for a year now. Am almost crying at the thought of telling her that we need to stop sending him, but it really is an expense that isn't necessary.
I've thought about cutting it down to only 4.5 hours a day, 2 days a week (it's currently 7 hours), which means we'll still have the same problem, but slightly smaller. Any thoughts?

becaroo · 07/06/2010 21:39

hopefully I have no experience with CMs but if he likes going that much and you are happy with her then how about just 1 day per week til nursery? Not that far off now if you think about it!!!

fanny cant wait to hear about your new baby - am so excited for you!....I have to live vicariously through you all now as I am not having anymore!

Meglet · 07/06/2010 21:43

FP I am ridiculously over excited about your new baby . It's nice hearing about new small people when I don't have to do it myself .

hopefully I think you should try and keep your ds at the childminder, even if it's just a few hours a week. If it doesn't financially cripple you then he can still have a lovely play with her and the other children. My DS used to just attend nursery one morning a week and he was quite happy with it, always ran in to play and got stuck in despite having 7 days in between seeing everyone.

We saw the funeral planner today to decide the order of service for Dad's funeral next week. I'm not sure if I've come to terms with it all very quickly or I'm in shock, I keep forgetting why everything seems weird and have to 'remember' that he's just died. The dc's are keeping me on my toes so there's no time to think about being sad. I'm sure time will tell whether I'm just coping well or about to fall apart .

DebiTheScot · 07/06/2010 22:07

bookmarking and a quick good luck fanny, can't wait for news.

CappuccinoCarrie · 07/06/2010 23:05

Just popping in, fanny if you get this in time then all the best, and if you still have my mobile no then I'd be happy to post the news! We'll be on the edge of our seats waiting!

DastardlyandSmugly · 08/06/2010 11:25

Bookmarking for the birth announcement!

Hopefully · 08/06/2010 11:58

Baby must be out by now, how is it possible that Fanny's first move hasn't been to rush straight to the nearest computer and update us?

Still dilemma-ing re: childcare. I was all set to stop it last night, and now I can't decide. ARGHHHHHH

DastardlyandSmugly · 08/06/2010 12:08

Hopefully I'd try and keep it up too if you can.

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 08/06/2010 12:28

I think the funeral can be a big change of direction/turning point with grief meglet. Funerals are often the point when people realise their loved one isn't coming back. We all grieve in different ways and there is no right or wrong way to grieve, as long as you don't suppress anything xxx

Hopefully, do you have pre-schools in your area? Some pre-schools take children in the term they are 2.5 yo, so ds starts in our village pre-school in January. It's something like £8 for a 2.5 hour session. Maybe that's an alternative you could explore?

In the meantime I guess you just have to decide what you can afford or are willing to afford. T won't suffer from not going to the CM, he'll be with his mum. It's a win/win situation for him

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digitalgirl · 08/06/2010 12:34

hopefully whatever you decide to do am pretty sure T will be perfectly happy. He won't 'miss' the CM or the other mindees as he will be with you, his favourite person in the world. However, if you feel you can do with the free time to get on with stuff then it's worth thinking about what kind of balance you need in your life to make you happy. T needs a happy mum.

Hopefully · 08/06/2010 13:11

Thanks for the reassurance everyone! It's nice to think that T won't suffer whichever way I choose [guilty mother emoticon]

I'm going to have a chat with CM when I pick T up - she's really nice, and will be very honest about whether she'd prefer to have him for shorter days or not at all (they have to do so much paperwork for each child that it might just be more hassle than it's work if I cut his hours).

It's so silly, as, like you say ILTMIMI, it's a win win situation for T, makes no huge difference to me or the CM, so I just need to make the choice and go with it!

Meglet · 08/06/2010 14:50

hopefully you'd think they'd have a web cab set up in theatre wouldn't you .

ILTMIMI I think I'm going to muddle through the next week and do whatever I need to do, lots of gym and pottering mainly. Then depending on how I get on at the funeral I still might get counselling at the hospice. Todays 'therapy' was Fab Abs at the gym (ouch) and my first Graze box delivery.... which will shortly be followed by crips and chocolate .

DastardlyandSmugly · 08/06/2010 14:59

Meglet what I found is that for other members of the family and friends the funeral is a kind of closure. People say goodbye and then package up the feelings.

For those who were close to the person, who would have had day to day interaction, the funeral is only a staging point in the road. The real grief for me happens when you're least expecting it - waking up and realising they aren't there, or something pulling you up short when you'd want to speak to that person. I'm not explaining very well but I hope you see what I mean.

FWIW I found counselling really helpful, although I waited three years to get mine which I wouldn't suggest you do.

CappuccinoCarrie · 08/06/2010 15:14

Oooooh I wonder if there's a baby yet! I'm assuming Fanny didn't see my message...or is deliberately keeping us in suspense! I seem to remember her DH popping on to post last time when she had DD. I really hope for her sake that the SPD gets better very quickly.

DS is being hilarious at the moments, lots of new words and joining them together more. Fewer tantrums too which is nice, and he's started eating properly again after the pox/hand foot and mouth. Its nice to have my lovely boy back

There's not been much progress on the extension in the last couple of days. The walls are full height and they need to start putting the roof on, but the timbers were only delivered today and its pouring with rain. I've realised that we have to move out for 5 weeks . The builders said 3, but that's just til all the internal remodelling of walls is done. Then the floors need to be laid and walls plastered before they can fit the kitchen, and I'm not living here without a kitchen! Staying with my parents was so stressful last week that I don't want to do that again though. Have put out a plea on fb to ask if anyone's going away and can lend us their house!

CappuccinoCarrie · 08/06/2010 15:19

hopefully don't feel guilty about doing what you need to do for your family. I often feel guilty that my dcs have never been to child care when other people tell me how much their kids love it and thrive on it. But we've made the right decision for us and personally i wouldn't change it for the world. DD gets her free nursery place this september at the age of 3 1/2 and I know she'll have a whale of a time but I don't think she'll 'miss' having not been before. As has been said, its a win-win situation for T!

DastardlyandSmugly · 08/06/2010 15:43

hopefully definitely don't feel guilty. We're great at that as mothers. I often feel guilty that the DCs go to nursery for around 50 hours a week even though I know that they love it and are thriving there.

CappuccinoCarrie · 08/06/2010 15:58

There we have it, I feel guilty that the dcs aren't at nursery, D&S feels guilty that hers are. Guilt, it grows with the placenta

Meglet · 08/06/2010 16:21

LOL carrie So true.

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ILikeToMoveItMoveIt · 08/06/2010 16:22

Oh, I've come here to gloat.

Instead of cleaning the house while ds is with his Granny, I booked these tickets

I'm going with my sister and niece. Am sooooooo excited.

I can't wait to see Vincent and Flavia do an Argentine Tango

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DastardlyandSmugly · 08/06/2010 16:33

ILTMIMI how fabulous. Will you dress up?