November 2008: WE Are Not Interested iN eatinG yet!

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Here we go ladies, thanks for giving me the honour of starting us off again!

Wow quiet on here today. How is lacks she not signed on? Hope she is ok X

Merry that is a nice offer but like Obs says, have a think about what else you could use the money for?

Ob's crikey never thought of the double standards your doc used!

Hana, very impressed you are up for interviews, who would look after LO?

Physio ok, going to start going to 2 different places for Physio. One for Pelvic floor and another for my Bones. She understood my concerns over my hips etc as I feel they are no better and a 30 year old should be able to stand from sitting on the floor without wincing with pain. Many of my joints are painful and we are giving another month before looking at other causes and poss req bone scan?

Sorry for long shpeal!

Oh does anyone have any recommendations for a sun canaopy as Sun parasols drive me insane.

Loving the easter bunnies

Thanks obs. Well...she wants to do this as a 1-off as they are going away for a week/10 days and they usually come 4 days in that time to help out (mostly with ds1), but she is worried about me taking care of the 3 kids all on my own with no sleep, so thought if I get help and sleep, I will be able to cope ok without them and she won't worry about me!

But I agree with you. Thanks for crystallizing it!

Phew! Survived day at work.........in fact, really enjoyed it! Was nice to see colleagues again and nice to use my brain and feel a sense of achievement at the end of the day! Not that I don't achieve anything when I'm at home with P, but it's pretty much the same thing every day - he's still here, still doing ok, still smiling! This was a different sense of achievement. I must admit though, I kind of imagined that DH would spend the evening telling me what a difficult job it is looking after a baby, and how tiring it is, but of course P was a little angel today for daddy and so now DH is wondering what I moan about all the time!! I actually think it has done P the world of good having a few hours without me, he's been so happy and smily all evening, the change has obviously done him good!!

Merry send the kids with them!!

Evening all i require a little advice!!!

Since O took the bottle sunday i have been expressing slightly to relieve the pain but now i am getting hardly anything when i expressand my one boob is very sore and red. I have got some ab's in the hope i have mestitus, could i be doing anything to help or could this be anything else.

evening. I've been out all day meeting up with one of my old knicker checker buddies from when I was pregnant with DD and one of her PN thread buddies. We had a lovely day, and have set the world to rights . I'm knackered now though. DS1 still more of the same, although maybe not with the same frequency. I'll see you in the dock obs, as I smacked his bottom tonight for hitting his sister (not exactly the right message to send, but....)

Obs, what ADs has she prescribed? Although it might say unsuitable, as they can't trial this sort of thing due to ethics, they might actually be unsuitable. The paed in the maternity hospital tried to tell me that sertraline was unsuitable, but they were prescribed by my perinatal psychiatrist as safest for BFing....I know who I believe! Anyhoo let me know what it is and I'll see what I can find out for you.

Coolkat for your poor hips and bones. I hope things get better and that it's nothing more serious than residual SPD. A friend of mine was still suffering postnatally and a few trips to an osteo sorted her out; her pelvis hadn't righted itself after labour.....which reminds me to make an appointment with my osteo!

Can't remember anything else sorry......head too fuzzy from gin

ooops obs, that should have said they might actually be suitable

Coolkat what is wrong with you and what has been diagnosed? It's just my symptoms sound very similar, I've been seeing an osteo which so far doesnt seem to be having much effect. Have you seen this thread?

glad you survived the day away from P jaunita......how did your boobs do? (if that isn't too personal a question? )

Merry, I would love someone to come and do night shifts to allow DH and I to get some sleep, but only that....just take the reins to allow us to rest rather than try and impose their kooky hairbrained unrealistic ideas on my babies. Having watched some of these types in action....just make sure they have had children of their own (and therefore qualified to know what it's like) and that they aren't called Clare or Gina . But......if it were me, I'd take the money and go on a holiday that had good childcare available (Mark Warner, Bedruthan Steps in Cornwall, Kinderhotels etc)

tegan cross posted with you earlier. Definately sounds like mastitis. Can you express a bit more off, or even see if O will still feed a bit to help clear it (he will be better at it than a pump). There's no reason to go cold turkey, unless he is refusing completely. cold cabbage leaves (the curly one is best...savoy?) applied to your boobs will help between expressings, as will drinking sage tea as this acts as a milk suppressant. Hot flannels immediately prior to expressing, or expressing some off by hand in the shower will all help. I remember what it was like when I stopped feeding DS1, but had only been at it for five weeks. I think the longer you feed, the harder it can be to get your milk supply to drop. hope it improves soon.

Thanks Lacks i don't know anyone who has bf and that little bit of advice from a fellow bf'er is so reassuring

Morning all!

DH asleep, having a lie in after being exhausted by the 3am feed (which I did, he just had to listen to it, poor lamb) and Finbo sleeping and frowning at the same time in his ickle cot. Pair of grumpy arses!

How are we all today?

Merry, the bane of people paying for things they think you need - it's so hard to say no as it makes you seem ungrateful but then you feel worse if you say yes and put up with it... I like the holiday idea. I really really want to go on holiday now and I can almost feel the sand between my toes.

Lacks, how is the post-gin head? I have a lovely purple tongue from a bottle of Cotes du Rhone last night. I was naughty and topped up my glass while DH wasn't looking so now he thinks wine bottles are getting smaller.

Anyone else's little horror suddenly started introducing a night feed they had previously been doing without? Maybe Fin just enjoys the lovely winy taste of 3am breast milk.

Coolkat, sounds awful - I still get a tiny SPD twinge now and then just as a reminder (never to do it again?) but nothing like that. Poor you and hugs.

PND - I didn't think I was that bad but I've been looking back over the photos and I usually take at least one a day - I know, I know - but there is a 4 week gap where I was obviously so far down my own navel that I couldn't even snap my gorgeous boy being funny and lovely. Arrgh. So on record, Fin didn't exist for a month.

Never mind, all is well now, more or less. Off to the park today if it stays nice - never mind me getting out, have decided that DH needs the exercise. And tomorrow we are off to see DH's mum who has seen Fin exactly 3 times EVER and lives 20 mins away. My own stepmum practically lives in the spare room despite being an hour and a half away. No contest for Best Grandma there, then.

Morbid Question - DH and I are trying to sort out who would be Finbo's official guardian if we were eaten by Godzilla or spontaneously combusted etc (cheery Saturday morning thought, eh?) and he is keen to nominate my stepmum. I have some reservations: a) she will be nearly 80 when he is 20 so they might both find his adolescence a bit of a struggle b) it might cause friction with my dad, whom she is separated from c) she brought me up and while we get on great now, she was a frickin' nightmare as a parent - I had an 8.30 curfew at age 16! d) she inherited me and my sister when my mum died and it might feel a bit too much like history repeating. On the plus side, she is fab with Finbo, would keep in touch with EVERYONE, including our friends and is financially well equipped to take on looking after a child. Plus, as DH points out, if we died then Fin might be a comfort to her. I think I've pretty much decided that it wouldn't be the best solution, and my bessie mate has agreed that she and her DH would take Fin under their wings should we perish in a freak armadillo accident but... what I wanted to know is (get to the point, saurus, for the love of God) has anyone else started thinking about anything so feckin' morbid and if so what did you decide to do?

Thoughts for a sunny morning, eh?

Hi rutho. I have thought about it, but not done anything about it. We don't even have a will. My kids are DEFFO not going to any of dh's family, in particular his DB, my BIL, so I should get my skates on and put it in writing in case they were ever to get their grubby hands on my kids. [However, I think they would be too stingy to take my kids]. My parents would not cope as they get older (my Dad struggles enough with ds1 now), although they would love to be heavily involved. It would have to be my sister I think, but obv I'd need to ask her first. Or I could also ask some friends, but may have to separate kids as it is a bit unfair to ask someone to take all 3 when they have kids of their own. Anyway, I am terrible at actually doing anything about anything, so here's hoping dh and I don't die anytime soon .

lacks, I actually only missed one feed, as I was able to go home at lunch time to feed him. I took a manual breast pump with me and expressed at the time I would have been feeding him, so it worked out quite well really. By the way, Wednesday's Stay n Play was not much compared to Friday, but think I will keep going anyway for something to do on a Wednesday.

morning all,

i have not been able to put w down for the last goodness knows how long - he is wriggling on my knee as i type - he is not sttling in his cot at night and had a night of being sick every half hour (which meant i missed a lovely meeting with merry )
but anyway I haven't been able to catch up properly but wanted to ask -

when do i brush his teeth?

he has 3 about a milimetre and half out and have just realised i perhaps should be doing something. where do i start?

apologies for me post - love to all and happy weekends xxx

maybe only a milimeter out actually. can't tell!

hi barbs, sorry i meant to text and see how he is doing. poor boy! is he still being sick or was that 1 night only?

i didn't start brushing ds1's teeth for a while, till they were properly out really and several of them. Just don't let him drink coke through a bottle! But I am a bit laidback about this stuff, so maybe not the best to ask.

A friend of mine has given ds1 a very small Thomas egg. He is OBSESSED by it. I am not letting him have it till Easter, but he insisted I read it a story . By Easter Sunday he will have formed too close a bond to it, to actually eat it! It's quite sweet, I don't think any massive egg or toy could ever compete with this little tiny egg, because it is his first one that he's been very 'concious' of.

[[http://www.babycentre.co.uk/baby/dailycare/teeth/ for barbs]
the fluoride thing in the toothpaste is a bit of a contentious one I think. coming from a nation whose oral health is atrocious (they regularly hand out toothbrushes and tooth paste at baby clinics and up to end of primary school), I have always been told to use full strength toothpaste and that the 500ppm milk teeth stuff would have my DCs with falsies before they were 10. However I noticed that the MAcLeans stuff has changed recently and their milk teeth stuff is now 1000ppm fluoride so I use that for DD. Might be worth asking your HV and see what the latest recommendations are? Or see a dentist. I'm sure it's never too early (says the woman whose nearly 2yo DD has never been to the dentist and hasn't been herself or with DS for 2.5 years )

rutho, when DS1 was little and DHs bro only had one we had planned on asking him and his wife as they struggled to have babies......then they had another two by ivf and we had another two so I doubt they would want 6 children!!!! I may ask my big big sis as her two have grown up and flown the nest, but then she may not want to take on a whole new brood at a time when her sons are of an age to start producing grandchildren. DH's parents are already in their 70s and both my parents are dead so no grandparent option available really

oops, link this time

bless your DS merry . Sadly my DD would have it devoured in the blink of an eye. she is a chocoholic!

Hello all

Barbs HV's told me to start brushing DS teeth as soon as they appear but without toothpaste until he is 1 - not sure if this is best advice as we all know how many different views you get from HV's!

saurus DH and I have decided on SIL and her husband as guardians, although we still have to officially ask them. I have drafted a will but done nothing more yet - it is a bit morbid but must be done. We have made sure to tell our parents our intentions so they know in case anything happens in the meantime.

Merry as others have said how about asking your mum for something you do really want or need - a cleaner for a few hours a week, a babysitter so you can have some time off and get a massage?? Something you will enjoy and feel comfortable with.

M has been a bit odd feeding lately so I decided to see if he was interested in some non-milk flavoured food. I used my Beaba Babycook (which I love!) and made some sweet potato puree but he wasn't interested AT ALL - which I am quite pleased about. I am happy weaning him when he wants it. BTW - tongue thrust reflex, I'm not sure if M has still got it, he did use his tongue on the food but I couldn't tell if he was using it to push it about in his mouth or if it was full on rejecting solids. How do you know??

Rutho I am similar to Merry in that I haven't done anything about it. I would like my sister to have the boys and although she has 3 DC's of her own, I know she would do it without any question (just like we would take her 3) - I guess it is just a case of formalising it. I would also be happy for my brother and his gf to take them but they would definitely need money to be able to afford to do it - but I guess money would be available as the house would be sold etc.

Barbs I can't help with the teeth cleaning as I don't really know what you should or shouldn't be doing. I am still struggling to get my 2.9 yr old to clean his teeth

Merry lol at your DS1 - that is so cute! DS1 would have just opened it and eaten it without even asking/checking - just like Daisy's DD, he is a complete chocaholic (mmm wonder where he gets that from )

Choc am so of your Beabacook - is it really as good as it looked in the advert? There is no way we can afford it - the cost of doing DS1's bedroom (new furniture, duvet, mattresses, curtains etc etc) has just been horrendous!! I would say M is probably not ready yet if he isn't bothered - if he is content on milk, then leave it a few more weeks.

So far, I have pureed carrots, apple, green beans and potato in the freezer - going to do some sweet potato and some pears this week and that should be enough to start when Sam decides his milk is not enough.

not sure if he is content on just milk - woke up from his lunchtime nap at 1pm (usually sleeps till 2 and I wake him) screaming and crying his heart out and wouldn't settle till I fed him lots. He is 21 weeks on Monday - is this another growth spurt time?