June 2007 - whoever said 9 months on 9 months off needs a slap!

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Well?

fury hope you feel better soon it is hard sometimes when on the surface everything looks great but you feel a bit down remember we are here mostly

You know Fury, it is normal. It is depressing and it is lonely. But that is not all it is. Just sometimes it overrides everything else.

Sometimes my relationship with DP makes me overwhelmingly lonely. Especially when he is around.

My children are my joy and my fun.

My mum-friends are my support, my 'family' and my sanity.

My old friends remind me of who I once was (and that makes me slightly uncomfortable). I can't relate to them anymore. I have my oldest friend coming over tomorrow night - I haven't seen her in over a year. We have nothing in common, our lives couldn't be more different. I love her, but I don't look forward to seeing her for this reason.

What surprises (shocks, perhaps) is that my virtual friends (you lot) are constant company who I can find for a chat, for company and for support. For what to do with a cabbage or a dress or nice pair of shoes. In my head, MN is a real (in the virtual sense) place I go to.

So Fury, my point is - and I think I am trying to make one in rather a self-indulgent way sorry - is, um, oh bugger, I don't have one, do I? But I (we) think you are great. You are hilariously funny, sharp, strong.

Sit tight, it will pass!

foxy says it all much more eloquently than me

mrs clean house foxy

Foxy you might not have had a point but I know exactly what you mean

I have very very few friends. Some from my past life, who as you say, you have nothing in common wih any more. In fact I am overwhelmingly infuriated by one of them who honestly believes that owning cats is on an emotional par with having a baby.

My other friends - are all trying for a baby. It's scary. Of all my close friends, they have all been trying for a year or more, which makes me feel awkward when I see them.

I am so lucky with DH, I am never lonely with him, he's the best - but I never get to see him really.

I love MN but I think it can be lonely in here too (for me anyway) sometimes. Hence I like the meet ups. MN is great but what I'd give for a REAL cup of tea and a hob nob with a mate hey! (that doesn't think her cat is an actual child).

Sadly when I get lonely I tend to spend money so I am trying to direct my retail therapy urges towards useful things like groceries and books and not things I want like shoes and bags and clothes.

Don't forget the parented children Andiem.

Thats Mrs Clean House Parented Children Foxy to you! .

Of course, I only did the kitchen. Hence freeing up time for the cleaner to do the rest.

Book shopping is very theraputic. I do love a good browse.

sorry foxy mrscleanhouseparentedchildrenlady withacleanerfoxy

off for lunch ds2 eating a book

Perhaps Mrscleanhouseandparentedchildrenladywithacleanerneedstogetoverherselffoxy

Anyway, now I am on here and the baby hasn't even had her breakfast yet. (she's had some milk though! So not completely starving!) DD is home from nursery and waiting for her lunch.

That is why I have not been around much lated!!!!

BTW LO didn't get up until 11.30. Its not like I've been starving her since 6am. Just to set the record straight....

I love book shopping, and house cleaning actually.
It's highly rewarding.

Until I buy the books and never get time to read them, and the dog walks muddy paws through the house straight after I clean

Does anyone have any good plans for the weekend?

I am going to go food shopping (my other therapy), then to buy a new carpet (well ok to choose a new carpet then see if I can buy it cheaper somewhere else) and I am going to go out with DH and my RL mate and her DH to a pub somewhere. If the weather is good we'll go for a walk as well.

I am thinking of buying a dirty great big tray of muffins for the guys at work too, only a fiver from my beloved costco!

I hate carpet shopping with a passion. I've never bought a carpet, but I looked at LOTS of them with my mum in the late '70s.

foxy LOL so it's not something you endure often then?!

I hate it too, only because I am rubbish at choosing colours, so I am going for one that seems suitably neutral and boring that should hopefully absorb the colours of vom, dropped food and muddy dogs feet called 'oatmeal'

foxy why was lo asleep till 11.30? mine was up at 06.30

we are off to bournemouth for the weekend we are viewing 7 flats so hopefully we might find something they are a complete mix one needs gutting one is a brand new eco development so we shall see

I luurve carpet shopping but I like doing up houses I can see dh and I might buy the flat that needs gutting

foxy are you on hols next week fancy a meet up fury and anyone else welcome too

Fur, you are right about everyone being down from time to time, but that's no reason to go quiet - quite the opposite in fact

Very wise words from Foxy there (and you inspired me to clean the other day too)

Fury, I know how you feel, practically all our old friends have been trying for ages (and failing) to have a baby. Or have given up. Makes me feel embarassingly fertile. Then you drift apart. We hardly know anyone with kids, those that do are older.

I love it here too.

Anyway Fury, me and Ria want to know about your thighs, so spill the beans

Andiem I can meet up most weekends

Fairy I wasn't off sulking or anything - I'd had a busy weekend and wasn't online, and when I could be on there wasn't much activity and had nothing to say

I was happy being an observer

Have fun in Bournemouth Andiem, I really like looking at houses (except when every place they show you is a dump), I seem to have spent half my life doing it.

sputnik - same about the 'embarassingly fertile' bit.

My sister, best friend and other good friend have been tryng for years. My sister is midway through her final IVF attempt. And I feel like shit for talking about planned DC#2 in front of them.

My other mates either hate kids (and love cats) or are gay and hate kids.

There are lots of other mums in my local area... but they are all about 15 and wear a lot of velvet.

Fury, I have just re-read my post, it wasn't supposed to be a 'telling off' - all I meant was, if you are feeling low then please come and unload, don't feel that you have to lurk. Of course if you are happier lurking then, so be it

Andiem - I lurve house hunting too - have a fab time

I felt terrible about telling a really good friend that I was pg with DS, as she'd been trying for years - but she said 'don't be silly, there aren't a finite number of babies so it isn't as if by being pg, you are stopping me getting pg'. I thought it was very brave of her.

fury as someone who is a veteran ivfer I can honestly say that I was pleased for my friends when they told me they were pregnant I was sad for me but not for them iyswim I know some of my friends struggled to tell me but I think it was easier for me when people were very open about it rather than me being the last to know
but the difference for me was that I had ds1 and only ds2 was ivf so maybe I had the fallback of having one dc
does any of that make sense

could do meet up next weekend dh is in the states for 2 weeks

no worries Fairy
Sometimes I prefer a lurk, I think we all do

that comment by your friend was very brave, and very true. I often feel very lucky.

thanks andiem, good to have that point of view.

I am in essex with my mum next weekend, I have to rewrite and do the photos for her website (urg)

Would rather have tea and cake and a meetup lol!

I can't do next weekend either but am generally up for a weekend meet-up. Dh often takes DD swimming on a saturday or sunday, so DS and I could come out for tea and cake