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June 2007 - whoever said 9 months on 9 months off needs a slap!

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BumperliciousIsStillNotDressed · 14/03/2008 21:27

Well?

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Riallymusttryharder · 15/03/2008 09:31

I'm off to have beans on toast for breakfast.

andiem · 15/03/2008 09:38

sounds nice ria
I'm off to get dressed

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BumperliciousIsStillNotDressed · 15/03/2008 09:49

Norty andie is right about the wall and I think foxy pretty much said the same thing to me a few weeks back when I was really low. so it's happening to all of, you are not alone. I think having a baby makes you reassess your own family. I know i dread thinking about me the way i think about my mum. although in other ways it does make you appreciate what your parent went through and how they must feel about you, so no wonder you feel the loss of your dad more keenly.

we are here for you, no need to be a lurker with us x

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FairyFay · 15/03/2008 10:00

Morning everyone. Sorry you are feeling low norty , as andiem said, why don't we try and arrange a meet-up soon?

Chaos here today - DS has had 4 diahorrea's in 1/2 hr including 1 on changing mat and 2 in bath (nice!), he alspo woke with bone dry nappy so I've been on phone to nhs direct and waiting to speak to out of hours gp service. Why do these things always happen when dh is away ? Mum is on her way to help though, and ds seems quite happy. I'm just worried he's getting dehydrated.

JammyQueenOfTheSewers · 15/03/2008 10:15

Hi again.
Hugs to Norty and hope DS is OK Fairy.
I'm feeling more amiable after going back to bed from 7.30-9.30 Not sure what we're doing today, other than having a super-duper tea tonight before DH goes away tomorrow. I guess there'll be some packing etc but hope we can do something nice as a family too.

andiem · 15/03/2008 12:49

fairy hope ds is ok

jammy glad you got some more sleep

foxythesnowman · 15/03/2008 13:05

Hi all.

Crikey, its SO good to know there's a few of us in the same boat! Norty, what you said really struck a chord, and I'm so glad others came on and said the same. Was like breathing a big sigh of relief for me.

I sometimes feel like I'm struggling uphill and there's no-one to help lighten the load (well, there isn't at the moment). I feel better for knowing its not just me.

That's not to say I'm glad others feel the same .... Oh YKWIM!!

How is everyone today? See that thread about MN in Times Online? Was good, but gave some MNers sleb status.

Righto, lunch time here.

Oh, did anyone see the beginning of the Rugby? that film about Sport Relief in South Africa?

motherhurdicure · 15/03/2008 13:16

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foxythesnowman · 15/03/2008 13:55

Crikey MHC. Sounds like you are having a right-old-time this afternoon!

JammyQueenOfTheSewers · 15/03/2008 13:58

We bought a metal shed a few years back, complete with base, but failed miserably to put it together. Couldn't even get the base together. Eventually we paid someone to build us a wooden shed and DH said he would flog our metal one on ebay. Well, it's still taking up room in the corner, but if I nag him long enough he may get round to sorting it out...

andiem · 15/03/2008 14:09

mhc sorry but the vison of your dh fighting a shed in the garden and your house covered in shoe polish made me smile

foxy I rememeber feeling distinctly like this with ds1 how you manage 4 on your own I do not know

didn't see the start of the rugby was listening to the radio as a good frind is a commentator so like to listen to him but did watch sport relief last night some of the films are sooo sad

LittleMissNorty · 15/03/2008 14:14

Hello

Thank-you for all your kind words....and like Foxy, without wanting anyone to feel like I do atm, I'm glad its not just me IYKWIM

I was wiping DDs hands and face in the highchair the other day, and it brings back so many memories - many trivial - of my childhood, I remember sitting there screwing up my face whilst my mum (quite roughly) wiped all the crap off my face, washing my hair for me and me holding a flannel over my eyes and moaning if the water was too hot/cold etc.....its amazing the memories that having DD is dregging up...except I'm not 20....it wasa lot longer ago than that, and I had a great childhood....it just makes me miss that more IYKWIM....and even adulthood was good...all until my dad died...

That sounds very self-indulgent, and DH keeps saying that the family that is important is those people under this roof....and I know that's true but I'm obviously learning about how "life goes on" and how on your own you really are in this life. I feel like I'm sitting here trying to work out the meaning of life....god I've had a baby! That's all.....the effect it has on you and your mind is something else!

God sorry, another me, me, me post - and I really hope I haven't been insensitive...but my poor DH finds me very difficult to understand sometimes

fairy....what did NHS direct say? Have you been to docs? MHC - hows DS2? some really nasty bugs going around atm

Hope everyones having a good weekend....my washing is out on the line

Daisy...any news on the job front?

Phew, long post...sorry

btw meet-up would be great

kiskideesameanoldmother · 15/03/2008 14:18

i thought it was 'nine months in, nine months out' oh, sorry. that is different saying.

peer support training? cool. with which organisation?

andiem · 15/03/2008 14:26

oh norty I think becoming a parent makes us think so much about how we were parented and I can see that if it was very happy then thinking about the fact that your dad is no longer here must be really hard

we all reflect elements of our childhood in our own parenting I feel it is almost like an echo that runs through the things I do with my dcs both good and bad iyswim
I also think I want my dcs to have a perfect childhood whatever that is
men I think don't intellectualise all of this as much as women my dh takes it all at face value and I think he would be horrified if he knew what was going on in my head half the time

FairyFay · 15/03/2008 14:38

Hi all, spoke to nhs direct and then the on-call doc who sent me to the walk-in centre where I had to wait two hours to be seen. DS is fine, the doc said not to worry about dry nappy if he's alert, his mouth is wet, etc, but to keep trying to get him to have sips of water as often as possible and to take him to A&E if he does seem to be dehydrating. he also said to keep offering his full strength formula and food if he wants it, but not to worry if he doesn't.

It did seem to be a bit of a waste of time but I do feel reassured so it wasn't really time wasted. Poor little mite has crashed out in his cot absolutely exhausted.

andiem · 15/03/2008 14:40

glad all is well fairy you must be knackered now

FairyFay · 15/03/2008 14:44

Thanks Andiem, I am pretty tired but glad he's ok. When are you off skiing? I am very

andiem · 15/03/2008 14:45

tomorrow dh has done no packing and is watching the rugby we are off at 5 in the morning he can go with no clothes
I have packed all dcs stuff

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BumperliciousIsStillNotDressed · 15/03/2008 14:46

kiskidee if you are asking about my peer support it's run by the GBSN which is the breast feeding support network for my county and it a charity in itself not actually affiliated with anyone although apparently it is based on the NCT style or things and I thing most of the bfcs are nct trained.

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LittleMissNorty · 15/03/2008 14:54

2 hours ....not a wasted visit FF if it puts your mind at rest...poor little thing

Although I'm not going away, I've got to work 2 days next week then I'm off for a week ...days out with DH and DD

Farking rugby.....will be finished tonight...1 down, 2 to go...then Manchester City live on tele tomorrow...GREAT!

Riallymusttryharder · 15/03/2008 14:56

sorry for the poorly DCs.

I think being a parent sometimes highlights how crap being an adult can be sometimes

It's seems trvial really, but I am having a crap day. DH has been informed by the DWP that he isn't considered "incapacitated" enough to get incapacity benefit any longer. It makes no difference really as I suppose (hope) they'll give us jobseekers or income support instead, but he is being forced back to work, and it's not for want of trying that he's not working anyway. People aren't going to want to take him on knowing he could potentially be having another operation any time soon. - 'scuse me a moment - FUCK IT. He's really suffered from the bits of part-time "trial" work he's been doing too.

I really thought we were about as low as we could get.

And he's just remembered (after agreeing to decorate the bedroom) that he can't actually move his arm to the right angle to roller the ceiling. So I'll have to do it.

Sorry for rant.

On a positive note the ebay bed is perfect and in really good condition. Super bargain! I've just lost all interest now.

FairyFay · 15/03/2008 14:56

One benefit of dh being away for the weekend is not having t watch non-stop farking sport

FairyFay · 15/03/2008 14:58

That really sucks Ria. for you all.

kiskideesameanoldmother · 15/03/2008 15:00

sounds good then. i am a mother supporter with the ABM and have just started my bfc training. (module 1 of 8)

andiem · 15/03/2008 15:02

ria that really sucks

kiskidee I want to do the abm thing just haven't got round to it yet

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