March 2007... soon they will be one!!

[kiwibella]

Well, Jordi is our first one year old.... they will be catching up soon .

I was tempted to write the subject with reference to NM .

PMSL Kiiwi - yes the bit about hiding:

Give them each a biscuit, put cartoons on and hide for as long as you can before they notice you have gone!!

lol

i bought a pair of maternity leggings today as i needed some to do my excersise in but all the 'normal' ones only come up to my belly button and fall down as soon as i move.i was sowhen paying for them though(but not about the fact that dd2 was pulling bras off of a rail onto the floor and shouting 'bra,bra')

ds2 was running around the lingerie section of asda today singing 'bra bra titty titty bra' to the tune of 'she'll be coming round the mountain'.

i love my kids

diva!!

pmsl kiwi
Yes yes yes
Except Finn never sees the dry cleaner...
Poor deprived child

Oh had delightful hour yesterday 6-7pm as dd and Finn had both finished dinner, they played wonderfully together for one hour, giggling, swapping, teasing and peekaboo in one huge cardboard box.
Brought tears to my cynical old witchy eyes it did.
I have gorgeous children.

still here lurking in the background.
i have a new childminder and start on monday but i am horrified by the contract. my last two childminders agreed that when they go on leave i do not pay yet this new one says i pay her half the going rate when she is on leave so feel a bit put out as i too have to go on leave. does not seem right to me! next i will be covering maternity leave!!! must remember to cancel contract by october otherwise i will be paying whilst on maternity! am i being unreasonable?
and also she has to take her kiddy to school and though i do nto start work til 9 she asks me to drop Hayden off at 830 so she can take kiddy to school but i have to pay for that half hour even though it is not my choice, i would drop off at 855. am i being unreasonable?? shoot me if i am!

Hello - I'm still here.

I just saw Spicemonster (Sazzy) on another thread saying she has quit her job - anyone know if she is okay? It was that "why oh why do some Mums WOH how dare they?" thread.

Dh is a total dickhead pardonez moi mon Francais. Says he wants to separate... but live in the same house 'cos the housing market is crashing and he'll never be able to afford to live on his own. I said if you want to leave then you leave and if you don't you stay here and make it work I'm not having a half way house.

I think he only said that 'cos he wants to be "officially" separated so he can go out and cop off - he would feel too guilty atm as he is officially married. Knob.

Diva will reply to your msg on FB; have just been a bit up the wall.

I'm applying for a nice better paid job atm; still full time but flexi hours again and this time with paid hols and a pension and everything! So we'll see.

Tbh I'd be quite happy to split from dh but would feel bad about taking Bertie out of mil's childcare which - much as I call her sometimes - is actually quite caring and she does make him the most healthy food ever, and never lets him cry to sleep.

Dh said, "if we split, mil will deffo carry on doing childcare though." "Have you asked her?" "No, but I'm sure she would". Yeah, right, I'm sure she would.

He has put absolutely no thought into this whatsoever - think he just wants to go out on the pull and wants to be "official" so he can do it with a guilt-free conscience.

Thing is he can't cope with how I have changed as a result of having Bertie... (i.e. turned into a bit of a hippie lentil-weaver type) BUT he wasn't that keen when I was high (ish - higher than him anyway) earning career obsessed type either... used to go on about how long hours were keeping us apart...

Lack of sex doesn't help tbh but he has never shown an interest except for dropping sarky comments (oh yeah, they're an aphrodisiac you know ) about how long it's been.

Sorry, didn't mean to rant, I know everyone has problems of their own. Just in limbo a bit now... wish he'd make up his ruddy mind and be man enough to actually f*ck off and sort out living separately... but I doubt he will.

Bethoo isn't there another childminder? I don't know if this one's requests are unreasonable or not as I don't know enough about CMs but if there are others who don't charge like this, could you get a different one??

Lunar Toby is so cute & so clever .

Kitty D&V is horrible, sympathies, Bertie had that too. And he and Ron are such skinny pontipines that they can't afford to lose much weight.

Hey there all (and especially reversethepolarity )

I've not been posting TBH because Elliot is so backward compared to your babies - he's not walking or talking (well he says about five words). I think he's just doing things in his own time but there isn't much to report. I am reading and keeping up with your news though

The only news I have is that I handed in my notice today . They have been dicking me around for bloody ages - I was supposed to go back after ML on a higher grade and it didn't happen and now I've taken over the job of someone who was on that grade but they won't promote me because of the 'economic climate'. So basically they want me to do her job but on a lot less money. So I told them to stuff it because I have a new job at a competitor. I work in a really commercially sensitive role so I'm hoping that they won't make me work my notice which means I'll get three months off while being paid! Cross your fingers that I get that.

I will have to move E from his current nursery because it's geographically impossible with the new job. What do you think about CMs? Anyone use one? I think it might suit him better. He had a key carer he adored but she's now left and the new woman is very efficient but not very cuddly and he is a boy who needs lots of affection. And they are starting to use a lot of agency staff which I don't like because he doesn't know them.

Sorry if this is rambling - I've been having a few celebratory drinks with my mum

Hi all

Mossy - sorry to hear (D)H is being a twit
about the going out on the pull - has he been off doing this already? hope not

Bethoo - no clue about CMs but worth looking at the CM topic. Would your CM be back from school in time for you to drop off closer to work time?

Sazzy - hope you get the gardening leave that would be lovely. I tried to find a CM here for adhoc care before DS started preschool but didn't get on very well. Friends use one over in Chelsea and get on fine.

bethoo-i would defo post in the CM section.i have never used a CM but that does sound wrong to me.there are loads of experienced people who would be able to help you im sure

mossy-((((hugs)))).sounds like (d)h hasnt taken to reponsibilty too well.maybe he would be happier running back to his mummy?it sounds like he still needs looking after.dont worry about not replying on FB,im just glad you havent fallen out with me

hmmmm,i am starting to think i should listen to dh more about the way i'm bringing up ds2.if i dont get tougher he will turn into one of these 'but i know the sun shines out of my arse cos my mum says it does.how dare you suggest otherwise' type blokes.

sazzy-Elsie isnt walking either.normal walking age is between 9 and 18 months,and IME normal talking age for boys is...actually,do they ever get past grunting and gesturing towards what they want?i'm pretty sure males of all ages only talk if its absolutley necessary
i hope you can find suitable childcare for him.

spicemonster - Hayden only says mama and dada, and is not walking either which to be honest suits me. the sooner they are talker the sooner they are backchattiing you!!! the sooner they are walking the sooner they are waking into trouble!!

CM are so hard to come by as they do nto like to actually work iykwim so not many take babies and my friend who used this cm said that she was abit of a money grabber even though she is a goos cm! i have gone from paying my previous cm £75 a week to £92 which may not be much but i take home £700 and that is £400 gone straightaway. you see what i mean, luckily alot gets paid for otherwise i would be in trouble!

Spicemonster Bertie isn't walking yet - not even close - and although a month or two back he went through a phase of saying lots of things... now he just says "otts da? otts da?" to everything with pointing.

That thread descended into madness didn't it? However I do think that my favourite bit was that if you don't woh you are able to teach your lo to say "thank you" instead of "ta".

So where does that leave northern sahm's who will be teaching their lo's to say "ta" anyway?

Diva I hadn't fallen out with you!! Just was trying to formulate a reply in my head to explain what was going on...

TheBlonde I don't think he's been on the pull already - that's the problem for him, he does have a moral sense and to go out copping off - even for a snog - when he is still married he would see as cheating. Hence the "oh let's split up but still share our house & money" crap .

Bethoo they're not cheap CMs are they? Could you find one who already has her own dc's as I would imagine they'd be cheaper?

Right this morning I'm going to the Children's Centre as this support group is finally getting up off the ground and we start on 3rd May, so there's a bit of prep to do.

Mossy - I have WOH friends here in London who hate the 'ta' thing, DS (3) said tack (thank you in Swedish) for ages before getting the hang of thank you
I think it's a norf/sarf thing

Spice - my LO is also not walking or talking
She is also still bald

Anyone else still have a bald baby?
DS needed a haircut before he turned a year but DD is still a chrome dome

The HV asked me this week if Ron was saying any 'words' I said I didn't know as I was too busy to take much notice. He 'chatters' away all the time though, coming in to tell you something.

TheBlonde ds2 and dd3 were baldy babies all my others have been very hirsute!

Mossy, so sorry your dh is being a tosser. Tbh from what you've described of him he has always behaved like a petulant little boy. I reckon you need a man to look after you .
You're very right about the whole moving out/it's over thing. If he's that desperate he can go back to his mum, although by the sounds of him he would quite gladly go and live with her. Sorry if being a bit harsh.

Bethoo I second the posting in the CM section, they will know whether your cm is taken the piss. TBH it sounds as if she is a lazy mare, wanting money for old rope.

Spicemonster, Elliot isn't backward!! Please don't worry. Hey, adopt my attitude of taking no notice of where they're at or what they're up to! Although I suspect it takes having far too many kids before you get to that mind set, still you could try . I must say though that with my first I was a nervous, paranoid wreck it's only natural though

would like to announce arrival of teeth 9 and 10. Very suprised indeed! Might explain chattering in the cot @2am. Yawn!
mossy have texted you sent as 2 msgs if it is missing let me know! Sorry shitty times are at yours.
bethoo know nothing about cms. Hope you get good advice.

Saz have had one late late developer no words til age 3. Let me tell you she never shuts up nowadays aged 5.
Think kids with older siblings often get on quicker but it levels out by 18-24 mths.

Right... Beer o clock

Hi y'All

Anyone watch Dr Who?

Bluddy brilliant!!!

Been having emotional rollercoaster here (marriage problems) and tres busy at work

Had nice day today at children's big shed with bouncy castles play centre place. DD attended a party there, so let DS1 take afriend and then took Monti off to the baby section: he loved it!! Spent 9o minutes climbing and whizzing down slides.

Spicey/Bethoo IMHO CMs are the best option for under 2's. Cheaper than nurseries and a home from home environment. I would't send a baby to a nursery but that's just my own view. Mind you DS1 loved nurseries from aged 2 upwards

Bethoo CMs all differ in their policies re pay. My current CM charges when I take hols, but she takes 20 days a year off unpaid. (She only ever claims abiout 14 of those though). I pay £45 per day for Monti!!!! And another £15 for taking DS1 and DD o and from school. When it is school hols I never put all three with her as it would cost me £135 a day!

Spice I love's CM's a good CM is like gold dust. Much more flexible than a nursery and the child will get much more 121 attention and cuddles. A good CM is like an "Aunti" or a 2nd Mum

Polar agree (as usual) with Kitty's comments about your DH he strikes me as immature and selfish. What are you ging to do?

Dive PMSL at your DD's and their celebration of bras

DD is fascinated by my bras!

Where is Rosy?

Is she still away then?

Diva/Kitty/Evenhope and all those with big broods: Do you feel imprisoned by the daily grind? I feel as though I haven't had a fecking minute to myself for 13 months. I adore Monti (and spoil him rotten) but I keep thinking back wistfully to how easy my life was when we only had 2 DCs.

foxy-i have been wistfully thinking back to when i had only 2 dc (when i had a social life).i dont feel imprisoned by having too many children,just by being stuck in this small town with small minded in-breds.

i need a car.and a licence.

Someone let me out.

Oh I feel strangled by immobility.
I have learned to snatch moments but it's not being able to go out with the kids where the older ones would like because of all the little ones iyswim?

This hols I asked ds2 whether he was looking forward to going back to school, whether he had been bored etc. (Just to fill you in we have not gone out once these last 2 weeks because of v. nasty bug doing the rounds. The older 2 and I escaped, but dp and the rest came down with it and it's NOT nice.) Anyway he said he had prefered hanging around at home because he was able to relax and chill out , although bless him he'd asked me whether I had had such a good time.

Foxy are things at home getting worse? email me

I feel trapped and I only have 2 DC
Don't think we will be going for 3 at this rate

DH & MIL went out to church hours ago and are still not back

Thanks for all the reassurances I'm getting very fed up with people asking me if he's walking yet (which seems to be the only question people have). And all my friends' babies are/were walking at a year. He'll do it in his own time I guess

Yes I think a CM is the way to go fitfox. I was a bit put off because I'd heard horror stories about reliability but I think Elliot would much prefer that continuity of care. He is a very cuddly boy too and I worry that his new key carer isn't very affectionate with him. Until last week when he was crying and she picked him up, I'd never seen her holding any of the babies. She's very efficient but not very warm.

Sorry so many of you are having a rough time. I might get lonely sometimes but at least I don't have any expectations of anyone

foxy I used to feel really trapped by the children when the older 4 were little. I can remember describing to the HV that I just wanted to get in the car and drive off a cliff Things don't seem anywhere near so bad with just one littlie.

sazzy my DD doesn't walk alone or speak. I am getting a bit concerned because my eldest 3 walked and spoke at 10-11 months but she obviously understands me.

She was waving a little yellow FP bear at me so I asked her where the other one was, as she also has a baby polar bear. She just grinned so I went back to MN. Next minute she's tapping me on the knee to show me the baby polar bear

mossy sorry to hear you've still got problems with H.

We've just been away for the weekend. We had had 2 nights of DD sleeping through (about 11pm to 7am) before we went, for the first time in about 8 months, but of course the night away she kept waking up. Then she did her rolling around trick and inevitably fell out of bed. She did scream.

bella the spots are nearly all gone and she's back at nursery

Thanks for your responses to my question - seem to have hit a nerve. Its odd how you can feel completely hemmed in a trapped, yet isolated and lonely at the same time IYKWIM ?

Kitty - gets better/worse/better/worse

Can't email but may try and give you a buzz next weeknd or something

Yes Foxy, please do ring, it's better if you ring me because then I'll actually get to talk to you which I'd really like!!

Hello everyone, did you all have great weather today.?
It was fab here.
I took the two littlies for a 5 mile walk. I had the double bug, a pack of cheese sandwiches and my i pod. it was super, boy am I tired though !!