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LunarSea · 23/04/2007 07:25

Morning all - new thread as the old one's about to hit the 1000 posts limit.

Not so great this morning - feel like an egg-bound chicken IYSWIM. Grrr - especially as I managed to avoid it all the way through pregnancy. And not sure if there's anything I can take for it while I'm feeding?

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Mossie · 23/04/2007 12:34

Foxy... that Jack Newman thing is a godsend... I called the NCT Breastfeeding Helpline thingy too... looks like he is not getting enough of that hind milk to fill him up, so got some good tips from a nice lady on the phone as well as on that web site...

I am just going to have to learn to sleep when he is sleeping, as well!

I need to just have a bit more patience... as does dh I guess...

Think I'm gonna ditch hypnochair (as I call his bouncer) as it only works one time in three anyway and it's doing my head in.

Have discussed co-sleeping with dh... he's not really up for it... will see how we go.

Sorry I'm rambling a bit.

Bertie is asleep now, I get paranoid about leaving him to sleep too long though...

Will come back when I'm a bit more settled I think!

TheBlonde · 23/04/2007 12:36

Mossie - if Bertie is asleep you should go have a lie down too

Rosylily · 23/04/2007 12:39

I thought I was a patient person before I had a baby, then I had to dig down to a whole new level. Then I met dh and I had to dig down to a whole new level then I had more babies and I had to dig down........

kittyhas6 · 23/04/2007 12:40

Very at those babies who feed 2 hourly I f I get an hour between we're doing well .
Actually I think he has been a little bit cold these past few days. It's been so confusing with the weather that I've not known what to put on him. Apart from with ds1 I've been used to cold weather babies.
I was worried about making Ronnie overheated and I think I went too much the other way. He's happier now he's sleeping in his cocoon and has a hat on

foxcub · 23/04/2007 13:33

Mossy - Jack Newman literally saved me when I had thrush a couple of weeks back - I was thinking of giving up BFing until I read the peice on his website on thrush

anyway - go and get some sleep woman

BTW Monti has been feeding 2.30 hourly today - hey Mr. what happend to your 3 hr feeding?

Jaysecond · 23/04/2007 13:35

Well what can i say other than you all are doing the most AMZING JOB. We all seem to be having very similar problems, lack of sleep, too much sleep, wind, constipation, crying, etc etc etc.... i guess whist all babies are different, TBH they all go through very similar things! Think it was Kitty that said, this is a tough time, weather the storm we will come through it and when we do it will be the brightest sunniest day ever!

I have managed to resize and post a cpl of pics on my profile. I have looked at everyones pics and we really do have a lovely bunch of babies, although Jensen was 'hit or miss' as to if he was going to be gorgeous at birth, id like to think hes turned the corner and is now very bonny!

Nothing really changes here, hes still feeding every two ish hours, day and night, kinda getting a bit of routine in the evening, re bath time feed then going into his moses basket but up till today the basket has been with us in the living room. As of tonight i am going to leave it upstairs so he can get used to being away from us to go to sleep.... i just tell myself 'little steps'!

Anyway best go, DD is due to wake from her nap, and Jens stirring beside me on the couch... going to try and feed him before i get madam up. Love to all xxxx

LunarSea · 23/04/2007 13:40

Mossie - interesting that nearly all the 2nd (or more) time mums are saying they'll take the baby in to bed with them to get them to sleep, eh? Surely it's worth you trying it to settle him if you get a repeat performance of last night?

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Rosylily · 23/04/2007 13:48

Jay gorgeous pictures and Jensen is really cute. they both look sweet in the buggy together, your 2 babies, aaw.

LunarSea · 23/04/2007 14:05

Have added a pic of Toby to my profile.

He's started making this little cooing noise - sort of "I like that" when he's sitting looking into my eyes, or when he gets his toys to do what he wants - very sweet! He's started batting at the hanging toys on his baby gym too now - hope we're not setting a precedent that hitting things produces a positive response

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foxcub · 23/04/2007 14:08

Lunar - Monti is doing little cooing and chirping noises too - so cute

Mossy - I think you would love co-sleeping - its so lovely to wake next to your baby - better than waking next to DH!!!

Piffle · 23/04/2007 14:20

Jensen looks fab, very alert!!
Toby looks so cute!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Finn being angel baby today, doing it by the book (what book exactly I'm not sure but feeding playing napping nicely and calmly)
Tons of smiles and cooings and really digging his toys - the playgym and stuff now

It's like some synapse in his brain has just clicked and suddenly BAM here is a slightly different older person - his movements are more intentional as well.
The newborn bit has gone

Piffle · 23/04/2007 14:23

oh we have the compromise to co sleeping
A bedside crib like this one - I often simply lay with him alongside him and can scoop him closer in one easy movement

kittyhas6 · 23/04/2007 14:30

Lunar and Jay your boys are so sweet!!

Piffle, I've always wondered when the newborn period actually stops. Do you think it varies from baby to baby? There's a look that new borns have. Ronnie still has that. Perhaps it's when they strat to become more interactive, sniling et.
I think those bedside cots look great. I would have bought one if I didn't already have a house full of various sorts of cots and beds!

Mossie, there's nothing quite like waking up with your tiny baby all pressed up against you. Much, much better than being next to a smelly man

Rosylily · 23/04/2007 14:31

Hhmm, that looks a good one Piffle. My bedside cot only adjusts to 2 levels and doesn't level up to my bed. all the same I might try using it as a cot and not a changing station soon.

Rosylily · 23/04/2007 14:32

Lunar lovely picture, isn't he sweet!

divastrop · 23/04/2007 16:39

kitty-remember that Elsie and Monti are about a month older than Ronnie,thats why they go longer between feeds.

I think once babies hit the 6 week mark and have a growth spurt the newborn look totally disappears.in the space of 2 days Elsies gone from a floppy-head,skinny looking baby to a squishy,alert+holding her head up baby.i had her on the playmat today and she was bashing the baby gym.and dd2 was bashing her with a teenage mutant nija turtle

im taking her to the docs tomorrow as she wont stop pooing.she did have a tummy bug,it started over a week ago,but shes still pooing about 10 times a day and her bum is red raw.i've even stopped using wipes and started with the cotton wool.

anyway,im glad we arent co-sleeping as ive had to wash all her bedding the last 2mornings due to poo leakage.

i love waking up next to dp,he smells all comfy and lovely.

DollyPopsOut · 23/04/2007 17:22

Oh my god! Someone has spent two grand on my credit card and IT ISN'T ME! What am I going to do? The bank is looking into it but am frantic here.

SOrry for shouting but I feel very stressed. DH is away and I have to go and get DD1 from nursery. More later XXXX

foxcub · 23/04/2007 17:31

Dolly - your bank are liable not you - try not to get too stressed (I know that's easy for me to say...). This is happening to loads of people atm and was on the news yesterday. The bank has to return the money to you.

Licky you noticed it - if it was me I'd just look and think "OMG must stop going to Waitrose so much!" I never even check my account

Diva - Elsie sounds like Monti in her body language etc. He's really stregthening his wee legs with those "standing up" movements and holding his head up and smiling.

I really love that pic you had up of Elsie smiling - that's the best baby smile ever!!

I absolutely love co-sleeping BTW - go on Mossy, kick DH out of the bed and get that baby in there

foxcub · 23/04/2007 17:39

BTW Kitty, Diva and Rosy - hey, why didn't you warn me that having 3 DCs is so much harder than having two???

[exhausted looking old hag emoticon]

kittyhas6 · 23/04/2007 17:39

Oh dear Dolly !!!!!!!

kittyhas6 · 23/04/2007 17:41

Foxy you don't want to look at me then

I found going from 1 to 2 and now 5 to 6 the hardest jumps. Depends on your baby I reckon!

Mossie · 23/04/2007 19:10

Well... Bertie went to sleep at about three and I got two hours' sleep.

I tried co-sleeping the other night, but I miss sleeping in a bed with dh terribly... I didn't share a bed with him for about the last six weeks I was pg.

Although when his paternity leave finishes next week, he will probably sleep in the spare room for a bit so I will probably take Bertie into the bed with me. Those of you who co-sleep, what do you do about bedding? I know Bertie isn't meant to have a pillow, so where does his head go, by my head just not on a pillow? Or by where my chest is?

I do feel a bit like I'm going slightly stir crazy at times. I must keep an eye on it. Still getting that paranoia about mil/dh, today mil came over and I was close to being downright rude.

She really does mean to help, I told her I was trying a different latch to get him to drink more, and she helped me get his arms out the way so I could latch him on, and watched to check he was doing it properly.

And then half way through I started to feel really edgy, like she was checking up on me, just waiting for him or me to make a mistake...

Told dh and he now thinks I have a problem with mil... which I don't...

Do these paranoid feelings go away? Is it normal or should I speak to the health visitor about it when she comes on Friday?

I keep reading loads of stuff on the internet, hoovering it all up, and in a strange way I don't think that's helping, can't explain that very well, it's like I've lost my sese of perspective a little. I mean, when every book, website and other source of information and every person tells you something slightly different... you end up not knowing what to believe...
Bertie crying must go

AmieR · 23/04/2007 19:10

Mossie - had a few nights like that myself with Joseph, you'll get it sorted no doubt with all the good advice from the lovely crew on here.

Lunar- will get round to your mail! Been doing work today! yuk!

oh and we have smiles from Joseph now :D

kittyhas6 · 23/04/2007 19:31

Mossie, listen to Kitty now!!!!!

You have a new baby= very tired. Sleep deprevation is used as a form of torture!! When you are very tired you lose

  1. your sense of humour
  2. your perspective
  3. your ability to reason
  4. patience

Remember what I said about the sandwich eating woman yesterday?

Now, reading lots of books, stuff on the internet is going to do your head in. They all say different things and all have their own agendas. You need to take bits YOU think will be useful. Try stuff out and don't be afraid to reject stuff. There is no right or wrong when dealing with babies and children, there are only things that suit you and your temperament and lifestyle.

All Bertire needs from you is:
Lots of cuddles
Food
to be kept clean(ish)

All the rest isn't important

Some babies cry ALOT It doesn't mean that you are doing anything wrong. They wake alot in the night and they feed like gannets.

Got to go, thousands of children need putting to bed!!!!

Mossie · 23/04/2007 19:51

Kitty

You are great

Turning computer off now!

xxxxxxx