DECEMBER 2012: Please babies sleep, before you turn 1!

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No fever, and has been fine since going to bed. Shes had one coughing fit but didnt wake up and hadnt bern sick. She may well have just been holding her breath and scared herself. She has been poorly but has been getting better and has been quite bright some of today.

hello again all.
glad to hear T seems OK WL, sounded scary.

I'm back working for one intense month at Bath Christmas market - sorry you didn't come to visit Spotty. MIL is visiting for 6 whole weeks from NZ to help out with babysitting, for which I'm very grateful but there's a certain strain in the household!
so tonight ds has vomitted massively requiring a full change and new sheets each time. MIL claimed I overfed him when I came home to boob him to bed . I rather think it was the two day old unrefridgerated leftover pig cheek stew she fed him for tea!
if it's food poisoning what should I do?? just hope he gets it all up and carry on as usual or should I get him checked out?

on a brighter note he was 1 yesterday, no parties here - far too busy but got to spend most of the day with him. then he gave me a beautiful present of a clear unbroken 6.5 her stretch of sleep - that's the best sleep I've had in a year .

Oh no pru! I would just keep an eye on him and keep him hydrated. If the food didn't agree with him hopefully that one lot of sick was it!

Hope you're doing well at the market we will try again next year

Glad t seems ok WL.

Hope no ones been badly effected by flooding etc

T was fine over night, I checked on her a few times and she was breathing easily, good colour etc. I left the sensor mat on and it only went off when I got her out this morning - I remembered to turn it off for her night feed - just the one - hoorah! She saved her cough induced milk vom for our bed this morning so I'll be off to the launderette this morning!

pru as spotty said but if he gets a sustained fever or can't hold water down for more than 8 hours get him checked out. Try a syringe full every half hour if he's having trouble and then reduce the intervals. Poor baby.

utopian here's the link for the children's centre with the sensory room. It's in sheerwater which is a very deprived area so I guess they've had lots of funding for lovely stuff but its still a very underused resource.

www.wokingchildrenscentre.org.uk/contact_us.htm

Sorry posted too soon - phone them to book a half hour slot, I think it's available most mornings.

Gosh, how scary WL . Glad she was okay overnight though, and I hope she feels fully recovered soon.

I hope DS is getting better Pru and a belated happy birthday to him.

Thanks for your advice maryland. We don't really have a clue.

We're off to a play group this morning, then meeting a friend for lunch.

Poor baby Pru, hope he's on the mend. So many sicky babies at the minute.

Glad T had a good night WL.

Something's happened to my nap fighting monster. Yesterday he climbed on my bed (oh yes he can do that now ), put his head on my pillow and went to sleep at 10am. I was just straightening my hair and was totally . Today it took 20 seconds to get him to go down, I think it's the tonsillitis making him sleepy but it's awesome!

Long may it last willyou

I woke up in the early hours and found A sitting up and about to go for the bedside table again.

Off in a minute for the nursery Christmas party and DD's nativity play (she's a shepherd). I missed it last year because it was a week later and Anthony was born.

Your DD's are so cute spotty and Barbeasty.

How is your DD feeling now WL?

Belated birthday wishes to your DS and hope he is getting better pru

Basically, DP and I are rocky again!! Before I found out my news I wasn't sure what the future held. He is supportive about the (spontaneous!) pregnancy in theory but made snide little remarks throughout yesterday's scan. 'we were only here the other day' etc. I'm also knackered and feel like everything is on me. The cooking, shopping, cleaning, childcare. I'm not saying he does nothing far from it but when he's ready to check himself out he just has a nap on the sofa and is out of the loop, leaving me to deal with everything.

I've also been suffering with loose bowels (sorry if tmi) this week and feeling very run down. We're barely talking. Sleeping top and tail because he can't cope with DS being in bed with us. DS is a bit of a flailer in his sleep, I woke up with his head on my neck the other day! I can't cope with him being in our bed sometimes and then having to get up and get both he and I ready for him nursery and me work. But I'm doing the best I can. I feel that my best is never good enough. Just completely fed up. I'm close to saying something that I won't be able to take back and the way I feel at the moment, that's ok.

love that your DS can climb onto the bed fandango

WL glad t is feeling better.

2blessed sounds tough hope you're ok.

I'm so angry with dp. Dd wet the bed this morning and she was fast asleep when I got her up at 5:50 so I could leave for work. I was out the door with her and ds by 6. Dp was up and left at 7:20 and hasn't stripped her tucking bed. Her pillow and duvet got wet too. It's all still wet and it stinks. He didn't even open the curtains

I haven't even had lunch yet

2blessed is it possible for you and DP to go out for a meal somewhere, just the 2 of you? That way you could talk about how your feeling i always find that a neutral area means me and DP talk better. I hope your ok.

WL and Prunella i hope your babies are feeling better.

Willyou wow self settling and naps i'm very

willyouclimbing on your bed for a nap sounds super cute!
spotty I'd be furious too. Men can be so thoughtless.
2blessed that sounds tough, I hope you can talk it out. Would you/he be up for any marriage guidance? Every now and then I blow mt top to DH about me doing everything and he gets better for a bit. I know he doesn't intentionally leave it all to me but he's crap at noticing what needs to be done and about looking more than 5 minutes ahead so never meal plans or generally makes any arrangements!

thanks all. wangled a day off today so I could look after ds and make sure mil didn't feed him anything putrid and he seems a lot better though his poo smells really rank.

2blessed . Sounds like you're having a really tough time. I'd second Hales's advice to see if you vsn get some time alone to talk away from the house. Know it's not always easy though.

Hope babies WL and Pru are ok.

I'd be too Spotty. Could so see DH doing the same though and not appreciating that some things really can't wait till later even if he is on his way out.

Well as if cutting four teeth at the same time wasn't enough N now appears to have hand, foot and mouth disease too. He's got a mouth ulcer and little blisters on his hands. Doesn't appear to have affected his appetite. His sleep however is another story.

I find that men are capable if helping out but doing nothing off their own backs! Forever asking me what time is food, where is this where is that, it's like they can't think for themselves. I don't really think it's deliberate though? But it's still v irritating!

Spotty that is SO annoying. Like I said, it's as though because you didn't specifically tell him it needed doing it didn't occur to him

2blessed I hope you're ok. Definitely sounds like things need talking through. Remember though.. I'm not defending your DH but I know my pregnancy hormones made me completely intolerant!! I'm sure you really are doing your best but never think your best is not good enough- give yourself a break! Being a mum is really hard work..

Those of you that co sleep I don't know how you do it! DS was in our bed from 3am with his bloody cough and I didn't get a wink after that. So so tired tonight..

2blessed walk out and leave him to deal. Seriously, tomorrow just let him sink or swim for a few hours and take yourself out to breakfast. Dp is amazing - it's not all men, Maryland - but needs reminding occasionally. Sounds lije yours needs to realise exactly what you do for your family and therefore him.

Ds was in bed by 6:15 and dd fell asleep on me at 6:30 so it was nice to have some cuddles with her. Just had an Indian and think I will have to go to bed soon!

WL that sensory room sounds amazing! Think it's pushing it for me to go on my own with the children though it's just a bit too far. Shame as there's nothing like that round here

:) to hear it's not all men Pidj ;)

2blessed no wonder you feel like you do! I struggle to keep up with cleaning and I'm not back at work (I do actually wish to see other adults but I don't have a proper "job" to go back to) and there are many days when I just cannot spread myself any thinner because I am exhausted even though my brain is still running off a massive list of things to do. You are not super human but you are a super mum! Sadly men often need a bit of a slap with reality to make them realise everything you do. DH is wonderful and fantastic, but he sometimes sneaks off to the computer when he supposed to be watching DS and that really bothers me!
On the other hand, when I was pregnant with DS I did have a massive rage row with him because he used too much shower gel . Yes, I was rather ridiculous myself. Make sure you get some time off to look after yourself, have a rest and put your feet up. Big hugs!!!

On a completely off thread note... I managed to fight with FIL over DS's high chair tonight. Then later I put MIL in her place about the general stress they place on DH and that it is having a purely negative effect on us both. All of this at BIL's birthday celebration. It's been a long time coming. Poor DH didn't want me to say anything bit well, they pressed and I exploded. Now DH is relieved that it has all been said.
And BIL pretty much said "well done" when we left.... Why are some family members so busy makings life difficult and why don't more people put them in their place and tell them they are being childish and selfish?? Phew. Rant done.

I was impressed with my German tonight ... Mostly.

This time a year ago i was pushing and H wasn't coming after being told at 10pm that i needed to go to theatre and have an EMCS she was born at 1am on the 7th by Forceps (Theatre was full and there was no alternative). I can't believe how fast its all gone. I am about to make her birthday cake so my dads going to jump in bed whilst i do it.

Good on you Nutella for sticking up for you and DP, sometimes saying it helps clear the air.

Hoping for lovely sleeps for everyone

Spotty i would be upset too, i hope its all sorted now and that you and DP had a lovely indian together.

Well done Nutella! Did they respond at all?

Aww happy birthday h

We're fine thanks hales we bicker but never for long (I get super grumpy when I'm hungry!)

Yes well done Nutella! What did they say? Did you do all this in German?!

Hope H has a lovely day Hales.