DECEMBER 2012: Please babies sleep, before you turn 1!

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Dp is getting grumpy because it's men's morning at nursery this morning and he doesn't want to go such a nice thing for him and dd to do and he's being a misery. He's also annoyed because I asked him to: get a stamp, some canesten cream for dd (bastard antibiotics) and some petrol, all if which is on the main road to nursery and easily done but apparently it's too much. This is just the sort of thing I have to do day in day out!

I'm another one with a fairly useless man. He goes to work every day, and gives me a lay in at the weekend. But he wants his evenings and weekends off as time to relax - which means he doesn't really want to go out with DS, and if he gets 5 minutes to himself goes and starts playing computer games. It also means the bathroom hasn't been properly cleaned in 3-4 weeks (the chemical smells make me feel sick with the pg).

Hope your DP grows up a bit Spotty and accepts having DC brings commitments and responsibility.

Well done on confronting the PIL Nutella.

Hoe you can sort things out with DH 2blessed.

Hope poorly babies are feeling better all round.

And happy birthday to H hales. The last year really has flown by hasn't it?

He is good really he's just so grumpy at the moment as he's still struggling with this ear infection. Bear with a sore head

Just watching the news about the flooding it's so sad

Stacks those bathroom wipes are a life saver quick wipe round and it all looks sparkly

Happy birthday H

Happy birthday h! Can't believe how fast it's gone- dd was 1 on Thursday. Having christening followed by party at ours to celebrate her birthday for 45 friends,family & kids- oh god what have I let myself in for!!! Fingers crossed we can all fit in the house!

2blessed hope you manage to sort things out with dh. Sounds like you need to sit down & have a good talk. Maybe if you're co sleeping may be worth trying to find a way of having some quality time just the 2 of you as maybe he feels a bit pushed out especially with another on the way. Men are just like big kids!

Happy birthday H! Well done forgetting her out hales!
It's gone so fast - bless their not so tiny cotton socks!
Has anyone found away of keeping gloves/ mittens on? T seems to think its a great game to take them off and give them to me.
Good work nut - impressive language skills.
spotty DH and I can bicker a lot too especially when we're tired but we're solid really.
So the good news is that T slept really well, fed at 4 and 6.15, coughed a bit but not sick.
The bad news is was mega sick all night - luckily I stopped about 3.30.
DH is being a star and even though I'd promised him a lie in he's leaving me in bed all day and sorting all 3 dds. Poor dd1 is so upset that we can't go to sils birthday lunch.

WL can dh make her a special lunch to make up for it?

Dp got a parking ticket

She's been consoled with putting up the tree.
Oh dear spotty

I want our tree but we're too busy this weekend, well dp is this afternoon and we need his van to put it in!

Not sure if to do a tree as can just see it being mauled by the kids & ending up on top of them!

Our tree came out of the cupboard! We have to have a proper one for dd1&2 so it is going in our upstairs lounge (3 story house) where we have a travel cot set up as a playpen so T can't climb it! Then we'll have a tiny baby tree on the windowsill in the downstairs kitchen/dining/living bit that we mostly hang out in.

Ours goes on a table in the corner sofa one side and I will put dd's table the other side. Also real ones are spiky

When I say proper, I mean big fake!
Oh dear dd1&2 have told DH they have tummy aches. I really hope that's not true as we have tickets for the Christmas at kew illuminated trail for tomorrow evening with friends and they are so excited.

Oh no WL I can't believe how much is going round it's horrendous. Also had a few cases of whooping cough at work yesterday. Wrt mittens ds' snow suit has fold over arms so I do that but sometimes just one so ds can suck his thumb

Kew sounds amazing tomorrow I hope you can make it. Disappointed in the fake tree

Yep, I think fold over will have to be the way to go. t is already getting too big for the suit I bought a month or 2 back (aged 18 months) so mil is going to buy her a new one for Xmas. I will stipulate fold over arms.

By the time we get a real tree upstairs its mostly bald!

We're doing the kew garden trail next wkend- let me know how it goes

R has his mittens on elastic threaded through the arms of his coat

Well done Nutella

Happy birthday H

Gosh, can't DP/DHs been insensitive/ unhelpful creatures. DH is getting much better, but it's taken until now. When F was tiny, he would refuse to help at all.

Should probably post this on AIBU, but I kind of know I am, even though I'm seething. In laws have only bought DS one tiny two and a couple of outfits all year. They've never asked what he might like for christmas/ birthday, but do now we're buying him a ride-on. They've repeatedly told us that they've really gone to town with presents, but announced today that they've bought him not one, but two ride-on motorbikes. One's for now and one's for later apparently (3+!). We live in a small house and really don't need/ have space for three ride-ons!

Happy birthday H and also many happy returns for last week baby Ddas .

Oh no WL - hope they are ok and you get to go to Kew, it sounds amazing.

Our tree is up . It has been an hour now and N has had a brief explore, but since we moved everything that DS1 put on the bottom branches out of his reach (spoilsports) he seems to be leaving it alone. Have done a bit of cunning fencing in with the arm chair and the toy chest, so it may survive. I love a real tree, but we've had an artificial for the last few years. N is like a human hoover so I dread to think what he'd be like with pine needles.

Yanbu, tell them to either take them back or keep them at their house. It's a pet peeve of mine, money wasted on unnecessary gifts not to mention how disrespectful it is not to listen to the recipient's wishes

I agree pidj i feel so guilty when people buy well meaning yet inconvenient/unwanted gifts and wish they'd just ask. It's such a waste of money. Are you close enough you could ask them to take it back? I would be able to with my pil but I understand not everyone could!

Ddas happy birthday to dd hope the christening is lovely and stress free

I have the same situation Equi. Mil asked what to get, I said the play tent from ikea and she has instead bought him some kind of ride on that DSiL has described as "Absolutely enormous". I don't know what it is but I have a suspicion it's a trike not a ride on which is what we told her we were getting him.

She always asks what to get me/DP/DS and we should've learned that you never tell her what you're buying, you never tell her not to get something as that's what you'll get and don't bother thinking of anything when she asks as it'll only piss you off later when she doesn't buy it!

J has taken 3 steps today, but he's decided that's enough and he has totally refused to do any more!

I gave sil fairly specific guidance for R's birthday - she has two of her own, one with significant sen, does the same for us/them and has limited time to get to the shops - he got none of it. I got a book, which is kind of what i wanted, but it's the Yummy Mummy Survival Guide published in 2006 rather than the post-apocalyptic fantasy/horror i suggested which is the third in a trilogy i love and which i can't afford for myself I'm enjoying the book I've got, i devour anything with words pretty much, but why not spend the fiver on the one i desperately want? I feel like an ungrateful bitch, but Christmas and birthdays are the only time i get stuff that's actually for me so tat is a huge disappointment eyes up cupcake kit from mil last year that i know cost at least a tenner and which was never going to do anything but languish in a cupboard while i concentrate on the 5 week old baby

Don't even start me on dp getting me nothing for my birthday, either from him or from R

Oh pidj I feel your pain on the nothing from dp or dc it's so frustrating isn't it? I've got almost £100 in vouchers still (half have expired) for a local beauty price which dp's family buy me all the time