Feb 2011 - First year over! Whatya mean it gets more difficult!

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Handing out , and birthday cake

tarlia I can't see your photos.

Baby mindee is poorly so is at home. I will prob spend the day wallowing now.
debka If we had found out Zoe had ds before her birth there is no way we would have opted to terminate. Unfortuantely there are loads of people with differing views on this. I know my dsm and ds are those "other people". \i have had to put up with them informing me of this and telling that Zoe not being here "is for the best". Fuckers.

Ah blizy that must be so difficult to hear. My first thought was that she should have told you in person or over the phone. She must surely realise how hard it would be to find out. I get a bit cross about important sensitive news being sent in a text. Obviously others have to carry on with their lives but it does make me a bit when they are insensitive. Fingers crossed for this month. X

Sorry about my downs 'moment' I normally can keep a lit on it, it was just one of those days yesterday. I try to be a non-judgemental person about lots of life issues (one good thing that hours of mning has taught me!!!!).

Have good Wednesdays all. X

Blizy don't feel guilty or ashamed for feeling how you do, you are entitled to feel like that imho. Whilst its good news for your sister I'm sorry you have to hear it if that makes sense, I've said before how jealous I felt about all pregnant women I saw when I was ttc, especially the ones I saw smoking it's just not what you need right now is it.
Oh and at your family saying that about Z, I can't believe they would 1) think that and 2) have the nerve to say it to you?!

blizy that's really hard for you, my heart goes out to you, when I was trying to conceive Sofia, my horrible cold sister in law became pregnant very quickly. I will never forget Mr Ws face when he came off the phone and had to tell me, I wailed and wailed and wailed "but she's a bitch and doesn't even like children" .

Four4Me There is a higher percentage (not sure if I'm wording it right) of people with Down Syndrome in NI than other UK regions, well there was when I was growing up. Different reasons - larger families, smaller gene differences, no abortion etc, so we always grew up with people with Down Syndome being in our lives. A couple of people I went to school with had siblings with DS, my aunts sister in law is a very independent 50 year old living with DS. Olivia goes to nursery school with 2 children who have DS.

I hope this doesn't like one of those "Some my best friends are ........" conversations but you know what I mean.

Oh and I meant to say if you make it over at Easter and need anything for the kids - travel cots etc, just let me know and I can throw some stuff up to your sisters or meet her with it.

ponyo Hope A feels better xx

americanexpat having a little bit of a giggle at L being a teeth overachiever

reastie hope you're ok and just having 'tinernet issues, miss you!

blizy - Feeling jealous is a completely normal human reaction. She has what you have been struggling to get, of course you feel jealous. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Aw blizy nightmare. I felt very very vile towards all pg women when i was ttc after my mc so you are definately allowed to. I remember collapsing in tears when i was told sil was pg and imagined she had done it on purpose to annoy me and that mil was telling me to upset me its very natural and so bloody unfair.It will all smooth out when you are pg yourself,i even saw the dr about my extreme hatred and jealousy so dont feel bad. Can you do something nice today to take your mind off it?
Have you spoken to your gp re ttc yet? Maybe they can hurry things along.

Sorry for my rant, I am very embarrassed about it. Thanks to you all for some insight.

Blizy, please don't feel embarrassed about your post earlier. I don;t know many people who wouldn't feel the same in your position. A girl I know at work and one I used to work with have both told me their pregnant this week, and even though dh and I have no plans for another I felt really sad. Your family are an insensitive bunch aren't they?

Ledkr, yes men are poo! I have to give dh specific instructions with anything I need him to do, mostly I just give up and do it myself!

Re Downs Syndrome. We never had the test during either pregnancy as we knew we would not terminate should either baby have signs of downs.

Must go my tummy is rumbling and I'm feeling a little faint so must go get some lunch. Se y'all later!

Don't feel embarrassed. The emotions you are feeling are perfectly normal!

I can't believe you got a text . That's not on, IMO!

You are allowed to feel the way you do. You have had the worst thing imaginable happen to you and it is understandable.

Before I had DD1 I was at Leeds Festival. I was TTC and I had just had a MC. There was a woman in front of us who was pregnant. She was drinking, smoking and it looked like she was taking pills (although I couldn't be certain but the people she was with definitely were) I felt like lamping her one. I didn't even know her and I didn't have to see her again.

If I felt like that then God Knows how you must be feeling and I'm so sorry . It's so unfair!

Emski I always feel a bit when people announce their pregnancies, even though we have no plans for more . I really don't like it (the jealous feeling I mean, not people being pg I'm always excited for them) am I always going to feel this way?

pssst I always feel a bit green too even though i have 5 and have been having babies all my life.

Don't be embarrassed blizy - better to share and know you're not on your own feeling how you do than keep it to yourself and feel guilty.

ledkr oh yes to men not having a clue - its so annoying because I could nag ask dp to do stuff but I shoudln't have to - its either be a nag (and then he doesn't always do it anyway) or not nag but be pissed off

Well I took A to the docs this morning, apparently she has had gastroenteritis :( Doc said she was fine to go to nursery, no temperature and she seems better in herself, so I took her - does that make me a bad mum?! I can't afford time off work unpaid and have no annual leave left, so annoying. I just rang nursery and they said she's fine, just being a bit cuddly. Please don't judge me!

Ponyo, if doc said A was ok to go to nursery then don't feel bad. She's obviously coming to the end of it.

Is it wrong that I want more babies even though I was so poorly with PND?? We're not going to try but I feel I want to have another especially when I hear of other people getting pregnant. I don't know if the feeling ever goes away Robin.

I'm glad others have admitted to being jealous when anyone announces a pregnancy. I thought it was only me.

blizy - Don't apologize, we all have reactions that we're not proud of. When we were TTC, our friends did IVF as they had fertility problems and had been TTC for years. Fortunately it worked but I was so jealous that she was finally pregnant and I wasn't, even though they'd had to go through so much work to get there. I'm pretty sure most of us have a similar story so you definitely aren't alone.

Ponyo - I'd do the same tbh. As long as she's not feeling really poorly, she'll be fine. I'm pretty ruthless about it though, I hate paying for nursery if it's not being used. :)

Ponyo stop worrying ! The doc said she was fine, nursery said she was fine.

Emski I think that it's one of those things I'll have to get used to. I'm often at toddler groups so there's always someone! Maybe as the girls get older I won't hear as many announcements but maybe it'll be something that will fade with time?

It's not wrong that you should want another despite the PND. Maybe it won't happen again. Did you have it both times?

I definitely don't want anymore. In our situation it's not practical (house too small, would need bigger car, financially) and two is enough (for me). I wouldn't have the patience for three and they grow up and get more expensive, plus I want a bit of my freedom back.

toddler group has properly wiped out little miss this morning, she's slept through lunch!

me too!! My dh has a theory that when I get out of the baby bubble ie all of my friends and family stop having babies and my ovaries shrivel up then I'll stop feeling a little bit sad and envious when there is a pregnancy or birth announcement!

wiggles I may well take you up on the offer of equipment over in Belfast, still sorting out dates, flights and mil to help with Tom and Imogen. Thanks so much for the offer. Will let you know.

Just had a lovely pm from a lady on a special needs thread, feeling very smiley and good

blizy It must be extra difficult to hear atm, however your turn is coming and maybe your new baby will love having a cousin so close in age? Hope you are okay missy x
robin love it when they are all tired out, admit I took C to soft play today for that express purpose :)
ponyo If the doc says its OK its OK. Don't worry about A I bet she's getting extra loves and attention at nursery so she may well be loving it!
ledkr How irritating of him!
Hi everyone else, hope all having nice days?

I feel a bit of a loser today as I realised I have actually - maybe - made a proper Mum Friend at baby group! I know quite a few other mummies of babies locally through all the various activities we do, but not really clicked with anyone. And all of a sudden I actually look forward to hanging out with my new MumFriend. WTF?! I never planned for this! She's just really cool and nice. Its like when you meet someone you fancy and you drop them into the convo all the time - now here I am, going on about my lovely new pal to you lot. Does anyone else get a bit giddy when they make a new friend or just me? :)

Hello all, just checking in. STILL NO INTERNET - it's not being done until next tuesday yes I have paid the bill . I miss you all . Madly in the middle of inspection so a little crazy here, sorry I haven't yet caught up but no time as trying to do sainsbos shopping from my mums laptop while they are out and alice is breaking everything in sight at their house . Will be back as soon as I can. Oh, deb you will be proud of me - I got out my little stepper machine and weights from the loft and did a little mini workout earlier.

blizy hope all is OK, been thinking of you

I wouldnt know mizk i dont really have many Mum friends.Plenty of drinking friends though I started to get on well with this woman at baby group but she kept cancelling everything,i got a bit paranoid but it was always her who made the arrangements then i found out her marriage was on the rocks so she probably had other stuff on her mind.

Arent we all brave admitting our jealousy. When i was pg i had lots of nasty "you must be mad" type comments from women,i suspected it was jealousy now i know.

Well ladies,ive got my racing post on order for next week,i have the week off and will be spending it languishing at home watching cheltenham races and having my little bets. On Friday we are off to gold cup day. Brekkie,bookies,bus,races,champagne,tote,lunch,more champers,bus into town,curry,wine and to the pubs for the Irish bands and dancing.Oh and more champers.I am mega excited. I met dh 6 yrs ago on the 9th and he thought i was an alcoholic cos i was off work and drunk everyday

Hellooooo...

I've just tried to catch up but I'm going to have to skip too many personal messages as I don't think I've been on the thread for a few weeks so am totally out of synch with what's going on.

Blizy Lots of hugs. It must be so hard when you hear about anyone being preggers, let alone your sister. I just had to text a friend to tell her one of our other friend's had had twins, when she should be 7 months pregnant herself but MC. :(

Reastie Hope the internet is fixed soon. When ours broke I yelled at them like a mad woman and got it fixed by the area manager the next day. Total first world problem though!

ledkr You CANNOT be broody?!? With your brood?!

wiggles and Four4 I hope you get to meet up.

It's been all go here, work is crazily busy for me and DP, we hardly get to see each other and when we do we're so knackered we just head to bed :(
I'm enjoying work though, I suddenly realised I haven't had a single day since I went back where I've though Bah! Can't be assed. Which is obviously a good thing.
Romilly is doing really well, she's proper walking now and doesn't want to hold our hand when we're out. We bought one of those rucksack carriers so she can hop in and out of it if we're in the park etc. Note to you all though, don't buy the babies white shoes - scuffed to hell after 3 weeks. She still loves nursery - although we had parents evening last week and they said her numeracy isn't quite up to scratch....Her favourite game currently is "Put the Ugg Boots on the Gruffalo".

Right, better go as am supposed to be working and need to have a quick tody before I go and fetch R.

Lots of hugs to you all...

Aw, Ledkr sounds dead exciting!

MizK I do but mainly because I'm very shy and sometimes find it hard to talk to new people. I like making new friends .

I have lots of mum friends but the only thing is that I always feel like I have to be on my best behaviour! I went to a friends on Friday for food and wine and had to control myself because usually I swear like a trooper and get a bit gobby when I've had wine!

only joking. Nice to hear from you now you are too much of a working Mum to come on here.

robin I cant get on your profile?Am i barred?

my internet is back on honestly - I've been having major mn withdrawl . Would someone mind catching me up over the past week and a half please?