Jelly and ice-cream and candle shopping here we come for our amazing ONE year olds!

[beaditAli]

Hope this covers it! Not sure what cakes we'd all be making so kept that out

I know lumpy I have spent the day all excited - some of my work mates think Im nuts as I havent even met her!! just goes to show the bond we have now!!!
Good luck Sassy!!! Hope you are already all wrapped up in your lovely new baby!! xx

hi everyone. just home from the hospital. quick post for the minute.

baby girl
19/10/11 -5.40pm
9lb 15oz
emergency c sec.

we have decided to call her Eva. no middle name yet.
we are both well. she is in my arms now.
will post more soon. x

sassy GORGEOUS GORGEOUS NEWS! Welcome little Eva and wow..... what a size! Glad you're all good and I bet Chloe, Jacob and Isobel are silly with giddiness
Lots of congrats to the whole family and hope you're recovering well xxx

Love, love, love the name!

That's fab news sassy34264, been checking all day! Congratulations to you all, Jacob doesn't know what is going to hit him in a house full of women!! Love the name, will she be eeva or ayva. Wow, I thought mine were big, looks like the growth scan was right

How's best to get local advice on MN re: schools and catchment area housing? Chat or Local threads? Basically thinking we need to move and no idea where to except for places we can't afford so want to seek out the hidden gems!

I have no idea beaditAli, I only really chat to you guys on here and do the odd product test. Give Kirsty and Phil a call [hwink]

Congratulations Sassy. Love Eva. Lots of love to you all. Oh to be in that newborn cloud again Im not even broody and I havent got my periods back yet . But is such a beautiful moment.

Congratulations sassy and family! Just seen the pics on facebook and she is so scrummy! Hope you're recovering well! Xxxxx

Congratulations sassy and family! Just seen the pics on facebook and she is so scrummy! Hope you're recovering well! Xxxxx

Congratulations Sassy!!! Am soooo broody now. Thinking of stopping the pill when last packet runs out next month...but only going back to work next week so feel guilty about planning more maternity leave!!! Love Eva, photos are gorgeous.

Congratulations Sassy love the name can't wait to hear what the twins think of her

beaditare you moving for work, up/downsizing, family? House prices are cheaper then average where we are and if you shy away from the counil estates there is some nice places

Sassy Thats wonderful news-been checking all day! Delighted for you and all the family! She is gorgeous and her name suits her perfectly. I hope all went well for you and you take the time to recover! Cant wait to hear more hugs to you and every blessing to little Eva! x

hi. i know you've asked about Eva, but i cant even think about that at the minute. my heart is breaking about jacob and i dont know what to. he is in s right state and so am i at the minute. lee has just took him to emergency docs. he isnt eating, his whole body has got a rash, his face is blistering and he has scabs all up his nose cos of his eczema. he wont be comforted by me, he wont come near me and just cries and acts like he hates me. i didnt think he would be so affected cos he is so young. i forced him to let me comfort him this morning and he eventually stopped crying and just lay on me like a limpet. any experience of this with older children? what should i do?

I really can't help as ds1 was not jealous of Luke at all sassy34264. I'm so sorry he won't let you comfort him, it's horrible when they are not well but don't want to be held. Luke very rarely let's me cuddle him unless I'm feeding him but ds1 comes for cuddles all the time. One of my minded little girls keeps hitting, kicking her mum and pulling her hair and telling her she hates her. Mum is convinced its jealousy of her 5 month old baby sister, never directs it at the baby or her dad. Do let us know how he gets on at the doctor, do you think the rash is from being distressed or something else?

I really can't help as ds1 was not jealous of Luke at all sassy34264. I'm so sorry he won't let you comfort him, it's horrible when they are not well but don't want to be held. Luke very rarely let's me cuddle him unless I'm feeding him but ds1 comes for cuddles all the time. One of my minded little girls keeps hitting, kicking her mum and pulling her hair and telling her she hates her. Mum is convinced its jealousy of her 5 month old baby sister, never directs it at the baby or her dad. Do let us know how he gets on at the doctor, do you think the rash is from being distressed or something else?

Oh sassy I can't even begin to imagine what that must be like! You must be worried sick! I get the impression from things you've said that Jacob I quite clingy with you! Just try and be strong and hopefully in a few days when he gets used to Eva he should calm down! If his rash is stress related then that should clear up as he starts coming to terms with the shift in routine! As for his echzma (sp) hopefully the doctor has sorted it out! I know it's difficult but just try to act natural around him as if nothings changed and hopefully that should help him settle! I have no idea if any of this advice would actually work I just think that's what I'd try to do! I hope things sort themselves out quickly and just remember you have support from us and from your family! Xxxx

Dss just told me that dh had dinner with them on Monday night and I'm really :(. They went to an open evening at the secondary school he's hoping to go to next year. He took something with him to eat at work so he could go straight there as it's much closer to school than our house is. I wouldn't have had any problem with it, I'd be happier knowing he was eating something proper but the fact that he didn't tell me and even took something to pretend to eat is what upsets me. I think I do my best to help him to be there for his son whenever he can, he goes to parents evenings with his ex and I have to stay at home as she doesn't want me to go (when I was younger my mum made and appointment with my stepdad and my dad when separately), any performances at school and anything really that he needs to be there for. I just thought we were honest with each other and I hate the fact that it was easy for him to lie to me about it :(

I've been away for aaaages so I know I've missed loads but just had a quick skim read, and mammoth post coming up...

sassy congratulations! I'm so envious of you happy for you! It must be very confusing for Jacob and Isobel so I hope Jacob feels better soon. I really feel that orlaith will be like that if/when we have another child. It must just be very strange and confusing as they've had you pretty much 24/7 for the last 14 months. I obviously can't advise but I hope you manage to work something out where all your children are happy.

newmum dp and I have been through similar problems and have argued a lot. I was feeling very bogged down as it felt like I had total responsibility of looking after orlaith and the house, as well as having assignments and exams. I was just generally stressed and felt I'd kind of lost myself, and this was just not what I thought my life would be like at 25. I suppose part of it is feeling disappointed in myself for not having graduated and got a career. I gave it time, I kind of had this deadline of after orlaith's birthday, and if I still wasn't happy I'd move into my sister's flat. Bu things have got better. I had my exam the week before last and now I'm free from uni work for a few months. I've also started working once or twice a week at the pub I used to work in, and I'm about to take on more work in dp's business. DP asked me to work alongside him but I chose not to as I think we argue too much, but working on the accounts side means our roles are completely separate, and in separate rooms!

cinnamon I can totally understand why you're annoyed and upset. Do you know whether it was actually planned or if they just decided on the day? You really need to speak to him and let him know that you'd much prefer if he just told you what he was doing. He probably just didn't want to hurt you though and didn't think it was a big deal.

Orlaith is 13 months today, walking everywhere now, saying lots of words and said her first 2 word sentence yesterday (it was "where daddy?" as we walked downstairs in the morning), she seems to talk a different language, and is generally a dream to look after now! but still wakes a few times in the night, grrr

Sassy Im so sorry you are so stressed. A friend of mine has a little boy with very bad eczema - I hope Jacobs' settles down soon. I had some issues with DS1 after DS2 was born. He was just about 18months old and to top it off his eye teeth came when the baby was just 3 weeks old. On top of all that I had a traumatic birth with DS2 and was a bit disjointed. DS1 was very put out but not angry with me as such but very clingy to DH. I just dropped everything for a few weeks. This time of year is a great excuse to not go out etc and hold off visitors for a while. I only dealt with what housework i could and DH did batch cooking for evenings i wasnt up to it. I declined all the nice offers people make to take DS1 out/away etc to give me time and just had him around me all the time. I stuck to DS1 routine rigidly so as not to upset him further and worked the baby around him. I even introduced a bottle to DS2 at 3 weeks just so i could do DS1 supper, bath and bed without major disruption. I had DS1 with me nearly all the time when he was awake - even when feeding I was reading him stories etc. After a while he relaxed a bit and (not what everyone wants to hear Im afraid) but I stopped bf ing at 10 weeks and DS1 went totally back to normal then as if he didnt feel DS2 was taking up all my time. I also came around myself at that stage too so it all came together. At the end of the of the day its you he wants to make it better even if he doesnt know it himself so hold tough, be you, and do what it takes to coccoon yourselves and adjust to the beautiful new addition! Sorry for such a long post. Sending you loads of hugs

thanks mammyg and everyone too. i never saw this one coming. it feels like i went into hospital for 4 days and lost my little boy forever. which is making me cry even now. i know that wont be the case but i dont want him to change even a little bit. i dont think he is jealous of Eva, it doesnt much notice her existence and dp agrees. it was me not being here i think. i didnt think it would matter because my mum and dp were looking after him.
he is coming round now. i think the forced hug helped on sunday. but when he was upset yesterday, he wanted his dad. his skin is still a mess, but we have 2 lots of cream and some anti biotics- so hopefully it will calm down and then go. he is still not eating like normal, but he did have one meal yesterday that i gave him, were he almost finished it.
dp has been getting up with them in the morn, to let me sleep and its hard for me to change nappies, feed them and lift them at the moment, so i cant revert back to me being the main caregiver at the moment mammyg but that was my thought process too. i also leave eva in her cot when i first go downstairs, so shes not always in my arms etc- just in case he is bothered.

isobel has changed too. she is now the boss! she has sniffed his vulnerability and took full advantage.

Eva is a dream. she is still in that sleeps lots stage! she feeds completely different from the twins. she can go hours with no feed. i had to keep waking her after 4 hrs when we were in hosp. but she got weighed by the mw on sun and she was only 1oz off her birth weight, so i decided to just feed on demand. she seems to go hours during the day 5-7 hours and then she likes to cluster feed from about 11pm till 3am.
she is so little! even though i know shes not. but the twins make her look tiny.

I was going to ask if they feel big to you now sassy34264. Ds1 fely gigantic when I had Luke but he was 3 1/2 so that's not suprising. Glad you've got some treatment for Jacob and I'm sure he will come around once he realises you are home to stay. It is probably a defence mechanism to protect himself in case you go again and don't come back. Hopefully you will heal quickly and can get back to normal soon. Cluster feeding 11-3 doesn't sound like fun though!

its not cinnamon and my nipples are killing me. she just doesnt want to open her mouth wide enough! she is getting better though.
sorry to hear about your problem with dh. i would be hopping mad. was it pre-planned or just a spare of the moment thing? the thing with men is, when they see something as no big deal but know you would get upset/mad etc,they think the best thing to do is not to tell you- man logic. but to us, we think- if its no big deal why didnt they just tell me! he would be in the dog house for quite a while if he was my dp.

speaking of which- my dp was in the doghouse for most of last year, cos he didnt get me anything when i had the twins. ive thrown it in his face more than once! he came to the hospital the day after Eva was born with 3 bunches of flowers, a piglet teddy for eva- saying happy birthday, a tin of roses and a card. he had also bought roses and a bottle of rose moet for when i came home. ha. i think he learned the hard way.........it only took 14 months.

YEY Sassy Massive massive massive congratulations! I've been away so had no internet! Why did you have to have an ecs? did you go into labour??Great news that Evas settled well, sorry to hear about jacob. I'm sure he'll come round. Sounds like it was bad timing and that he wasn't well anyway. I know you've got creams etc but have you ever tried Aveeno? Its wonderful stuff. you can get it over the counter or on prescription. Its natural and oatmeal based. Ds1 had awful eczema and it cleared it up almost immediately!

We've had a couple of lovely days away at my parents flat in scarborough. bit windy & chilly but just nice to be away!

Sorry things are so hard Sassy I remember Lucy wouldn't open her mouth wide enough at first, she nipple fed for a week or so but then she got stronger and it was more comfortable. Jacob will come around. I remember DD2 was a bit jealous so I made sure after each feed I put Lucy in the moses basket and gave her loads of cuddles and playtime with me. It seemed to work, she is more jealous now infact.

Can anyone shed light on why Lucy's poo is now a lovely beige colour? She has had a virus/cold with a rash, which is now clearing. She has been very snotty and then yesterday she was sick in my bed. since then she has been sick again, although not much, and pooed 3 horrid beige like poos. she is also very grumpy although that could just be her temperament.

Debs ds1 always did lovely beige poos when he was poorly.