Oct 08 - It's all about weeeeee!!! Hopefully in potties but who knows!

[50ftQueenie]

Hello! It's me. I thought I'd start a thread which is VERY cheeky for someone who's not been around for AGES!

Hi all, remember me?! Sorry ive not been on for ages. We went to the Just So festival last weekend and are going to Hatton country farm in warwick this weekend for their camping weekend so non-stop here! I've not read back but hope everyone is ok. DS turnes 5 months the other day, things are getting much easier now, he's going longer between feeds and poppy is much more settled. I'm on the highest dose of ADs and they seem to be working. Still exclusively BF so thanks for your support in my wobbly moments guys!

I'm taking DS to a sensory room at a local children's centre today with some friends, Pops is in nursery.

I'll try to come back soon!!! x

Emma's last day in 'nursery' today - starts preschool tomorrow! she's very keen, but I'm not sure she realises she won't be going back to her keyworker. I'm sure she'll be fine.

good to see you back HMM, i remember 5 months being significantly better than what had gone before, but mainly because i started weaning and he started having daytime naps.... back when emma did too... bliss!

am in a big grump with DH and he has no idea why because i don't want an argument with him... he's so self righteous in an argument. He's basically really busy with work and has been working a couple of weekends (out of the house) and done a couple of long day trips.... so far so 'poor DH'... but i have been basically running myself ragged picking up the slack with the childcare and house... i think he forgets that I am doing a stressful full time job too and often work evenings. I may not be travelling, but I would gladly have a night in a hotel right now if it meant i got a full nights sleep even if I did have to do a bit of work while I was there.

so that is part of the partnership and I accept it, but what has wound me up is that if I ask him to help me at all, I get whined at because he's so busy. If i express even the slightest dismay at having to wrangle the kids into bed by myself for the nth time I get a run down of why his life is so hard at the moment... I got home, sterilised bottles made formula and suggested he start the kids bath ("can one person bath 2 kids?" seriously wtf... how does he think it happens when he's not here?) then came up and bathed Orin and put him to bed, while he dealt with Emma. then cooked tea, then did some ironing and sorted out the kids clothes for tomorrow. all the while he's on the internet. then i go to bed.

arggg I don't know what I want him to do... but I wish he'd appreciate my efforts a bit more and remember that its not all about him.

sorry - I have nowhere else to rant unless i rant at him and its just not worth it... I'll end up being in the wrong because I always do.

Pistachio does that mean DS got a place at dd's nursery?

Ksal I hope Emma settles well into preschool. Q's settling in day at preschool is the same day we're meant to move house. We NEED to exchange tomorrow so hopefully it happens! I'm barely sleeping or eating as so Many other things on at moment too. And I got home today and my key broke in the door. Just snapped right off!

Ksal I hear you. I come home to a very messy house everyday that I'm at work and dh is home. He tells me it's not possible to take care of Q and tidy up. But I NEVER made him come home after a long day with kids at work to a messy house and just let him clean it up. He will say "it's just a few dishes" "it's just stuff on the floor" "you're only folding clothes".... Trivialising everything yet not doing it himself. But making it seem like it's nothing what I'm doing and he has it so rough. Then if I dare say anything out loud about it I'm "always complaining about him".. Etc. Arghhhhh. When he's at work as well, it's always that he's so busy and worn out... While I also work ft and have Q and household stuff to look after. No advice. Just

I'm glad things are looking up for you, HMM

it's the appreciation that's the thing

Star i really hope that you exchange today, it's been going on so long now

We have exchanged!
Completion date next Friday 2nd September. SO thrilled! :)
Pistachio yes appreciation matters. And you also have 3 kids so it's different than just the one.

Hello all, we've been away on the Kent coast with dh's family. Had a very lovely time, only a bit frustrating at times Am feeling very to be back as I have one more week of hols then I go back to work full time.

HP yay to exchanging and Pistachio yay to ds Nursery place.

Hi Myjob and HMM and KSal I totally feel your pain. The same kind of thing happens in our house another reason while I'm dreading ft working.

Sounds like a lovely holiday, PP :)
Trying to reach my Dad as they are in a not great position for this hurricane (east coast - Virginia and Coastal) :( I'm hoping they aren't answering because they have either evacuated or lost electricity...

I'm sure that that will be the case star.
congratulations on the exchange at last. I trust you didn't cave on the £450 thing that he wanted doing.

absolutely not, csws. Our solicitor finally became helpful and said "look, we've said no to this already twice. The answer will remain the same".
We didn't have it anyway so wouldn't have been able to do it even if it meant him pulling out.
Mad rush to pack up now, but although it's stressful, I'm just so grateful to be moving that it's all washing over me
I am a bit worried over Q's settling in day being same as moving day, for many reasons. But should be fine.

Csws did you register for your nursery nurse training?

Yes yes star. Soon I'll learn how to look after 3 young children.

Evening all.
We've been wading through domestic drudgery for our 2 week "holiday" Packed up lots of the house ready fro when the builders need to move indoors . At the moment we have 10 tonnes of sand - literally - on the front lawn, and came home after the light relief of 3 days in The Barn to scaffolding...
I knew it was going to be there but was still a shock - it's very tricky to get to the front door! The cat's traumatised, the neighbours are very traumatised as they have a scaffolding walkway over their sideway many apologies as we had no idea they'd need to do that.
Devon was as bad as expected. it Rained. SMIL was on top form, but was at least talking to FIL this time, not really talking to me though and my parenting is atrocious apparently as she cooked a lovely roast for us, but fish fingers and dry pasta for the kids and wondered why they played up and wouldn't eat theirs. Sigh. DH and I spent the last afternoon discreetly packing ready for a moonlight flit Makes us laugh that we have to do that....
Star - so glad you've finally exchanged and have a date!
KSal - sorry your DH is being a self centred idiot. you're doing well to resist an argument as I normally wade straight in and say unfortunate things in the heat of the moment. DH is very good though - think that's because I periodically abandon leave him with all 3 DCs and just expect him to cope.
CSWS - new course? How exciting - you can advise me on looking after 3 DCs as I'm cr*p apparently.
HMM - glad you're ok.
myjob - the airshow sounds fun - such a shame about the Red Arrows crash
pistachio - my mum helped me with the school run almost every morning for the first term after DD was born. I'd seriously never have coped without her.
purple- waves!
Need to go to bed. We've got a day out tomorrow, and TBH, I may have just had enough of family picnics for this holiday.....
oooh, long post - really sorry if I forgot anyone!

Eeek to everyone needing help on the school run at first with 3. Is it really that bad???? Dh will help out on the first day as he is on paternity leave, but after that it won't be guaranteed it will depend on what meetings etc he has. Oh dear - I should probably resign myself to dd always being late right?!?!

Pepper, your ILs sound SO much fun!!! I'm amazed you manage to survive without throttling them.... The building work must be a bit of a nightmare - how long till it's supposed to be finished?

Hooray for exchange Star - good luck with the packing. I hope you get in touch with your Dad soon to put your mind at rest.

I'm glad things seem better Hmm - I think I enjoy my children more once they get a bit older even though I adore holding a snuggly baby...

We're ok here - dd and ds1 love their little brother, ds1 likes to rub his back when I burp him and my camera is rapidly filling up with pictures of them holding him as they insist I take a photo every time! Ds2 got back above birthweight by his first hv check at 2 weeks and has already managed to outgrow all the newborn clothes and is a snug fit in most of our 0-3month stuff (lenghtwise anyway). I'm finding it a bit surreal as dd wasn't this weight till she was 2 months old!!!! I've survived some days on my own so the next challenge is school - dd starts on 8th Sept in reception (full time from the start) and ds will be doing 3 afternoons in the nursery there, though we've yet to really sort potty training with him [frustrated]. I HATE potty training - wish I could outsource that bit of parenting!!!!! Doubt there'd be many takers though!

I didn't have any help with school runs after the first day ekka. But I can prob count on one hand how many times she's been on time...

Pepper - you need to read my fb from the other day to understand the course comments .

CSWS Did seem a bit odd!
Building work will finish by Christmas apparently - didn't say which Christmas though .
I'm going to put some before/after pics on fb soon to show the first month - and how hilarious it is getting to the front door - the milkman did well this morning to get the milk anywhere near us. Slightly disconcerted by the scaffolding walkway right outside the bedroom window though .

I can't believe you went back to the barn!

I think it's stressful getting out of the door on time with just dh, myself and Q needing to be out by 7.30am I'd never cope with more dc.

Packing packing. I would be annoyed but I'm too happy to be moving!

Oh and dad is fine he said it was just rainy and windy and a 3 hour power outage now all is well. Phew!

I just got a great deal on a small doll's house for Q for christmas. He's been asking for one for a while now. I just wasn't keen on the space that it would take up. This one is small and perfect. Good thing he likes pink as there aren't many small ones in other colours.

Just popping in to say hi. Have spent most of the evening baking cheese bread to take to my friends tomorrow and making a photo book of our holiday for FIL b'day. Not quite sure how I'm going to fit work into my lifestyle that has adapted over the last 6 weeks.

Pepper you have my sympathy about the builders, we had our porch done this summer. The four predicted days turned into nine. It really wasn't that much hassle but it's that whole having to make a million cups of tea, noise and just generally not having your own house to yourself isn't it? Kudos for the barn trip too, you are very brave

Does anyone else's dc fall over a lot? J is always falling over. Today we went to the park and he fell twice, over nothing, and grazed his knees again. He got so upset but more with the fact that he had done it again, he cried "oh no again" in a really frustrated way I know that grazed knees are part and parcel of growing up but it seems to happen a lot. I am incredibly clumsy and so is my Dad so maybe it is genetic? J was also referred to physio last year as his ankles turn inwards, a bilateral foot inversion in official terms. They did thorough checks but felt he was fine so discharged him. Apparently physio won't do anything until he was 9yrs old as in most cases inversions rectify themselves. I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that this is normal and wondering if I should ask for another physio appointment