Oct 08 - It's all about weeeeee!!! Hopefully in potties but who knows!

[50ftQueenie]

Hello! It's me. I thought I'd start a thread which is VERY cheeky for someone who's not been around for AGES!

Aaaah, Pistachio, that's sweet of dd to be so excited! Our dd is starting reception in September and she is desperate to be a proper schoolgirl! Ds is a bit more ambivalent about starting nursery 3 afternoons a week- he doesn't want to wear uniform.....

Sorry, can't remember much of what I read - ds2 doesn't like sleeping at nighttime so am v tired. Can't believe how grown up and HUGE ds1 seems suddenly, tho I've not noticed any difference in how dd seems. Loving having the three tho and the kids are so cute with ds2.....

We might be able to exchange Friday. But only if we meet our buyer's demands. He just got an electrician in who thinks £450 of work needs to be done. Our certified electrician friend of a friend says the stuff he's noted is mostly not necessary ( things like labels on fuse box missing or old. Ffs!!). Buyer wrote email "this won't be a lot of money to them. Tell them I want it done and for them to pay for it". Well, As it happens that is a huge sum of money to us and we are paying out so much already for his demands and the negative equity...etc. It is now at crucial breaking point where if we have to pay anymore we may not be able to eat for the next several weeks .
Arghhhh. I'm not sleeping. Stressed all the time. Having meetings and setting up my classroom at work (kids start next Monday after their 10 week holiday!) and having to deal with solicitors throughout and there are a few other things hanging over us at the moment as well. I can't see a light at the end of the tunnel.
A colleague came in and told me that (She is Moving house right now) the tv an Internet people mixed up and now can't come until next week. I know it's wrong but I thought if that's all that we had to worry about... Anyway. I'll shut up now.

Sorry so selfish. Will come back and pay attention when head stops throbbing.

star - how have you managed to see his email?! Write one back saying that you are in negative equity and cannot even afford to feed your child if you pay a further £450, so with regret you will have to put the flat back on the market. I bet he stops pissing around then.

Star, your buyer sounds like an arsehole (excuse my language, but that has made me quite angry)

I'm sorry they are making your like so stressful. I like CSWS's suggestion - can you ask your solicitor's advice on what to do?

Orin is waking up at 4.30/5.00... its driving me a bit bonkers... hope he settles down before we go away with DH's extended family, because disturbing other people's sleep will stress me out (obv don't particularly worry about Emma and DH, they seem to tune it out )

Pistachio dd looks so cute in her uniform. Poor ds not wanting her to go, you can really see it in his face in the pic where they are standing against the wall. I hope the first day lived up to her expectations? Do they do gradual settling in? Our school does a morning for a few days or week and then morning and lunch and then bit longer etc. Am I right in thinking ds is off to Nursery soon too?

Star that is very shitty and I would be very and stressed too. I agree with the others, see what your solicitor says about saying no. I doubt your buyer would pull out over £450 as he will have spent a lot more already on organisational matters etc. He sounds like a chancer and to quote KSal an arsehole.

Thanks all. Csws my solicitor forwarded me the email that his solicitor sent her, which included his email. Then she asked me to instruct her from there.
I am too chicken to say we'll put it back on the Market because of all the money already spent and the amazing price we have on the new place... But we have told him no to the £450. Dh has painted the fascias today (even though as it's a flat they are not legally our responsibility). And now our boiler needs a £109 part for the flue seal all of a sudden crap.
Ksal I know what you mean about being stressed about waking others. I'm sure they won't mind but I do hope his sleep is better by then for you.

Pistachio you must be thrilled

HP it must be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel but fingers crossed you will very soon be in your lovely new home. Moving is evil and that is why I am never moving again. If I have more dc they will need to share rooms for ever or sleep in the garage.

You could always be very mean and sew uncooked mini prawns into the hems of some curtains (if you are leaving any) on the day you move out. They'll be nice and stinky for Mr "They Can Afford It" in a few weeks.

N.B. I haven't actually done this, just considered it with my flatmate when our horrid landlord refused to renew our flat contract because another renter had offered him more money

Or a bit of fish on top of a cupboard. With the windows closed it willbe right stinky in no time at all. What a git. I would def say no with a few swear words added on the end.
HP shop around on the net for boiler part. You may get it much cheaper.

I am bored of the holidays now. Can I come to Scotland so my children go back to school?

Great fishy ideas

Ronshar, I would shop around but he's demanding all done by Friday or else he won't agree to our completion and exchange timeline. It's already at dh's last day off. He can't be absent at all after that.

There is A LOT of work to be done in our new house.... But it's now not possible for is to do a whole lot right away because of all of the money we've paid out in past few weeks in regard to this sale. Notice. We aren't asking our vendors to do it.
I wonder if most people do? Thing is, our flat is top spec in most parts now after dh's work and he's getting all new everything for £20k off the asking price. -£10k for lease extension. That's still £10k off. There areNO flats in our area for the price he's paying, even with lease extension. And ours has private garden and its own garage and a boarded loft. We would stay if we didn't have a child.
This guy is a spoilt brat.

Our children start on Monday. Spending this week in meetings and getting my room ready.

Today I saw a baby and wanted one. Then I saws family with a pre teen and a teen and changed my mind.

Ah pistachio - that seems like a dim and distant memory to me already - its so wierd how you block the memory of the really difficult bits out (well not wierd, otherwise we would all be only children). But I was just thinking yesterday how nice it is now that Orin is crawling around he entertains himself more and I don't have him on my hip all the time I am with him. Certainly when I was on leave I seemed to carry him almost constantly as he wasn't even sitting then.

He and Emma have started to play together too... i know he's too young really but she runs to hide in the corner and he chases her in - he seems to find it really funny. I'm really starting to appreciate the fact that there are two of the them...

not looking forward to the next few days, DH working away from tonight until the early hours of monday morning (and will therefore be useless for a day or so when he gets back - I will have little sympathy). Then he's away again from bank holiday monday for 4 days... at least we go on holiday after that!

Star, I really hope that this is the last of it - you need a break! And at least when you get to your new place you will be doing all the work for your own benefit and not some greedy bugger

Pistachio sorry to hear of Nursery stress. I know you mentioned this before but doesn't ds get a place automatically as dd is a sibling, or was at the time of your application for ds? Is the outdoor nursery the forest school based one? I read about one in Nursery World and it sounded amazing. I know it was in Scotland but can't remember where.

If anyone wants a laugh read this thread. Warning it's not for the faint hearted and don't read whilst eating but last night I was crying with laughter. Obviously at the same time as being very concerned for the poor OP.

It does sound like it Pistachio. Fingers crossed you get a place there for ds. Outdoor learning works so well, we take out children to Forest School once a week and it is amazing to see how different they are there. I guess you'll need lots of layers for ds though, I get freezing down here at outdoor time in the winter and we're in the soft South

Dd does Forest Schools pp. She doesn't tell me much about it, but I know that she enjoys it.

Potty training going well. Pretty much got it licked at home, but we are out and about more over the next 3 days, so will have to keep our fingers crossed and hope he does as well away from home. Need to try and get him using a toilet rather than just a potty now too.

First day for kiddos tomorrow. I met them and parents on Friday. They are all lovely
Hoping to exchange tomorrow!!! I have everything crossed and we've had a clear out of our loft.
Pistachio - video needed of that giggle!
thanks all for listening to me moan. I hope it's all good news on the move front going forward.
Are we all PT now? Q wees his pants everytime we explain about our new house. I hope he doesn't do this at preschool.

Myjob those rains looked awful.
I hope your family there are all ok.

Star, I await positive news about the exchange... fingers crossed!

No news :( no one contacted me today despite me asking them if we were ready to exchange.

My class are much more lively this year. They are more than exhausting. And this is the "honeymoon" period....
They are lovely sweet kids, but it's going to be much harder work than last year.