Oct 08 - It's all about weeeeee!!! Hopefully in potties but who knows!

[50ftQueenie]

Hello! It's me. I thought I'd start a thread which is VERY cheeky for someone who's not been around for AGES!

Gosh I didn't realise it had been so long since I last posted!

at your gp star. Hope the referral produces a better diagnosis and resolution of the problem, and quickly.

Not a lot to report here. Dh still out of work. Ds1 still being intermittently unbearably stroppy and lovely. Ds2 still a crap sleeper (the latest of the 3 to sleep through in fact - goodness knows when that will happen). Still going to the gym and following Slimming World, with 5.5lbs off in first 2 weeks.

HP good news about the referral. I hope you don't have to wait long.

CSWS well done with the weight loss, that's very good going.

Hope everyone else is doing ok.

Not doing too well at the moment

HMM I'm afraid I don't know what to say but that I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so low and I'm sending you a huge hug. Something my Mum told me in the early days when I had ds (she had PND with my brother) was to set myself one thing to do each day. She used to make herself hoover the floor each day and then at the end when she was feeling low she would tell herself 'well at least I hoovered the floor today'. It's only a minor thing but it did make me feel less overwhelmed and useless when I had a down day.

Have you got friends in rl you can talk to about this? Is dh helping?

HMM. Sorry to hear things are so tough. Definitely feel you should go back to your doctors - you know you don't feel well and you know you need some more help with it.
All as chaotic here as usual, no kitchen, no running water downstairs - but we do have heating again at last (3/4 weeks since the boiler went off) Nasty morning thursday when it was soooo cold (no hot water then either) that I could not persuade any of the kids to go to the loo before we went to school. Literally they ALL hung on till 9am for their first wee of the day! It was so cold in the bathroom, I'm not sure I've ever sat on a loo that cold [hgrin].
DS2's been for his annual trip to A&E for stitches - last weekend, he slit his lip falling on the coffee table - there was so much blood I couldn't tell where he was injured - by this weekend you can barely even tell, the stitch has disolved, so just the 2 scars on his face now [hhmm]

Thanks for the hugs ladies. DH is being wonderful. I have no RL friends who really understand PND altho they all know and sympathise.

Thanks Pistachio. Close to tears now x

HMM - how are you today?
I'm off emergency babysitting for a friend in about 15 minutes - she's been going through a tricky leaving husband/selling house/crisis thing and I've been ferrying her belongings for her and house sitting for tradesmen etc. I could really really do with staying in but feel I have to go - she's moved to just round the corner and has a very disabled son. Never looked after him before so a bit nervous. I hope it's a real crisis and not a trip to the pub!

Oh dear - good luck Pepper! I'm feeling a bit brighter today, have set the wheels in motion for more support.

Saw dietician today - 21 days into diet!!! On her advice we tried parsnip tonight - no reaction! Plus he was weighed and he's edging towards the next centile (25th) in just a fortnight!

HMM so glad to hear you are feeling a bit brighter today

Pepper hope emergency babysitting went well?

Half term for me this week, my mum is staying so we're off for a few days out before ds birthday on Friday.

Pepper I hope the babysitting went ok.
Hmm how are you feeling?
Happy Birthday to those who I missed turning 3!

I'm feeling awful ATM. :( Q threw a huge tantrum today about using the toilet. He resisted and screamed and obv needed a wee as had already leaked a bit and was dancing in circles and sticking his bottom out. He then screamed and resisted getting his clean underpants on. I'm sure people thought I was abusing him or something. He did a few other naughty things and I nearly cried
I have ONE child. Wtf? Everything I do is wrong. I've read and know loads about child development. But I can't apply it to my own child or parenting.

Also he asks about what we're doing, what next, next...etc then will go through it in order repeating back to me, all excited about each thing. is this strange or do your dc do this?

Your own children are always much more difficult to deal with than other people's star, so don't fret and think that it's just you.
Dd has always liked to plan the days ahead star and know exactly what's happening on each one. Used to really drive me mad at bedtime going through the same list for the upcoming week or two over and over again. She doesn't do it quite as much now, but does still like to know what's coming up.

Thanks, csws. He will do it during the day, but not at bedtime (yet?). Glad to hear it's normal... Was starting to worry over asd. Exhausted today. Our kitchen is further along, though. Dh is working hard...

Btw I got the call for paediatric urology referral. Just need to book appt online tomorrow :)
He told me today that it hurts to wee, but it doesn't hurt to wee in his pants (??)
Any tips on how to stay calm when 3 yo is tantrumming?
He wouldn't even stay put today for time out, in public. Full on crying flailing then running off ( I caught him each time within a second). What do you do???? How do you actually deal with that? Time out was for pushing a toddler :(
It's so out of character for him....

None of mine has stayed put for a time out anywhere ever, so I'm not the best person to ask! Mine far more likely to tantrum at home than out and about though. I tend to just ignore them if they get stroppy when out.

And yay for referral at last.

In times of extreme stroppiness I simply pick up the offending child kind of under my arm and then continue my day with a furious child under one arm. Soon sorts them out IME. (Luckily as some of them are quite heavy now!)
Once they get to the tantrum point there's no chance of reasoning with them so picking them up also tends to surprise them into shutting up calming down.
Good news on the referral, an expert should be able to tell you what's wrong fairly swiftly I'd hope.

Can someone start a new thread and link here? Sorry I just can't do it
Q only tantrums when he needs a wee or poo but is holding it in case it hurts. And if I pick him up
He goes boneless. And then flails. An screams more. I find it difficult to carry him and can't get him strapped in a buggy.
I end up holding him with my arms tight around him in a tight, yet safe hold that I learned when working with emotionally disturbed children in the US until he calms.
But I want to get him to stop doing this. And I'm not sure "the hold" (it just looks like a hug really) is the best thing for changing behaviour? I don't want him to end up a spoiled brat

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