Oct 08 - It's all about weeeeee!!! Hopefully in potties but who knows!

[50ftQueenie]

Hello! It's me. I thought I'd start a thread which is VERY cheeky for someone who's not been around for AGES!

Hmm, have posted on your thread...

I agree with myjob.

I rang them today and told about the ballooning. I have to see if it's still happening in 6 weeks
I told her no, this has been happening at least since we started PT in February. Maybe before but as he was in a nappy I wouldn't have seen him wee much. I just didn't know it wasn't normal until now so that's why I just brought it up. She said just see if it persists.
he is now constipated. Horribly. Pushes and pushes and cries and cries then wees in his pants and that hurts so cries more. :(

oh star, that's no good. He can't spend the next 6 weeks upset and sore just to fit their timescale. i think you may have to insist and take him back next week - even if you keep a diary just for a few days of when he hurts, that should give them an idea that something needs sorting out.
Poor Q, hope he cheers up.

And constipation advice was prune juice and apple juice wheatabix and fruit.... All the things we've been doing, of course. I know how much constipation can hurt and it kills me that he's having it so often :(

Thanks, pepper :) he does run around happy and carefree when it's not hurting so I've just not paid attention until now. Now I feel just awful because I'm noticing the little brief wincing and complaining his pants have something wrong with them and the ballooning and how he cries with pain whenever he has a wee accident.... It has always happened with him... I just never thought of it as a problem. I don't know why. So angry with myself and in tears thinking about it. How long I would have let this go on if that White stuff hadn't come out and my cm hadn't mentioned it :( there should be a teardrop emoticon.
I shouldn't be the one in charge of his safety.
I had a small car accident yesterday, too. No one hurt and minor car injuries but to think what could have happened... It was just a situation with people motioning for me to go and sounding horns and someone driving too fast... Anyway, everyone ok but made me feel like I shouldn't have a child in my car and drove no more than 30mph the whole way to work today. Arghhhh rambling

HP - what Myjob said

Ekka, thanks for that post on my thread, I'm going to order that book from amazon today. Do you have a bread recipe I could use please? (for breadmaker) My MIL made me some special breadmaker mix from morrisons yesterday but it was really hard on the outside. It said it was optional to add salt so she didn't, could that be why?

I am now seeing this as a positive experience as it will get me to home-cook instead of doing nothing more complicated than boiling pasta, which is something I've wanted to do since Poppy came along. I made mango chicken last night (an MN recipe) and I can't believe how little time it took to prepare nor how gorgeous it was!! Totally proud of myself!!

Also, Dylan has hardly vomited in the last 36-48 hours ... Watch this space

Thank you lovely myjob and hmm :)

Hmm glad you found lovely food. Please share mango chicken recipe. I'll use vegetarian chicken. Sounds yummy!
So happy to hear that Dylan is no longer vomiting, too! Here's hoping for a long run of that :)

Well, severe constipation from Q yesterday had us visit out of hours doc. So he was unable to get all if his wee out (??) and kept having accidents because he'd bend down to push (and cry in pain :( ) every 15-20 minutes. He'd sit and cuddle for a bit then run around happy, then back squatting and in pain. Was awful. Finally produced a tiny rock hard pebble covered in some sort of slime (?) he was working so hard and in so much pain pushing it out that he nearly vomited - was gagging and coughing and crying, face RED ... It stuck out just a little finally and I took a wipe and pulled it out! I know that's graphic and horrible but I had to end the suffering.

Dr gave movicol. And commented on his "back passage" being very red and needing aqueous cream... Along with "oh, his foreskin is really tight isn't it? It may be a little infection affecting his passing of urine."
I always know when he needs a wee if he's wearing no pants because his willy is all swollen.

Arghhhhh.

Next up, wheezy night breathing and winter barking, gasping for air cough.... I'm hoping to escape that this year.

Sorry again for selfish ramble.

Oh Star that sounds horrendous poor Q and you :(
did the doc prescribe anything for the suspected infection?

I would also like the mango chicken recipe - I do a curried mango chicken (which is yum, but has yoghurt in it) I'm happy to share that too....

Star, poor Q. Has the movicol made any difference yet? And what about his wees? Thats really tough for him.

Hmm, I've posted a couple of links on your other thread. If there are any specific recipes/ideas you'd like I can try and give you some allergen-free versions, but that cookbook I recommended has some nice suggestions. To be honest, stews and bolognaise or meat and veg are my staple options at the moment, as you can just put in whatever you are allowed to eat!

M is having bottom issues as well - he will not use the potty, but has now developed some sore bits on his bottom which means he doesn't like us wiping his bottom and won't sit in the bath because its painful. Really he just needs to make the effort to use the potty - grrrr!

Evening all.

HP I do hope you have taken your poor boy to back to the same doctor who told you to just wait and see and explained exactly what Q is going through. Bad doctor.

Birthday central at the moment. Happy birthday to all of our babies who are turning into beautiful young people. (some of the time any way)

The days are running away from me. I dont know where September and half of October has already gone!
William a bit poorly today. Temp and barking cough. Kept us both awake last night. DH is away at his mums so tis just me.
I am picking DD1 up from school tomorrow for half term. Excellent. Will be fab having her home again.

HMM, How are you? I hope you are ok with everything you are going through with DS.

I am watching autumnwatch. Badgers are beautiful.

Hi all- sorry I've not been around much. Happy Birthday to all the dc's whose birthdays I missed. Only two weeks now until J turns three as well, it seems to have gone so fast.

HP how is Q? It sounds like a horrible time for him and you and I agree with the others go back and don't leave until they help him out.

HMM from your fb status it sounds like you are having a tough time too with allergies, I hope things calm down soon.

Nothing much going on here. I am really not enjoying work due to some very difficult children which I am trying so hard to remain positive about. However I was bitten and slapped in the face twice on Thursday by one particular chilf so the positivity is wearing thin and the general feeling of frustration about it seems to be polluting every aspect of my life. Oh well half term in 5 days, hurray! J is doing fine and I love coming home to him and his non-bitey teeth. HP I love the 'threenager' term, I think it applies to J too! This morning when I told him ignoring me wasn't funny he replied "but I am a bit funny"

CSWS- Well done on the SW weight loss. I have still only lost about 3lb apparently in 6 weeks but hey clothes feel less tight so something is going on. Ooh and HP I have actually started walking, fast, a couple of nights a week.

Hi to everyone else who I haven't had chance to mention [hsmile]

We are going to GP tomorrow as I'm on half term break and I'm going to sit there with Q until they do something. I have the time and Q loves to play in the waiting area

There was blood in his poo today. Just a little bit but definitely blood. What does that mean (I won't google).
He was given movicol by out of hours doc last weekend and constipation stopped but still not pleasant for him to move his bowels at all.
Willy is all puffed out whenever he needs a wee and gets bigger then deflates as he wees.

All this and this warm weather is great (dislike cold so much!) but I had already put on my winter layer and want to wear baggy sweaters.

Anyway, apart from all of that, all is well :)

Any tips on dealing with tantrums? Or refusals to do things - like when they go boneless and you can't even pick them up?
I've left Q in a spot for the longest time and kept walking. He used to come running. Now he doesn't care and is SO stubborn. Trust me, he'd sit there all day.
A small example:
Q at table with about two sips of water left.
Me: Q finish your water, then you can get down and play.
Q: no, I don't want to
Me: (he needs to keep hydrated - see poo trouble) drink the water, then you can play.
Q: no. Don't want to.
Me: you don't want to play? Ok, I'll play by myself.
Q: I don't want to play.
Me: ok. when you drink your water, you can come play.
I walk away and ignore him and play by myself then get on with things I need to do. He sat there for FORTY FIVE MINUTES.
No joke.
There are times when I don't have 45 mins to wait for him and we are in a public place and we need to leave because they are closing or whatever...
Ideas? What do you do?
Stubbornness - how do I defeat it? I have found myself acting in quite immature ways .

He also used to just sit there and cry when someone grabbed or hit him, now he will do it back to them
ge never initiates it but does react and retaliate. I do not agree with this at all. Wtf? We have never hit him.

Sorry so long.

I'd love both mango chicken recipes. :)

Star... I am surprised there hasn't been blood before if I'm honest, given the constipation etc.... Emma had a bit of blood when she first potty trained, i think it was becuase she was holding in a bit and they poos were big. when i took her to the GP they asked re constipation, straining and size of stools, also whether the blood was red or not. They weren't too worried because it was fresh blood and there was nothing else going on (she was straining a bit)... it soon stopped. I think the inner wll tissue is very delicate and can tear.... its odd, I am so used to it in myself (TMI, but I get it all the time since Orin) but I was really shocked to see it with Emma.

It's another thing to add to the list of things going on when you camp out at the GPs today. I really hope you get somewhere with it.

I'll sort that recipe out...

This recipe is a modification of an Achari chicken recipe I found online, but I use fresh mango instead of mango powder... this makes a generous amount for 2

1 onion, finely chopped
1/2 teaspoon garlic, minced
1 teaspoon ginger, minced
1/4 teaspoon turmeric
1/4 teaspoon chilli powder
1/4 teaspoon ground cumin
1/4 teaspoon ground coriander
1 pinch ground black pepper
1 large tomato, diced
2 skinless chicken breasts, diced
4 tablespoons plain yogurt
3-4 green chilies, split (I only use 1 chilli and shred it lengthways)
1 mango, diced (1cm)
1 pinch flaked sea salt
1 teaspoon mustard oil (I use mustard powder)
1-2 teaspoon fenugreek seeds (I use fenugreek powder)

Heat oil in a wok (or large non-stick pan) and gently saute onion until tender.
Turn down the heat, add garlic and ginger and briefly saute, continually stirring.
Add turmeric, chilli powder, ground cumin, coriander and pepper. Cook to toast.
Then toss in tomato and mango and briefly cook. Add chicken and cook.
When chicken is almost ready, stir in yoghurt and briefly cook (the mango and tomato will have broken down by now).
Then add green chillies, salt, mustard oil and fenugreek.
Serve with steamed rice / Indian bread

Ksal, that receipe looks lovely.

HP. Write everything down, then just give the list of observations to the GP. Save any messing around. Include about the blood. DON'T google or you will end up hysterical. They are all simple things to sort out.
With regards the tantrum behaviour. William is slowly coming out the other side. My children like to make the years between 18 months- 3 the most difficult. I tend to just go zero tolerance on their asses. They get two ask's then it is a final count to three after that it is either bedroom for age in time (3 mins for W, 7 for dd2 and all afternoon for dd1[hgrin]. If behaviour is repeated then it is fav toy take away time.
By this point however, I am normally holding on to my temper by the skinniest thread and I send my self to my room for a few mins!
When we are out and about I find picking up and putting W under my arm and walking off is the best way. Or throwing him over my shoulder. He thinks I am Fireman Sam then & he forgets to be a pain in the butt. We still have arguments about going in the pushchair/trolley etc. I normally win but sometimes just cant be bothered.

Happy birthday to every one mummies, sisters and beautiful three year olds. Things really start looking up now. Unless you are crazy enough to have another baby[hgrin]hgrin][hwink]

They are writing to local hospital for a referral re: foreskin. Blood is likely a small tear like you said, ksal.

Thank you for that lovely recipe! Mmmmm

Thanks for all of the advice, everyone, I really appreciate it :)