Right, can i come on here and have a little rant please? Not posted for a while but been checking in every few days.
Eandz WELL DONE! You are inspirational and I feel bad about sitting on my fat backside too much.
I am having a shite week. 17 weeks pg, very hormonal and feel very very fat and bump not apparent yet.
Firstly, DSD comes over on Sunday, refuses to look at scan pics and doesn't even acknowledge I'm pg 
But that's not a huge gripe - she was worse than this when I was pg with C (despite the fact she is now 21 and should be a bit older/wiser?) but then she also forgot Father's Day. We are away on hols on Sat, so we assumed she was coming round to drop off an early card but not a word. Anyway, that's DSD all over and I've lost too much sleep over her already.
Then on Monday, MIL who has C twice a week every week and who we are relying on to be there to look after C when I go into labour announces she has booked a holiday to Blackpool (tinsel and turkey jobby) 5 days after my due date 
Yes, i know it's her life and we'll cope but I am a bit surprised she had forgotten my due date and seems to be another one ignoring my pg. I have no other family nearby, so good job I'm after a HB - I think we may need it to look after C! When i jokingly mentioned the baby better make sure it's on time, I could just tell from the look on her face she hadn't even considered my due date. She even seemed surprised when I said I'd be on mat leave by then.
I'm probably over-sensitive due to hormones.
My final gripe is the worst. I'm posting here cos if I put it in AIBU I'd get harpy cries of 'leave him, he's an abuser!'
Last night c was being her usual self - ie damn frustrating and a complete PITA. I get snappy with her but am learning to deal with it - trying to ignore lots of stuff as I'll have to do this when the baby arrives.
She wouldn;t let me brush her hair, so I asked DP to hold her while I brushed. We give her a couple of chances to behave but warn she will lose bedtime story and we'll still brush her hair anyway if she continues messing about. She didn't stop so DP held her while I brushed. She started to kick, pinch and bite DP.
He then completely lost it, screamed at her and...i might as well write it....lifted his hand back in the shape of a fist.
I should make it really clear at no point did I ever think he would really hit her and if he did, we would be gone. But I just know he wouldn't. My exH hit me and I know the difference between someone who really loses it and someone who is a dickhead but wouldn't go through with a threat.
But I was so angry. i snatched C up and dashed off into her bedroom. DP then ranted at me about how I was soft and she needs discipline. Oh, I won't bore you but he behaved just like a toddler.
Honestly, he is just like something out of the 1950s and thinks if we don't crack down on her messing about, she'll end up with a bloody ASBO at 12.
She is very like me and very strongwilled and frustrating to the point of hair tearing but she is normal and is testing boundaries. It's easier for me, cos i recognise me in her, whereas DP is not used to it in a child and she pushes every single button he has and he loses his patience so easily. He is expecting perfection in every single thing she does and even minor things, which I wouldn't get worried over, he has to take issue with.
She drew on the carpet at the weekend and he was so cross but I just think it comes with the territory,.
I do believe he would never smack or hit her. He never smacked DSD
He has been working like a dog this year and is very tired. He hasn't taken a day off this year so far for himself.
On paper it looks worse than it was. he did come and apologise and gave C a big cuddle before she went to bed but I am still fuming at him and needed somewhere to let off steam.
Sorry for monopolising!
And breathe.