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DeidreBarlow · 01/01/2011 13:54

Totally unispired but hope you all find it...

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sybilfaulty · 03/01/2011 19:15

Oh Urbs,love, I am so very sorry to hear that. Be kind to yourself and take it easy won't you?

Thanks for all the kind words about my, ahem, situation. I should point out that my dear husband has not actually agreed to go to counselling yet. I may go alone. His father is very ill and he is likely to have to spend a fair amount of time with his folks this month, so it may not be the best time to bring it up. He is also the sort of man who puts things behind him quickly so I suspect he may have brushed our issues aside and think everything is OK again. Not great, of course, but OK. I probably need to sort out in my own mind what I should do in terms of counselling etc before suggesting anything to him. He is a lovely man and I do love him, but I don't like him a lot of the time and don't think he likes me much either sometimes. We'll see. Thanks for letting me sound off. Hugely helpful.

sybilfaulty · 03/01/2011 19:18

Oh and Vag, huge sympathies on the boob thing. DS was the longest fed of mine and gave up himself in September at 21 months. I can completely see why stopping is a good idea. I think people should BF for as long (or indeed little) as both mother and baby want. If either party wants out then you can't force it and neither can he. How you achieve that is harder. I do find the BF boards a bit scary in lots of ways, but have found Kellymom hugely helpful in the past. Hope you work it out. Lots of love.

Indith · 03/01/2011 20:38

Urbane I'm so sorry.

Beans33 · 03/01/2011 20:44

Gosh, I disappear for a few days and the thread explodes!!!
Urbs, I'm so sorry to hear about your mc. How far along were you? Is your DH looking after you? Give yourself time to grieve. Thinking of you xx

Avo, you have coped admirably sounds heinous with the illness. You poor sausage. And poor girls.

Vag, I am no use at all on the titty front. Have even given up with DD2 now, so no use at all. Kellymom sounds a good idea.

Sybs - poor you. Your poor DH with his Dad too, but would agree that looking into counselling even f just for self is good. Let's speak tmw xxx

Lady I am struck by how lovely and contented you sound at moment and feel v happy for you. I hope I have not missed something vital and am gormlessly wandering into foot in mouth place!

I am pretty much recovered from flu finally. Grim cough, but no more illness. Yay! Izz now seems to have something grotty, but not full flu thank god. And she's back to nursery tmw. Will miss her. But good way to ease self back into DH being at work after 18 days with him at home being a superhero!

Rubes - let's sort out a daytime meet up. I am less weedy about travelling now. Hurrah!

Must go now as am about to talk drivel. But HAPPY NOO YEAR to all, a bit belatedly! I am on weightloss drive too. And want to get electrolysis on my tash and generally be less minging!!!

Xxxx

Beans33 · 03/01/2011 20:50

PS I meant to say THANK YOU to my SS for my lovely scarf. It's gorgeous. You know who you are, ZJ!!!

Xx

sybilfaulty · 03/01/2011 20:53

SOrry, if anyone is still waiting for a SS then despair not. Some of the santas took rather longer than others to get off the blocks. So sorry. XXX

JamInMyWellies · 03/01/2011 21:00

URBANE, so sorry my love take time to heal.

Totally forgot to thank whomever was my SS. Some lovely G&B chocolates for myself and a little toy airplane for DS2 which by the way he and DS1 love. Today it was being used to rescue a small man from a giant dinosaur!

I sent my SS off last week sorry its so late but I hope you enjoy.

vagolaJahooli · 03/01/2011 21:15

Beans, titty front, hehehehehe, that made me giggle.

Beans33 · 04/01/2011 08:52

Aaah, DD1 has gone to nursery for the day. Have had her here for over 2 weeks and I miss her. How sad am I??!

DH at work - eek! But no Beebies until this evening - JOY!

xx

LadyThompson · 04/01/2011 10:01

Morning excellent ladies

I am going to do a proper big catch up over the next hour or so but I did just want to say to dear Urbane, I am very sad to hear your news about a second mc. That sounds very very hard Sad I am pleased you got the job, achievements like that are always a boost at the very least, but still, I hope you can find a bit of you-time in all this. Please look after yourself...

Right, catch up is probably going to take me a while so back later this morn...

Nolda · 04/01/2011 10:57

Urbane,so sorry to hear your news Sad.

Avo - hope your lovely girls are on the mend. I loved the Christmas photos on Facebook of them in their matching pjs.

Sybil - hope you can get some counselling organized. DH and I have found it v helpful but I appreciate that this may not be the right time for you to talk to your DH about this with his dad being so ill. I'm sure counselling for just you would be a good start. Also recommend the Deidre-style date nights.

Sorry not to do more personals but have fallen behind again. Just wanted to come on and show that I'm still alive and sporadically listening.

DD has gone back to school today and DS is having a nap - it's so quiet!

KiwiPanda · 04/01/2011 11:49

Happy new year all, have made a new year's resolution to spent more time on MN Wink.

Urbane So so sorry to hear your news. I totally understand not wanting to tell your family. When I had a m/c a few months ago I ended up locked out of my house and had to call my parents for help/ spare keys. They were so unhelpful and generally useless that I ended up blurting it out to them, and wish I hadn't because their reaction was not actually terribly helpful. If I can presume you feel anything like I did, I felt that frankly, there wasn't much to talk about so endless attempts to talk about it just grated. Other than sadness, what is there to say? Anyway I do hope you are ok and feeling better.

Our Christmas also a little rubbish but nothing as sad, just swine flu, chest infections and general illness.

Oh, one last thing. Someone who should have got a SS, err, and didn't... blame me! It was supposed to be sent just before Xmas and I have just found it sitting in the work post tray which hasn't been cleared since 22nd December. So if you were expecting a gift and err, didn't get one, don't abandon hope!

JumpJockey · 04/01/2011 12:37

Urbs so sorry about your MC, hope you're taking it easy and being well looked after.

vagolaJahooli · 04/01/2011 13:13

Kiwi, where you sending personal post through your work account, naughty naughty, that is a naughty list offence I am sure.

Went to the gym this morning, I'm all sorted for the cardio machines. A mahoosive man called Rich showed me the ropes. Tomorrow he shows me all the weights stuff then I have a little welcome session with the manager then I'm off! The creche is ok but I think for now I'm just going to go while DH is working from home. He is doing less direct client work now and focusing on the management so will be at home even more. He can pop DS2 in front of the Tele.

Hi Nolda, nice to see you, any new years resolutions?

vagolaJahooli · 04/01/2011 13:24

Were! Not where, sorry.

EffiePerine · 04/01/2011 13:27

I must confess my SS will be a little late as well. I have it, just haven't made it to the PO. So sorry. Though glad to see the secretness won't be compromised as others are being similarly foggy Wink.

Vag: good work on the gym. I used to enjoy going but I really can't justify it at the moment. Maybe once DS1 is in school - eek!

Nolda · 04/01/2011 13:36

Hi Vag, on the resolutions, not anything interesting: be a better wife, be nicer to DD (I keep forgetting that she is only 4) and not give in to to DS because I can't bear the little chin wobble when he starts to cry (I'm worried that I'm creating a spoilt monster - damn Tesco and those little cars they have hanging in all the aisles).

KiwiPanda · 04/01/2011 13:56

vagola Ha, not guilty! I'd put the postage on it and then left it in the outtray. So there [stamps feet]

LadyThompson · 04/01/2011 14:04

Right, this might be a tad lengthy Grin

Welcome back KP, I am glad to hear that you aren't resolving to spend less time on MN like so many of you. I need you ladies to chat with and generally keep the lid on my head! I too am another Late 'n' Lax Santa. Sorry! Part of the gift was delayed horribly by the post, and then admittedly part of it is me being busy/disorganised Grin

Beans, this is the first day we've had farking Beebies on for yonks. I have had to put it on, though, as I have had to sing so many songs for DD1 this morning I genuinely need to rest my voice for a bit...Contented? Well, that's nice, I am glad you think so. It's true that I am totally, totally adoring the DDs at the moment (I mean, not that I don't normally, but it just seems such a joy lately). Spot, if you are reading this you are probably flicking me the Vs because the first few weeks are stupendously tough and I am not trying to sound like St. Mother... Anyway, I am still worried about my career/the house/endless other stuff, BUT, seem able to appreciate my many blessings at the mo, so long may it continue! Oh, I want to be a bit less minging as well! Ha, not sure where to start with that one.

Vag, I am glad your pregnancy scare turned out the way you wanted. Have no practical advice about DS2, obv, but sending you sympathy instead. Are you feeling more positive about 2011 in Den Haag, do you think? I was interested in what you had to say about your DH's attitude to weight. I am 2 stones heavier than when I met DP but he is at least that as well (and hasn't had two pregnancies to contend with) but he was THREE and has lost a stone so is doing well. I would rather we were both slimmer but am very hard on myself about it and not at all hard on him about it as I know it makes him extremely unhappy, and he has the most horrendously disordered relationship with food.

ZJ, that is so sweet about your plans for 2011 re: your family. Yay! Did you or Trace feel the earthquake reported in North Yorkshire? Though I think Trace is more West. Breakthrough bleeding is a pain in the butt - could be polycystic ovaries or just a simple hormone imbalance. Agnus Castus is supposed to be good if you are looking for something 'non-medical'.

Rubes, did you take your tree down as planned? Mine is still up. I like it and also I can't be fagged to do it just yet...I went back to the Dean Street Townhouse on Sunday, by the way, and did have something to eat there. The salads were very good. I thought I would try it as once my club is open again after the break, I am only likely to go there if I am sans kids, with it being on the same street. I had such a nice time on Sunday. It really was a jolly start to the New Year. Have you had any more thoughts about your trip in Feb?

JJ, gosh, that's such a biggie about moving to Glasgow. I do see that it would have a massive impact on your work...Would you consider taking a career break for a bit/doing something else? Would it make you v unhappy?

DB, you mentioning wanting to do something more 'career-y' - yes, I feel the same. I will write another book and I will carry on doing spots of journalism but I can't really get enough to keep me going, so I really need to do something else. DP wants me to start up some sort of business and I have had a few ideas, but...kinda easier said than done Grin

Avo, what's happening with the move? I am dying to know. I am sorry you had such a stressful sounding start to the year. Apart from the house, what are your plans for the year, do you think? Seems like a long time since I saw you.

Sybs, I wish I could wave a magic wand over your worries. I have pondered the idea of being 'mis-sold' a DH. I think that about DP sometimes (but only in a very mild way). I think when one party is sociable and the other is more insular, though, that is especially tough. I want to think of something helpful that isn't glib or banal, and obviously counselling sounds good (if you can get him to go, I do appreciate it all sounds quite heavy with his Dad and stuff at the moment) - but what about making some changes to your life aside from your relationship - just stuff to make you happier? Any mileage there? Oh, and you mentioned meeting in Clapham Junction on Thursday evening - don't know if you noticed but further back Rubes mentioned she could make it too - CJ is a bit tricky for me but if it was supper I guess I could do there and back in an evening...We need more meet ups in 2011!

Jam - if you are looking to shed weight, the hot new diet is the Dukan (protein based, lots of chicken and cottage cheese...)

Effie, I was intrigued about your mention of Latin. Did you do it at school? Latin fascinates me, I think it is sublime. But my Latin is ropey.

Mom, we have an iCandy Pear. Great design. Bloody heavy. As to Canada, I have considered your dilemma from every angle and I think you need to stay here until the kids are approaching senior school age. Then you will have had your fill of London by then and be thoroughly sick of the Eeyores who inhabit this isle, and can also avoid the frighteningly variable senior schools here. Sorted!

NJAN, way back you mentioned your DS2's eardrum has burst again Shock Sounds hideous! How is he now??

Right, I haven't actually finished but DP has come home early and I need to talk to him. I felt funny this morning, on the big Back to Work Day After Christmas. I felt odd not going back to work. But 2011 is going to be nice, I have decided. Feeling quite positive and excited.

KiwiPanda · 04/01/2011 14:57

Vag Oh I have beeen looking back through posts. Total sympathy with the boob-obsessed child issue, DD is pretty much attached permanently (most used phrase: "More mummy milk please 'ank oo!") and I despair of ever being able to stop. I tried a bit over Christmas and the result seemed to be EPIC temper tantrums. They didn't happen at time of refusal but later, but I'm sure it was the loss of control in her little head.

Anyway, if you get any good advice on it, share share share please!

DeidreBarlow · 04/01/2011 16:07

Urbane I am so sorry to hear your sad news. Please take some time to get over this, and well done on the job.

kiwi & beans Bummer about a Christmas of ills. Glad to hear you are on the road to recovery now.

lady You sound very chipper indeed. I have just looked at the Dukan diet as a means to dropping weight. Just not sure how I can cope with just proteinHmm. So for now I'm sticking to no alcohol/no bread and a general reduction in carbs.

DS starts playgroup this week. Its just 3 hours on a Thursday but we leave him there. Its in the church hall he has Toddler group in and already knows a few other LO's there. Oh and last night was the 2nd night in his bed. DISASTER! We put the gate across his door which kept him in his room, but it took me 90 mins of putting him back for him to get the message. The final time he got out and I went in he simply put his head in his hands and said "oh no mama". I went in an hour later and he was asleep on the floor, he had collapsed in exhaustion...but did sleep through then to 6.30am.

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EffiePerine · 04/01/2011 16:13

Re milk, I stopped feeding both DSs before they were ready to give up completely. Night feeds first because waking for milk and cuddles was a big issue. Then day feeds when I was back at work more or less full-time, cos tbh I was a bit resentful at being a milk producer as soon as I walked in the door. With DS1 I stopped completely when around 5 mo pg with DS2 as it was SO painful. With DS2 I got to the stage where I wasn't happy with continuing. I just told them 'milk all gone' and that was it.

I feel a bit guilty about it as I really liked the idea of them self-weaning as well as the possibility of tandem feeding. But when it came down to it I was happier not feeding them as demanding toddlers. Which probably is very selfish but as others have said I think it's best if both mother and child are keen.

I do laff at the idea that selfish women are forcing bfing on their older babies/toddlers. As if!

Beans33 · 04/01/2011 16:14

Kiwi - poor lamb with swine flu. I think I had it too. 4 nights of v high temperature, but none in the day and just felt listless and awful for about 2 weeks. Was horrific. The memory of feeling that shit usually fades after a couple of days, but it's still living strong in me so far! And I can't shift my cough - but it's fading...

Sorry I named my SS - wasn't very subtle of me, but I like to give thanks where it's due and I could see a little bit who it was from - am I right??!!

Lady - I do know you're worried about stuff, but on the child side of things, you do seem to be rather blissful after a difficult start and I'm really glad. I am too. I found the first few weeks hideous and am not sure I could have got through it without you all. I probably could, you know, but it really helped having you all here to listen to my moaning!

Who was thinking about having a Murena coil? I had one put in in September. I then bled for 10 weeks and as a result had an imbalance in PH in my parts, which meant shagging hurt (with ginormo knob! hee hee - I am repeating myself now!). Anyway, had these antibiotics and some pills to stop me bleeding. All seemed to calm down. Thought I had started my periods again just before Xmas, but I am STILL BLEEDING. It is most frustrating. Some days I need a tampax, some days I don't. But I have ruined some perfectly ok knickers. I am having it removed next week. Yes. I can't wait.

When I say perfectly ok knickers, I meant that they haven't fallen apart yet. They are actually grey, as are most of my pants. Even though they started off white. That's another thing on my list of how to be less minging - get new pants. I am M&S tastic. But they're horrible old style ones. And I've had them for about 10 years a pair, at the lowest. It's time for a clear out and a new wardrobe of keks.

God, drivel again. Soz.

Beans33 · 04/01/2011 16:20

PS Forgot to say, we put DD1 in her big bed about a week before Xmas. She initially started going down in her cot, then we'd move her across when we went to bed at 10ish. Now we put her straight down in it and she seems to love it. I don't think she realises that she can get out! It's actually a pretty high bed - just a normal single and if she got out, she couldn't get back in again. We put a pillow down sideways next to her so I'm hoping that'll stop her from falling out. So far so good! Am making DH shut the stairgate at top of stairs at night now.

Plus, before Xmas, we'd ditched the 10.30 feed for DD2 and she was sleeping through til 7-8am. But with all the travelling, she's regressed and been waking at 3am for a feed and so it's back on. Bugger. But I guess it's not too much of a hardship!!

My diet isn't yet working. I had no desire for food over Xmas, which was amazing and I lost 5lbs. But for lunch I had a huge slice of quiche, some brie and then a packet of Smiths Square Crisps. Rubbish! DH out tonight, so must be holy and eat little. But I won't.

DeidreBarlow · 04/01/2011 17:02

Oohh beans I love Square crisps...salt & vinegar mmmm. Gosh I am destined to be a lard-arseBlush

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