Dec 2008 - Hello 2011 the Year of the Toddler!

[DeidreBarlow]

Totally unispired but hope you all find it...

Jam, I am utterly fuming at the treatment of your friend. What a disgrace. She may not have the emotional energy to complain but maybe you could offer to help her draft it? We could all chip in. My letters of complaint would blister paint.

Right, can't type much as have hardly any battery on my phone and we have had a POWER CUT. No leccy, I suspect due to a power line blowing down, the weather is foul. Hang on....... no gas either!! Boiler's gone off. How can this be? Oh, for crying out loud.

Jam, I am utterly fuming at the treatment of your friend. What a disgrace. She may not have the emotional energy to complain but maybe you could offer to help her draft it? We could all chip in. My letters of complaint would blister paint.

Right, can't type much as have hardly any battery on my phone and we have had a POWER CUT. No leccy, I suspect due to a power line blowing down, the weather is foul. Hang on....... no gas either!! Boiler's gone off. How can this be? Oh, for crying out loud.

Hello everyone,

Sorry I worried you all. I didn't mean to go awol, I was reading all over Christmas but with one thing and another I never got round to posting.

Thank you so much to my SS. DD loves her puzzle and the Christmas decs are great .

spot Congratulations! Fantastic news. 90mins, wow!

mom I'm shocked that you have only just got the dress, I sent it ages ago. Damn post! Your Christmas sounded very trying!

urbane Sorry to hear your sad news.

JJ We have a similar problem with DD re the sopping nappies. I asked in Boots and they said they don't do any sort of night nappy and that Dry Nites etc are more of an accident catcher than a solution to heavy wetting. If you find a solution do let me know!

Jam There is a PALS in every hospital that should be able to support your friend make her complaint. That is absolutely unacceptable.

I went to see yet another kidney specialist yesterday who in contrast to the last one I saw said 'I don't see anything wrong with your kidneys, I'd be more worried about your liver' . She then went on to tell me about some woman who'd had a liver transplant who had her liver rupture after delivery . Not something I needed to hear. She was very brisk and I got the distinct impression she thought I was stupid. With a rare condition you HAVE to be educated about it and know the ins and outs. Grrrrrrrrrr. Anyway, I'm off to see my usual liver consultant tomorrow so I'm going to prepare a document listing all the test results/concerns raised and get their opinion on it all. I'm just going back and forth to various people at the moment none of whom really know what is going on. Sorry to moan on . My obstetrician is such a gloomy fellow, he seems to think me getting to 28 weeks would be good - I'm 26 now. He was like this with DD though so more than likely all is going to be fine.

Oops, I've written a little essay.

Crikey I'm so behind, I really can't remember much of what I have just read.

Deids, I'm thinking of your nan, but I think its harsh to make your parents feel guilty about going away.

Kiwi, I'm sorry I wrongly accused you of stealing postage costs. I hope your floor boards are ok after being stomped by your enormous feet. Also poor DD, she is clearly advanced but obviously the social side of things is a bit more important at this age.

I am for s&v but DH is firmly on the side of C&O, however, I am a bit miffed as there are no square crisps here.

Trace I'm happy you have stayed in SN job, you would have been an asset to the HV team but so many of those teams are chronically understaffed and the nurses have such low job satisfaction.

ZJ I will stand on the beach and wave at you.

Sybs wish I could meet you on a Thursday. One day.

Urbs I hear you on the wobbles over undies, but I too like nice nickers and always strive to match.

Hope spots ok, any word on a name, birth story or how big he was?

I wander how PD is going in her new house, and job?

We finally have a moving in date, 23rd of Feb we get the keys Hooray.

Ok gotta eat lunch then track back to see if I missed anyone

Jam forgot to say I'm horrified, but not surprised by what your friend dealt with from the hospital. When she is strong enough she needs to complain, but there is no rush there is no time limit on an apology. I know other people aren't her concern, but I'm sure that MW would have given someone an earbashing, it is terrible as a HCP to do something like that and know your foot wouldnt have been in your mouth if you'd been informed. It has happened to me once and I vented merry hell on the person responsible.

Jolly there does seem to be a bit of a weird attitude towards people with existing health conditions, whether slightly resolved or otherwise. I'm not sure if you remember my diabetic friend who got pregnant. She was treated as though she was not fit to carry a baby. I'm sure when you had the transplant if there was a significant risk of rupture due to pregnancy or birth they would have told you that the first time around, or even before you conceived.

Exactly veggie! I think it is hard to listen to people being so negative and remain positive. You are right though, I asked before I got pregnant whether it was a good idea and was told to go ahead. I'm sure the liver people will be nice and sensible tomorrow and put my mind at ease.

Fantastic news on the moving date! How exciting.

Eeek on the electricity cut ladyT. Will the boiler go off because the pilot light goes out or something?

jam, i am horrified about your friend's experience. utterly unacceptable.

would love to know a name for spotjunior, because i am nosey.

deids - sorry to hear about your nan - thinking of you all

hurrah for vg's moving date

v skanky about pants, i'm afraid. i just buy some m&s 5 packs and i don't understand about matching - i wear bras for ages before i wash them (am i disgusting?) and would need many multiples of pants to keep matched. can't be arsed, i'm afraid.

madam having monster nap. was going to sort out paperwork/clean the inside of the car, but have resorted to mn and celeb cash in the attic (the father of a friend of mine, actually - quite weird)

i have nothing else of interest to say. sorry.

oh, there was... urbs - so sorry to hear about mc number 2. effing effing rubbish. are you right properly trying for number 3? my mcs were back to back and i found it really helpful to take a few months off any thought of trying. that was a bit tough mentally (thinking about wasting time, getting older etc), but i was able to digest what had happened and entered into a v different state of mind which helped when we conceived madam. all the best, my love.

Jolly I actually meant to type, "....resolved or otherwise, getting pregnant." But you get my drift anyway. Hope your liver people give a bit more perspective.

Waiting I actually do buy a few pairs of undies per bra sad I know. either that or I wear similar colours.

jam I am f*ing fuming on your friends behalf. That is just totally, totally unacceptable. How awful for her. I'm sure she is far from feeling up to complaing but if she can manage it in the future she really must. I'm with lady, I'd certainly vent how appaling it is on her behalf.

JB There you are! How crap of that Dr. As you say I'm sure all is okay.

wg Ha ha I'm with you on matching undies...I always think that the pants are dirty after one use, and then your back to non-matching

vag Hooray for a moving date.

lady Is your electric back on yet?/

Yes, all back on now thanks! Uurrrgh, what a pain, it set me right behind with everything!

I will write more later on.

I'm a matcher for sure. If I had to go out with different coloured undies / bra it'd bother me. I'm quite a bit OCD tho too. I'm def doing Vag's thing and buying several pants to the bra "Vagola has several pants"

Anyone a Greys Anatomy fan?

I'm slightly concerned. Text Spot this morning but haven't heard. Hope they are ok.

I hope Spot is OK too. Does anyone still need her address? If so let me know and I'll send a message by FB.

Yes please Effie.

Jam - that is appalling. Your poor friend. as if she doesn't have enough to cope with. Poor poor love.

I used to be matching bra and pants and had 2 pairs of pants to every one bra. Now I am still wearing my nursing bras, despite not having been nursing for about 2 months apart from the odd one here and there. I wear them for about 4-5 days - that's really grim isn't it? I do change pants every day of course. Promise!!! Don't want a niffy vag - no offence, Vag!!!

Right, must concentrate on DD1 before she goes to bed. She is so full of snot and up so much in the night, I have an ulcer in my mouth. That'll teach me to be smug about sleeping littles. Twat!

Glad leccy back on Lady!

I have had to send my iphone off to be mended and I have no mobile phone. No texting, no numbers, nothing. It's going to be a horrid couple of days. Or perhaps will free me from my enslavement to the mobile!!!

xx

Beer. I love this 3 cases for £18 at Morrisons deal. Even if it's not very nice beer. Means you can drink 2 or 3 with little guilt... And I think alcohol is good for ulcers... (not stomach ulcers, clearly)

haven't read back - just a quick Spot update. She said sorry not been on thread in ages (I think she's excused) and having a bit of a feeding nightmare - now expressing / bottle feeding. he's very jaundice and underweight but hopefully turning that around. Wants me to say hi to everyone and that normal service will resume soon She sounds in pretty good spirits. Still no name.....

Back later

Thanks for the update Rubes! Sending good wishes and positive feeding and weight gaining vibes to little mini Spot. It took a while to decide on a name for her DS1 I remember.

Hi Everyone

Urbs - I am so sorry to hear of yr 2nd miscarriage. What a horrible thing to happen at Christmas, well at anytime really but especially at Christmas. Where is yr new job? Are you leaving Whitehall?

Jolly - it's very good to hear you are ok. It's a shame your consultants are being so doommongering. Is it impacting on yr ability to enjoy the pregnancy? Do you feel ill?

Kiwi - I def think you should prioritise happiness over anything else at nursery. Why on earth shld any two year old need stretching activities? They just need to play!

Re pants, I wear black pants with black bras and White with White. But that's the best I can say for my underwear efforts. I always prioritise comfort (ie M&S cotton briefs) over sex appeal. I have thrown my grey stuff out though. You know Gok Wan from 'How To Look Good Baked"? He always starts his show by rummaging through each woman's undue draw. Last yr I made myself imagine I might be on that show so I purged all my skankiest pants.

Veg - so excited you have a move date. We are still way off. No exchange yet thanks to our buyers being the biggest ditherers in the world. It's driving me crazy.

Rubes - I live Greys Anatomy. But I don't have Living TV anymore. So sad. Is the new series on?

DD1 starts Reception tomorrow. As she is a summer born she spent last term in a nursery class at the
school. Tomorrow it's proper school. With a uniform and everything. I keep crying at the thought. This is the start of a lifetime of clocking in at 9am in clothes you wouldn't normally choose to wear. She's only four. And what if she doesn't like school? What if she doesn't make friends? What if, what if, what if????

Jam, your poor poor friend. When she's feeling stronger she really must make a complaint. DH has to deal with a lot of forms relating to causes of death (one of the specialist jobs he does at the practice) and it's quite shocking how many doctors simply cannot fill in the paperwork properly - it's a notable thing when one comes up that is 100% right which is not how it should be.

avo am loving your autocorrect, how to look good baked sounds like an advert for a tanning salon Good luck with the big day, can you FB us some pics of her in uniform as no doubt she will look unutterably gorgeous. Crying mums are quite allowed in these circs.

jolly, good to hear from you - what a bunch of depressing doctors, why can't they just be happy for you to have a healthy pregnancy and carry on dealing with your condition fine?

I have about 5 sets of matching bras and undies, though at the moment it's mostly my 4 nursing bras (2 hot milk ones which are lurvely and 2 crappy mothercare ones) and then whichever M&S knicks don't fall down. Seriously, my mat jeans are struggling to stay up since the bump has a horizontal shelf at the bottom and there's nothing for the waistband to hold onto, so they rub on my bum and many's the time I've ended up with half-mast kecks or worse.

oh and the nappies - I ended up getting some Boots own brand called SuperDuperDrytastic or some such and no leaks for last couple of nights, so fingers crossed. Her normal ones have a breathable liner made of corn starch (??) rather than plastic which I think gets dissolved by excessive wee. Confession corner, when it got to the third night in a row and we didn't have any dry PJs or sleeping bag left, I just put the damp ones on the radiator to dry out since wee is sterile... sorry. Feel free to ask me to leave the thread!

God have just seen my naked form in the gym changing room, grim. Have come home and had 3 custard creams to console myself.

Jump boak about the pj's. But needs must an all that.

Jolly what an arse.

Vagola yeah for moving date.

Avo having met your delicious DD1 I would say you have nothing to fear. Bet by the end if the day she has made loads if friends.

Rubes. Thanks for the news re Spot.

Jam, we aren't very well off for mirrors here but when we move I will have my fancy giant bedroom mirror. Suspect I will need brandy and sal volatile that day, not custard creams!

Avo, Jam is right. Your DD1 is going to have such a super time. Sorry your house purchase is dragging on a bit. Any more surprise visits from your buyers? And what do you have to do to the new house when you move in, if anything?

Vag, that is such good news on a move date - and what do YOU have to do to the new house? I seem to remember it was in quite good nick?

JB, sorry to hear the doctors are such jonahs but I am glad to hear they are taking care of you, however gloomily...

Deids, I am sorry your Nan is still so frail but if she is medically almost well to leave, that's got to be good. I am envious of your parents' trip to Sri Lanka, I had a wonderful trip there a few years ago. Where are they going?

KP, I think keeping her with her pal is more important at this stage. What sort of stuff do they learn at nursery? I am interested as DD1 has never been, of course. She's known her alphabet for a while and tries to write letters and numbers but that's only because she is obsessed with pencils and drawing. Is this similar to what they do?

Oooh, loads more people to say things to but DD2 has done a giant leaky poo! Back soon.

hello everyone sorry to have worried you i've had a bit of a crappy week despite arrival of lovely no name boy. basically have had nightmares feeding, milk only came in yesterday and have had less than 2 hrs sleep a night all week so am barely functioning right now. saw a bf counsellor today after told baby had lost 2 much weight, got to yesterday and i was ready to throw in the towel. i think i wanted someone to give me permission to stop. anyway i broke down at the clinic and realised that i was actually v unhappy bfing. the counsellor wa lovely and suggested i pump and bottlefeed as a compromise and that's what i'm going to do, am hiring one of those hospital grade double ones and going to see how long that can last. i've had to give some formula today as am exhausted but hoping to keep supply going with 3-hourly expressing. not v snuggly but a way for me to not stop entirely.
i have to go and try to sleep now but will be back as soon as possible.

JJ, did warmth from the radiator make the weewee smell? Oh well as long as she's got something to keep her warm. Poor DS2 sits in wet nappies all night so surely sleeping in pre weed in pjs can't hurt.

Thanks for the update Rubes poor Spot, she had a hard few months first time around with sleep and feeding, hopefully it settles down soon for her. Hope she is getting the support she needs.

Lady the property is good to go only a few aesthetic things that need sorting. Which obviously means we'll not do it for ages. Hopefully nothing surprises us after we move in.

Avo should I be concerned if anyone wants to go through my 'undue' drawers? . Thinking of you tomorrow Avo, what a big girl your DD1 is now. She'll love it.

Jam, I had to try on some new gym gear today, it was not fun. I do not have a body that looks like it ever competed in any sort of sport, let alone triathlons and marathon. I'm huge. I have a lot of work to do. Tonights curry didn't help.

We just had a friend over for dinner, his wife a friend of mine here is visiting her family in Australia with their kids so we thought it would be nice to have him over. Poor guy is really missing them.

Cross posted with you Spot. I'll give you permission if you want, but I think really, you need to give yourself permission. You gave that boy a brilliant start, a nice peaceful birth into water! Take it easy on yourself babe.

Sorry to hear it's been tough spot - you do whatever works for you - bfding is great yes, but it's not for everyone. Vagola is right as ever. When I think about it I am still cross with myself for persisting when I found it so hard with DS - shouldn't have bothered but hard to think straight when you're so tired and hormones all over the place. Sending you lots of love. It does get easier .

Avo good luck for tomorrow. Am sure she'll love it but will be thinking of you. New job is still in Whitehall, and still in same Dept but am now more senior so it will be different role. Which is exciting and intimidating. More of the former though.

Jam I am with everyone else on how horrendous that is for your friend. I hope she does complain.

kiwi sounds like you made the right decision on the nursery. much more important she's happy with friends and very cute that she has a best friend.

Wg thanks for your kind words. I think you're absolutely right. Am not going to even consider it for a bit.

on nappies I am a massive fan of the moltex german ones. We've never had a problem with leaking (although do have a slight problem when DD decides to take it off). they really are great and environmentally more friendly than others. you can often get deals on them when you order them online, but tbh because they're so good I find I use far fewer of them in a day than normal nappies. You can get them here