Brides to be - come talk weddings here

[TillyScoutsmum]

Right - have moved out of chat so we can share pics later on ... Old thread here

Current list

DifferentID - got married Saturday - hope you had a fab day - come back and tell us all about it and show us some pics. Please

Teaofortwo - this week (4th/5th ??)
Smallships - 11th July
Babyinacorner - 11th July
Beautifuldays - 24th July

Dropdeadfred - 9th August
Oopsadaisy - 30th August

Ilovefoxes - 13th Sept
Smurfgirl - Oct

Fifisworld - 7th November
Tillyscoutsmum - 29th November

Lizzer - ? 2009
Swiftyknickers - May 09
Lovemygirls - Sept 09

Sorry guys, had to go out. I posted this on chat too, and they have a slightly different opinion!! It's not the end of the world I suppose, but it's a bit upsetting. I had envisioned him seeing me for the first time as I walk into the room, but hey!!

I will challenge the music thing though.

says here, page 5

other thread here

I said LMG - I meant stretchmarkqueen - I'm sorry

(I blame on going back to work and being knackered!)

SMQ - you've had the intereview together already when you went to give notice presumably (when you take your passport and proof of ID etc.? You then wait the 15 days, they give you the notices, you take them to where you're getting married and then on the day, they normally have to briefly interview you again to check none of the information you originally gave has changed. Just checking the process is the same as for us......

If that's all the case, I really don't understand why they can't do the second interview separately. We even had the choice of me popping there on the Friday and DP going in just before on the Saturday (to save me getting to the venue too early)

i think you did well on the other thread - normally any mention of weddings on here gets everyone coming on and telling you that YABU

And the music thing is clear cut on their info booklet - just tell them again. What were you going for ? Just so we can see whether we think there is any reason at all why they might think its a problem.

What buggers ! You don't need this bloody stress so close to the wedding

Thanks Tilly! Yes it not good having this stress!

Yep, we've had our interview, gotten our notices and handed them in. I don't get why we can't have it seperatly? I don't think its law? We will ask again, but it does say in the booklet that we wil be interviewed togeher.

We haven't told them, what music we're having, so it can't be that. We will fight it though! I am not walkig down the aisle to Queen of Sheeba! It's sooo not me!

I didn't realise that weddings get a pasting on here!! Is that why we have our own thread!

I'm pretty sure the interview they refer to in the booklet is the one you've already done though. Worth checking but not the end of the world I suppose

(Upon arrival and prior to the ceremony,
the Bride and Groom will be greeted by
a Registrar and escorted to a private
interview. The Bride and Groom will be
interviewed together for a Registration
Office Wedding but separately for a
wedding at approved premises.
The interview is essential to ensure that
all the particulars are correct and that
the required certificates are available.)

I don't get why it's different? Surely they must realise that quite a few brides & grooms will not want to see each other until the "moment".

I am preparing myself for this happening, it can be romantic, as another poster said. So, if it does happen , we will look at it from that point of view.

Ah - missed that bit. I suppose it must be a time constraint thing for Registry Office do's. It could be lovely for him to see you for the first time when you're alone together. If its any consolation, DP and I are having the interview together and are walking down the aisle together (with dd's)

That sounds really lovely . i would like that too, but my dad really wants to "walk me down the aisle"! I am the eldest, and my sis is just starting uni for 3 years, no plans to get hitched, and he can't walk my bro!! So I am the only one at the moment!! Wouldn't want to hurt his feelings.

How come, even though we are only having small cheap-ish wedding, we have all this hassle??

tsm - that is so lovely!!!! What a fab idea. Can you do that smq?

We did the interview together too... the interview isn't very romantic in itself but I suppose it could be if it is the first moment he sees you in your dress - they just read to you the information they have put on the wedding certificate about your Dad's job, your name etc and you have to say "Yes that is correct."

It would actually be quite nice, cos everyone has said that you don't really get much time together, so we can have a bit of piece and quiet for 5 mins!! Did you get to see each other much T42? You had a small wedding, iirc?

Of course, I meant PEACE and quiet!!

oh yes - we got to see each other throughout the day with our friends, with our daughter and just us two as well.

Also we both got time to spend just with our friends too. This was also nice!

Actually the meeting is so quick I really don't think it is the make or break!

We walking down the aisle seperate as well SMQ, DP's best friend is giving me away. He is also dd's godfather so its quite nice really.

I wanted to wear my mum's wedding ring as I walked down the aisle as neither of my parents can be at the wedding, my mums too ill and my dad has passed away. But I tried it on today and its too small.

Has anyone any ideas how I can still have it near me on my wedding day. DP said wear it on necklace but it wouldn't look right on the necklace I'm wearing.
Any ideas?

I'm really sorry to hear that hughjarrrrs I hope your mum is feeling better soon.

Can you wear her ring on your little finger? Or perhaps if your dress is really long, you could put it on a thin chain around your ankle?

whoops! hughjarssss.

It will fit on my little finger but I worried it looked silly.
My dress is long so I mght get away with wearing it on my ankle.
Thanks smq

I don't think it'll look wrong on your finger. Anyway, who cares? It's special to you, and I doubt anyone would say anything anyway!! You've got close friends coming down haven;t you? So they will know your circumstances.

Sorry, will add a so that this doesn't sound harsh!! (Wasn't meaning to be!)

Hugh - you could put it on a bracelet (I wore my mum's wedding ring on a bracelet at my first wedding) or would you consider getting it resized ?? Sorry your parents won't be physically there with you

Don't think I would get it resized - It means to much and I would worry about it being damaged but a braclet is a great idea.

I'm off to see if I can find a nice braclet to wear, if not I wear it on my little finger.

Thanks Tilly and smq

I had my wedding ring resized as it was origionally dh's Great Grandmother's.

It really hasn't done it any damage.

I like the idea of a bracelet too... I think it should be somewhere you can see it!

Now I know that T42 its a shame I wont have time to have it resized.

I think a braclet is the best way to go as well now

We've had our first tiff since our engagement (in may) actually our first tiff since march, it's nothing massive but I think I'm right and he thinks he is now he's gone to work without talking to me

I've booked a family photo shoot for the morning and a wedding dress appointment in the afternoon for a saturday plus theres a wedding fayre on the sunday the problem is he wants to go out with some friends he has seen once in the past 10yrs (one of which he lost his virginity to, i do trust him, it's just the thought of him wanting to spend time with them instead of me when I'll be out most of the weekend doing wedding stuff i'd like to have spent time with him iyswim?) he's thrown the wedding back in my face by saying I don't stop you wedding planning (well someone has to do it we've only got a yr left to organise it) and he also said its me that wants to get married why should it stop him going out with his friends.
I haven't said he cant go just said couldnt he go the next month because I've booked stuff for that weekend so it's really busy and if he goes out we wont have much time together. AIBRU?
I'm on the verge of ordering my dress but I just need to see a few more shops to really make up my mind I think plus I'm really busy workwise in october so would be nice if I can have the dress ordered before then.

Lovemygirls - it is ok. Everyone tiffs a bit it is just human beings ways of making sure we all feel a bit more comfortable in the future because we understand each other a bit more.

What about if he does the family photo then goes out with friends after?

I say this because it will keep him occupied while you then can invite a girlfriend or sister to go to the fayre with you. You can try one hundred dresses on and talk and talk weddings all you please because women are just better, in general, at that kind of thing. I am impressed that your dp is someone you would even consider inviting to a wedding fayre or dress shopping. I know my dh would turn into a two year old if I suggested either of those things!