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This is a VERY sensitive subject, I know, but I am curious to know just how big a problem this is

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 20:40

How many people on here have been assaulted/raped and have either reported or not reported it?

I found out that the conviction rate rapes was just 6% . 6% of reported rapes. There are many many many more that go unreported. I want to know roughly what kind of figure we are looking at. Please change your name if need be, but do post.....

I'll start..

Me - unreported.

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newnameforthisone · 14/09/2006 00:46

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 00:48

Its just getting late newname. Dont take it personally. I have to admit, Im relieved it has slowed down. The posts were adding up so so quickly it was frightening.

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fairyfly · 14/09/2006 00:53

Not really vvv, it yet again is complicated.

I made a huge mistake and i live with it.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 00:55

What do you think you did wrong?

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fairyfly · 14/09/2006 00:57

Because i was naieve enough to think i could let men into my house as a newly single mum just for some good chat and company

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 01:00

Oh FF

You didnt make a mistake, you really didnt.

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notadmittedthistomyselfbefore · 14/09/2006 01:03

This thread makes for tragic reading, and is a sad indictment on some of the men in our society.

I feel quite ill having read it through again.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 01:07

Are you okay notadmitted? CAT me if you want to talk, please?

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fairyfly · 14/09/2006 01:10

Fuck i did, anyway vvv, i would like to tell you, just becaue you have been so nice and listened and i feel all cathartic, i asked him to go, he left, he knocked on my door, i answered, he said, how about a kiss, i said, ooooo nooooo it's been lovely speaking to you tonight but i'm not interested in a kiss, he kept asking, i laughed, i smiled, i said night, go away, i was starting to think he was weird.

I locked and shut the front door, relaxed for a bit, took all my clothes off for bed ( as i sleep in the nude) fell in a deep sleep.

Next thing i know somebody has their fingers deep inside me ( sorry but it took a long time to realise it wasn't a dream)

He had broken into my house and climbed in bed with me.

It was tooooo weird for me to think it was somebody outside, i took about 4 seconds and then screamed, i then saw his errect penis.

Mhamai · 14/09/2006 01:17

Fu*kin hell fairfly, I don't know if you do virtual hugs but am offering them anyway [hugs]

notadmittedthistomyselfbefore · 14/09/2006 01:18

I'm fine, VVVQV, thanks.

Just a bit "OMG" about all these survivors and re-evaluating my own history.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 01:19

FF - it is cathartic to tell the story.

You apologised again...you dont need to, why would you expect someone to be in your bed and doing that to you?

He broke into your house FF, why would that be your mistake? I think you are chastising yourself for something that just isnt your fault. On any level. Sweetheart, you did NOTHING wrong. The mistake was his. That was proven by the police and the conviction.

You are doing yourself a disservice by apportioning any culpability for HIS actions.

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fairyfly · 14/09/2006 01:20

I don't do them Mhamai but i will take them tonight, you just made me LARF, can i give you a Virtual back?

I've decide they're called Virtuals now, every time you hug someone in rl x

Mhamai · 14/09/2006 01:20

All us! survivors

Mhamai · 14/09/2006 01:23

I gladly accept my virtual from you fairfly and pass them on to everyone on this thread, night night all [hugs]

fairyfly · 14/09/2006 01:25

I've never ever been able to deal with the fact i have put someone in prison, i was ashamed when they sentenced him. I told the police because i didn't want to be scared, i wanted my boys and i to be safe. He called round the next day. I was frightened. I'm incredibly fucked up about the fact someone is in a cell because of me. I don't want to do that to another. I should have just known not to.

notadmittedthistomyselfbefore · 14/09/2006 01:27

No, he put HIMSELF behind bars by his own actions.

fairyfly · 14/09/2006 01:27

Night Mham x

notadmittedthistomyselfbefore · 14/09/2006 01:28

YOU and your boys have the right to be safe in your own home.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 01:29

FF - he is in a cell because of him. And whilst he is there, he cant do this to anyone else. What you have done is admirable. You have prevented many other woman (and there would have been, I guarantee it) from going through what you did. You can and should be proud of what you have done. You didnt ask for any of this. You wanted friendship.

HE has done this to you and himself. I'd call you the victim, but you are stronger than that. I know you are.

Dont bear his guilt for him sweetheart - let that be his punishment too. You have suffered enough already.

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fairyfly · 14/09/2006 01:36

I will never be the Victim, i feel sorry for him as he is... what makes someone do that? did he just need some help?

Thats the way my brain works, i nearly cried then, so thankyou vvv, you were bringing quite a lot of it out, but i'm back to the hard faced cow i know i am.

Night xxx

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 01:38

No problem FF. If you ever want to talk....CAT me please, okay?

Night
xxx

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fairyfly · 14/09/2006 01:42

I can't vvv, for some reason it never take my credit cadr but ditto, loooook after yourself too x

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 14/09/2006 01:51

I have paid mine

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fairyfly · 14/09/2006 01:55

Hark at you

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