This is a VERY sensitive subject, I know, but I am curious to know just how big a problem this is

[VeniVidiVickiQV]

How many people on here have been assaulted/raped and have either reported or not reported it?

I found out that the conviction rate rapes was just 6% . 6% of reported rapes. There are many many many more that go unreported. I want to know roughly what kind of figure we are looking at. Please change your name if need be, but do post.....

I'll start..

Me - unreported.

thats 16 in under 5 mins......

yes thanks, hope everything is good with you and gorgeous dd x

Most often its one persons word against another.

And then - what constitutes "no", and the issue of consent.

And then - if it does go to trial, the victim is put on trial as well as the defendent. That is particularly harrowing.

Few rapes are stranger rapes. Although I gather the conviction rate of 6% is made up of a high % of stranger ones - easier to prove the no/consent thing I guess.....

sexually abused whilst in a relationaship, not reported

I can also think of one other occasion when I have said no and the guy has persisted - but then again I am not blameless was starkers in some blokes bed and then changed my mind.

Me - unreported

and it wasn't reported as it was someone I knew and i didn't think I'd be believed

Mum - unreported, at a time when rape was not considered something women reported or talked about

Yes me, and I recently found out my brother as well, by the same person.

I bet the majority of people who are raped by someone they know don't report it, too mnay of us think of rape as something that happens between strangers

i didnt report it because he was a "friend", i thought he was offering support as i was on my own after having ds1 as my xp had left me.
he decided otherwise, id only given birth 6 weeks previously..i just knew that no one would beleive me.

Good God MP, how fucking horrific...

oh well then twin set thats ok then.....the bastard

VVV, can you define what you mean by assaulted, or should we have our own definiton? (and I assume you mean sexual assualt?)

not saying either man can be excused or their actions were ok, but I was not blamesless either

how sad that nothing can be done about these horrific crimes

Did you report MP?

I've had more than one experience as well - all unrelated too. "known" every man too.

I have always thought, in my head, that "most" women have probably been in a very bad situation with a man at some point. I think it's part of life's rich experience.

I know that's just an AWFUL thing to say. I am not a man-hater at all. But it's just so incredibly common.

It worries me, being the mother of girls.

I do mean sexual assault, yes Mercy.

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Me - reported, was horrendous experience and god forbid it ever happened again, I wouldn't report it

sadly mp I think you may be right , not all women ahve been raped and not all men are rapists but I best most women have felt pressurised or felt they have gone too far to say no.

Oh, I'd bet 99% of women on here who've been assaulted, the man in question was someone they knew.

Me - once or twice (depending on what counts, unrelated), unreported. Both times it was "date rape", not "stranger rape". I felt guilty and confused. I was young.

I must then be in the minority as nothing like this has ever happened to me thank goodness.

Can I just say how bloody brave and brilliant you all are. You are fantastic women.

Unfortunately laneyday it takes time. Its only in the last 5 years that the law has been changed to prevent rapists standing trial from defending themselves therefore being able to cross examine their victim. Its only in the last 5 years that defence teams have been prevented calling into question the victim sexual preferences/history although they still try and its only in the last 30 years that a man raping his wife has been considered illegal!! External evidence never used to be taken, the police was a largely male dominated profession that considered rape as a woman's revenge for being dumped. Did anyone ever see a program showed in the 70's/80's about Reading Police? It kind of said it all really.