Child sex offender

[okeydonkey]

I can't believe Im actually writing this. I found out my sister, who has two children from previous relationship, has been seeing a man who is on the child sex offenders register. He was caught downloading child porn on a work computer. My sister is saying there's a fine line and he didn't know the girls were under age. I'm sickened. AIBU to feel like she's trying to pull wool over my eyes. As he's done so with her.

Child protection is everybody's responsibility. And I won't fuck off. I would say this all to you in real life too. You should be ashamed of yourself. For the sake of a phone call you are leaving your DN without the extra protection another report to social services could offer.

Think hard about the possibilities. Rape. Assault. Forced to pose for photographs. Videoed.

That is what you are potentially assisting.

But, hey, as long as you're okay, right?

They know anyway I don't need to tell them

I doubt very much that they do.

But a quick phonecall wouldn't harm to make sure.

And yes, I'd happily say all this to your face.

Ok I phone them tomorrow

Now over and out

I'd have assumed they'd be told, too. It's insane that they aren't. Why aren't they??

Good for you OP for pursuing it to SS.

Wishing your family all the best.

I think people are being a bit harsh. It's easy to sit online saying what you would do in certain situations when you are not emotionally invested. The op has all the emotional ties to this and must be reeling. the ppolice have been told of her concerns. The police officer she spoke to works in the unit that monitors these offenders. They will have multi agency stuff going on. She has told the childrens father, spoken to her mum and sister about it. A call to ss won't hurt but she has done plenty and is probably second guessing herself. The police have confirmed dsis story too.

Sorry you are going through this op.

Op please call ss tomorrow.

Tale it from me, the guilt you will have to live if you don't eats away at you.

Please

People are definitely being harsh. Op, if you're reading, well done for doing this much. Going up against family for what you believe is hard, doing it with a nest of rose tinted vipers pushing is even harder. Trust me, I've been there.

Look out for your dn in that you can report anything you notice because you are privy to more information about their situation than most people but you have done your bit for now. Without new information there isn't much more to be done. If the police are aware of his contact with children and it is being monitored then ss are involved because they are the people who monitor. If your sister has told you the full facts and appears to be fully informed then you have to step out. You (or various vipers) may not agree with her choices but that's tough - in the real world! It would be great if life were black and white but it's not and we all bumble along doing the best we can on a daily basis. Eyes and ears open is the only way to be from here.

Wishing you and yours all the best.

They are not my responsibility and it's not my place to protect them

Yes they are & yes it is. I hope for your sake nothing happens. I live everyday knowing my cousins were abused, but none of the adults seem to know. If I could have prevent it, I would have.

It all got too hard, didn't it op? Poor kids.

It is your responsibility, it is your choice to speak up, I see daily the effect child abuse has on my hubs, I see daily the fear in his eyes that if I walk out and take our son he will not be able to protect him, I see daily my mother in laws pain at knowing that she couldn't protect her children as she didn't know about it. I've watched a family be destroyed and try to rebuild itself, a family who try to function as best they can all because of an animal who thought it was acceptable to abuse those children. This man is an animal to look at the pictures is just as bad as committing the acts theirselves.

I know mil will spend the rest of her natural life trying in some way to make it up to her children for not protecting them, it's a fact she can't change and one she will have to suffer.

You have the choice you can protect your dn, by choosing not to you might as well be condoning his views and tendencies. I know I sound harsh however until you have seen the destruction first hand what is left in the wake of abuse you have no idea how the survivor will feel, especially if he finds out you knew all along and did nothing to help him.

If you do not wish to ring ss pm me the details and I will ring them, when it comes to the protection and safety of children we are all responsible against these animals.

MASH operates in my area too. If your MASH is anything like the one here then I think that if the police know then SS will too.

A phone call to confirm that they do indeed know wouldn't hurt.

I really appreciate all the support. I really appreciate all the empathy regarding how hard it is. I understand too the harshness of some posters and regret my outburst, but it is very easy to sit online making your own choices and decisions.
But I know that the police officer I spoke to is part of MASH as I had a job interview there a few weeks ago and we discussed MASH. He wasn't just a police officer he was part of the child protection scheme running here. With social services sat in next room.
The police officer told me it was all in hand and all the i's dotted and R's crossed regarding my sis and her kids. I made sure of that. So prefer not to be told that I should be ashamed of myself.

T's not R's