If you have 3 children do they all have their own room?

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Just that really, I’m expecting in September we have a 8&6 year old boy and girl, plan is for the older two to share for a year or two and then whichever sex the new child is they will then share further down the line.

coming up for a remortgage in October and we think we are just going to pull a bit of money out to pay off a few things so we are a bit more comfortable on mat leave.

anyway do yours all have their own room? Does it work for you? I always shared when I was little and I enjoyed sharing with my sister x

I feel like with the cost of living etc I really don’t want to have a big mortgage I’d rather have more freedom for holidays etc

I personally would never have more children that I have bedrooms (by choice, accidents obviously happen). My room was my total safe space as a teenager and I remember how much my friends who shared hated it. My 2 nephews have been sharing since 2 and 6 months but the oldest is 8 now and is absolutely desperate for his own space. I have a 5 bed house and have 2 DC currently. We all have our own bedroom then the spare 2 rooms are an office and a playroom. Tbh I got back and forth on a 3rd but not feeling like we have the space for them is a big reason on my no list.
Although I know a few people that have kids sharing and do the ikea kalex (sp?) technique to split the room and still give a bit of privacy so I guess that’s an option, especially with a big age gap!

Sharing is fine in many instances. With large age gaps and differing sexes it is less ideal, as is the case here. As such, I would avoid it.

I have four children in a 3 bed - 3 boys aged 14, 13 and 11 and a girl aged 7.

The boys all share a room and rhe girl has her own room.

We are shortly moving to a 4 bed. The eldest boy will have his own room, the other 2 boys will share and girl will have her own room.

They will do in the future though. I have 3 with their own rooms and it works well. They all appreciate their own space.

Surely children will accept what they have and go with it. Do what you can.

Mine enjoyed sharing in primary school but preferred and enjoyed their own rooms from 10/11 ish. from secondary school onwards they spent lots of time in their room.

Because of the large age gap, it will be difficult to have say a 6 year old and 14/12 year old. Do you imagine the older child having to creep into their room to go to sleep or the younger child having to sleep while the older one is on FaceTime with friends or doing homework at their desk? The older one couldn’t have sleepovers and would you stop them doing stuff like listening to music (which may have crude language) or playing computer games because of the younger one? I think that the older child who shares will be very annoyed at the sibling who doesn’t share.

Mine all have their own rooms. I wouldn’t have had anymore children if I couldn’t give them their own space. I like privacy and space to myself too much to make them share.

We have two girls and a boy - all very close in ages.

They all had their own room from birth. Whilst they do get on, they all like having their own space.

To be frank, if you don’t have the space for a third child then it’s irresponsible and selfish to have another. Kids need the privacy of their own bedroom, especially as they grow older. 6 is a huge age gap

I am one of three. Being the eldest I shared with middle for a while (close age gap). Eventually middle and youngest shared and I had my own room. There’s a 6.5 year age gap between me and youngest and I would’ve been furious if we’d had to share as it seemed like a humongous age gap when we were kids. I couldn’t have my polly pockets around my toddler sister and if she were two and I was eight I wouldn’t have been able to play with them in my own bedroom. If when I was fifteen I had to share my room with my annoying nine year old sister I think I would’ve slept on the sofa to be honest. It’d a tricky one. If that’s all the space you have then you do what you have to do. Mine share a bedroom but are close in age and have a massive room.

We’re in a 2bed, boys share. They’re 16 & 8.
no issue at all and never has been

I think your age gaps/genders may cause an issue. I’m pregnant with my third in a 3 bed house, but we have 2 boys - 4 and 2 and they’re so close that even if we had more bedrooms they’d absolutely still want to share with each other for quite a few more years I’d imagine!

In your case I’d like a bedroom for each child and once ours get older we will
look to move to a 4 bed, but lots of children do share and if you don’t have the space then they’ll have to. Is one room big enough that you could maybe have a partition wall or something?

When I had my 3rd I had a 6 year old girl and 4 year old boy. We kept the youngest in with us until she was 3 then moved to a 4 bed so each child could have their own room. Now my oldest is doing her exams I am so glad she has her own space for all the revision.

In real life it is fine for siblings to share rooms. It’s only on MN it’s a problem.

3 bed house- younger two shared (3 year gap) until youngest was 10. We have moved downstairs so they have a room each-everyone is happier!

Teens need and want their own space (if possible).

Mine all now have their own rooms, there is 16 months between the oldest 2 and they preferred to share when they were smaller, but then they started fighting around 7-8…
They both have very different interests, oldest one has Autism and hated his brother being his space when he was trying to decompress after school so the younger one moved into the box room to get some peace.
I then fell pregnant with our 3rd surprise baby and knew there was absolutely no way the other two could go back to sharing which meant the middle one sharing with the baby but there is 6 years between them and the smallest would have fiddled around and broken his Lego models, risking getting hold of small things once he was on the move.
We were lucky in that we could go upwards into the loft, so our room is now up there and the children all have their own rooms in size order of age.
I’ve told them how lucky they are especially as they are all boys so could have shared and many children do.
They would have driven each other mad though if they had shared though.

I have a 13y DD and 16y DS. They do have their own rooms but have never spent much time in them. It’s usually me encouraging them to. You can definitely make it work. When I was grieving up lots of my friends shared rooms.

I can’t believe some of the judgmental comments on here, wow. it wasn’t so long ago that it wasn’t unheard of to have 6 kids in a room and an outside loo and kids grew up just fine!

Enjoy your new baby and figure it out as you go along. I have 3 kids and in an ideal world they would all have their own rooms but we make do with what we have and they’re all happy and healthy.

Please don’t take some of these ridiculous comments to heart.

Sharing is fine when they are very little but when they are older it's not ideal. If you can't afford it that's one thing, but if you can stretch a bit and use the money to make everyone's home life nicer, you're better off spending it on moving/ an extension than holidays.

Did they though? Anyone I know who grew up like that has major issues over boundaries and family shit 🤣🤣 and just because it happened doesn’t make it right.

I don't know anyone that fragile, but I guess we all just move in our own circles.

You might get issues down the line with the older ones needing to do homework and revision in their bedrooms and the younger one needing to go to bed.
The 3 families i know with 3 kids have done extensions or moved so each has their own room.

People on Mumsnet are a bit funny about kids sharing rooms OP. I am one of 6 siblings who lived in a 3 bedroom council house. I shared with 3 sisters and I turned out ok (I think 😂). In some ways I think it was great. I learned how to share, compromise and do with less. I really appreciate things now and I am thankful for what I have. My two kids have their own room but they do get scared at night sometimes. I was never scared at night because we had eachother for company. I felt secure. Yes we argued but it is all character building and we had a lot of laughs too. My family are still close and we enjoy getting together as adults with our kids. Nobody needs their own room. It's a want not a need. They do obviously need a clean warm bed and hopefully a somewhat quiet environment to sleep in and if you can provide that then that's fab.

Mine shared when they were little but by the time they were 15, 13 and 9 they all had their own rooms.

I think it really depends on the age gap. I had to share in my early teens with a baby / toddler and it was very disruptive and restrictive. Later my parents swapped it around so I could have much needed space and the younger 2 shared which worked a bit better for a few years.

I woild put the baby in with you until it sleeps through and then it should be fine with the 6 y/o for a few years.

I think in 5 years time it may become more problematic. The baby would then be 5 and starting school and the current 6 yo would be 11 and starting secondary. From memory my kids at age 5 were very tired and went to bed between 6 and 7 but by y7 they were staying till around 8 and needing space to do homework or just wind down / read before bed. But you have time to make a plan such as extend, move etc.