If you have 3 children do they all have their own room?

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Just that really, I’m expecting in September we have a 8&6 year old boy and girl, plan is for the older two to share for a year or two and then whichever sex the new child is they will then share further down the line.

coming up for a remortgage in October and we think we are just going to pull a bit of money out to pay off a few things so we are a bit more comfortable on mat leave.

anyway do yours all have their own room? Does it work for you? I always shared when I was little and I enjoyed sharing with my sister x

I feel like with the cost of living etc I really don’t want to have a big mortgage I’d rather have more freedom for holidays etc

I think sharing with an eight year age gap is tough, particularly as the eldest heads into teens. But if it’s what you can manage, it’s all you can manage!

Well hopefully it’s a boy so then will only be 6 year gap haha tbh they don’t actually spend a lot of time in their bedrooms to be honest

I have three DC and they enjoyed sharing until the oldest one was around 11/12. As teens they prefer their own space though.

People do what they have to, but I think this would be causing loads of issues for yourselves. A 14 year old and a 5 year old wouldn’t make good roommates for obvious reasons.

Yes.

Even if the new child is a boy, a 2/3 year old sharing with an 8/9 year old won't work very well. Your two year old will get woken up.

A ten year old sharing with a 16 year old really won't work well. Teenage boys need space for.. things

I had three boys. All had their own rooms. We wouldn't have had them if we couldn't provide it. We (their parents) really value privacy and space and never had to share ourselves.

I wouldn’t have more children than the number of rooms I could provide, personally.
I think children need their own space.

I’m one of 3 and my sister and I shared and we liked it (though did argue at times), but we had only a 2 year gap.

I think with your age gaps and the fact your older two are different sexes it’s not going to work - your baby is going to be at a completely different stage from the older ones. I think if I were you I’d keep the baby in with you as long as possible and then try to find somewhere bigger once you’re out the other side of mat leave. Baby could in theory be ok in with you until about 3.

The boys shared until the eldest went to highschool at 11. Then he wanted space to himself.
We did a loft conversion and all of them had their own rooms from then.

I would be looking into ways to split the biggest room into two.

We have boy girl boy with 4 years inbetween each, they have seperate rooms, children use their rooms more as they age in my experience.

What are you going to do if the older children resent losing their own rooms - especially the one of the same sex who will be sharing long term?

Hopefully yours will like sharing, as you did, but I spent a lot of time reading in my room as a child & would have been furious at being told my little sister was going to share it.

Same here - three boys and they each value their individual space
i did share with my brother until i was 10 and it didnt bother me. It would have bothered me when i was a teen though!!!

My first 2 shared when we had an our third, we then moved, added a bit so everyone could have their own room. My eldest was 10 when he got his own room.

Saying that we shouldn’t be having more if we can’t provide an extra bedroom is ridiculous in my opinion. There are people who live in smaller less luxury lifestyles, we can provide a warm loving home. I shared with my sister till I moved out I never would have wanted my mum not to have my sister just because we didn’t have our own bedrooms.

yeah maybe something we can think about in the future I guess moving or an extension see how it works initially.

I only have 2, and they continue to share out of choice at 11 and 8 - BUT they are same sex and smaller age gap. I can’t imagine either of them sharing with a much younger child - as the get older they will want to use their room for more than just sleeping, plus a toddler has a much earlier bedtime than a late primary aged child.

Yes they have their own rooms. It was very important to me and DH although obviously plenty do share and it works. If you can’t you can’t and you’d probably be best off posting for sharing advice with big age gaps.

Although I was able to give my three children their own rooms, I never had my own room when I was living with my parents. Initially I shared with my older sister, just 17 months between us while my younger brother had his own room. When baby 4 came along, I was 12 and initially my baby shared with my brother but it was a disaster so when I was 15 she was moved into my room and there were three girls in one room! Two in bunk beds and me in a single bed. My elder sister went off to college shortly afterwards but still came home in the holidays.

Amazingly we all got on very well despite the age difference but I think nowadays most people would not do this for their children. My young sister and I have a very good relationship and I’m very close to her and her two children.

Mine were fine sharing until oldest was 8. Then she started needing peace and quiet from her energetic younger sister.

Life is different from when were young. Exam stress for example. They need their own space for study from Early Secondary.

Ours do. When we only had 2 and they were very close in age they shared for about a year.

We then had a third when the older ones (also a boy and girl) at about the same ages...7 and 5.

None of your age gaps or gender splits work for sharing tbh, you can't put a baby or toddler in with a nigh on 10 year old, nor make the opposite sexes share as they get older.

Mine all get on perfectly well, but making one of them share with the littlest would have been a recipe for disaster, and as they're teens now them sharing wouldn't work either.

They all had their own rooms however two of them just wanted to share the big bedroom and be in together mine we were also closer in age
But it was really important to me by the time they got to the teenagers that they all had the option for their own space so we bought a four bedroom property
And then one number four came along we converted the loft

This. Most houses I know if they can afford it (3 bed 20s/30s semis) extend into the attic or to the side top and back below. The box rooms with these houses though a bedroom are tiny.

Absolutely. The two boys in our household are 14 and 8, and very different characters and perfectly normal for their respective ages. It would be hugely unfair on the 14 year old for him to always have to share because he just so happens to be a boy, while the sister always gets her own room as the only girl. It would foster massive contention between siblings, which was the opposite of what we wanted. The big kids need their own space.

Three kids here - boy (17), girl (14), girl (8) so quite similar age gaps to yours (older kids were 9 and 6 when DC3 was born). We have a 4-bed house so they each have their own room now but the two girls did share for a few years because they wanted to.

They shared from when our youngest moved out of our bedroom (probably about 10 months as didn’t want her with my other DD until she was reliably sleeping through the night) until my older DD was 11 so about 4 years. It was mostly fine but understandably my older DD wanted a bit more privacy as she got older so she moved into the much smaller spare bedroom. She valued privacy over space so she’s happy.

I shared with DB when young me 6 him 4 but only for 1-2 years. Then we got our own bedroooms.