If you have 3 children do they all have their own room?

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Just that really, I’m expecting in September we have a 8&6 year old boy and girl, plan is for the older two to share for a year or two and then whichever sex the new child is they will then share further down the line.

coming up for a remortgage in October and we think we are just going to pull a bit of money out to pay off a few things so we are a bit more comfortable on mat leave.

anyway do yours all have their own room? Does it work for you? I always shared when I was little and I enjoyed sharing with my sister x

I feel like with the cost of living etc I really don’t want to have a big mortgage I’d rather have more freedom for holidays etc

And we don’t have to borrow more it’s just an option and I thought we have had. We would manage without

Yes, all have own rooms. Girl 17, boy 14 and boy 7. The older 2 spend most of their time in their rooms and the younger prefers the small downstairs study to watch TV (no TV's in rooms but teen boy has a PC). Sharing absolutely wouldn't work in our house.

My sister has 3 and her 15 year old and 5 year old share and the teen hates it and comes to stay with me often.

If you can manage without, then you would be better to. Using this money to pay off debts isn’t the best way to do things as you’ll be paying back so much more long term. As you say you don’t really need it, I wouldn’t do it and instead remortgage in a few years so that you can extend your home or buy a 4 bed.

This is lovely ♥️ my two can’t wait to share now! They would be sharing already if they could have it their own way haha

Yeah think we will have a good long hard think about that, going to see a financial advisor in a few months anyway so will have a think x

Yes ours do. Personally I think it's really important.

Every child having their own room is very much a modern phenomenon. I didn’t have my own room until I was a teenager despite us having 2 spare bedrooms. I guess you could argue that it’s progression, and an ideal to have a room for every child. But no, it’s not essential.

Yes, all same sex. 2 youngest are close in age and due to finances they shared until 9 and 10. We were finally able to move then for separate rooms and their relationship improved, the house was much calmer, etc. I wish we'd been able to provide this earlier.

ETA. I had to share as a child until I was about 10 too, which is why I feel strongly about the importance of separate rooms, if at all possible. We moved 150 miles away to make it happen, as we were previously in a very expensive part of the SE.

My younger 2 (identical twins) shared until we moved just before their 6th birthday. They had very different sleep needs. At one point I had all 3 girls in a room as dd1 felt left out but after 6 months wanted her own room again.

They are now 18 and 14 (twins) and own rooms are essential imo. Lots of hormones!

That’s interesting. I went to a state school although it was selective and none of my friends shared. Even at primary everyone had their own room. I’ve known far more sharing rooms who are the same ages as my dc.

We have 3 dc and we have a 4 bed house, so there is a bedroom for all of them. At the moment the youngest 2 share, as they like each other's company, but I'm sure that will change as they get older and want their own space.
I shared with 2 sisters when I was growing up and hated it - no privacy at all, no space to leave homework/projects out, I'm a night owl so I liked to study until late and play music. My brother, being the only boy, had his own room! It was a big factor in me wanting to go away to university as it was the first time I had a room to myself. I never returned for holidays and didn't live with my parents again once I'd left for uni.

Always been very important to me that kids have their own rooms tbh, though I appreciate not everyone can manage this. My DC2 is a terrible sleeper so no way would I ever consider she share with DC1.

I have two that share with a 5 year age gap. Luckily they get on okay 99.9% of the time.

Very rare. So at 14/15 you were happy to have a 6/7yr with you. Or 18 and a 10yr

obv no choice but it’s not ideal no

If I was married to a builder I’d be moving house and he’d have a night job until all the kids had bedrooms. I have a sibling, I wouldn’t have wanted to share with them.

Rookie error. According to MN every child, including step children visiting once per year, should have their own bedroom with ensuite.

Meanwhile in the real world we all crack on with shared bedrooms where needed or simply wanted and our children grow up with a remarkable lack of trauma and have normal lives. Just as we did as children sharing rooms.

Let the older two share for now, worry about reconfiguring the share pattern when you are back at work, know the new baby and can plan your financial future.

This all sounds entirely normal to me and probably most of the population with 3+ children. The concept of children sharing rooms as a human rights violation is something I’ve only ever come across on MN.

Growing up i had 3 brothers who shared a room, with me as the only girl having my own room. When we were in our teens, we had an extension and managed to have a room each.
Pregnant now with our second and hoping they can share a room.
You would have to be well organised I swear children nowadays have more stuff than we used to as kids.

I don't think anyone said that. I just personally think it isn't ideal and people deserve their privacy. Why would I have another kid I can't even house or give privacy to?

Yes, other cultures aren't bothered and bloody good luck to them, but in this country, people like a bit of privacy and don't want to share rooms with small children!

Also, rooms in this country are small enough. Bad enough for one child with all their stuff, impossible for more than one. I have seen on TV how people cram bunkbeds in small rooms and the kids can barely breathe and the only personal space they have is their mattress.

I was one of three and I shared with my sister, which was fine.
I have three and when ds3 was first born, then the older two shared and that was fine.
Now they all have their own room, and that's fine.

Honestly, most of the time, these aren't the things that make a big difference in life. Financial stability and a peaceful home are the heavy hitters.

Sharing at 8 and 6 is okay but the age gap to the baby is far too big to ask the same sex sibling to share with a toddler in theee years time. You're potentially planning to make a 15/16 year old with GCSE revision and coursework as well as teenage friends to share with 7 year old.

Yes, mine all have their own rooms - we initially had to juggle and use a room that wasn't really meant to be a bedroom when the youngest was ready to move out of our room, but they've never not had a room each. They often shared at weekends by choice when under 10 - they're closer in age than yours though.

I don’t think the older ones need to share now. The baby isn’t born yet and should be in the parents room until at least 6 months anyway, so this isnt a problem until this time next year.

I have regularly seen it on MN and you have just reiterated in your own post - one child per room or no more children.

“This country”? I was born and raised in London, where are you?

Rooms for lower incomes have always been small, nothing new about that. "Bad enough for one child with all their stuff, impossible for more than one” or possibly they have too much stuff?

According to your ex[ectation I and many MNers shouldn’t have been born and our eldest siblings should have been raised in splendid isolation - that worked so well for the little emperors.

Yes true although from the OP they seem keen to share so might as well set it up because they want it rather than moving “because baby”.

My first two shared in early years. Once we had moved to a house with MN approved number of bedrooms (one each plus a spare) all four went through phases of sharing with different siblings by choice and when younger we had them sharing anyway because they liked it and it enabled us to crack on with the house.

I’m in the UK. I don’t know anyone who shared a room aside from family members many years ago when they were children. Ie 1930s to 60s.

it’s not the worst thing but it’s not ideal either.

my kids would have never slept!