Recurrent Miscarriage Support Thread 26 - tests, treatment and trying again

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Tea, hugs, a wealth of collective knowledge and lots of hand holding as we try again. This thread moves like lightning so hold on to your hats!
Previous thread here

That sounds like a horrific time one step. Now dilemma... Finally feel like our luck is starting to change with things on the last few weeks (not the baby situation yet unfortunately!) So do I turn the mattress or not?!

Brummie my husband normally can't stand that type of telly but he's followed Love Island from the beginning …hmmm wonder why! Wall to wall bikini clad women Lol!!!

Kazz I'd leave the mattress well alone then! Lol

brummie totally go for fish fingers. Maybe focus on looking after you and buy a load of shove in the oven stuff for him. It is hard when you feel you need a bit of tlc and there's no-one there to give it. Just focus on you - he will understand.

onestep good plan booking a scan at coventry, I hope you are holding up ok. We have also had 3 years of dp's empoyment issues, with me feeling utterly desperate to stay at home with ds, him being desperate to go to work. Add 5 pg losses and we have been at rock bottom so many times. The strain has been huge. Am soooo turning the mattress.

sebs I hope tomorrow Is somehow more conclusive.

I have had more pink cm this morning, not much, but enough to scare me. After feeling dreadful yesterday I don't feel too bad today. Next scan is in 11 days...I should probably get in earlier, but you know what? I'm not going. I must have had approaching 20 scans during the last few years, and whilst I am normally desperate to know every detail of what is happening in there, I don't want to know today. Or tomorrow. I am looking in my diary thinking hmm next week would be more convenient for a mc than this week..I generally hang on to them and am on progesterone so I could easily stay in ignorance. Its ridiculous I know but I am really fed up with this repetitive process and if all I can control is when it's discovered then that is what I'll do. And I know it could still be ok, and am trying to hang on to that without deluding myself.

Sorry that was really self-absorbed.

Ah brummie think I may have twigged on your husbands venue -if it's what I think it is I can only imagine the stress on both of you! At least the end is hopefully in sight x

Sorry bootles cross post. Sorry you're feeling anxious, it's so difficult with scans isn't it and when to have them but it sounds like just waiting for the one booked is best for you. Sending you hugs x

onestep sorry you still have a head fuck, hoping the scan at coventry will provide some answers. X

Hugs brummie and bootles x

Flower I'm sorry af showed. I will have fingers crossed and hoping that your ivf works next month. x

I have a quick question re. Pred. When did you start it? If you had to get a prescription from coventry, did they email it and how long did it take to get it? I will be 4+1 on Monday when I see my gp (who should give it me) but wanted to check if not. Also anxious I should be starting it now although I know it will be fine to take from next week. Think I just need someone to reassure me. xxx

bootles go for it turn that mattress! Hope it brings you better luck.

Not at all self-absorbed, do what is right for you.

Wow, i'm definitely turning my matress over this evening!

brummie I'm coming round to yours for tea. Fish fingers and chips sounds divine! We've been living on ready meals, take away and oven food for the last 8 weeks and when i say we I mean dh. My diet currently comprises of haribo tangtastic, potatoes in every form and salt and vinegar chopsticks because that's all I can keep down!

Just flipped mattress thanks for the tip onestep hope Coventry are useful.

boozle totally empathise with the when's the most convenient time to mc... It's getting a bit better here but week after next and 6th July are my least convenient days now. Don't apologise for your post.

Thinking of everyone in the 2ww. Fingers crossed for another run of bfps

Had a consultant's appointment today. She talked about a possible stitch to be confirmed and keeping an eye on me and baby's growth because of my low bmi. Wasn't expecting anything.

Hurry up weekend.

Chip sticks... Bloody autocorrect... I don't have a strange craving for chopsticks

Right just clarify on the old wives tale…

Turn those mattresses (Clockwise), not flip them!

'Turn your mattress, turn your luck'

'Flip, (turn it over), turn your world upside down'!!!!

Speaking of old wives' tales, a little old lady crossed Scott's palm with silver today in sainsbury's. I thought she was just putting her receipt away. She seemed kind enough, like someone's granny, but I was a bit surprised to be given 50p by a complete stranger. Anyone heard of this custom before?

Thanks all. Flower there are a couple of new things opening in Birmingham this year. A mahoosive John Lewis is one of them which I'm rather excited about. It's the 2nd biggest store in country after John Lewis Oxford Street

DP is the other very big venue that is way behind schedule

He's finally left work and just called me asking what's for tea and was told "fish fingers chips and beans!!!"

Bootles hope everything is ok

kazz I can't believe your colleague! If she thinks it's too personal to discuss why did it not occur to her that asking someone why they didn't have kids was a bloody personal question?! I would have had a few choice words to say to her!

bootles nothing wrong with wanting to put your head in the sand. We've all had times when you just want to hide under the duvet and pretend nothing is happening, it's just self preservation and helps to get through the difficult times. Everything crossed that when you do go for your scan it will be happy news and all the better for being good news a little later along

flower sorry AF showed, but let the stabbing commence! Bring on the big guns!!

Mrsd that diet sounds great to me!!

Just nipping in before bathtime to see what you all think. Just had Coventry phone call with Prof Brosens (isn't he lovely!) he said reproductively speaking I'm absolutely normal apart from my age and the extra risk of abnormal embryos that causes. He said I should take the progesterone but that as my 3 mcs were not consecutive, I have a 3 year old and mc3 got past 10 weeks, they wouldn't suggest heparin. That they're wary of over treating. I thought it was standard but maybe not. He then said so unless you'd want to try IVF with donor eggs really the best thing to do is keep trying and hope for the best. I'm not sure whether to be happy or depressed about that!!! Especially as spotting for af started today so definitely out this month! I feel reasonably happy though weirdly, especially as I've had to listen to my colleague at work discussing her sil's baby ALL DAY!

Will catch up on everyone later. Sorry to rush in and out but would have forgot what he said by 8 o clock

Brummie, do you have a slow cooker? We bought loads of little Tupperware pots for individual portions of stew and curry, all ready to microwave, and freezer bags with mashed potatoes. Very handy for quick and easy meals.

Hi Ladies, just marking my spot.

I am 40 and my DH is 33

DD born Oct 2011 by EMCS (due to me contracting meningitis whilest pregnant)
MC1 @ 12 weeks Dec 2014- found out at the scan but had a feeling as was bleeding - got a d&c
MC2 @ 6 weeks May 2015 - natural

Think the first one might have been a blighted ovum but hosptial did not say.

Congrats to Cat, lovely to here good news

Sorry your are feeling a bit down Brummie, it's hard when the oh is working all the time. Totally understandable to miss him and need him. If you didn't feel that you needed him then that would be even more worrying.

Poor Bootles, no wonder you are feeling low after everything you have gone through. I hope you start to feel more yourself soon.

Just I know that tradition well. We do it in Scotland a lot (where I live anyway). It's usually just people I know but occasional strangers, definitely a trait with the older generation.

Nothing new with me, still tic and using the ovulation tests from cb. DD walked in mid test this morning (stupid me for not locking the door) so I faffed a bit and the test was void. Bet it was the positive one as well!

onestep re the progesterone, I don't think you should start it. The hospital may want to monitor your levels , although it is HCG that really matters for the purposes of determining when they ought to be able to see the pregnancy on the scan, in which case they'd want your real levels IYSWIM. The other thing is that if the pregnancy is ectopic, you don't want to be supporting it. Hopefully you don't have too long to wait for confirmation either way - with mine it took about a week of repeat bloods until my HCG hit 1500 (it started at 300 odd), at which point they expect to be able to see a pregnancy which is in the uterus, and instead they spotted one in my tube.

MrsD I would live on tangfastics and chipsticks if I could. Sadly I have no excuse, but one day...

minnie we were told the same - that our best shot was a natural conception but that otherwise we should go for IVF now. It's a bit stark, isn't it?

The age thing REALLY irritates me, because DH and I started ttc when I was 29, and bar a year when we gave up until this April, we have never stopped since (and I am 40 in a few weeks). The doctor who confirmed my last MMC started going on about "this is why I want my daughter to start her family straight out of university, and I will help her financially if I can, because of all these age-related problems". I managed a polite response, but only just! Plenty of women, like me, didn't intend to be trying for a baby at 39 and it is landed on them for whatever reason. Plenty of others have given up by this point. I am yet to meet the woman who was ttc at 40 because she didn't realise her odds were worsening and she just assumed it would all be fine...

Sorry, rant over. Will be turning my mattress too!

Good luck for the scan tomorrow Sebs

sasha i'm interested in the pre- conception aspirin. Why are you taking it? Is it to do with the NK cells?

Took an HPT last night and failed, cramps have stopped - they were strangely like contractions , just like early labour which was truly strange , but I am still snarling at people so clearly AF is on her way! I am pretty sure ths means I can have wine for dinner...

brummie sorry you're having a down time. You and your dp sound like you have very busy jobs- it must be really hard. I agree with trying to make life easy for you. The first weeks are so knackering (even without added worries). And we have fish fingers and chips when it's my turn to cook- it's retro tea day! (I'm crap!)

twilight I got my results just over 3 weeks after I went and had phone convo today, just over 4 weeks later. And very jealous of your between job status!

snoopy glad your work are acknowledging you need a bit of compassion at the moment. Good they can find you a suitable position.

onestep hope you get some useful answers tomorrow. Horrible being in limbo.

sebs keep positive. I really feel this is your time.

Was it mrsC in the tww? If so fingers crossed. I totally hate it.

spartacus I know right. Like we don't know we would be better off getting pregnant earlier! Enjoy the wine- I'm looking at that too!

I think Cov wise I'm more concerned that they arent recommending heparin than them saying just go away and try. Should I be worried that heparin isn't an option?

Same here Spartacus, I met Dh when I was 30 and we started ttc 2 years later. We didn't exactly hang around waiting, I was well aware of my age. Wasn't expecting to still be trying at 36 though...

I took the afternoon off work as a half day holiday so I could go and see my dad. Really glad I did, it was lovely to be able to spend a little bit of time with him. He's doing a little better but he's totally immobile, it requires 2 nurses to help him move, even to sit up in bed as he has no strength in his arms and can't move his legs at all.

mrsc and sasha which dpos are are? I am 4dpo. Still a way to go yet...!!!

barking Glad you got to spend some time with your dad, it's bloody important. For both of you. Hugs.

Sebs good luck for tomorrow.

Spartacus yes exactly mine and dh'd thoughts this afternoon. It's just I've had one small spot of very light brown every morning for last two days. I bloody hate seeing it, almost close my eyes when I go to the toilet!!!

So, have had 'the fear' the last few days, that i normally squish down the voices that say "you're too old now, you'll never have another baby" and it's like a cold grip round my neck. I don't let it get to me normally, it must be because all my nhs tests came back negative on monday. But i juat wish the negative thoughts would bog off.

Still reading/annotating "the egg comes first" and now taking 6 different suppliments and also got my moon-cup ready for post dtd later this month.