DS 13 being moved to new foster placement and me not being contacted

[TheLovelinessOfDemons]

My DS has been in foster care for a year and we knew he was going to be moved. Social services haven't contacted me or the present foster carers, they rang DS yesterday and are picking him up today to take him God knows where.

As the only reason he's in foster care is bc I'm a widowed parent, in work and he has ADHD and needs an adult with him at all times, therefore my knowing his whereabouts won't threaten his safety in any way, can they legally move him without informing me?

In the past few years his DB moved in with my aunt bc he has an eating disorder and could eat there, his DF passed away and he's been taken away from me, as he sees it. I dread to think what this is doing to his mental health.

Your poor children. Perhaps if you’d been more honest in your op, you’d be getting more helpful answers.

The foster carers probably did know that OP's son was being moved. OP even says that. Just not when, or where to.

I still don't think the OP is being honest about this move.

Because she's the parent!
in any case the question wasn't whether she should know where he is, but whether she should have been informed that he was moving. Which she should.

Unless that was unsafe for her son.

And unless that's actually how it has happened.

She should still have been told that he was moving. Just possibly not where to.

This isn’t true OP and you absolutely need to face up to your role in why he’s in foster care.

But she was informed. It states she knew he was being moved in the op.

Two male kids with special needs. Both living away from you. Can you give us the whole story, if you don't mind?

@TheSilkWorm

Because she's the parent!

The system is there for the child not the parent.
There are many many reasons why the decision would be made to not reveal the child's location to a parent.
If you don't know this then you are blessed and not just a little naive

She won't

Precisely! Thread perfect example for those fixated on parental RIGHTS not RESPONSIBILITY!

in any case the question wasn't whether she should know where he is, but whether she should have been informed that he was moving. Which she should.

OP knew a move was planned just not when and where.
It may be a communication lag or a deliberate choice but she has known a move for her dc was going to happen

Yes. Parents of children in foster care do have rights. It's very important that social workers don't trample those rights. Speaking as a social worker.

Why should she?

I'm not naive, I'm a social worker. I'm well aware that the foster placement location is often kept confidential from the parents. However the OP was (as I read it, but on re/reading I may have misunderstood) asking about whether she should have been informed of his move, that is happening today without her knowledge (albeit she knew a move was planned). She should have been informed.

Regardless, a move should not take place without the parent being informed.

You are treating the OP as a reliable narrator. IME, that is rarely the case on here.

There is always more to it.

Yes I dare say there is. However it's a point of principle! She should have been informed.

What makes you think rights are being 'trampled here'? Are you a social worker who works has worked with Children who are Looked After?

There must be more to it then you described. A child would not go into foster care because you worked full time. Unless they asked you to give up work and you refused, then maybe I guess they could, I don’t know

Yes I am!
the parent has the right to be kept informed regarding placement moves. That's the right that has apparently been trampled.

There is no way SS would just call a young teen and say they are coming to move him without at least informing the carers he is living with. What is the reason he is being moved?

The parent was informed, she stated she was aware of the move.

Sometimes (for safeguarding reasons) the parent may not be told where the children are living, but they will be told that the children are moving to new carers!

The OP previously started a thread in which she stated that one of her sons was being placed voluntarily into foster care due to an easing disorder that had roots in the behaviour of her son with ADHD. Her son didn't want to move in with his aunty because he knew he had no issues eating there. He was hoping that he'd be able to visit OP's home regularly to attempt to eat in the house and work upon the eating disorder so that he could move home again.

We don't know the full details of why the son with ADHD is living in foster care, but I don't think it is helpful to immediately cast the OP as an unfit mother. There could be much more to the story, such as violence perpetrated by the child against the mother, which the OP doesn't want to share.