I was actually googling something similar to this and came across this post. Im in the U.S. but i think thats a fairly universal thing to be disgusted with. Ironically, I am on the flipside of this argument. My abusive ex decided to place a hidden camera under our dresser next to the bed right after we separated. He was staying at his moms while i stayed at our apt with our two daughters. One morning, he had emailed me at 2am saying "he caught me" but wouldnt say what i did. Next morning, he called me on my 11 year olds phone (I have him blocked). She had it on speakerphone while i recorded the phone call on video. He basically chuckled that he had "got me" but wouldnt tell me what I had done. He said he was going to call police and CPS if i didn't talk to him privately. I know his manipulations and i had nothing to hide so I said, go ahead and make a false report. Im happy to show Child services or police that hes abusive and manipulative. Instead, he kept being vague. I will never again have a conversation again with him without a witness or in writing where i can prove his crap. Anyway, he asked my 11 year old if she was sleeping in the bed with me the night before. He KNOWS that she often sleeps in the bed with me. She was sleeping in the bed with BOTH of us before we separated because she gets nervous about sounds outside very easily. She was even MORE anxious lately BECAUSE of her dad doing things to be intimidating, including showing up unannounced and pulling a gun out two months before. (Hence why i finally told him to gtfo).
Anyway, she told him yes, she slept in the bed with me but was confused about what he was talking about. She went on visitation with her dad that day. While he had her, he called me privately (i recorded our speakerphone conversation on video) and claimed that she "broke down in tears and disclosed that I was touching myself in bed next to her". I laughed outloud. I literally laughed and was like, wow, you are desperate to tear me down huh?
She came home later and immediately told me that "Dad said he caught you on camera touching yourself" and basically described that adults do that to feel good. She felt really awkward. Shes effing 11 yall. And a GIRL. He basically was trying to gaslight her and implant the memory that her mom was doing this in bed next to her. I have a whole web of evidence that basically proves that he just did all this to create a false narrative just in case he tries to tell a judge or CPS.
The thing is, the next night i recorded the moment i found the camera at 1am. He had used our two-way video baby monitor that i had unplugged weeks before and then couldn't find it, and hid it under the dresser next to the bed. It cant actually see anything. Just pick up audio. And its motion/sound sensored. That night, he actually talked into the two-way speaker. It's WiFi connected so he can actually listen in even though hes 15 minutes away staying at his moms. This was scary and creepy considering i LEFT this abusive relationship and now he was spying on me. I found the camera because he used the mic. He was saying "ewww, gross, wake up! Mommys doing it again!" I unplugged the camera at first and recorded myself finding it. I then realized that my dog was in a pile of clothes RIGHT next to the dresser. I recorded my dog scratching himself and realized that my ex stupidly was trying to claim that i was masturbating when it was literally my dog scratching and licking himself next to the camera. 🤦♀️ He continues to claim this. He has even threatened to send the supposed video to my father. I told him to please do so because it'll be hilarious and my dad will just laugh. I told him multiple times that if he ever finds out that anybody is masturbating next to a child, he needs to report it to CPS and if he has a video, then he'll have proof he needs so there shouldn't be a problem. I have yet to be visited by CPS in the months since. Although he showed a letter proving that he called them. But they didn't even TRY contacting me about anything like that. He has since made up reasons for not "exposing" me. Like "i still love you", "i respect you too much" .
Im over here like, no, please, if im some pervert who thinks it ok to masturbate with my child in my bed, you should be urging CPS to investigate. Make sure you you show them that video!
Now he claims the camera "fell" and he just has "sounds" that are obviously me masturbating. He has since also claimed that he "hopes" our daughter was "asleep" when i did it. But im like.... well wait, according to our phone call I recorded, you said she disclosed it to you. How could she have been asleep if she disclosed it to you? And now i have the timestamp on my video of my dog scratching himself minutes after he claims he has me on audio masturbating. 🤣. He also stupidly admitted in an email that he was "shocked" that I would do that because "anytime we've had the kids in the same ROOM, youve refused to mess around."
Soooo, youre admitting that YOU would be willing to have sex in the same room as your child? I mean, its one thing if its an infant, but after that, no. Thats weird af.
I think the point of this is that i absolutely think its disgusting to do anything sexual with your kid in the room, let alone the same bed. How could you possibly even BE in that state of mind when an innocent child is right there! Im in mommy mode if my kids in bed with me. Not woman mode.