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CF guest has everybody dancing to her tune.

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ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:19

We're in a family self-catering holiday in a long haul exotic location.

My father-in-law is from this place and has a terminal illness. This is his 'last visit' to his home country. He's paid for the flights and accommodation for the entire UK based family to go with him.

That's a total of 8 adults and 4 kids. My brother-in-law's parents have also come, bringing it to 10 adults and four kids.

The holiday revolves around my father-in-law visiting and spending time with all his relatives. There are gatherings and meetups planned pretty much every day.

For some reason, that the rest of us can't understand, my sister-in-law has invited a friend from the gym as well. Nobody else really knows or likes her. She appears to be ND, which may explain why she didn't politely decline the invitation.

She's staying with my brother-in-law's parents in a neighbouring villa. They'd already booked and paid for their accommodation, so they were kind enough to say that she could stay there for free.

This woman is now causing problems and arguments due to her CF'ery.

She's refusing to contribute to the communal shopping 'because she doesn't eat everything that's been bought'. We've always just split the bills by family unit. The kids obviously don't drink alcohol and are pretty low maintenance in terms of food. She's also demanding the kids are counted as 'full people' for any shared costs, etc.

Is it me or should she just fuck off? She's come away on a family holiday and now thinks she gets to call the shots on how we do things. The mind boggles.

Just to add, she's taken over the en suite bathroom in the next door villa that's she's staying in for free, despite there being another bathroom that was allocated for her use.

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Ibi · 24/07/2026 17:22

If she’s not contributing then she just buys her own food surely? Why is she going in someone else’s en suite? That person just needs to say ‘don’t come in my bedroom’. She shouldn’t have to go home though.

suburburban · 24/07/2026 17:24

She sounds unbelievable and cheeky, your sil needs to sort out the situation

SamphiretheTervosaur · 24/07/2026 17:26

Tell your SIL to control her guest... at the very remind them both why you are all there

They have both acted really oddly, making and accepting that offer

EverMissWicklowSometimes · 24/07/2026 17:26

She's clearly having an affair with your SIL, why else would she be there?! 😉

User867536 · 24/07/2026 17:26

The person at fault is your SIL. Why on earth would she invite a random gym friend to an important and sentimental family holiday?!!

Shinyandnew1 · 24/07/2026 17:26

Why on earth did your sister in law invite someone from the gym on a family holiday?

This is for her to sort!

BagpussIsMyName · 24/07/2026 17:27

Someone close to the person who invited her needs to have a word.
But be mindful that the unexpected guest might be feeling very uncomfortable in a big family event. I wonder if she didn’t realise what she was getting into. Someone needs to make sure she’s ok and that she is supported to fit in better. Maybe the In-law parents can help since she’s staying with them?

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:27

EverMissWicklowSometimes · 24/07/2026 17:26

She's clearly having an affair with your SIL, why else would she be there?! 😉

Prior to the holiday we had been half joking that they might be a thrupple. It would explain a lot.

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ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:31

User867536 · 24/07/2026 17:26

The person at fault is your SIL. Why on earth would she invite a random gym friend to an important and sentimental family holiday?!!

Nobody can work that out. It was all done as a fait acomplis. She invited her in front of the family and put everybody in an awkward position. The CF went home and bought her ticket that night before everybody had a chance to tell SIL to uninvite her.

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User867536 · 24/07/2026 17:31

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:27

Prior to the holiday we had been half joking that they might be a thrupple. It would explain a lot.

Edited

Even if they are, imagine doing that on your poor FIL's terminal home journey. Dear god🙈

I think there's more to the story SIL doesn't want to admit. She might be trying to win favours from this woman by offering her the free holiday. Or she's trying to impress her for whatever bizarre reason. Maybe she has some sort of work or family connection that SIL needs.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 24/07/2026 17:32

Is the sil the daughter of the fil, or is she married to the son of the fil?

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:35

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 24/07/2026 17:32

Is the sil the daughter of the fil, or is she married to the son of the fil?

She's the daughter of the terminally ill man that's paid for the holiday.

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Noshowlomo · 24/07/2026 17:36

Is there anyone there who has got the balls to tell her to wise up, and maybe F off home and that’s it’s just weird she is there ?

PaperPanama · 24/07/2026 17:37

Doesn’t anyone say “No” to her?

Weeellokthen · 24/07/2026 17:38

BagpussIsMyName · 24/07/2026 17:27

Someone close to the person who invited her needs to have a word.
But be mindful that the unexpected guest might be feeling very uncomfortable in a big family event. I wonder if she didn’t realise what she was getting into. Someone needs to make sure she’s ok and that she is supported to fit in better. Maybe the In-law parents can help since she’s staying with them?

No they don't 😂

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 24/07/2026 17:39

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:35

She's the daughter of the terminally ill man that's paid for the holiday.

Oh blimey. Can her two siblings just be incredibly firm with her, tell her to sort this woman out or they will do it? I think sometimes a little well timed unpleasantness saves a massive shit show.

Get them to nip it in the bud, emphasise how this holiday won’t ever happen again and the guest must not take over? They can deal with the fallout between them later, but this holiday should be protected.

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:41

Noshowlomo · 24/07/2026 17:36

Is there anyone there who has got the balls to tell her to wise up, and maybe F off home and that’s it’s just weird she is there ?

I don't think anybody has the balls to tell her to go home. SIL can be a bit of a live wire and would definitely kick off if that was tried.

My patience is definitely exhausted and I'd be willing to put her in her place, but all these discussions are happening between SIL and CF and then being relayed by SIL to her parents and siblings as how we now need to do things.

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Livpool · 24/07/2026 17:41

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:35

She's the daughter of the terminally ill man that's paid for the holiday.

That’s even worse than her being his DIL. Selfish cow! The friend sounds annoying but she shouldn’t be there

BoredZelda · 24/07/2026 17:42

Why is it every “CF” is surrounded by wet lettuces who never say anything about it?

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:47

BoredZelda · 24/07/2026 17:42

Why is it every “CF” is surrounded by wet lettuces who never say anything about it?

I agree, but if it really kicks off then it could ruin the entire trip for a terminally ill man.

My mother-in-law is asking for calm to prevent it descending into tantrums and a shouting match.

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BreadInCaptivity · 24/07/2026 17:48

This is ridiculous.

The other siblings need to speak to their sister and tell her and her friend to sort their shit out.

This holiday is for your FIL and dragging him into disputes and demands of their making is simply not acceptable.

Its a family holiday and the CF needs to go with the flow given she’s getting free accommodation rather than telling other people what to do.

If she doesn’t want to contribute to food/communal expenses then fine. She buys everything single thing for herself.

The key person at fault is the SIL who invited her. The pair of them need to be told in no uncertain terms to get back in their box or fuck off home. Bring ND (and it runs in my family) is no excuse to behaving like a twunt.

Appalling behaviour and I’d have zero qualms about talking them aside and telling them so. If they kicked off then that’s simply further evidence of their self absorption.

BagpussIsMyName · 24/07/2026 17:49

Sooo… there is a reason she was invited. Maybe the daughter wanted some backup. What are the family dynamics like usually?

Ethelspagetti · 24/07/2026 17:49

Maybe she can buy her own food and drink and not touch items belong to others? Seem fair! If she refuses then maybe the whole family could ask her to leave as she is a stranger ruining a family holiday and that it’s weird she is even here?! If she isn’t staying with your sil then she needs to go stay with her, after all she did invite her!

BreadInCaptivity · 24/07/2026 17:51

ThisOldThang · 24/07/2026 17:47

I agree, but if it really kicks off then it could ruin the entire trip for a terminally ill man.

My mother-in-law is asking for calm to prevent it descending into tantrums and a shouting match.

That’s misguided.

The alternative is the whole holiday is ruined anyway via seething resentment at their behaviour.

Just have it out with them and make clear that they need to behave or bugger off home and any escalation on their part just adds to the shitshow they have created.

pussyfooting around them is just a green light to escalate their ridiculous demands.

PoppieCock · 24/07/2026 17:53

BoredZelda · 24/07/2026 17:42

Why is it every “CF” is surrounded by wet lettuces who never say anything about it?

This, 1 million percent.

Clearly she's being a cheeky fucker, but clearly she needs a strong word in her ear.

Is there REALLY not a single adult there who's willing to do that???

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