Problem/Dependent Drinkers and Alcoholics (recovering or active) Support V

[kokeshi]

Welcome to the thread, the purpose of this is to give anyone who is having any trouble with their drinking, a safe place to come and post about it honestly and without judgement.

There are many of us that use the thread for support and encouragement: some in recovery, others just needing a place to share about their worries. It's been going on in one form of another for a while now and has helped many people.

Thank you to all of those who have kept it going thus far, and welcome to anyone who has decided the time has come to ask for help.

Everybody's welcome, no matter what stage your drinking is at.

Jump right in, the water's fine

chlordiazepoxide is also called librium , if your friend has been given it then id reccommend she takes it ,it helps with withdrawl symptoms ,sorry if thats a bit vague

still drinking myself ,not right this minute obvioulsey , now is a bit early even for me ! so wont hang around here long, but well done to you abstainers out there ,i will be joining your ranks tomorrow ,HONEST [sad}

hiya Tengreen and others - its really bloody tough isnt it - I resorted to the wine again after a run in with dp being verbally abusive/blaming me for want of anybody else to blame about something he had broken himself - feel so hopeless again - dont know what to do about my situation I know when I stop drinking it helps me feel more in control of my emotions but as soon as he acts like that toward me the minute he heads out the door I reach for the wine - had a blow up at kids when he left drank myself silly what a waste of space I really am - wish I could change wish I could leave wish I could do something other than sit at my desk crying - sad sad sad today. I know I need to talk to someone about this and my situation in RL but dont know who - I dont trust anyone not gp or anyone - what a mess

Can anyone give me any more advice?

Has anyone taken it ,gp has said her OH should take a week off of work to keep her from drinking and occupied but he is worried for his job and that they will spend the week arguing.
She is worried that Gp has actualy said he needs to be home because she will be really ill.
They are both worried how either situation will effect their 3 year old.
She has cut her self off ,does not work or drive,has lost all confidence and seems depressed.

I am too far away and physically unable to help.

I cant believe how quiet this thread has become in recent times - anyone out there ?
How are you all are you drinking not drinking or just pretending not to?

Hello everyone!

p123 - nice to meet you. Unfortunately, I have no experience of chlordiazepoxide. 10 green mentioned it is like Librium, which is a Benzoadepeine. That in itself, is not a problem - BUT - coupled with alcohol withdrawal, then yes she DOES need to be supervised with it. A detox got suggested to me, which would have taken 10 days with Campral and Valium. Unfortunately, I have no one to supervise me, so had to take another route. It is VITAL that she is supervised. Her dh has to be supportive in this. It's going to be a harrowing time.
Depression, cutting oneself off and losing confidence is the classic signs of alcohol dependency. Yup, been there, and I'm only slowly starting to see the light at the end of the road. But there's a lot of my life to get back on track, especially debts, creditors and rebuilding relationships.
Please keep posting. Wishing you lots of positive vibes for your friend.

Unhappy - how are you? Yeah, I agree, It's a tad quiet in here these days.
Watch out for those tumbleweeds! lol

Where are the regulars? Brassic, kokeshi, teasle, lacka, jelli and 10green?
Pop in and say hello!

so how long did it take you purplepumkinwitchy one?

Her oh will take a week off but they both are hoping that that will be that as then he will have to go back to work.

How long did it take you to get off of it ,their life is becoming a mess.

all she wants to do and is doing is lying around unless oh argues her out of the house but does have a three year old at home.
Her mother did come up for the odd day to help out but that now that just ends in arguments.

she is scared of taking the meds and scared of not.

Hey there purple how you doing yourself. You managing OK ? I am off the wine again for 3 days starting to feel a little brighter - really want to stay off it for a while now - finances are drained by a fiver a pop for vino and got into a nasty argument with my ds on Friday evening (whilst drunk) didnt really just how aggresive I get whilst drinking quite shocking really.

Anyone else out there how you are all?

today at least

p123 -its taken me about 3 months because I've has no support and not able to do the detox. Sorry. I've been doing a reduction program with the local council. It doesn't help much, I know. But it's all I've got. And if I was supervised, and on meds, I think I'd be in a totally different place....
All I ever did was laying around the house, or sleeping...or ignoring the creditors.
Could do with some counselling, that would really help your friend too. Just a safe place to offload. Just don't want to go back to the dark hole I was in before..

unhappy. yeah I'm doing ok. Had a drink tonight and very pissed off with the cat. Pissed off with the doc and pissed off with my keyworker too. It seems as if you open up with your problems, no one seems to offer the help. I seem to be holding it all together. No counselling, nothing.
I got a fright with the courts. A very big fright...snf that all it seems to be holding me together. There is no backup.

My sobriety is in my hands. And it's crap.

Hey there Purple - you sound a bit down - hope you get some help soon - I have gotten to the point where I know that I need help not necessarily with the boozing as I seem to be keeping that under control but with everything that is making me so unhappy - I am really thinking about counselling of some sort - its the timing of it for that is difficult - I work full time and no support from dp means cant do evenings so lunchtime or early morning appointments would be what I went for - i really want to be a nicer person/better mum again sick of being a miserable bitch !!!

Later [smile ]

Hi all kids have been away this week and to be honest not been doing too well. Evenings have just feel vast and I didn't put anything in place before they left. Ironic really as I feel swamped by all the things I should be doing. They come back on Saturday and I know I need to go back to complete sobriety to feel ok.

Hi Jellibabe hope you are OK - hope you can regain control soon - complete sobriety wow that sounds final but agree with you sometimes its the only way to cope with your life otherwise everything else just feels too messed up - good luck

Hi Jellibabe hope you are OK - hope you can regain control soon - complete sobriety wow that sounds final but agree with you sometimes its the only way to cope with your life otherwise everything else just feels too messed up - good luck

Thanks unhappy - mentally I just feel so much fitter when I'm not drinking. Are you going to go for your counselling? Just talking to someone who is impartial and has no hidden agenda can be such a help. Hope you all have a lovely weekend.

sorry I've not been keeping up and hope everyone is well. PO, keep up the good work lovely; you have come sooo far. don't lose that thought

37 weeks now so good to go anytime . Can't belive how quickly it has passed.

Really craving a drink now and wondering whether to lay some in for when I get home from the hospital or embrace sobriety as I really haven't missed it these last few months?

I have had a wee whisky toddy when I was choked with the cold, but not bothered by demon cravings for red wine until this week. It's a dilemma as I really don't want to be where I was this time last year

Good news is that DH has got a job locally so will be coming home every night as of mid December......and I will have at home for nearly six weeks when the baby is born . that should help as he is the voice of my conscience.

this thread seems to have all but died - its a shame - hope everyone is OK and perhaps switcehd to the cutting down on alcohol thread elsewhere!!!

Not been doing too well recently myself but am aiming to try again from this week - finally went to GP got some anti depressants they are going to test me for menopause markers or something like that too - so think in order to give the meds a chance to work need to give up the wine!!!

Want so much to be happy again and change my name - anyway waves to everyone out there

hello! Waves back

hi everyone ,it does seem to be very quiet on here ,wheres kokeshi gone to ? hope shes ok .
well i havent given up completely but i have cut down from 7 bottles of wine a week to 1 bottle as ive started weightwatchers and im a girl who loves her food , so i have to save my points to get a bottle of wine . Bizzarley because ive gone into this in a 'im on a diet ' way ,instead of a 'im giving up drinking' way ,i think its been alot easier ,plus my belly is no longer twice the size of my boobs ,not yet smaller than but well on the way .As i continue to lose weight ,i know i will have to drop the bottle of wine a week too ,due to Heat magazine front page stick insect target weight !!!

hi there Tengreenbottles - you are doing amazingly well - well done on weight loss and giving up a bottle a night - I too have doing quite well not quite none but managed to stick to 2 glasses on Friday and Saturday instead of a bottle a night every night!!! Keep it up girl and its nice to see some life on the thread again

Anyone here?
Badly need to offload but this thread seems awfully inactive these days?

Hope everyone else is well.

Feel like I've gone straight back to square one again.
And on a massive bender tonight.

I was wondering what had happened to this thread. Life for me has been pretty crap too and I don't really know where to turn.

I've been thinking about trying to find out about someone to talk to re: booze, but the only available services require you to be on death's door. They would laugh at me.

About a month ago I fell flat on my face and gave myself a whopping black eye. It was horrible and I felt as though I had been beaten up, albeit by by myself. The bruising has only really become insignificant in the past week. My colitis also made an unwellcome return and steroids beckoned.

Please do offload here, PurpleOne.

If you have had some time of improvement, the next time you start getting better it will be for longer. Please try not to beat yourself up about it.

Hello there bladeblad and purpleone - how are you? Its been a while for me to come back here but I think this time of the year is especially difficult for people with a drink problem. I had started feeling better was taking my anti d's and feeling alot brighter. But of course I was not drinking for the first few weeks. I have been drinking again - not every night and not always a bottle a night like before but am starting to feel rough again and this week in particular I have been "nasty mum" again every morning I have shouted at my dcs I even grabbed my little one today and yelled into her face - need to stop again maybe not totally but....you know the rest guys - help advice love needed

Hi all haven't been onas have had a bozzy week and have a boozy weekend ahead - lots of xmasdo's. Although went to a do last night - had five smirnoff ice, and refused anymore switched to lemonade.
Normally i would just keep on until i fell over.
So am a little pleased with that.
Out again tmorrow and I know I will end up in a state. BUT it is my last Xmas Do of the season so hope to cut back again there after.

hi doublebluff not met you before - go careful on your do - and yeah its hard to avoid - sober 2009 !!

Hey all, just a note to say...you honestly do not need to be at death's door to have a drinking problem, or to have it taken seriously. One of my BF was president of the PTA, had her own business, and was considered the social light of the area BUT...the day her 8 year old dd stood shaking in front of her and said 'mummy, I love you, but I'm scared of you sometimes' she went for help.

And is now over 20 years sober.

Sometimes the damage is on the inside, and anyone involved in alcohol/addiction recovery will understand that.

Wishing everyone well for 2009